thecommunist:
Let me give you a piece of advice. If you wish well for the girl and your children, You need to return that girl back to her parents and send her parents money for school fees and other things you can do. Then get a professional housemaid that you will pay and don't need to take any other responsibilities for. Otherwise, your wife's attitude may cause the girl to maltreat or harm your children.

That professional housemaid is another person's daughter too. The wife will still be wicked towards that one too, in fact that will be worse

You did not commit any sin. You did the right thing. Whatever you sow in life that is what you will reap. Don't beg your wife o. Don't collect the money from her and don't buy any cloth for the girl yourself. If she refuses to buy the cloth for the girl, let her conscience continue to judge her and trouble her. Don't return the girl to the village.

TonyeBarcanista:

Bros, honestly, you are crying over nothing.

Your wife is a woman and you should understand her own position. She doesn't want her relative help to enjoy same privilege as her and her children before things get out of hand. Also, she isn't comfortable with the affection you are showing the girl. You were even wrong to quarrel her and say nasty things to her. Your good intention was spoilt by your action.

Guy, na you find trouble! Even me sef de suspect say your eye de chook for the babe as you don de reason her as second mother.

BTW we have seen relative househelp "chanced" madam in their homes or get pregnant for the oga for house.

Guy, apologise to your wife, and ask her to send the girl to her people.

You are a very wicked woman

My advice for you is not to allow fear seize your mind before visiting the hospital, or else the situation can get worse. So have faith that you will be alright.

He supposed to declare his own share of the company. I remember very well that the late President Sheu Yaradua declared his own part of shares in Habib Bank he jointly owned with MKO.

Instruct her to stop total communication with her ex by blocking him. If she really loves you and have true feelings for you she will obey. If she refuses to obey you let her know that you will dump her and be serious about it. If she cannot obey you now she will not obey you after marrying her.

You are an evil and very wicked person. You don't deserve to be with that lady at all. Please leave her alone, don't worsen her emotional situation. Just leave her alone and go your own way. Furking lier.

All of you insulting this lady are wicked people as if you never commit any sin before. Anyone in this flesh of ours can fall into the pit anytime, the important thing is to learn from the situation, dust up yourself and move on making sure you don't fall into the same pit again. My advise is that never inform his wife and relatives yourself, except you to cause katakata for the man. Let him inform his wife and relatives himself. Or else, he can neglect you if you cause trouble for him by not applying wisdom.

May we not have this kind of security problem in any part of Nigeria again after 2023.

IgiveLadiesBj:


It just happened now now. I'm leaving the brothel now. Shops don close for here

Why do you punish yourself? The sex you have that you will not enjoy, is that not self punishment?

kenzysmith:
King sunny Ade should be held for questioning hope he didn't use is wife to resurrect is music career . this life sha

Who told you Sunny Ade's music career is dead, are you alive at all, King Sunny Ade's music will be relevant even after he leaves this earth.

How much productive you are as a nation determines the value of your currency. And how much value you are adding to your products. Even the crude oil we have we can't add value to it by refining it and export. So how can our currency have value.

DEMZEE:


Strong woman indeed. Once a woman has money or status or both she says she doesn't need a man.

Having money and status as a woman doesn't make u sexy.

She's going to die alone with dogs and cats or probably both lol

Her pool of potential candidates for a serious relationship has dwindled. Women gain happiness from having a family and getting married not from having money and status. Single mother raise delinquent children

That is your own opinion, and you are free to express it

pocohantas:
Happy birthday to her. She singlehandedly put her family name on the map. Pulled her whole family out of lack. A strong woman she is.

I appreciate her for having that boy. It is only a foolish single 37yrs old woman that would be drinking postinor 2 or doing abortion for man or to please world people. Na fck she fck, she no kill person. The boy will grow, people would talk, then they would get tired and face other matters arising.

Celibacy or not, she did well by having that child.

I love your reasoning

Muhylonaire007:
Mtcheeeew....
Most dunce CBN governor ever liveth.
Sha make sure that Naira rises against Dollar from next week, as if na AbokiFX dey devalue naira. Idiotic human being

Yet he gets to the pinnacle of his career. No one knows you anywhere.

It depends on the personality of the person. Forget about gender.

The guy is wicked and very greedy. If he did not see that money to steal from his girlfriend, would he have won the money. If his girlfriend was as poor as he is, he would not have won that money.

Olivertwist1985:
I want to thank you all for your advice and comments.
I want to clear some issues that some people brought fort.

1.The issue of domestic violence does not arise between her and me.I don't beat or fight her.

2. When I was working I established business for her and the business is not doing bad.

3.iam not totally jobless, I have a handwork, that is solar energy installations, CCTV camera and dstv,startime and general satellites installation, I told her that I will be supporting whenever I get jobs but she said ,she need it in bulk as I normally used to give her whenever I received my salary at the end of the months

4.Another issue is that of bearing kids which I cannot take care of them,.Actually my wife didn't support family, when she gave birth to our third Child, i told her that we should embarked on family planning but she turned it down, citing that her mother did not do ,hence she can't do it as well.Even another issue that she complained when she reported the case to my pastor before she finally left,was that we sleeping on the same bed for about two weeks but I am seeing her like a log of wood but for me iam afraid of anything pregnancy because the loads are too much on me.

Thanks you all for your advices,
May God bless.

You see yourself bringing your marital problems to nairaland to immatured, unreasonable and unmarried people. So because a man that has been taking care of a wife for 13 years lost his job, so the next thing to do is for the wife to pack out of the house and move to her parents house, and people here are supporting her action. You have learnt your lesson o. Instead of sitting down with the husband to find a way out and pray together to God to provide another job, the people here are supporting her movement out of the house. I can't understand how Nigerian youths of today reason.

ogascomax:


This suggestion is just rubbish, don't do it and mind your business. Many people have been killed because they won't mind their business. Fate should decide her case and not you. Someone told you that don't allow the devil use you and still you don't understand or you think when you tell the man it was God who is using you.

You are a wicked person

Please find a way to report to the husband anonymously, because a woman that is committing adultery against a nice man can kill the man.

Botking:
Through a mean of an adulterous women a man is being brought to piece of bread.

If you look well you will find out that the husband himself is also an adultery, and the woman know about it, that's why she's revenging

One thing you need to understand is that women nowadays has revenging spirit, the can't forgive and forgot.

So my kindly advise to you is forget about them, pretend you never see it, and let this scripture do the justice,
◄ Hebrews 13:4 ►
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

You are a very wicked person. The man is a banker that leaves the house very early and comes back late, where does he have the time for adultery.

If you don't move out of that house, her attitude can make you fall sick.

It is really very difficult to live with a toxic and negative person. There is nothing you can do to change her. Only God can do that. And she has to see the need for her to change first before she can change. The best thing for you is to move out of the house as soon as possible.

BLAISECAMPAORE:


Eye opener indeed.

Interestingly also, without Lagos revenue (contributed by Nigerians from all regions), South-West IGR would be just N142 billion putting it 4th below the North West, North Central and South-South.



Check again.

Lagos State equally spend heavy money to provide and maintain infrastructure for the occupants of their state.

What benefits has he given to the people with his wealth and what experience does he have to offer good governance to the people. He is only using the popularity of his brother.

$400 is equivalent of #200,000 and not #400,000