₦airaland Forum

Onegai:
That age, most Judges will not agree to give him custody. Especially if one is a female child.

See, the devil has a playbook and it is the same: ain't nothing new in what he's going on. devil don enter his wife's brain and laid maggot telling her he is the cause of all her problems and it will be so much better of the marriage scatter.

If she wants to leave, she can leave. He shouldn't stop her. He shouldn't tell her to leave, she's looking for excuse to go and she will do so. Every bad decision that she can take will look sweet to her.

Stop fighting her in person and start fighting that demon spiritually. It's time for prayer.

Let your brother focus on himself and the kids for now, just commit to prayer and don't give her an excuse to fight and insult him. Let him ask God to give him the grace, because now is the time to become a Head of the House. Besides, he should be taking care of his own kids

Anyone who tells your brother to deal with her, unless you have proof she's a druggie or a criminal, most Judges will not hand over children below the age of 10 to a single man, especially if one child is female. And devil can keep lying to your sister-in-law and she will take the kids away out of spite.

Yes, she'll regret it all later. But right now is not the time to fight her, report her to her family, so they can help. Yes, she will cry and wail to them that she has been "abused" and "don't you want to see me happy?!!!". Na devil. It is the same playbook for Men and women when it wants to destroy them

Perfect advice my brother, you are wonderful

Bojackk:
lol itel again? Will take 24 hours to get a full charge. They should work on their battery charging tech

This is a lie. I use itel p40. It charges 30% in one hour. If i put the phone off, it charges 40% in one hour.
Una just dey take bad mouth spoil itel, this is not fair enough

AccidentedCars:
You will find love without money, but only when you're a boy. When you become a man, that grace is taken from you.

There's a level of affection you will NEVER experience, even from good women, if you can't afford a basic, livable income.

I am not even referring to sending money in its monetary form. I mean just the things that make life easier to go through.

My partner had a job interview in another city last year. Not a local thing – a real opportunity, the kind that could shift her career.

The interview was at 9 AM on a Monday.

She told me about it on Thursday evening.

By Friday morning, I had booked her a bus ticket for Sunday, reserved a decent hotel room near the venue so she wouldn't be scrambling on Monday morning, and sent her money for a new blouse because the one she planned to wear had a pulled thread she hadn't noticed.

She did her prep on Saturday. I sat on a video call with her for nearly 3 hours while she practiced her answers. Not because she asked – because I knew she was nervous and wouldn't say it.

Sunday evening she got to the city. She called me from the hotel room.

"Babe, it's clean. There's hot water. I feel like a human being."

That sentence hit me differently.

"I feel like a human being."

The bus ticket, the hotel, the blouse – maybe ₦85,000 total. Not a fortune. But it was the difference between her showing up stressed, underprepared, and exhausted from an overnight bus… and showing up rested, sharp, and confident.

She got the role.

This isn't a one-off. This is just what being present looks like when you can afford to be.

I keep a stocked kitchen whenever she's around. Not fancy things – eggs, bread, rice, the basics. But ALWAYS stocked. Because "there's nothing at home" is a sentence I don't allow in my house.

I handle data and subscriptions without being asked. Netflix, the Wi-Fi router, her Spotify. Small things. Maybe ₦15,000 a month combined. But she never has to think about them. That's the point.

I can't stand the heat. I physically cannot function when it's 35 degrees inside. So if I can't take it, how can I let her sit in it? That's fuel money. Every single day when there's no grid power. 5 to 7 litres. Daily. Especially when she's staying over.

We don't do "let's manage." We don't trek to places. It's always a cab or a keke at minimum.

That's not luxury. That's what I consider basic.

Add it up over a year:

Fuel for the generator. Transport every weekend. Groceries restocked every week. Subscriptions renewed every month. Random needs – a drug she needs at midnight, airtime when her line runs out during something important, data when she's on deadline.

That sums up to well over 2 million naira each year. And I'm not talking about MONEY sent as money. I am just referring to basic convenience.

The things that make a woman feel like she's with someone who has capacity. Not wealth. CAPACITY.

Your best bet as a young man is waiting until you're certain that love is ALREADY present before following through with generosity.

So yes, you can find love without money.

But there's a level of love you cannot preserve without financial stability, not because your partner is a bad girl, but simply because this is the fucking planet, and the nuances that make life beautiful, or at least livable, are expensive.

In summary, you'll find love without money as I did all through the years when I was a boy.

That grace is removed when you become a man.

Hmmmm! I hope you are wise enough to be saving money for the raining day. A raining day might come oo, if you don't have something kept somewhere to sustain you and her during those days, you might become a bad person before her, I'm just trying to tell you that you don't spend all when money is flowing, because days of scarcity might occur unexpected.

MaziObinnaokija:
Nonsense . Kwankwaso should go and sidon. If profit AUO talk say he see KWANKWASO AS 2027 Winner now, he for dey dance around. Nonsense

Go and sit down. Tell me which prophecy this prophet has said that came to pass. He needs to be taught a lesson to stop him from telling lies.

Axis313:

"Ti sigidi ba fe sere ete,a ni ki won gbe oun lo sodo lo we".
When a clay statue wants to disgrace itself,it will insists on being taken to the river to bath.
And all of us know what will happen to the clay after coming in contact with water.

O kare oo, omo Yoruba atata

Ni

Unfaized:
This is bullshit. You can't talk about billing where the infrastructure is non existent. What people are saying is make the infrastructure available first. That is where successive governments have failed woefully.

You have a very warped perspective of reality as a person. Stop excusing failure of government by assumption that citizens cannot pay for services. Is the infrastructure available?

Nobody is asking for free electricity, for each administration a certain amount is drawn as budget to improve electricity generation and distribution, your questions should be directed at the lack of results and not based on uneducated guesses.

Ask why Nigeria is still below 10k MW after releasing billions of $ down from Obj's administration till this one.

The man is talking nonsense. Take for instance the issue of telephone. When it came it was very expensive. Service was widely available. The people that can afford it were buying. With more entrants the cost started dropping. More and more users were joining. With one single tariff, each person buys whatever he or she can afford. But the point is, the service is widely available. Power should be done like this. Service should be made available, one single cost effective tariff should be charged, meter should be made available to every user, each person buys whatever he can afford to buy, simple.

McLizbae:
They should upgrade their network. Glo network is bad and unreliable in most parts of the country.

Very bad. They supposed to be the best being our own network, but unfortunately Glo is the worst

Gigantiorji:
All these things won't stop me from drinking my beer, beer is life

Continue nah, whether beer is life or not you will get to know later, but it may be too late

MichaelSokoto:
Nigeria is a joke!
After one month?
Can't dey hire mercs with sleep smokes to capture d terrorists?
Which kyne stu****d 🌽 3 be dis?
😤

May be they are already in Niger Republic by now

happney65:
No,people who saw them yesterday said they went towards Ife and it were not going to other parts of Oyo state. Maybe they were on their way to Abuja or something

So this isn't for Oyo. It is playing and jokes they have been doing all these while

The Presidency is not serious tackling insecurity yet AT ALL

Even the governors are not doing enough too. What are they doing with their huge security votes
How is Enugu governor is able to secure his state, other governors should and have the capacity to do the same.

starpower:
he repeatedly said, he had caution her multiple times, part of relationship is understanding boundaries. I actually think she owes him the dignity of calling him as requested.

I love that guy, he is a disciplined person. That lady is very stubborn. If I'm the guy, i will end that relationship, she won't be a submissive wife

adetayoonas:
Benz won’t give u peace as its grow older. Camry have good second hand value and its better than the Benz.

Before it grows old n ko, you will enjoy it for years. It's just that getting a capable mechanic to maintain it might be a little difficult

Amotolongbo:
Looking for money is his hobby

You got it wrong. Looking for how to meets the needs of humanity is his hobby, that is it. He is already thinking of how to solve the electricity problem of Nigeria, he is thinking of how to build power plants in the country to take us out of darkness.

Gotocourt:
Primary/Secondary School. My girlfriend gets 10K to 15K, the thing dey make our love grow and strong. Nothing like urgent 2K

What you said doesn't make any sense nah. Is your girlfriend selling primary/secondary school? Please learn how to express yourself clearly

Bluna:
Ayo Fayose supposed to be a highly respected senior colleague of both Wike and Makinde. He was already a state governor as far back as over 23 years ago. How he stoops so low to now turn to a boy boy is still a wonder to me.

I wonder oo, honestly i can't understand, maybe he no get money again.

Refinedbeing:
If na matter of national security, call Ribadu then na abi.

Sebi we for get livestock minister that time self. I chop you chop yeyenatu portfolio. 😁😁 Two of the most confused portfolios ministry of water resources and livestock. Thank God for blue marine ministry, water resource minister go just dey collect salary and allawee Dey take am build estate for him village Dey go. 😁

On this cow issue, it is very clear Wike's hands are tied. He doesn't want cows moving around within Abuja city, but the owners of the cows are untouchables.

jman77:
This bike shouldn't be more than #250k if you're Bent on buying it. Soon you'll start to spend on repairs, don't let that your friend sweet talk you.

Why is the friend selling it in the first place

Jmichael1:
I don't know what else to tell my mum just to let her understand that I get bored wen ever I'm around crowd of people and I'm an introvert..
My mum is that kind of person that believes in "I do for you,you do for me....

I'm currently 26yrs,and all my life, I've been to just 1 burial and just 1 marriage.
Despite the fact I lived alone,my mum always call me wen ever there's occasion either in the village or in the neighborhood were I grew up here in yenagoa..

She don't want me to miss any occasion along I heard about it.....she will always say"Michael...my son,no forget say nah u be 1st pikin,na people wen u do for today,go do for u wen ur turn reach,dey try attend people party ooooh

I don't know what else to do oooh,I'm not into party or occasion lifestyle..

My phone has been switched off since on Thursday,bcuz I heard of burial of sum1 I knew,and I know she must call me to attend the burial and I'm not ready to go...

To cut the long story short,plz my fellow nairalanders,Wat will u do in dis situation if u were in my shoes.

Your mummy is right. Can you imagine having an occasion yourself and no one is there, this is the future you are carving for yourself if you don't know. You may not attend every occasion, but important ones you should be there, especially as you are the first child of the woman

EmpressTitan:
I swear some women can be irritating.

This is not only irritating, but wicked. That woman is wicked. So she wants the man to give her parents the remaining balance of #50,000 so the man can go empty handed.

marlow1962:
But you were not naturally forgetful when he blocked you, you remembered it and decided to share how shameful you're online.

E be like gaslighting online they give una more fans.

And I'm very sure she will not be naturally forgetful to collect transport money from him

LordBiden:
Life in Canada too is uncertain,there are many out there sleeping outside in the cold without accomodations, without jobs.

You people only see the negative. There are many Nigerians doing very well in Canada. There is no way you can compare opportunities available in Canada to Nigeria.

badoh:
If government will be sincere in ensuring uninterrupted power supply, then they should pass legislation to fine or jail for a minimum of 6 months anyone caught tapping power illegally. You cant be blaming government for inefficiencies while you also sit at your house also committing illegal acts.

Let them supply meters to all consumers. That is the starting point. They themselves are causing problems for themselves. They should stop completely that evil called estimated billing.

nairalanda1:
Buhari only gave him 2.9 billion dollars. Total cost of the refinery was 18 billion dollars. The man has paid back the government loan.

Calm down. Ask why the over 20 other licencees did not build their own refinery? And it was not because of cheap forex, it was because most of you Nigerians supported subsidy which made it difficult for banks to lend money to refinery licencess in good faith because they knew that subsidy would make it impossible for anyone to make a profit refining fuel in Nigeria.

THat's why your NNPC refineries failed...years of subsidy (and when GEJ wanted to remvoe it, you people listened to tinubu then, and said no.).

Dangote was able to afford to build and attract funding for his refinery because if he failed to pay back the loans, the banks who gave him the majority of the money as loan for the refinery would just take over his other lucrative businesses and his properties and collect their money back.

Make we dey realize why some decisions should have been taken in 2012, and in 1993, not in 2023.

Even the $2.9billion loan Buhari gave to him, Buhari has not done him any favour. This is what is expected of a responsible govt, encouraging local industries and supporting them to succeed so as to create employment and save our scarce foreign exchange

omoredia:
Scammer. Use our fx for his refinery now he is exporting refined product to make money for himself and corrupt govt officials

Did he steal your fx, was it not the govt that gave him legally. A man that didn't steal your money to hide in overseas accounts, trying his best to make Africa independent by investing all his resources in African economy, what sin has he committed, all of you accusing him, only God can forgive you

ufotunang:
..but why can't Desmond Elliott look forward and contest for house of reps.. move from his political journey

When he has lost total support of his godfather. Femi Gbajabiamila has already dumped him and declared his support for that Barakat

Badadvisor:
Omo cancer just dey kpai the wrong people anyhow in Nigeria lately while one president with fake non existent credentials is still active

She is not in Nigeria.

dettolgel:
He has himself to blame, after 12 years he couldn't build grass root support. He deserves what has come to him.

Has he spent 12yrs in the house?

If you marry that doctor lady of yours, you will regret it for your entire life. Do you know many other lies she possibly has told you, trust is a very strong foundation of marriage. You can't trust her again, so the foundation is destroyed already. In my own opinion, forget about that marriage, you will get your own woman. There are very, very, plenty of them looking for husband, so why are you in hurry.

Lifestone:
Try and read, and stop been lazy. He reviewed revenue leakages across over 15years, not a Tinubu government issues only.
I agree with him, what you guys are doing now is politicize it and destroy the intention of the policy paper.
He has requested that each Presidential Candidate should specifically speak to how this will be fixed. Fair enough, you guys should allow this policy paper to form the basis of a genuine election discussion

Don't trouble yourself, Nigerians don't care whatever happens to their money, if they care the country won't be like this.

Alliswell248:
Talk for yourself.
Jonathan is far better than Peter Obi who was a total failure as a governor.

Tell me one thing Jonathan achieved as a former president, that we are still enjoying till today that Nigerians can remember him for

Righthussle:
My own daughter will not feel bad about it at all. She'll tell you there are other options like adoption.

She has a positive mind ni