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1 John 4:7-9 "...everyone who loves has been born from God... 8 He that does not love has not come to know God, because God is love..."
To show that God loves his people, He always sends out warnings. To those who choose not to listen will face the consequences: death. 2 Thessalonians 1:8
Anyway we are His creation. Jehovah's purpose for the earth was for mankind to live happily and inhabit in it without anyone doing his own will but God's own will.
There were prostitutes in the Bible as well as people who did not believe in God, hence they did wrong in God's eyes. This is simply just to show that Satan and his demons are at work. He is disturbed to see people on God's side and doing what is righteous.

I hope you have a change of heart about Jehovah because He loved you even before you knew Him. He sent his "only-begotten Son to die for your sins" so you can have eternal life. 1john4:9-10

What does she have to say about this??

Sanguine77:
Do you know the meaning?

yesso I asked oyim nwaoke.

dre11:
I do hope the man have accepted ur pregnancy sha

Because that will be a big blow






If I were one of ur family members...... I won't be happy because u just entering the University and the first thing that comes to your mind is to get pregnant instead of facing ur studies

wasnt in university. Its been 3years without schooling. Its just next year am going to start.

thorpido:
You wouldn't expect them to be jumping for joy that u're pregnant at this stage.
Rather than gossip,I would expect them to sit you down and analyse the state you have found yourself and the pros and cons.
You're SA so I can't say much about you getting pregnant at your age but this would not have gone down well with Nigerian relatives.
Since you say he is getting married to you,just go ahead with the plans and make the best of it.
If I may ask how old is your guy?

he is 30 this year.

edwife:
Lebogang,they are not gossiping about you because you are pregnant but because the pregnancy belongs to a nigerian....

You know,that in South Africa having a child out of wedlock is nothing,its happens a lot especially to young girls at the verge of going to university or tech.

Unless you live with them,pay no attention to what anybody says,rather focus on your education ....

The problem will be when you actually start school,who will babysit your child?you must be thinking about that and not anything else....

You are an orphan,and i know most South African who have babies,leave them with their mums to go and work or school.

my sister has no children(infertile), she offered to babysit and later i'll take the child to a nursery school.

Thanks for ur replies. I just needed to talk to someone, a stranger, coz now the only person I was close to betrayed me. Your views made me realise the pros n cons of my relationship and that of my aunt. I dont blame her, but would've expected her to handle the situation better. Otherwise I love nigerians. Yal people are different and lovable.

Phema:
Good! Then stop whining about people gossiping about you and take responsibility for your actions like the adult you claim to be.

Did I read you say you were with him even while in Secondary School? Huh? How does that make this any better?

Abeg, ignore me jare. Better people will soon come tell you what you want to hear.

love has no age restrictions as long as the person u involved with has good intentions. U know in SA, having a relationship with a foreigner, more especially a nigerian, is very controversial. But I wasnt expecting her, my aunt, to act the way she did. Pretending to care and like my man whereas she doesnt. Anyway, my husband and I will be travelling together for the first time together up to ihioma village for our nigerian traditional marriage in december.

beeevan:
I just hope you aren't pregnant for a married igbo man .

no beeevan his family would have told me. We've been having a close communication with his mother and siblings. So I would have known.

Phema:
You fell pregnant as a fresher in the University and expect people to cheer you on? You are definitely not serious. You lost your parents and instead of you to have common sense and face your studies, you were busy following one man. Are you even up to 18 years?

You've made your bed, now jejely go and lie on it.

. You should learn to read and understand well. Even before I finished my secondary schooling I was with this man. That should tell u that I took gap years, not yet into university. I registered only this year for the following year. Reading all that should tell u dat I am older than 18.

Sanguine77:
They are jealous of your success. Do not mind them at all. You have a man who has accepted his baby and you are about to enter the university, what more can you ask for? Ask your Igbo husband the meaning of osondi owendi.

. Yes, osondi owendi

Am south african but dating with an igbo man in south africa where we are currently residing. Am now 5 months pregnant for him. Apparently now my cousins and their mother, my aunt are talking negatively about our relationship and pregnancy. I dont know if this is because I got pregnant for a nigerian or because am pregnant. Her kids have fallen pregnant in school but with me its a different case. Am done with my secondary school, i've already registered with a university for a civil engineering degree course. Its been a year since my parents passed away( they knew about my nigerian bf). My aunt is the only person I thought I had support from. With me she claims to care but they spread negative things about me... how can I see myself through with this situation?

Am a south african woman who is engaged to be married with an igbo man whose been living in SA for the past 8years. We've been together close to three years now. I've not met my in laws yet but have a close communication with them. Ok so now my mother in law has been hospitalised for a week becoz of diabetes. She was discharged then 2 days after taken into a church. Apparently she's lost her sanity and has been mentioning one name (her stepson's name) saying he should leave her alone she wants to live. This stepson, has been said to have major problems and grudges against her and her children. So people please help me understand what must have happened. And how can we help my mother in law. I love this family dearly and it'll be really bad if I had to lose her.