Jesusbabygirl:
While watching porn is a very immoral act, long distance marriage is a terrible thing that can lead to all types of sins, except for extremely faithful couples, willing to make their relationships work. Honestly, rather than wail about how 'bad' your spouse has become, please work (aggressively) on being with her. Its funny how men always think that women don't also have sexual urges when they are away from their partners.

God bless you for dis

Libragem:

We communicate daily, except when I am extremely busy because of work. But worst come to worst we exchange WhatsApp messages. So I won't say communication or the lack of it is an issue.

na whatsap go quench her starve sex, bro, she is bn truthful to you, what if she was fvcking another man, body no be firewood

iamfroshsylver:


Who is senseless btwvme and you now? No wonder you are wailing here. Mufu. Dey thre your wife is enjoyment her sef here. U will just die of high bp ova thre

I think he meant you knocked sense into his head, not that you are senseless. I don't think he was insulting you, rather he was appreciating you

OP I must say we don't give credit to women enfo, first for her honesty, secondly you married a human being not a log of wood... well I was in this situation b4, I travelled and left her(gf) behind she confined in me she get tempted dat she's a human being too, first of all u work, you have somethn keeping your mind of SEX, I don't know her situation but remember an ideal mind is a devil's work shop, talk to her tell her you don't like d act, try and see her papers go thrw b4 u travel back so she can join you. and finally porn is gud she might be gaining experience in ways to btr you guys sex life. TALK TO HER Communication is key . have a 9ice day

Bros, here is my two cents
For her to even come out to tell u shows d love she has for u and also to assure u Dere are no ulterior motives. She's human for Christ sake, I bliv she's trying to say she misses u. My fiance used to be far away from me. D first time she watched porn out of sexual desire. She told me and even felt bad. I told her it's alright Dat I understand. So far she never tries to cheat on me, am fine. If u love, respect and trust ur wife, dis should not be an issue.
Wot I did was to teach her how to touch herself. Dat was d best way out. She was timid at first but later knew her way around it. She's d best woman I ever met and faithful. It's communication basically. We are now together but shd my job take me far away, no worries.

granted porn will make her sexually arose and the first thing that will cone to her mind is how to satisfy herself but the question is by what means will she want to use to satisfy herself? is it masturbation or the nearest? guy available?
well a man is not suppose to be far from his wife for so long cos women need their emotional need satisfies at all means so that is where you are at fault. irrespective of the reason why u traveled you did not fulfill your obligation as a husband in rendering her her due. the did has been done. correct the mistake

Hahaha...80% of naija baes that have access to internet watch porn. That's why adult sites are among the top most visited sites in nigeria according to alexa. So, calm down oga titus

cucumbers in trouble cucumbers in trouble

Notin to say cox am nt a fan of distance relationship, I av a bete noir for it cox it has never paid off

BabyGirl114:

Kindly take her abroad to be with you, I hate anyone watching porns though.

If she had plan b she won't need to confess to u. Maybe she just trying to pass a message that she needs you around. don't lose your wife to unwise councel. Work things out with your wife

My brother, women are completely wired differently from men. TRUST ME, if she was doing anything sinister or bad as a result of the porn she is watching, she will never tell you about the porn. I think she is clean. She may just be telling you this to let you know she misses you. Women are damn strange.

U don't want her to watch porn nor masturbate, is like u hv a problem. Swear now that u never cheat on her before. Men like u always see women as slaves, u really need to wake up

My brother, dont listen to bad advice it will only confuse u more anf destroy ur home. Instead embrace ur wife for telling u the truth. Its not her fault that u are away. If u are in doubt of anything about her, ask her. Now ask ur self this question. While u were away from ur wife conji no catch u, how did u coup?

Libragem:
If you live abroad, far away from your spouse and she now confesses to you she watches porn(even at midnight), what does that indicate?
Is it not absurd and an abomination for a married lady to be looking at other guys dick and watching how he is using it on other ladies all in the name of porn?
When she becomes aroused as a result of such videos, is there no possibility she now have to satisfy herself using all/any form of sexual gadgets?
Infact is there no possibility she now has one or more standby boyfriends outside for sexual pleasures ?
Can such a lady still be trusted?
I am so curious because this is the state I am now. I am so so angry and disappointed right now, and my love for her just went flat as a result of that. I am in a state of dilemma, I need advice.

why are you so selfish and about to betray someone's trust? could you have known that without her telling you? while I don't support her, I want you to know that a lot of things happens within a woman's closed door even if you are within the town. that being said and now that you know your woman is missing you, can you channel your anger into working towards closing the gap between you and your wife?

OP put magun for her body if you cannot take her to live you in abroad.konji wicked ooo

The best and safe advice I can give u is that, do anything manly possible to let be with u I mean travel abroad with u so by then u guys can do it anywhere n anytime self... Thanks

TrapQueen77:



Ur absence making her feel empty & sexually hungry.. Why not try or introduce phonesex with her or video sex? At least both of you are doing it.

His wife is lonely and it's a matter of time before she runs into a guy who use the antics embedded in Tyler Perry's Temptation on her that's if she has'nt got any.

Op, your wife will most likely be screwed in her car, office desk, hotels to mention but a few. You need to be very afraid. Now playing: Fifty Shades of Grey- The Weekend

[quote author=Dexema post=53666889]See this man oo, you think say na wood you carry put for naija go obodo oyibo? Kindly "assist" her in getting some of her tensed muscles relaxed while assuring her of your love and your plans to bring her over there.
Don't pause anything as a matter of fact hasten the process if you can.[/quote]

You spoke my mind.... OP do this and you don't have to worry yourself again. Simple.

Libragem:
If you live abroad, far away from your spouse and she now confesses to you she watches porn(even at midnight), what does that indicate?
Is it not absurd and an abomination for a married lady to be looking at other guys dick and watching how he is using it on other ladies all in the name of porn?
When she becomes aroused as a result of such videos, is there no possibility she now have to satisfy herself using all/any form of sexual gadgets?
Infact is there no possibility she now has one or more standby boyfriends outside for sexual pleasures ?
Can such a lady still be trusted?
I am so curious because this is the state I am now. I am so so angry and disappointed right now, and my love for her just went flat as a result of that. I am in a state of dilemma, I need advice.

you are jealous and so inluv with her its normal but why condemn her because of assumptions don't you watch porn over there also Mr op.. My advice to you is talk to her be mature about it she is a good lady to confess to you so don't let her feel bad about it because next time she won't tell you anything just sweet talk her to do what you want...

Libragem:

We were currently working on that, but this incident just made me to pause the process right now. I need to be very sure that will be the best thing to do before I continue.

you paused? instead of you to hasten up the process. you can't blame her

Libragem:

This is what I am insulating right now, I am so confused.

stop insinuating anything. just because she is watching porn does not mean she is sleeping with another man

A lot of Nigerian women watch porn.
You are lucky she admitted it.
It only shows that she is open and can be trusted to tell the truth.

Libragem:
If you live abroad, far away from your spouse and she now confesses to you she watches porn(even at midnight), what does that indicate?
Is it not absurd and an abomination for a married lady to be looking at other guys dick and watching how he is using it on other ladies all in the name of porn?
When she becomes aroused as a result of such videos, is there no possibility she now have to satisfy herself using all/any form of sexual gadgets?
Infact is there no possibility she now has one or more standby boyfriends outside for sexual pleasures ?
Can such a lady still be trusted?
I am so curious because this is the state I am now. I am so so angry and disappointed right now, and my love for her just went flat as a result of that. I am in a state of dilemma, I need advice.

OP grow up, that's my advice for you.

op if u feel the distance is too much for u two then kindly divorce her and get married to a woman that resides closely with u there.no time for high bp.dis na my advice .

lefulefu:
op if u feel the distance is too much for u two then kindly divorce her and get married to a woman that resides closely with u there.no time for high bp.dis na my advice .

Worst advice ever.

Abeg make una sufre insult me , and also mind the comments cos she is a nairalander and she just saw the thread.

Libragem:
If you live abroad, far away from your spouse and she now confesses to you she watches porn(even at midnight), what does that indicate?
Is it not absurd and an abomination for a married lady to be looking at other guys dick and watching how he is using it on other ladies all in the name of porn?
When she becomes aroused as a result of such videos, is there no possibility she now have to satisfy herself using all/any form of sexual gadgets?
Infact is there no possibility she now has one or more standby boyfriends outside for sexual pleasures ?
Can such a lady still be trusted?
I am so curious because this is the state I am now. I am so so angry and disappointed right now, and my love for her just went flat as a result of that. I am in a state of dilemma, I need advice.

watching porn due to your absence does not make her a loose person. I am in the same dilemma with her and my hubby refused to engage in phone intimacy and a friend introduced me to porn on the phone. I watched it for a while and felt disgusted with everything about it. I told my hubby and he said it's not a big deal for me to have watched it. Mind you, I've never attempted having s3x outside my marriage even when under severe emotional pressure

Libragem:
If you live abroad, far away from your spouse and she now confesses to you she watches porn(even at midnight), what does that indicate?
Is it not absurd and an abomination for a married lady to be looking at other guys dick and watching how he is using it on other ladies all in the name of porn?
When she becomes aroused as a result of such videos, is there no possibility she now have to satisfy herself using all/any form of sexual gadgets?
Infact is there no possibility she now has one or more standby boyfriends outside for sexual pleasures ?
Can such a lady still be trusted?
I am so curious because this is the state I am now. I am so so angry and disappointed right now, and my love for her just went flat as a result of that. I am in a state of dilemma, I need advice.

Bros, excuse my words, but you are being fucking silly and ridiculously immature.

Would you prefer it if she pleases herself with other men via adultery?
Women get sexual desires too, and want to be pleased too!
She's mature enough and trusts you enough to share what she does, and this is how you're judging her? RME
I think you believe that her body belongs to you and you're the only one who should be responsible for and in charge of her sexual pleasure.
Take several chill pills and relax!!

And you that is Abroad is your hand clean? If your hands are clean oya cast the first stone make we see

Libragem:

Well, this statement is far from the truth. I know the effect of porn and I try to avoid it as much as I can. Secondly , even having a deep sexual talk with her now that I am far away is something I also try avoid, she knows because I told her. I told her we should avoid such senerio until we are physically united with each other again.... this is because " when the desirable is not available, the available becomes desirable "

U MUST KNOW ONE THING, MEN AND WOMEN ARE WIRED DIFFERENTLY, IF AS A MAN STAYING AWAY FROM PORN HELPS, TALKING AS A WOMAN WATCHING HELPS RELIEVES THE TENSION OF WANTING TO BE WITH A MAN, I MAY NOT SUPPORT WATCHING PORN BASED ON RELIGIOUS REASON, BUT IT DEFINATELY DOES NOT MEAN SHE'S CHEATING, IF ANYTHING, SHE WAS HONEST ABOUT IT, PLS STOP GETTING THE WRONG IDEA, UNLESS OF COURSE U R LOOKING FOR REASONS OR IF THERE'S ANY OTHER