Chai, all the silly responses. Should probably have asked this in Family. I think I will stick to my plans.. thank you all.

@Midehi2, here, steal some ideas: he has hinted lately that he is super tired and just wants to go somewhere and relax. Since it's the weekend, I got him a ticket to somewhere I could afford. His boss is a friend so I secured Friday and Monday off and will surprise him with that.. for the day itself, brunch, cologne and a watch, he keeps talking about Patek Philippe but I Googled the price once and just flipped my laptop shut.. can't afford that (yet, lol) so I got something much cheaper that I think was a bit tasteful, as well as a funny picture for his desk talking about how amazing his beard is.

Maybe we'll do some WINDOW shopping (this has been expensive so far o!) and I'll give a short speech about how amazing he is. short because i no wan bore him. He is the romantic, sunset, gazing at the stars type and I always protest that it's cold but maybe I will do the 1km walk with fruits thanks @Yaqq

@STFUAreYouGod, thanks for the tip and no the boxers would not be the only thing.. as I mentioned, I would implement these ideas in addition to what I'm already planning.. it's not like I would show up with boxers and think I conquered the world.

DaveHert:
Its very simple actually.. Just buy him an iphone 6s or Galaxy s6 edge.

Or u could just take him out to see the movies or to a good restaurant.

If that's too expensive then get him a brief/boxers with ur name on it.

Just suprise him by doing the unexpected.

Thank you! For phones, he really wanted a OnePlus Two when it came out so I surprised him with one for his birthday in Nov. I actually love the boxers idea.. thank you

Synzu:
You must get that ring this year!

...assuming I don't already have it

Dear Gentlemen of Nairaland,

I want to do something really special for my boo this valentine's. He's a really good man, and after being home for a while after many years away, I have realized just what African men have to go through every day. The story long o, I'm sure you all know if you just spend an hour on Nairaland you can weep for the men of this generation... Una don suffer well well.

It didn't take me long to realize what a good man God has given me and I don't want to be the only one constantly being made to feel special. I already have an idea what I would like to do for him.. but it can't hurt to make it better. Of course every guy is different, but what would you want your woman to do for you this val's? What would make you feel really special, loved, and like "the man"?

Ladies I'm doing this for all of us o... let's take notes... let's also not make this or any day solely about us... what are you getting your man this val's?

You are quite alright. God is trying to help you escape danger. You are still there pleading when he should be seeing a cloud of dust behind you as you run for your life before your conscience is seared.
I will put it simply..
Do not sow what you don't want to reap.
The harvest is always more than the seed. If you sow the wind, prepare for a whirlwind.
A popular saying goes, "how you get them is how you lose them."
If this man's wife decides to wake up at 3am and stand on her marital covenant and pray in tongues for your head... hian.
I don talk my own finish. May you make the right decision.

Wow, guys.. the one day I am away from Nairaland, my post makes FP.. thank you all. I appreciate you all taking the time to share your stories, comments, concerns. I have read all of them. I wish I could quote and reply every single one. Seun, Lalastic... thank you

To clarify a few things..

1. I wasn't glorifying men cheating. Cheating is cheating, disloyal, unfair, hurtful, cruel, WRONG regardless of the perpetrator's gender. It isn't more excusable for one gender than it is for another.

2. I'm not unhappily single nor do I think marriage will make anyone happier than they are when they are single. (I'm also not ashamed of the fact that I would like to be married someday. ) The only thing that changes once two people say "I do" is their status from two to one flesh. So for instance, if a woman is bitter, malicious, spiteful as a single, then except by the grace of God, she can only become a bitter, malicious and spiteful wife. I however think it's sad and makes no sense for a woman to be ripe for marriage, with the man God prepared her for clearly needing help but either too fearful or busy gallivanting (or both) to pay her any mind. It's equally sad for a man to be ready for a wife but only be surrounded by gold diggers, etc around him because women have given up on ever being found by good men. I felt it would be nice to hear some success stories and I am so glad they exist.

Once again, I'm grateful for all your comments. It's encouraging to know there are happy homes out there.. I've definitely taken notes! please feel free to continue sharing.

Blessings

My dear Nairalanders,

I don tire for this situation.

I have read Nairaland posts for years as a guest. Every single post we see about marriage lately seems to be negative. I am not belittling the foolishness of cheating men when I say this: I am shocked that women can cheat so blatantly these days. I think it's tme to revive the hopes of those men who add two years to their marriage date when they see threads about disloyal "wives"... time to spare single women from the headache of being banded together with all these disloyal women, keeping them single even longer... let's restore the reputation of the institution of marriage as a blessing, a source of favour and a worthy calling that need not be delayed out of fear.

Please, ladies and gentlemen of Nairaland, there must be some happy marriages amongst us. If you have a good wife, please tell us why and how she is amazing. If you have a good husband, please share why and how he is amazing. If you have a good marriage, please take a moment to share your story here.

Let’s start 2016 on a positive note.

May the Lord restore the marriages of those who are currently facing crises, in Jesus’ Name.

Happy new year.