smooooooth:

why are women giving themselves headache about what a man does outside, they shld be glad they finally got him to marry them,besides men stay active longer then women, so they shld concentrate on the kids and developing their lives than who is the next sweet 16 their husband is seeing, because he may just be doing that to stay alive. doesnt mean he no longer loves his wife.

in some cultures even till now, women encourage their husband to get a concubine, because they knw they can't keep up with his strength any longer.

now you are hitting the nail on the head.

This is the kind of attitude this thread is about.

Its not good when its common to a majority of men.

Marriage requires hard work and commitment on both sides, not just from the woman alone.

whitelexi:

I still stand strong in my belief sha, a wife's failures open the door to another woman's prolificacy.

so what does the man's failures do? Nothing?

smooooooth:

why are women giving themselves headache about what a man does outside, they shld be glad they finally got him to marry them,[/b]besides men stay active longer then women, so they shld concentrate on the kids and developing their lives than who is the next sweet 16 their husband is seeing, [b]because he may just be doing that to stay alive. doesnt mean he no longer loves his wife.
in some cultures even till now, women encourage their husband to get a concubine, because they knw they can't keep up with his strength any longer.

wat planet r u from?

Lady J:

what planet r u from?

i wonder o

KarmaMod:

Please pass along the same asinine message to your daughters, smooth

No point in anyone taking your words seriously anymore. Apparently you are Nairaland's jester placed here by Seun.

good to know the truth sounds like a joke to you, laugh all u can now, cos when u married, the tears starts coming down, cos when the truth was being said, u didnt prepare for it, cos it was jesting to you.

and i personally take your post as an insult, draw the jester thing back, cos u people try to get some1 angry all the time, we are suppose to share our views, abi?

smooooooth:

good to know the truth sounds like a joke to you, laugh all u can now, because when u married, the tears starts coming down, because when the truth was being said, u didnt prepare for it, because it was jesting to you.

and i personally take your post as an insult, draw the jester thing back, because u people try to get someone angry all the time, we are suppose to share our views, abi?

abeg go sidon for dorty

The man's failures will send him into financial decapitation   .

I'm surprised Hannibal is not on this thread
watch him zoom in as soon he hears his name.
that boy is a man winch

Lady J:

what planet r u from?

i guess i shld be asking u all that question, seeing that what i am saying is common where i exist, just u all wont accept the same fate thats gonna befall u all.

smooooooth:

i guess i shld be asking u all that question, seeing that what i am saying is common where i exist, just u all wont accept the same fate thats going to befall u all.

u still hven't answered my question

wat planet r u from?

See as this yeye woman single out naija men like this.  if to say na naija women one man bin call monster you go see naija women with attitude nwa begin abuse am.

e don happun

come u all tell that stupid slowpoke to swallow he statement that my post is asinine and i'm a jester,b4 i spoil this thread for una o. wetin dey bring that nonsense, small pikin go just use the first grammer them teach for me. rubbish.

Lady J, na planet earth i dey, where u dey?

smooooooth:

come u all tell that stupid slowpoke to swallow he statement that my post is asinine and i'm a jester,before i spoil this thread for una o. wetin dey bring that nonsense, small pikin go just use the first grammer them teach for me. rubbish.

Lady J, na planet earth i dey, where u dey?

ah ah
scatter the thread na
see this one
na today people begin scatter thread ?
kpata kpata they lock the thread _{ban a few}
names change
haba!
na today we begin see awusa with dagger abi bow and arrow?

smooooooth:

come u all tell that stupid slowpoke to swallow he statement that my post is asinine and i'm a jester,before i spoil this thread for una o. wetin dey bring that nonsense, small pikin go just use the first grammer them teach for me. rubbish.

Lady J, na planet earth i dey, where u dey?

ok,i still doubt sha

Lmao are you minding him osisi?

Seun's personal clown Didirin.

I have not read through all of the posts yet but i wanted to share this:

One of my closest friends is married to a Nigerian but the marriage was set up.  So she was not to have any relations as he still lives with his orginal wife at home who he divorced a year ago to marry this girl for you know what.

Well they started sleeping together and when she asked him why is it that he is cheating on his wife his response to her was that he was legally married to her and divorced to his wife therefore he was sleeping with his jr wife and not cheating on his sr wife.

My question is, is this how men really justify cheating?  What if the first wife finds out will my girlfriend be in serious trouble or do Nigerian women expect this when thier husbands divorce them and re-marry for paper?  Also are they still married in Nigeria still?  Does a divorce done in the states make them divorced in Nigeria?

I feel really bad for his first wife and really think that my gf should not be sleeping with him.  But it is her life and she thinks he likes her, but I keep telling her he cant.  he is still sleeping and living with his first wife and he just comes to her to Bleep and leave but she wont listen to me maybe she will listen if i send her some of the messages recieved from yall.  

How do i get thru to this girl and let her know that what she is doing is really really wrong?  He will never love her like he does his Nigerian wife no matter what she does.

but why the ladies like they come here form one community like mallams, to bash and trash the male folks everytime, each person go just come here pour her anger and frustration wey her BF curse ontop gentlemen for the land. haba, abeg, u all stop am jare. and be real. men are bad, men are bad, but the same una, after posting go run go una BF house go hang legs for ceiling. shior.

Sistawoman its easy to diagnose your scenario:

1. Your friend has no self esteem - if not u wont be with a man who's married.
2. The man in question has not moral inclination - hence he will sleep with his housegirl if possible.

Put those two together and u'll get 2 confused individuals who absolutely have no shame.

My Dad did not become a monster

My Husband will not become a monster

AMEN SOMEBODY!!!!

Gamine:

My Dad did not become a monster

My Husband will not become a monster

AMEN SOMEBODY!!!!

Amen!

davidylan:

Sistawoman its easy to diagnose your scenario:

1. Your friend has no self esteem - if not u wont be with a man who's married.
2. The man in question has not moral inclination - hence he will sleep with his housegirl if possible.

Put those two together and u'll get 2 confused individuals who absolutely have no shame.

I agree that her self esteem is shot.  She has been in one bad relationship after another and along came this man, who took her out a few times and next thing i know they are sleeping together and now she says he wont let her see anyone else, I think that takes a lot of guts for him to say that and for her to agree to that.

How do i help her to see this is bad and she needs to stop this shit?  He is feeding her all kinds of shit about how much he loves her but he is still referring to the other wife as his wife even when he talks to others like me and my husband.  She does not understand the language and my husband tells me everything, or most things they say to each other.

I just dont understand how she could put up with this?  The men will say to her you are so kind to _____ and he likes how kind  you are, thanks for all your help.  This should be a clue when the 3 years are up she is done for.

but why the ladies like they come here form one community like mallams, to bash and trash the male folks everytime, each person go just come here pour her anger and frustration wey her BF curse ontop gentlemen for the land. haba, abeg, u all stop am jare. and be real. men are bad, men are bad, but the same una, after posting go run go una BF house go hang legs for ceiling. shior.

I tire o.

No marry na. shey dat 1 go be solution for una

^{Not constructive}

sistawoman:

I have not read through all of the posts yet but i wanted to share this:

One of my closest friends is married to a Nigerian but the marriage was set up.   So she was not to have any relations as he still lives with his orginal wife at home who he divorced a year ago to marry this girl for you know what.

Well they started sleeping together and when she asked him why is it that he is cheating on his wife his response to her was that he was legally married to her and divorced to his wife therefore he was sleeping with his jr wife and not cheating on his sr wife.

My question is, is this how men really justify cheating?  What if the first wife finds out will my girlfriend be in serious trouble or do Nigerian women expect this when their husbands divorce them and re-marry for paper?  Also are they still married in Nigeria still?  Does a divorce done in the states make them divorced in Nigeria?

I feel really bad for his first wife and really think that my girlfriend should not be sleeping with him.  But it is her life and she thinks he likes her, but I keep telling her he can't.  he is still sleeping and living with his first wife and he just comes to her to mess and leave but she wont listen to me maybe she will listen if i send her some of the messages recieved from yall.  

How do i get through to this girl and let her know that what she is doing is really really wrong?  He will never love her like he does his Nigerian wife no matter what she does.

A divorce in America is valid in Nigeria.
The man is a fool.
First off divorcing his real wife for the sake of green card already places him in a lower rung of the ladder in my books.
I don't expect much from such an individual.
Your friend on the other hand knows the marriage is not a loving one but  an illegal temp arrangement.
Most likely she's being paid for her services as a provider (from stories I've heard) so her sleeping with the man makes her a cheap LovePeddler.
What woman with good self worth will knowingly be sleeping with a married man who breezes in when he needs to change diet.
She is just being used as a mere private part and sadly she doesn't even know it.

sistawoman:

I agree that her self esteem is shot.  She has been in one bad relationship after another and along came this man, who took her out a few times and next thing i know they are sleeping together and now she says he wont let her see anyone else, I think that takes a lot of guts for him to say that and for her to agree to that.

How do i help her to see this is bad and she needs to stop this shit?  He is feeding her all kinds of shit about how much he loves her but he is still referring to the other wife as his wife even when he talks to others like me and my husband.  She does not understand the language and my husband tells me everything, or most things they say to each other.

I just don't understand how she could put up with this?  The men will say to her you are so kind to _____ and he likes how kind  you are, thanks for all your help.  This should be a clue when the 3 years are up she is done for.

hey,i understand, but dnt intefere in their relationship, berra she discovers things her self, blive once u try to advice someone thats lost u may end up being an enemy.

sistawoman:

I agree that her self esteem is shot. She has been in one bad relationship after another and along came this man, who took her out a few times and next thing i know they are sleeping together and now she says he wont let her see anyone else, I think that takes a lot of guts for him to say that and for her to agree to that.

How do i help her to see this is bad and she needs to stop this shit? He is feeding her all kinds of shit about how much he loves her but he is still referring to the other wife as his wife even when he talks to others like me and my husband. She does not understand the language and my husband tells me everything, or most things they say to each other.

I just don't understand how she could put up with this? The men will say to her you are so kind to _____ and he likes how kind you are, thanks for all your help. This should be a clue when the 3 years are up she is done for.

That your friend will sleep with monkey sef if care is not taken.
You better be careful taking food from her hands

I dont understand how the wife does not know. She has met the wife only once I fear his wife is going to come after her. The wife is older in her 40's but are Nigerian women like that. Will the wife come after my gf if she finds out? Or because her husbands papers are at risk will she sit by and allow this woman to sleep with her man?

;d ;d

sistawoman:

I don't understand how the wife does not know. She has met the wife only once I fear his wife is going to come after her. The wife is older in her 40's but are Nigerian women like that. Will the wife come after my girlfriend if she finds out? Or because her husbands papers are at risk will she sit by and allow this woman to sleep with her man?

right after the man gets his papers, then u will know a real 9ja woman.

sistawoman:

I don't understand how the wife does not know. She has met the wife only once I fear his wife is going to come after her. The wife is older in her 40's but are Nigerian women like that. Will the wife come after my girlfriend if she finds out? Or because her husbands papers are at risk will she sit by and allow this woman to sleep with her man?

If she agreed to the divorce deal, I'm sure she'll just endure the cheatings.
I pity that man.
Your friend may do a 180 when the divorce time comes if she loves the man.
women have been known to use sharp finger nails and poke holes in the condom.
and that would suit him right.
I've heard stories like that.
Then the whole thing becomes one big messy and rotten pot of gumbo

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sistawoman:

I don't understand how the wife does not know.  She has met the wife only once I fear his wife is going to come after her.  The wife is older in her 40's but are Nigerian women like that.  Will the wife come after my girlfriend if she finds out?  Or because her husbands papers are at risk will she sit by and allow this woman to sleep with her man?

This is very simple: the chap is simply using the babe;he's not a monster only an opportunist, an opportunity he would take anywhere else if it presents itself.
Simply tell ur girlfriend to stop making herself a poke hole.

SOJ:

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This is very simple: the chap is simply using the babe;he's not a monster only an opportunist, an opportunity he would take anywhere else if it presents itself.
Simply tell your girlfriend to stop making herself a poke hole.

The next phase is that the women will drop a Queenisha and a Shaquille as fruits of his labor and they are bound for life and the Nigerian wife is screwed for life with endless finances going that way.

@ sistawoman

Be there for your friend when it all goes horribly wrong, she will be HISTORY, when he gets his papers.