₦airaland Forum

postmann:
A school teacher loses his fear factor before a young class of teenagers, a council of elders in a remote countryside is being sacked by a discontented band of unruly youth.

A young daughter defiles her mother's domestic orders, and a young son slams the door shut as he disappears into the night in a clenched fist, holding desperately to a wrapped pack of marijuana.

Welcome to the age of rebellion and cultural decay, where taboos and moral values are being buried alive by the monstrous wave of ungodly freedom --a new religion with many devout followers --perverting the inhibitions and moral code that once held the human society to sound discipline.

Don't know why this is related to the topic but okay

21st century woman -- of whom this article is centred on -- isn't left out in this destructive tide, sweeping all of humanity to a hopeless uncertainty.
Drunk in her ungodly freedom and cheered on and applauded by a global audience. "What is good for the goose is good for the gander ", she retorted in a daring arrogance. It's a man's world just as much as it is hers!

So the emancipation of a woman is ungodly abi...until they are counted as property the way the old testament used to do before everything can be alright with the world abi issorai

Is she built that tough? Does nature, nurture, or the unknown phenomenal disposition of cosmic ordination equipped her to ride in the bravery and foolishness of men with minimum casualties as with her male counterparts?
Or does she get carried off in a wave of her head-strong recalcitrancy and hard-crash on a merciless pebbled shore, greeted by the sad reality of life?

Uhmmm Why all this grammar ehn? Cudnt get the gist of this paragraph...hian! O ga o sofry on d ingrish biko!

Let's see why a woman is worse off than a man in infidelity and sexual rascally.
But first, let me point out; cheating is cheating irrespective of gender. It's an act of cowardice, betrayal and disloyalty. It is pure wickedness. A cheat is not worthy of trust and commitment.
And this is certainly not a call or support for male sexual rascality or promiscuity. Real men don't cheat!

U want to divulge into why a woman's cheating is worse off but yua tryna play safe by saying cheating is bad when you've automatically put dt men's cheating is better in the first line...okay!i just dey look u

then, there are consequential repercussions to cheating, and it's gender sensitive. Call it a world of hypocrisy or double-standardness , but women have a lot to lose than their male counterparts when it comes to infidelity and sexual rascality.

Cheating has never and will never be gender sensitive. Coz d guys don't sleep with demselves neither do the ladies sleep with demselves unless dey r gay dou. Both genders have everything to lose. The woman may lose her home (not every cheating woman is chased out!mind u) and self respect while also being a failure to her children..the man might think he has nothing to lose when infact he has been losing since d onset of his randy ways; he'll lose d respect of his wife, d respect of children(just coz ur kids fear u doesn't mean dey respect u), he might not go far in his life unless he wants to cut corners (time and money spent on bettering his career or business is being wasted on women and his other illicit affairs-same goes for the woman)

REASONS ARE:

MEN'S PERCEPTION : When it comes to which woman makes it to the altar, men can be picky! They consider many qualities and a lady's sexual history is of a paramount interest. Like a car, he's interested in the body and engine. How long it's been driven and by how many drivers is a serious part of the bargain.
Her chastity is one of his biggest bragging right! Simply put: he wants someone with a decent sexual past.
Once married, if his wife should engage In an adulterous affair, he most likely will consider her as damaged goods.

And yet tonto dikeh,kim Kardashian, dabota, Caroline danjuma, Ini edo, and co. All got married...while some got divorced for reasons best known to dem but we can all admit dey weren't virgins but they got married. Any man dt is thinking abt a woman's body count is either a big tym hypocrite or a virgin or has mental problem. Coz it's really absurd dt u can have sex with numerous person before getting hitched but ur wifey can't have dsame. Please who made "men" d owner of "sex"

SOCIETAL STANDARD : The fruits of sexual rascality or promiscuity can manifest in the shame of an unwanted pregnancy. Men don't get to carry that shame.
For some women an unwanted pregnancy could mean an end/suspension in education or carrier. Or worse abortion murder.
Single unmarried baby mamas are seen as second grade most times by the society. And a woman view by society as promiscuous has a hard time getting married.

Single mothers also get married...u shud go out and interract more op!

If she's married and caught or even rumoured to have committed adultery, the stamp of shame is forever!
Her daughters may have a lifetime struggle trying to prove that the apple sometimes falls far from the tree.

Hehehehehehehe...unless it's in d village. Who still cares abt wht ur parents did with their private parts in d past. If kids frm broken homes can get married trust me dose daughters have no problem...op e b like say cupid never shoot hin arrow for ur yansh coz if he did...u won't be searching for a million reasons not to be with ur lady love but a billion reasons to stay with her.

EMOTIONAL INVOLVEMENT : This is where the male-female divide gets even wider. A man's primary motive for sexual unfaithfulness is sex! He most times leaves his emotions behind. Like a ruthless Kalahari lion, he takes his victim down with no mercy. Until he hits goal, his conscience is numb! He walks away when he's done.

But for women who cheats, they involve their emotions in their affairs. Unlike her male counterpart, she's just not looking for sex, she's looking to fill an emotional void.
She's dangerous!!! And self-destructive! She misjudges her male lover, thinking they are on the same page. She can do almost anything for him. Putting him above her children and miserable husband. She can murder, hypnotise or wreck her husband for her loverboy's sake.

But alas! He is just probably in for the sexual thrills. His emotions are somewhere else. Perhaps with a younger, unmarried girl.
The adulteress will be burnt badly as she slowly comes to terms with reality.

That's where you are wrong again! Men get emotionally involved too. Everything boils down to why one is cheating. If you're looking to fill an emotional void. U will most definitely get involved with with ur side boo so abeg leave matter. There are women who don't get attached and dem no send d guy. E b like u never jam dem Jebel-likes!

SEXUAL DISEASES (STDs):

Sex for women is like an interavanious injection. It goes straight to the blood stream.
A squirt of hot fluid (_semen) jetting its way into her very core!
Bacteria and viral infections can penetrate the thin lining of the vagina more easily than a penis. This puts her at a higher risk than her lover boy.
For women, common STDs like chlamydia and gonorrhoea have disappearing symptoms or no symptoms. Genital lesions caused by herps or syphilis can occur inside the vagina and go unnoticed. While the infections remain inside causing havoc and destroying reproductive organs.

While men are unlikely to have to experience long-term complication from STDs, hidden infections in women can cause serious health complications and infertility.
Women can also infect their babies with STDs during pregnancy and child birth which can result in stillbirth, blindness, deafness, brain damage and low birth weight.

And what about the the mother of all and most common STD, the cervical cancer? Men are natural, silent carrier of this human papilloma virus (HPV) which is the leading cause of cervical cancer in women.

Hehehehehe... i laugh! All dese STds mentioned guys also get it and while u say some Stds might affect a woman's fertility wht abt dose "abokoku" women dt stay with their randy-ass horseband in d hope dt he'll change his lifestyle once he sees dem fasting and praying and tryna break walls with their desperation filled prayers ehn mister...these men infect dem and dey might not be able to have more children, or wht abt women who remained virgins before being a Mrs and dey r still infertile ehn...

So just before that ignoble rhetoric of what's good for the goose is also good for the gander brohaha, as a woman, you may have to consider the pitfalls.

Abeg op kindly take several seats...all ur reasons r baseless and dey don't in any way justify dt a woman's cheating is worse. Don't be myopic! Don't cheat and expect a woman to be faithful to you. Don't give someone else food u can't even stomach yourself!

Cheating is a million shades of WRONG! It not only hinders one's potential greatness or progress, it also cuts one's life's span short. For a few minutes of pleasure you'll break ur home and ur children's heart. Noone has special vagina or dick, y'all are eventually gonna cum at d end of it all...then all to what purpose?ehn So u can brag abt how yua a man and u can't be tied to a woman for life or how yua a woman and u want to be equal with these low-iq dudes? I don't just quite get it?? Why can't u brag abt careers,business milestones,how u can change d world or ur country? Something tangible and substantial oda dan sex.

Women! why strife to be equal when you can be BETTER!

Op u sound angry. Being angry is no way to go thru life ehn

Chidoks:
Ah! It works o.
No be for public I go discuss it's potency.

women r trying

Chidoks:
With that your post I made a mental note of all the men that have died that I know, the same thing o. Either strange sickness or death in the sixties meanwhile their wives now travel all over the world for omugwo and holidays
We beg them, they no gree
Red pant nko? E no dey catch their eye again!!
As we bind and cast they will be busy sextexting with dem karishika and other HIV boutiques
Men learn this today; adultary has the tendency of cutting short your life span!!

i cud swear dt d way men shout "red pant" "red pant" one will think it works wonders they won't learn o...as d saying goes "the dog dt wants to get lost won't hear the whistle of the hunter"

Chidoks:
Lol!!!
The truth is that the aforementioned work for women.
But you're crazy to advice a man like that. Red boxers kwa? Babes abeg no kill me o.
He can fast and pray though.
And you added stay blessed? Haba yarinya!

It's thesame advice they give women in situation like dt...what's good for the goose is also good for the gander . I actually feel bad for what the op is going through but divorce isn't the solution...prayers,fasting and forgiveness dts d solution

armyofone:
Nigerian lecturers and the demand for sex, smh
Op, divorce isn't good for children so keep that in mind.

Girl, preach it
To err is human, to forgive is divine.

Abi o my sister ...he wants to divorce so dt d poor children will live the woes of broken marriage. The lord is his strength and will let him find it in his heart to forgive

Chidoks:
2 more disadvantages of adultary detected.
1: Strange ailments ( mostly at old age,that's if they live that long)
2:Death!
Meanwhile 'baby whales' live and see grand children
Men, continue cheating...

Preach on my sister...they don't know they r cutting their lives short. My ex told me how his father was so randy he impregnated three women around dsame time period this man was so randy he had children everywhere...he later died when he was just 50...can u imagine? My useless ex con dey talk say ehn na hin calabar girlfriend kill am...i just dey look am like really nigga really!

How do u expect someone like dt to live long...maybe he died of syphilis or whatever STds r available but trust nigerian men to blame women for d man's demise. After dt whole saga nobody sat me down before i walked outta d relationship. Like father like son

doingood:
If ur wife cheated on U and confesses to U and ask for 4giveness and u forgave her. 3 yrs down the line. She committed the same act with her lecturer in her school cos she wanted to pass. Her mind started troubling her and she confesses to u with tears. That d lecture have slept with her up to 5 times. She is from Calabar and i'm Abia State. What should I do. This time i've reported the case to d parent and the parent even flog her and treating to disown her. What should I do as she had 2 kids for me. My daughter is 7 and the boy is 1yr.

I feel for you op...please forgive her,fast and pray for her to change her ways, try and spice the marriage alot so she won't look outside. Cook nice meals,wear red boxers and lose some weight...(especially potbellies )

Trust me it aint easy to be married to one prick for d rest of ur life unless yua filled with the spirit of God. God forgives us wen we err so who are we not to forgive. If u leave her now what's to say the next woman won't cheat on you...so please ehn forgive her and don't forget to pray for ur marriage.

Stay blessed!

The devil is playing with your mind mr man you've not even thought abt the risk involved..na so e easy to trust persin with money and properties.

But what do i know Please kindly go ahead we shall wait for anoda thread in a few years of you regretting ur actions and looking for advice you're probably never going to take

These cheats won't stop o...naija men believe sex and cheating is their God given and personal property. Then they go on talking abt how men r polygamous in nature and how no woman shud ever leave a man because of cheating and dt there are more women dan men and ladies shud start sharing dem..

Newsflash...statistics show there are more young males dan females, the only reason why females are more males in d range of 50yrs and above is coz dese men die of d case of "afowafa". They simply live their youth days by carrying different ladies up and down,being a useless husband and dey expect to live long...okay o

*Incase you don't believe the facts*
0-14 years: 43.2% (male 39,151,304/female 37,353,737)
15-24 years: 19.3% (male 17,486,117/female 16,732,533)
25-54 years: 30.5% (male 27,697,644/female 26,285,816)
55-64 years: 3.9% (male 3,393,631/female 3,571,301)
65 years and over: 3.1% (male 2,621,845/female 2,861,826) (2014 est.)

http://www.indexmundi.com/nigeria/demographics_profile.html
Incase some niggas start feeling extra special ntorr!!!