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Abeg make una sufre insult me , and also mind the comments cos she is a nairalander and she just saw the thread.

lefulefu:
op if u feel the distance is too much for u two then kindly divorce her and get married to a woman that resides closely with u there.no time for high bp.dis na my advice .

Worst advice ever.

iamfroshsylver:
(1) you have a wife
(2) you abandoned her here in nigeria
(3) you think her body is firewood shey?
(4) she now watches porn,you now panic up and down
Let me ask you a question, ever since you left nigeria, avnt you done anything yet? Treat your woman right. Blood and water flow in her veins and arteries as well. She is not a log of wood. If she gives another man nodding dont come here and tell us story that touches aeroplane.

I yaf talked my own ooooo.

Let me sip small juice

Dexema:
See this man oo, you think say na wood you carry put for naija go obodo oyibo? Kindly "assist" her in getting some of her tensed muscles relaxed while assuring her of your love and your plans to bring her over there.
Don't pause anything as a matter of fact hasten the process if you can.

Thank you all for your contributions, it's so helpful to me.
It's like some sense has been knocked into my head.

BabyGirl114:
maybe op should tell us the truth, op has been watching porns and those porns has made him to cheat on his wife, because of that he now thinks his wife watching porns will make her cheat too.

Well, this statement is far from the truth. I know the effect of porn and I try to avoid it as much as I can. Secondly , even having a deep sexual talk with her now that I am far away is something I also try avoid, she knows because I told her. I told her we should avoid such senerio until we are physically united with each other again.... this is because " when the desirable is not available, the available becomes desirable "

BabyGirl114:
its either you don't trust your girlfriend or you are just looking for excuses to dump her.my observation

She is not my girlfriend, but wife, and I have always trusted with no single reason to doubt her faithfulness until this singular porn event.

soberdrunk:
If she didnt tell you nko, how will you know? Give her some credit for honesty, you better dont worry yourself over 'nothing' because a cheating woman will cheat whether you are around or not. For your own good, quickly apologize and let it go, continue to give her plenty "attention" because statistics has shown that lack of attention is one of the major reasons women cheat.........

We communicate daily, except when I am extremely busy because of work. But worst come to worst we exchange WhatsApp messages. So I won't say communication or the lack of it is an issue.

StFrank2:
My brother forget gadgets matta o. That woman don get plan b o. Meaning she go get person wey go dey nack her steady now based on those porn wey she dey watch. She no suppose put eye for porn videos since her man no dey near by cos she go dey tempted man. My brother she don dey nack person Jor.

This is what I am insulating right now, I am so confused.

BabyGirl114:
Kindly take her abroad to be with you, I hate anyone watching porns though.

We were currently working on that, but this incident just made me to pause the process right now. I need to be very sure that will be the best thing to do before I continue.

TrapQueen77:



Ur absence making her feel empty & sexually hungry.. Why not try or introduce phonesex with her or video sex? At least both of you are doing it.

You may be right about her being sexually hungry, infact I am too, that is why I always try to avoid anything that will put me in the mood, I expected her to do the same. But phone intimacy is totally out of it, cos that will automatically lead to mastubation which I am strongly against.

If you live abroad, far away from your spouse and she now confesses to you she watches porn(even at midnight), what does that indicate?
Is it not absurd and an abomination for a married lady to be looking at other guys dick and watching how he is using it on other ladies all in the name of porn?
When she becomes aroused as a result of such videos, is there no possibility she now have to satisfy herself using all/any form of sexual gadgets?
Infact is there no possibility she now has one or more standby boyfriends outside for sexual pleasures ?
Can such a lady still be trusted?
I am so curious because this is the state I am now. I am so so angry and disappointed right now, and my love for her just went flat as a result of that. I am in a state of dilemma, I need advice.