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motherfucker:
he has point but didn't word it well. Let me tell you what he is trying to say by using my own self as an example.

There was this girl I loved so much back then and did the best I could with the little I had. Was still an undergraduate but shared whatever I have with her.

Mind you, I love her and felt love was all about sharing by making her feel happy. So, I often did what she wanted. I hardly said know. Even if I didn't have, I will tell her "I will try"

Guess what she did. She decided to become cunning. She started using the love I have for her against me by being manipulative--when she needs money, she will flash (knowing I will call) and then say something nice, sweet, like "baby, I am missing you" "I was just thinking about you and wanted to hear your voice", she will say these things but at the tail end will be a demand for money. I will still send it to her.

I had no idea what was going on because I didn't see her as someone that will do such. But after a while, she started cheating on me with another guy and even had the guy forked her, while I never did. The guy deflowered her. She came back to complain, saying she didn't know how it happened, this was even after she had promised to cut ties with the dude after I caught her. She said she wanted to see me. I still hustled for money to invite her but she committed an even bigger insult right before my own eyes by inviting another guy at the hotel where we lodged.

I had to cut so many things off to save space. But the issue is that TRUST and EGO was bruised! What was the effect of that on me?

I HATED girls for more than 3 years cos her action. I started seeing every girl as nothing but fork tool like you see some Nairaland guy scream-- don't blame them, something happened to them and that's why they act that way.

It took me more than 3 years to finally let go off the pains (I can't really confidently tell you it's all gone now because once a while, the memories flood me) She has begged, apologised, even offered me sex ( after 3 years), wooed me ( few months back) but the damages has been done already.

I am someone who hardly forget or forgive if I trust you but you decide to play on my intelligence, take me for fool.

Till date, she has no idea why I can't take her back despite the pleading. She has no idea the damages of her "I am smart" attitude. Frankly, if not for sake of God, I should have done some really bad things to that girl. She is the first person in my life I couldn't easily forgive. She is the first person in my life who made me felt fire all over my body when I realised I was being taken for a fool, an idiot. I had my life replay before me and saw all the mistakes I made.

Some of us are not wired to forgive people whom we once loved so much and it takes the grace of God not to harm those who betray us.

This thing is highly psychological than you can imagine and it has ripple effect at the same time. Maybe it's because mine happened when I lost my mum which made is double catastrophe.

It's just maturity that has helped me control the anger and live life like a normal human.

The strange thing is that she still held on to my old self, the nice guy. She would give ANYTHING to have me love her again BUT that's dead and buried. My eyes don too open for sweeter beauty (which lacks). She didn't realise she was much at disadvantage when she carried out her plots on me.

I didn't know she went stalking me on facebook until she told me I now look fresher and more handsome it's just God's work!

I do hope you now see clearly how that girl needs to let the past go? I mean the OP.

LilChamp:
Thanks a million, we ve talked about this issue alot of times, though she keep promising not to hide things from me yet I found myself in this kind of situation.

LilChamp:
What advice would you give me as a lady. Pls be sincere

samuelson06:
Go and make peace with the past guys then PM me for more counsels, other than that, I have nothing to say. You don't just work out of a relationship because you feel hurt else the abandoned relationship would hunt you.

Cc: broadsway

dingbang:
nice comment.




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Pato23:
Laveda

Osyxcel:
Arsenal fan?

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KissChrix:
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LesbianBoy:
Which thread was that o

sheunsheun:
Imagine!!! So you are Anti Man u

LesbianBoy:

4everGrand:
If I catch u, ehn!

Misterdhee1:
Not seen dear.. You should send me a pm please. Thanks.

sweetjude:
gala what do you mean?

Misterdhee1:
You v got a pm dear

Misterdhee1:
Yeah.. If you wont mind having a barça friend tho. I really dont here.