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kazyhm:
Sometime I really don't understand how people separate cause and effect from situations......its better not to talk than affirmative give an opinion that will further complicate a situation...

The number of guy touts are a reflection of how bad a society is
The number of girl touts is a reflection of how terrible a society is.........so also teenage pregnant

Portraying men and women as the same and equal at all level of life and situation is what make this thread this long.......In a sexual relationship, its the women that get pregnant, do abortion/give birth etc. So women need sexual training and caution than men.........in reality men don't get pity from human generally unlike women.....that why most touts, criminals et al are men and people don't get emotional about it but a girl tout always raise question and sympathy.

When a girl abort, its entirely not true that she did it for the boyfriend/sexual partner.....that Statement portrays women as if they have no choice, no mind of their own, can't think and not capable to live without man influencing their choice/actions.
Those foreign countries you mentioned are are more confused and backward than you portray them
A countries that have bias for genders, country that values furniture than than human that make them.......a country that legalized abortion yet men's life are ruin for women choice to keep a baby she can't carter for
You people don't want women to be train and caution for their own good and benefits but you want to blame everyone else when their choice didn't work out in their favor.

The summary of this you opinion I guess is because men seem to do as the wish so women also should do as they wishes..........things don't work like that in reality.....life us not fair

And in every situation, someone usually have an upper hand........that should be the basis for consideration when discussion like this ensue.

Kollami007:
If the girl died in his shop due to some complications she had during abortion, to be honest with you, OP go taste kirikiri oo. Nigeria police won't say he's minding his business, so we are not going to arrest him. No one will even talk about how OP has been minding his business by not interfering with his sales girl private's life. Funniest part is "the mind your business" crew may be the first to call him ritualist or pervert that can't control his d!ck; he impregnates his sales girl, he aborted it blah blah blah. No one will probably know the true story on how the girl has been having sex with 5 different men. And I like Nigeria police because their only form of investigation is beating. Dem go beat craze comot for OP body.

Look at what happened to Clarence Peter that a video vixen died in his house and he was arrested because of it. Just imagine Clarence Peter was just a regular guy like OP, he will rot in jail for the offense he didn't commit because so many people are in jail for similar scenario.

Naija police only do thorough investigation when a crime involves a rich and influential person, but for a common man, "Na only God fit help me in this situation" is your motto.

cococandy:
What if I tell you that depending on the circumstances, I don’t consider abortion a sin or a crime? That’s the conversation I’m not interested in having with any of you because you won’t get it.

( probably not in her case anyway because it seems she is just careless hence will not fall under the circumstances I have in mind.)

But like I said, it’s a conversation I don’t want to have with you.

Zabiboy:

I read only the first two paragraphs and discovered this same story has been used before by other girls....
Anyways, whats my business.
You stood on the road arguing from 5pm till 8pm, you didnt know when night reach ...you tried calling the attention of passers-by but they ignored bcz the guy has paid them to ignore bah...
IT IS WELL...

edoairways:
And what if the rapist choose to kill the victim after satisfaction

edoairways:
This may sound nice however who would believe the victim?

LedRock:
Shut up, he is talking about male rape, if you don't like it go and talk about female rape, everyone is fighting for their gender. Get lost ignoramus.

ecstasy357:
I have one question for you, dear sir... Genevieve and her followers are calling every man a potential rapist, are you a potential rapist?

ecstasy357:
When people like you keep trivialising Male victims, you will never know the true number or the way they've been affected.

I AM NOT ON A POPULARITY CONTEST WITH ANYONE. ALL I'M SAYING IS... THEY SHOULD TREAT THE ACT, "RAPE" AS A CRIME AND NOT THE GENDER.

I believe you were here on Nairaland earlier this year when someone committed suicide because he was accused of rape, "a crime he didnt commit". You read about it, didnt you? Not every man would be as lucky as Joseph from the Bible.

Do you see what I am saying?

ecstasy357:
What most of them dont know or wont acknowledge is the fact that a man/guy/Male child cant even speak up because of the way the society will ridicule him.

When a boy was raped to death in Warri, nobody heard the news. Did you hear about it?

When a young man was blackmailed into having sex with an elderly woman (church woman o), nobody heard the story. Why? Maybe because nobody will take him serious

#RAPE IS AN ACT AND IT IS NOT RESTRICTED TO ANY GENDER

Ogaonos:
u try to read someone quoting u before u start attacking.u even read my reply at all.u jux like d ones judging DT lady.i attack u nt her.because u nt a parent.parenting is a very sensitive area.nd I went to explain DT one have to b half strict Nd half mentor.because these days children are influence by trap rap music who promote sex,drugs,violence which is what op was expose to.most guys in campus are expose to yahoo Nd drugs by toxic music of nwadays.shagging of yahoo boiz is a norm with campus girls.then I went to explain DT half strict half mentor is d way forward.so my stand is try to educate would-be parents on d wise ways to parent in our immoral world we live in.which most of u don't do u jux take sides Nd don't educate DT why nairaland is becoming too shitty

Ogaonos:
my brother instead of attacking respondent give pple d wisdom of parenting.i don't think u have kids.parenting is a very sensitive area DT need wisdom.guy our kids of nwadays don't greet some will talk to u as if u na be mate.nd I heard is worst in d western world.in parenting one needs to be half strict half mentorship.there area in a children life u need to mentor which are making Ur children wise in relating with d opposite sex there a series called I need to know DT talk in d 90s starring funke akindele about this area.as parents u need to be strict on one hand Nd be friends to Ur children.for instance if is a boy u as d father need to discipline him on one head esp.if his showing some stubborn behaviour.nd then mentor him to be wise with d opposite sex.bd make him open to u in this social area.by letting him having many female friends instead of one is better because he will fall in love Nd his age is to be confident around d opposite sex Nd wise tried them like side friend or sista but knwd only main friend he has is his mother Nd blood sister because they will b there in hard times.but this I said look easy but requires wisdom o.because nt all kids DT come out frm d womb is d same.

tranxo:
And you are not judgmental? You believe her story, one-sided, without hearing from the father.

To me, the exact thing the father was trying to prevent her from becoming was the exact thing her mother helped her become.

MrBrownJay1:
IMHO you are only partly right as it has all to do with how you approach a child and make them understand why they shouldnt do something....instead of just locking them up and trying to shield them from the real world. thats the big issue here.
there is absolutely nothing wrong with a parent having certain rules that a child may not like, the important part is to make that child understand why such act aint right.

all kids will go through a rebellious period (some worse than others) but regardless, there are some things that i would NEVER accept a child to do, even in moderation... and its my duty as a parent to make that child understand that.

Grandamante:
Nope. A lady enjoying another prik is not demeaning neither does it reduce her self worth. Infact, one study like that concluded that revenge sex for a woman tends to be very exhilarating and wildly passionate. Angry emotions rather than happy emotions tend to bring out the animal instincts in a woman.


Since it affects men critically when their women cheat on them, then cheating on ur man becomes the best form of revenge. Ur man go suffer am past. He wants to call truce, u call truce. He wants to separate, u separate. He is not doing u a favor by dating or marrying u. What annoys me is crying like a baby abandoned in a ditch when he wants to separate. U want to do tough stuff, u ve got to toughen up.

One guy above said he would laugh and smoke over it with the said assistant boyfriend. LIES. Encourage one of ur friends to f@ck ur girlfriend or wife and we shall believe.

A man with whom a woman wants to have revenge sex with should thank his stars, she would f@ck with unrivaled passion, gusto and out of the world ability. U see, when women do things out of the ordinary, they tend to make it worth it. So, there will be no back on bed like a log of wood. Enjoy.

Fafesot:
Thirdly, inasmuch as men love to form hard guys in public and all that, there are a good number of men who dont leave a woman who has cheated on them. So dont be deceived by the fake rantings of men online, when a woman has gotten the key to his heart theres a whole lot of shit he would put up with. I just really wish more women knew this. [/quote





women on this platform, pls don't listen to this .
if a man stays with you after you've cheated on him,forget it,there is something behind the portrayed motives.Maybe he still needs some things from you..and do not sleep with your two eyes closed.

no matter how weighty the amount of love he has for you,it vanishes the moment you cheat him.
The first thing any man would do is to shut you out of his life,marry another wife and if he still loves you genuinely... he would use you as his side chick.

but women,don't forget you're female..why do you have to compare yourself to men.
even the well to do women in the society still suffers the absence of men in the society.
why don't you want a blissful marriage by not cheating on your husband,because it will be at your detriment. Thirdly, inasmuch as men love to form hard guys in public and all that, there are a good number of men who dont leave a woman who has cheated on them. So dont be deceived by the fake rantings of men online, when a woman has gotten the key to his heart theres a whole lot of shit he would put up with. I just really wish more women knew this. [/quote





women on this platform, pls don't listen to this .
if a man stays with you after you've cheated on him,forget it,there is something behind the portrayed motives.Maybe he still needs some things from you..and do not sleep with your two eyes closed.

no matter how weighty the amount of love he has for you,it vanishes the moment you cheat him.
The first thing any man would do is to shut you out of his life,marry another wife and if he still loves you genuinely... he would use you as his side chick.

but women,don't forget you're female..why do you have to compare yourself to men.
even the well to do women in the society still suffers the absence of men in the society.
why don't you want a blissful marriage by not cheating on your husband,because it will be at your detriment.

dom80:
I know I cheated on her but I never had extra affairs with those ladies. They are just fling and I pay them off.

I'm not a saint but I'm a man. It is preferable for a man to cheat even though it is bad than for woman (girlfriend/fiancée/wife) to cheat.

aswani:
I find this hard to believe. Yorubas in the North and Northerners in the East not knowing anything about their own cultures.

Unless the children were products of intertribal marriages and their fathers died early so they grew up with local grandparents.

There are enough bigots in those places to constantly discourage them from fully assimilating. Also for non Yoruba's in Yorubaland too.

StacyO:

some use that as an excuse to end the relationship.
If you love him or her like you claimed, you'll overlook the tribal differences.


To think that when racist comments are being made,some people will still have something to say. mtchewww

Rhaspody:
I want to marry from Kenya sef. Not Nigeria

Tripitaka:
You would notice that i put the said phrase in quote. By "familiar surroundings" i meant people with whom you share same cultural background. You must also have read were I wrote "unless you're truly a cosmopolitan citizen".
Hopefully, you will reread my post with the intent to understand and not to criticise