Mistermoon: Please, I need advice on what to do. The community disconnected electricity supply to our compound because the landlord did not pay a community electrification due (money for transformer) that predates our tenancy and the landlord gave only me a quit notice with 30 days ultimatum because I was the only one brave enough to demand that he pays the due so that electricity can be restored to the house.
I want to take him up legally but I need guidance on how to go about it plus L do not personally know a lawyer.
You have to determine your type off tenancy and also if you have any landlord-tenant agreement that may override tenancy laws/provision.
If there's no such agreement, and you're a yearly tenant, you are entitled to 6 months notice to quit.
Also your landlord can give you a quit notice for any reason he likes. The law only requires that he gives you the legal timeframe to quit
Fatso, who at best, is a social media loafer and a complete nobody as far as Nigerian politics is concerned, is alredy playing the victim card and blame game.
Can somebody tell this attention seeker to keep quiet and politics isn't for jobless social media loafers?
Samantha125: The apartheid regime only started in 1948.
Hausa could be recognised as an official and national language of Nigeria alongside English since the language makes up the majority.
The schools curriculum would also require alterations so that the learners/students can be eligible to do their native languages as home languages in their schools in accordance to their regions, English as a first additional language, and Hausa as a second additional language... Hausa learners/students could then be given an option to either do Yoruba or Igbo as their second additional language in their schools since they'd have been doing Hausa as their home language.
South Africa is roughly 60 million with about eleven official languages, why are you suggesting one indigenous language for a people of over 250 million and over 500 languages?
Samantha125: I'm from South Africa and yes, my native language is optimally intergrated within my country's academic structure... I did it as a home language from primary school till my senior year in high school... It's one of the compulsory school subjects alongside English, mathematics/mathematical literacy, and life orientation... I have a cousin who's half Venda and half Pedi, she did Venda as a home language in primary school, then changed to Sepedi when she got to high school and now she's fluent in both languages alongside English.
Our universities also have their own language policies whereby they're promoting the development of local languages for academic purposes.
400 years of apartheid caused such madness.
South Africa is a relatively small country with fewer languages with majority marked as official languages more out of ego and formality than if functionality.
Nigeria is a different kettle of fish, with over five hundred languages, English is the only way forward, not out of conquest or a egoistic baseless identity but for practicality and coordination for a country of over 250 million people
I have not made an offer to warrant your rejection. That's your emotions running faster than your limited intellect and your forced , uncharacteristic emoji gives you away.
I prefer dancing around the threshold of your canal to avoid a drum of disinfectant
pocohantas: Marry the women that don't hate men and stop spilling tears on the floor. Make person no fall abeg.
Thanks for the advice I only implore you to kindly tell the younger girls here of your experience with men ,especially men here
Is that too much of an asking, that you use your versatile, rich experience to prevent them from falling where you did?
But if you'd rather not and keep such ground shattering experience to yourself and rob the world of what destruction a girl can experience after assorted severe-dicking, then fine.
pocohantas: Infidelity didn't start today, so I am always surprised when people act like it is a modern problem. Married women are dating other men. Married men especially. Na Chike own cast, but it happening steady in this religious Nigeria. In the past there was no social media and widespread technology to establish evidence. Also it is an ego thing for men, many would take it to their grave than admit it openly.
Either way, paternity fraud is terrible. Away from all the agenda and gender war, no woman should cheat and pass off a child to another man. It is unfair to the child and the man too. A very high level of betrayal that should be shunned. If everyone continues like this, the family unit would breakdown in a few years.
after years of man- hating and bitterness, you struggle to find a balance. But it's a fit by your toxic standards. You must have found love anew. A toast to you.
But you stopped short of saying women are inherently evil and paternity fraud is the only crime women alone can pull off.
And you have not told the younger girls here that body counts destroy women more than poison and acid
This is another pointer that women don't mind body count in men. In fact to them, it's an indication that he has something good and special all those other dumped girls want
In reverse, men either use girls with body counts for recreational purposes or hookup.
Goldrosewine: Misconceptions About Female Virginity We Need To Address😤
A lot of conversations around virginity in Nigeria focus on what a woman “owes” a man. But the truth is simple: sexual purity is first a gift a woman gives to herself, not anybody else.
When a young woman avoids early sex, she’s protecting her own future no early pregnancy, no STDs, fewer emotional scars, and a clearer head to build her life.
Another point many people still misunderstand: not every woman bleeds during her first sexual experience. The hymen is not a “seal” but a thin, stretchy tissue that differs from person to person. Sports, cycling, stretching, medical exams, and even tampon use can affect it. So bleeding (or not bleeding) is not proof of anything.
Ironically, many men already know this but the society won't let them trust the authenticity of a noble process🥲 This is why as a lady, it becomes important to hold these conversations with 'him' ensuring his level of maturity transcends that level of understanding.
At the same time, the cultural value many Nigerian men place on marrying a virgin is not wrong... Just look at Nairaland, there's that guy that asks on every wedding photoshoot thread if she's a virgin🥲 ...It encourages discipline, culture, responsibility, and stable family values. But women should also demand the same standard: if you’re keeping yourself, make sure the man you choose is also morally, emotionally, and sexually disciplined
Purity shouldn’t be one one-sided and I think this is especially important for parents of boys to teach their kids. A sexually disciplined man will not only reach great heights, he lessens the number of traps anyone could use for him💯
There’s a unique pride, peace of mind, and emotional stability that comes with sexual purity no fear of infections, no past body count regrets, no unnecessary soul ties. And yes, there’s a confidence in walking through your street or campus with your head high, knowing you’re a diamond nobody has ever accessed.
Let’s promote facts, responsibility, and mutual respect not pressure or shame.
another dumb thread...well almost dumb. The OP is female and falls under the false assumption that sexual purity is as consequential for a man as it is for a woman. It is a false and deceitful teaching.
* Female Purity determines her stability and ability to be a wife
* Sex affects a woman's ability to be loyal to her man
* Females all over the world are the largest consumers of antidepressants and multiple body counts is the sole leading reason.
* All statistics points that men who cheat in relationships do not report relationships dissatisfaction lesser than men in a stable monogamous relationship. This is a shocking pointer than men do not cheat because they are out of love with their partners neither does sex with another partner affect his relationship
* Women cannot and do not cheat except they have grown out of love and/or respect for their partner. The ones who do have already mastered sex and emotional detachment and are complete holosho.
* This very OP trying to tell females to demand sexual purity from men is actually tacitly promoting holoshoism in female and also justifying their accumulation of body counts.
Final fact:
Women will not bate an eye if they meet their desired men with lots of body counts, in fact it will be a bonus as you people are too mentally and emotionally lazy to independently select a man.
The vast generality of men will consider it a deal breaker if they discovered their fiancé had accumulated lots of body counts before.
A dumped woman should be quiet and sober. Her being loud, bitter and bane only exposes her status and moral failure marking her as a leftover and demoting her sexual market value to lower men further...however, it is.....
Sometimes I believe it is only this gender that bitterness makes senseless to be point of shamelessness even in public.
ANCHOR (THULASIZWE): Tell us about the new ambassador that is being sent to South Africa. Perhaps there is a pathway to heightened diplomatic engagement, if you look at the meeting that happened in Nigeria and now we're hearing of a delegation coming, as well as what you are about to tell us about a new ambassador that is being sent to South Africa.
CORRESPONDENT (SOPHIE): Yes, both countries are working very hard to try and find a solution, because both countries need each other... And now today we saw breaking news in the afternoon. At the moment, there's no high commissioner of Nigeria in Pretoria. There's an acting high commissioner, as you saw him now.
There's an announcement that the permanent or Ambassador designate, or High Commissioner designate, is coming now, and he did post on social media, quite promising comments where he expressed the view that he was supposed to be posted in Germany, but he chose to come to South Africa, and requested that he rather come to South Africa because he feels that he supports South Africa's international position, particularly on multilateralism and other issues. And therefore, in terms of his convictions and beliefs, it sounds like he's a good politician. He feels this country is a shining example at the global stage, and he resonates with the positions of South Africa at global level, resonates with his conviction and his belief, and therefore that was promising.
Even though there are kind of disturbing comments from the new Minister of Foreign Affairs who was appointed on Friday when she talks about the telephone conversation with our Minister of international relations. There were some words used in the statement that are disturbing where she talks about judicial killings, and it is almost similar to President Donald Trump's language as it relates to the Afrikaners, because there's no judicial killings in South Africa. It's this rising tension that leads to conflict and violence and criminality also coming in opportunistic stand off, because it's election year, and therefore it's a complex matter. And therefore I think South Africa would also feel aggrieved with the use of "judicial killings".
THULASIZWE: Sophie to quote, and I have that tweet by the ambassador designate to South Africa, Femi Fani Kayode, who was meant, as you say, to have been deployed to Germany, but actually made representations to President Bola Tinubu to say, please send me to South Africa. And he says, quote, "I also express the fact that I would rather serve in a country that shares some of my convictions, beliefs and values when it comes to world affairs, that is the biggest economy in Africa, that has closer ties to Nigeria and that is more proximate to my political thinking when it comes to foreign affairs and a Pan African vision. End quote."
the fools in South Africa do not know kayode is of no repute or reckoning in Nigeria and his X statement are false and meant for grandstanding after Germany rejected him.
Also South Africa has no global standing or position other than pretending to have one
These people have an inflated sense of Thier worth and live in there own delusional existence, believing Thier own self-hype
You are not even close to outraged as I have been since the first xenophobic nonsense from those neanderthals. And what makes you think I haven't suffered in one or the other from them?
However, the reality is what you all are missing. Let me try and outline them:
1. MTN is not owned nor managed by the set of people carrying out these repeated attacks. Matter of fact, those people do not even benefit from MTN Nigeria as much as NIGERIANS!
2. If you like bury MTN, DSTV and every other South African linked organization today, it won't stop the growing hostility and actions of BLACK (keyword) South Africans towards every black immigrant from other African nations. Shoprite left our shores when? What did their departure do about the situation there or our own situation here?!
3. The people who own these top corporations you are channeling your anger towards have absolutely no relationship nor influence over the dirty street thugs killing their fellow Africans of the same color. If you don't understand something this basic and obvious, then I wonder what I am doing with you.
4. The only way to get at the heart of xenophobia is for the whole of Africa to sanction South Africa as a nation... Then influence the United nations to come down hard on them with even stiffer sanctions. This happened during apartheid days. Sadly, your leaders in Africa are more interested in looting and winning elections than saving Africa from this mess.
When Libya did those despicable things to black Africans, what did they do? What have they done till today, cos the slave thingy is still happening till date.
So, your outrage towards MTN as understandable as it is, remains unrealistic, puny, misdirected, and borders on unreasonable.
Does that mean I love MtN and others? Nah...!
I quit dstv along with my friends since the first major reported xenophobia... And we haven't returned since then. I removed myself from Stanbic as well.
The only reason we couldn't do the same for MTN is because no other network provider delivers... Yes, we tried others!
This is what I am saying...! The only way to boycott foreign industries is to collectively UNITE (another keyword) and turn our backs on them.
Unfortunately, when have Nigerians ever united on anything?!! When?!!
Smh!!!
MTN, DStv are South African own companies that make billions from Nigeria and repatriated to South Africa on a monthly basis.
When these companies are targeted, the government and its owners put pressure on the criminals in South Africa and prosecute them.
Sometimes countries even go as far as nationalising an offending country's assets on its land.
Kalatium: This is one of the hardest realities many men never prepare for.
It is not just the pain of what happened in the marriage. It is the responsibility of explaining it to children who were not there, who did not see what you saw, and who will naturally hear the softer version first.
Because when things fall apart, children don’t hear everything.
They hear what is safe. They hear what is simplified. And most times, they hear one side.
Now imagine sitting in front of your children and trying to explain:
That you discovered their mother had a child before marriage and hid it. That you caught her being unfaithful. That she presented one character before marriage and became someone else after. That there were boundaries crossed you could not accept. That there were patterns you tried to endure, but could not continue living with.
How do you say these things without damaging how they see their own mother?
Because no matter what happened between both of you, she is still their mother.
And this is where many men get stuck.
If you speak the raw truth, you risk breaking their image of her. If you stay silent, you risk being misunderstood and judged unfairly.
So what do you do?
You choose discipline over emotion.
You don’t lie. But you don’t weaponize the truth either.
You explain it in a way that protects their mental space without completely denying your reality.
You say:
“There were serious issues in the marriage that could not be resolved.” “We both made decisions that led to us separating.” “It was not a healthy situation for us to continue.”
You don’t go into graphic details. You don’t turn it into a courtroom. You don’t recruit your children to take sides.
Because once you do that, the damage spreads beyond the marriage.
Children are not built to carry adult conflicts.
They don’t need every detail. They need stability. They need emotional safety. They need to grow without being forced to choose between parents.
And here is the difficult truth many don’t like to accept.
Your children may never fully understand your reasons.
Not now. Maybe not even later.
Because they did not live your experience.
But maturity is not about being understood.
It is about doing what is right, even when your story is not fully told.
You can carry your truth without turning it into a weapon.
Because in the end, the goal is not to win against your ex.
The goal is to raise children who are not broken by what happened between both of you.
That is the real responsibility.
Are they kids? They will learn the truth when they grow up no matter how simplified you tell them.
To save yourself this disaster, marry a virgin and let street women be for the streets
hard to believe the morrocans who tried every trick in the book to steal the AFCON, including stealing of opponents' towe,l were just idle during the violence.
Properties › Re: My Landlord Gave Me Quit Notice For Demanding For My Right by lezz(m): 11:11am On May 20
