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Queenisha:
Of course there are some things that even the hubby nwa will not be told at least not right away.
But my best friend and I are almost like man and wife without the lovemaking.
We are buddies to the core.
We can talk for 5 hours straight and talk about our men,their performance,exchange tips.
When my man makes me mad,she's my shoulder and same with her.
We disagree sometimes but our bond is unbreakable.
We even made each other promises at 16 that we'll remain virgins till marriage.
Won't tell you if we kept it

naaaa i guess im different then,i can't confide so much in my friend,no marra how close we r ,

weneva there is a misunderstanding between myself and my husband,is either i keep it to myself alone or cry on my immediate elder sister's shoulder

but friends no way for me ooooo,i can't discuss our sexual life wt my friend ,no marra what,i always leave everything in da house

but i understand u sha,depends on how good d friend is,but no marra no be me

but osisi y u no wan talk if una keep d virginity promise naaa

Queenisha:
I on the other hand have 2 close friends that I've known since we were 10 years old and one is closer to me than the other.And we know intimate details of each other down to you know what.
Everyother person is an acquaintance and I can cut them off whenever I choose.

osisi i also have a close friend and shes edo,we grew up together as in right from kindergarten,but my dear they r some things u cannot discusss wt friends osisi no matter how close u all r,u should have ur own secrets now,dont tell me u discuss wt them virtually everything u and ur hubby discusses in d closet?

Queenisha:
My advice will be that she even distances herself from such complications.
I would cut ties with both people because I can't be close friends with people I can'tbe free with and have to hold a secret.
Life is too short.
I'll cut them lose and that's it.
Let them sort out their wahala

osisi im saying d same thing

d neutral i meant is---keeping them on d hello and hi levels,as in when they see themselves on dway,they just greet hello and hi,that is what i mean t by neutral

atleast when d problem starts nobody will blame her for anything

some women just go into marriage wtout knowing what exactly marriage is all about,maybe if they look at their age ,they just say they r ready for marriage,sometimes age does not give one d maturity one deserves or need in life

as a married woman sistawoman,my advise is for u to watch d way you're going,if u continue like this ------------let me not talk sha

because i can see you're d type that trusts easily,but my dear,shine your eyes well,and don't be too loose in your home

Okija_juju:
Ndi Igbo ekenem unu o!

anyin ne kene kwa

mana afagi nwere otu odi

davidylan:
By the way i still don't get why married women still prefer to keep very close relationships with other women especially those with troubled marriages. This is the way husband snatching starts.

abi ooooo
can't imagine keeping loosers as close friends

anyway i trust myself,d few friends i have don't even know me too well,i can't risk my marriage,my home,my joy ,my happiness and husband all because of some friends

friends gbakwa okwu,nonsense

onyinye welcome oooooo,i know u dont even know how to speak igbo

BTW ive missed u

sistawoman:
This is what i am going to do but i hope this does not get reflected my way.  The way the wife and I are hanging out and talking we will be good friends in no time and i have already been good friends with my girlfriend for sometime. You know how women can be, when the shit hits the fan they will try to blame me because i knew and did not tell anyone.
But I am alergic to drama, really i get a rash, and I don't want any drama thrown my way or in my marriage.  So i am going to do as my husband tells me and keep my mouth shut.  Hopefully his friend will be able to control both his wives.

good

if they like let them blame u,its not in ur place to tell any body,so cut off

keep d relationship u have wt both women neutral,so dat weneva trouble starts nobody will come knocking at ur door,its as simple as dat

davidylan:
sistawoman is so excited about her wedding that she has transformed herself into voltron - defender of the cheated wife.

like seriously


for heavens sake her husband has told her to back out and let them be,and shes still trying to poke her nose into wat does not concern her

dis is d reason y most men get angry wt their wives,wen u tell them to let some things go,they wont,they will keep poking their nose until they drag d family's name down,at d end of day pple will call them names,just because she refused to mind her business

sistawoman:
I really like the wife, she seems pretty cool.  I only know her through my husband because her husband and my husband are very close, she has shown me how to cook some of my husbands fav. dishes.  I wish i was not torn between the loyalty to my girlfriend and his wife. My husbands advice is to just step back and let what happens happen.  But I don't understand other men coving for them when they know that he is cheating on his wife.

seriously i think u should tAke your husbands advise and step back,why r u trying to force yourself into some pples life

u just got married,so ,mind your home ,your husband and your kids,and stop minding other pples affairs,its none of ur business

gamine d other girl in d pics on ur profile looks so familiar

poster u mean ,u r no longer married to ur whity girl?

Shady2009:
are you sure you love her, if you love her keep her

yeah right

@poster

let her go

Queenisha:
Cyriacus  Otagburuagu Agbugbaeruleke
and so what?

poster i tot u r married?

sistawoman:
I have not read through all of the posts yet but i wanted to share this:

One of my closest friends is married to a Nigerian but the marriage was set up.  So she was not to have any relations as he still lives with his orginal wife at home who he divorced a year ago to marry this girl for you know what.

Well they started sleeping together and when she asked him why is it that he is cheating on his wife his response to her was that he was legally married to her and divorced to his wife therefore he was sleeping with his jr wife and not cheating on his sr wife.

My question is, is this how men really justify cheating?  What if the first wife finds out will my girlfriend be in serious trouble or do Nigerian women expect this when their husbands divorce them and re-marry for paper?  Also are they still married in Nigeria still?  Does a divorce done in the states make them divorced in Nigeria?

I feel really bad for his first wife and really think that my girlfriend should not be sleeping with him.  But it is her life and she thinks he likes her, but I keep telling her he can't.  he is still sleeping and living with his first wife and he just comes to her to mess and leave but she wont listen to me maybe she will listen if i send her some of the messages recieved from yall.  

How do i get through to this girl and let her know that what she is doing is really really wrong?  He will never love her like he does his Nigerian wife no matter what she does.

if i were u,i would mind my business and let her be,leave her,let her do watever she wants to do

@topic

ofcourse i do

yeah

echelon:
Ama m onye okija_juju bu. O bu …

_{Ka m mee ebere}

gwanu anyi onye okija bu

Queenisha:
ah jenny.
have they done it again?
onye obuna si na baby O n'eme metarmorphosis.
meanwhile i za go aha ise
jisike i ga e beat my record soon or morenike's record the title holder

osisi ike guru ,nwoke ma kporo onwen ye admin,bu anumanu,aja ga chu ya oso

echelon:
So jennykardy = Lady J   _{shakes head}. Ihe a adila 2much

odigo too much nwan nemu nwoke

@ify

kedi otele mgbeke   na presido?

its romantic gamine

@ify

obu mu jenny,nwinye pres


@uche2nna

sweetheart kedu?

@agaba

ogini?

smooooooth:
come u all tell that stupid slowpoke to swallow he statement that my post is asinine and i'm a jester,before i spoil this thread for una o. wetin dey bring that nonsense, small pikin go just use the first grammer them teach for me. rubbish.

Lady J, na planet earth i dey, where u dey?

ok,i still doubt sha

nice move,but smtimes all these charity is done out of "notice me ,for me to be good in d eyes of people"


when smthing is not done frm d heart,then its counted as nothing

d guy try anyway

smooooooth:
i guess i shld be asking u all that question, seeing that what i am saying is common where i exist, just u all wont accept the same fate thats going to befall u all.

u still hven't answered my question

wat planet r u from?

ok

smooooooth:
why are women giving themselves headache about what a man does outside, they shld be glad they finally got him to marry them,[/b]besides men stay active longer then women, so they shld concentrate on the kids and developing their lives than who is the next sweet 16 their husband is seeing, [b]because he may just be doing that to stay alive. doesnt mean he no longer loves his wife.
in some cultures even till now, women encourage their husband to get a concubine, because they knw they can't keep up with his strength any longer.

wat planet r u from?

anu me kele oooooo
ifyalways kedu?

chamotex:
what about female cousin or friend

i need some fresh bloods

ole ni e,e gbe enu e dake jo

davidylan:
Not more special than yours bro.
If you take your vows seriously and you love your wife then it shldnt be too difficult to stay faithful to her. Most men who stray are not victims of their wives failures but are themselves moral failures.

u r lucky i dont have a single sister,i would have done some connection dis minute

KarmaMod:
Then the man should have respect for the family and LEAVE the marriage first before frolicking around with someone else.

I don't see how that's too much to ask.

tell them ooooo,is it not better he leaves d marriage and then zoom off wt whomever he wants,instead of staying back and deceiving himself