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noakchukibadan:
Hello,

Please no ethnic banters. One of us is from Ekiti, and the other is from Benue. I am married for 8 years with 2 kids. It has been one problem to another.

I must be very frank, before marriage, my wife had many very questionable characters, but unfortunately we did the marriage counseling in a church were the pastor happened to be her family member. Many of the issues would have been resolved, but when I raised those issues about her character the pastor promised me that everything will be fine after the marriage.
Although this is not an excuse, but looking back now I would have been more patient and taken my decision myself instead of rushing into the marriage. For this I HOLD MYSELF ACCOUNTABLE

There is hardly nothing we do not quarrel about, I have always been the one to initiate settlement. The only way I ensure that there is peace in the house is for me not to complain about anything. Even at that, there is always trouble. If the children do anything wrong, she always says those characters the children are exhibiting are not from her and that she is not surprised that they inherited such characters from me.

She can go for months without talking to me, even if I tried to, I have done all I could do, I have begged, cried prayed. I just feel tired and exhausted from trying to make the marriage work or have peace in the home, the sad part is that she often reminds me every time there is misunderstanding that I should remember that she can stay on her own without talking to any body. Just to add, she is very prayerful.

OTHER INFORMATION.
1. I can say conveniently that there is no money problem at home. Finance is okay.
2. I went to see her father 2 years ago, the man said unfortunately he can not do anything. This is true because she was raised away from her Father, she has no contact with any of her fathers family and her father has a zero say in her life.
3. she has 5 elders ones, non of them is in communication with her because of many unresolved issues. Of her 3 younger ones she only maintains a relationship with the last boy who is just 14 years. .
4. Her mum can not talk to her because she simply dares not. However, behind, her mother use to beg me and she kept saying she understands her daughter's character and that she is doing her best by praying and doing deliverance for her.
5. She is not in contact with her maternal uncles and aunt because she said they supported her elder ones when she had problem with them.

So I am stuck with no one to help call the both of us and resolve the issue.

Every year for 5 straight years, she always forgets my birthday, last year, she forgot also, three days later, she bought me a present and I refused to collect the present and I asked her why does she keep forgetting my birthday, year after year for 5 years. She just said sorry, but I left the present in the room, she never bothered to bring the present to me. Another birthday was gone yesterday 2nd May, and as I write, no happy birthday yet.

I literally cook for myself, and all domestic things I do for myself.

I will end this by saying that in fairness to her, her character was not too different before the marriage and courtship, sincerely only once, that was like one year before the marriage I broke up with her, she came to apologize and promised that she will change. Her mother also came to apologize to me also.

This woman has refused to change or allow peace to hold sway, she is right every time, while everybody around is wrong. Sincerely, I do not know what to do anymore.

I am tired and exhausted. I do not know what to do anymore. I am 42, I was diagnosed of high blood pressure 2 years ago.

profeoo:
uwc miss. U cn drop ur whatsapp no so u cn be added to d ongoing Abia stream 2 grp
Tanx

tiersly:
We full ground for here ooo, where 're yhu coming from ma'am ?

belteshazzar:
alright, will get back to u ASAP

belteshazzar:
similar issue here, How far, Where u able to rectify it.

Durcky:
dat my call up is ready ..I can pay now or go to my school to collect it....... but I paid since last month..... pls...tell me Hw to go abt it

jennii:
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Taiye4Christ:

You are welcome, dear. Hope you had fun, sha?

Taiye4Christ:
Happy birthday to Akerry boss and the creamy baby, Lacreamzy.
You are born and destined to be great in life; accept nothing less. God is taking you there!

Happy birthday, l‘akerry lacreamzy!

Taiye4Christ:

I trust you na!
Hope you are just fine?

Akerry:
my dept FINAL semester results officially released today! All thanks to almighty God, the two-one be like first class for my eyes.......so so happy.

Taiye4Christ:
Cuteluvlybay
Lacreamzy
Satope1


How far?

Feyifahm:
d night was cool,urs,op u dreamt abt me

Usherseun:
thanks, which dpt?

Usherseun:
hello ladokites, i'm also a ladokite, PAM

trendiitee:
Make una fight well well..... Jeezz!!!!! Dis is just frustrating.. After una don curse and insult each other finish ehn and den una cum meet sumwia later in life,,u knw how e go be nw..
Anyways,,all of u shd pray 4 me to get my number 2day.... And pls wen u pple re done fighting,,,I'll come back.. I can't stand dis kind of atmoshere,, dat is why I'm always pleading and begging pple who re @each other's throat... Buh I don't tink sabiguy will even listen to me 2day,,so I decided to let him be.


Goodmorning to you all

Akerry:
Anugod,the great e-warior i greet ooo or is it e-warioress just like Tiger and tigeress ....All protocols duly observed....... The pace at which this thread is moving is even more than the speed of Light. I'm still struggling to read d missed pages though, no thanks to sabiguy and other e-warriors @trenditee,hwfar with the call up number issue? .I GREET U ALL

trendiitee:
hahahahahaha.. How re u 2nyt galfrnd?? Me don miss u sotey I don dey loose weight.

trendiitee:
God save u...I don dey wear my boxing kit,,I for crush u wif dis my big body.. Hahahahahaha. BTW I'm a product of pure nd applied biology,,,u?

Beboy23,,,u re welcome.

Akerry:
yes yes! Me and my lacreamzy must serve for d same state o. Sodiqyinka come and help us o

Akerry:
yes yes! Me and my lacreamzy must serve for d same state o. Sodiqyinka come and help us o

Akerry: Good evening my e-family! Sodiqyinka, thanks for the great work you are doing here, nabsprada,cutekemitola and Horlawoomey, u guys are great writers, i love u guys writing skills,seriously learning alot from it....sir Noordean, richybanky and other OAUites, any news frm ur school? Trenditee and Taiye4christ,d best e-couple so far, Dania30, omolizzy, heineken,my man,kalushaiyke,nigerdeltaboi,dstnd curiouses,taiwoliu,barmy,claroo, urchbarbie darling, luvlycutebay titiluvly,idboyostic,rashfat, fweshblacboai,Ayomax AmegoA/Anugod pendusky,come and join us here oo...and so many names i cant remember now, i love u all lacreamzy lakerry

Akerry: lacreamzy lakerry! Where ve u beeen?

Taiye4Christ: I am overwhelmed by the amount of prayers and wishes I am getting.
Honestly, I had to run away when I first came in earlier on because I didn‘t just know where to start from. I can‘t possibly mention everyone, but here is saying I appreciate and love you all so dearly.

Taiye4Christ: Wooooooow! The chairman himself graces our thread? Today must be christmas!


November 9... lakerry, lacreamzy things on point!

Taiye4Christ: Hahahahaha
I believe you, fine girl. This your dp fit cause go slow o.
*beautiful*

Taiye4Christ: I‘m doing fine. You?