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Family › Re: Warning! Lets Go Through Story Books Now Before Buying For Kids (picture) by lily12(f): 11:31am On Aug 15, 2016

balash:
So I saw this and felt it's nice to share so that parents can take close watch on what your kids read. Homosexuality is been promoted in the weirdest way

I'm with balash on this one. You don't need to explicitly explain something in order to discourage someone from doing it. When it comes to children, you definitely DON'T want to tell them something is "enjoyable" and then tell them not to try it. As much as this book comes off as having good intentions, I'm actually very suspicious of the author's intentions and I think it could do more harm than good.

How is this different from showing teenagers porn and telling them to be sexually pure? How is it different from giving a child a glass of some sweet dessert wine and then telling them it is bad for them, and expecting them not to try to reach your wine rack or wine cabinet to get another try when you are away? I remember one music video from a different country where it was a warning to Christians not to indulge in alcohol and sex but the thing was so sexually explicit, yet when I asked about it I was told "You will understand when you are spiritually mature."

In my view, all it takes is to tell a child "Don't let anybody touch you here/there. If ANYONE does, let me know, okay? Even if they tell you it is a secret, make sure you tell me, okay?" Reassure the child that nobody will beat them or harm them if you tell them. And pray pray pray pray. Be close to your children so that they can open up to you. All this red eye, attitude, and glaring when a child says "Mummy" will not help.

Then, it would also behoove parents of these days to monitor who their children spend time with. No offense to Onegai and those who side with her but what if their children decide to experiment on this "enjoyable" thing using your children?

We were all once children. We know these things.

For those of you who do not yet have children but trust that God has marriage and/or children in His plans for you, biko, lay hands on your womb and begin to battle. Things are bad. The world has changed. Mothers, SOMEONE will raise your children. I saw a thread here about "career or marriage?" and just shook my head. If someone has no time for their marriage, where will their children fall in their list of priorities? If you don't take time to be close to your children, they will be raised by your housekeeper, their teachers, and books such as this one. And because God has placed you as a steward over your children, you will be answerable for the way they turn out. These days it is relatives who do these things. I work with women and have heard stories. Mothers, I beg of you. Take your role seriously. Fathers, be present. I don't know who I am typing this for but I feel someone needs to read it. I rarely sign into Nairaland sef.

Oga balash, I for one am grateful that you shared this. Thank you and God bless you.

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Family › Re: Please Pray With Me by lily12(f): 9:05pm On Aug 06, 2016

ifyalways:
How do we even believe BS? Amazing.

He paid for laptops and got free rotor.

He got damaged laptops and drugs.

The laptop tech got arrested. The laptops were damaged and EFCC abi customs folks inspected it and couldn't detect the drugs. All the way from US till it got to the tech's shop, no one detected the drugs.

Story for the gods. Wait till he expressly asks for funds.

Called you out again, but decided it's not worth it starting a conversation. God bless you

Christianity Etc › Re: A Reply To Vick$rill's Thread: A Big Thank You To Kingebukanaija, Winer01 And... by lily12(f): 7:22am On Aug 05, 2016

Just logged in briefly to say I am among those who thank God for and pray for the Christians who make time to contend for the faith on this thread. Any discerning child of God can instantly spot not only the root of the lies perpetuated by "atheists", but also the holes in their tales. I rarely ever sign in, but I read frequently. God bless you all. Please let's all keep the new believers/ those who are young in their faith in our prayers. May the Blood of Jesus cover us all.

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Family › Re: Ladies, If He Loves You But Doesn't Want Marriage, Would You Stay Anyway? by lily12(f): 5:06pm On Mar 09, 2016

Nope.
Didn't even read the post, just the subject.
Women need to know their price. Stay where, for what? Does he understand what love is, to begin with? When you say he loves, you mean doing his part as he should. What other part would a man play except to make a woman out of you and show that he is willing to "forsake all others" and make you his wife?
Abeg.. kindly let him love from a distance and clear the doorway for someone serious. angry

I really get irritated when men want to have their cake and eat it and it's more upsetting when women fall for this.
Someone will love you and marry you. Wait for him.

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Christianity Etc › Re: 3 Ways To Easily Lose Your Peace. by lily12(f): 4:47pm On Mar 09, 2016

This is so true and was timely for me. Thanks OP. I love how God will go "out of His way" (so to speak) to get someone to do something to touch even one of His children. I appreciate your obedience. Thanks again & blessings

Romance › Re: Queenvalerie Is The Same As Mrcork by lily12(f): 5:48am On Mar 03, 2016

ipledge10:
you are really confident saying what you don't know. ..

The irony in this statement is just..
I'm sorry, who are you? Have we met in New York? Somewhere else in the US? When I visited London maybe? Don't assume everyone on this forum is Nigerian or lives in/is confined to Abeokuta.

Romance › Re: Queenvalerie Is The Same As Mrcork by lily12(f): 4:49pm On Mar 02, 2016

Interesting!
I actually think this is possible.
Whether they are the same person or not, I don't know. Can't say for sure if QueenValerie is in TX.
What I can tell you for sure is that QueenValerie's forced Texan accent is so fake that I had to sign in and say something. No "offeinse".

(lol I couldn't resist the opportunity.)
And I can vouch for the fact that Americans don't say "Guy" in the way that it was used. "Dude" is more likely.
QueenValerie, seriously, no offense.

Romance › Re: Wow! Nigeria Lady Proposes To Her Longtime Boyfriend (see Photo) by lily12(f): 4:44am On Mar 01, 2016

lesbiangirl:
Why the guy cloth con be like ghana-must-go bag? ...all thesame congrats to them. Love a woman who can take charge of situations

He is buying Naija to boost the Naira, now...

This pic is strangely sweet but I think I would resent a man who allowed me to propose to him. I think I would question his love. He is there smiling, he should have grabbed the ring and turned it around or better yet he should surprise her by proposing to her the proper way (I don't mean monetarily or anything expensive, I mean the man taking the lead) very soon.

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Family › Re: Good fellows by lily12(f): 4:15am On Feb 26, 2016

I started reading this thread reluctantly but I am now glad I did.. I have laughed.. when I think I'm done laughing I laugh some more.. thanks for sharing and may God continue to keep baby Zino

Family › Re: Please Save A Sister's Life.... Story Verified by lily12(f): 8:01pm On Feb 25, 2016

Bellong, I am not in Nigeria. You and I actually know each other but let's discuss that later. I asked for some info. Wondering if you saw my message.wire transfer to a Naija bank in the amount I am hoping to send will cause my account to be flagged because of Nigeria's reputation. I also travel a lot so might not be able to transfer any other way. If you'd rather not do w.union/moneygram then all the best. I tried sha. Will keep praying

Family › Re: Please Save A Sister's Life.... Story Verified by lily12(f): 11:17am On Feb 25, 2016

Please can I get a name/location to use for W. Union/Moneygram? Might not be able to send immediately but will do so as soon as possible. Praying for you all in the meantime. Sorry if the information I have requested is somewhere in the thread.. I only read it on the initial day.

Family › Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by lily12(f): 7:01am On Feb 25, 2016

Dheartless:
lol I saw that too
the op is just to suspicious
I will do as you have advice

Yes o, please do as she "have advice" grin

Family › Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by lily12(f): 7:00am On Feb 25, 2016

ifyalways:
Lily registered Jan 2016 has become the OP's mouthpiece, mind reader and senior advocate. Hehehe.

Jokers.

Dheartless, why waste your time ? Not worth it biko

You're the joker. I don't blame you... You are a veteran on Nairaland and are probably older than me as well so maybe you have seen more than I have and can justify your accusations. If you don't have anything positive to contribute, hit the X button or hop on to another thread. I think I've seen a few of your posts, didn't think you to be one of the bitter Nairaland women but then maybe I mistook you for someone else or wrongfully assumed you were among the levelheaded.

Family › Re: Your Ex Living In The Same Compound With You And Your Spouse by lily12(f): 6:03am On Feb 25, 2016

She should tell him. "N*ked and unashamed" should be the status quo in marriage. A prudent person sees trouble far away and hides himself/herself. Doesn't mean she has not moved on.. but no need playing with fire. You should never never never allow any loophole the enemy can mess with in your marriage

Romance › Re: How Many Girls Can Send A Guy Card? by lily12(f): 5:59am On Feb 25, 2016

Haba OP. O ye of little faith. It's not a big deal. But of course it would be irritating and a red flag if a guy asked for it every other day, just like I assume it would be irritating and a red flag for a guy if all a lady did was ask for airtime 24/7

Family › Re: Should A Woman Give Her Husband Her Whole Salary? by lily12(f): 4:43am On Feb 25, 2016

branhampaul:
Because the biBle states that WOMEN SHOULD SUMMIT THEMSELF TO THEIR HUSBAND, does this mean that when a woman who is working in a big firm receive her salary (MAYBE #100,000), and her husband demands for everything,
should she give it to her husband?
if she resist, is it a SIN?

I'm not married yet, but if my husband requested that I give him my salary, why not? If I made more money, I might do it without him asking just to remind him that his income does not define him or affect my love and respect for him.

If a wife does not do it and the husband has not asked or made it clear that he wants her to do it, why would it be a sin? If he asks and she resists, then I would say yes, it is sin and will cause resentment down the line. As long as the money is not squandered, submission is not used as an excuse for abuse, and he is being a loving provider and leader per the instructions of the same Bible you invoke, I don't see why it would be a problem.

Then again, as I think about it, I don't see why a man would need his woman to give him her salary. but if he asks, and they are married, she should do it. Submission is what she signed up for.

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Family › Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by lily12(f): 4:36am On Feb 25, 2016

Chickychic:
calm down my dear and always stay positive

Family › Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by lily12(f): 4:33am On Feb 25, 2016

Dheartless:
https://www.nairaland.com/2932640/help...i-finished-contemplating-abortion-five

this girl is a scam
please guys click this link and go through all the coments and how she responded.

she has this post on the 14th of this month here on nairaland and advices have been given to are even help on how to connect her to organizations that will take care of her pregnancy as she suggested but she gave dubious replies.

I thought you said your dad have agreed to accommodate you and the only thing you need now is money, how come your post still solicit for an accommodation?

She probably just quickly copy pasted the original post to call attention to the story one more time. Give the lady a break.

Family › Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by lily12(f): 4:31am On Feb 25, 2016

I just want to let everyone know that to the best of my knowledge, this story is true. I took some time to get some info when the story was posted the first time. She is not lying at least about being pregnant and with no job. I suspect the man played her as well. Please let's help where we can.

Meanwhile adapeter, HABA sis..you are not finished. The devil can never finish you. Not on God's watch. I will contact you today to explain a few things. Take heart, okay? It is important for you and the baby that you have a positive mindset and keep your faith up. Science has proven that babies pick up on the mother's mindset during pregnancy and it can affect them through life. Please be careful not to mentally reject the baby, try not to be depressed or bitter. I trust that you have removed the abortion idea from your head.

Your God will surely come. Isaiah 35:4

Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Have You Ever Quit Your Job Without Having A Back Up Plan? by lily12(f): 6:24am On Feb 22, 2016

ikubch:
I did it. It was difficult but I determined to be "on my own" today I wake up 8am, my office is less than 400metres from my home, take my coffee in the morning while watching cnn without a barking order. Liberty is sweet. Just got myself a BMW 5series with my original sweat. "Don't try this at home"

Took the words out my mouth. Well, minus the BMW (for now). I have done it twice. first time, I ended up getting a much better job 3 weeks later. 2nd time, I pulled an Ikubch. cheesy

. Only part of this story happened in Africa and even then it wasn't Naija. But God is the same everywhere. Count the cost. But it's worth it.

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Christianity Etc › Re: Is It Okay For A Lady To Wear This To Church? (photos) by lily12(f): 8:49pm On Feb 19, 2016

ben1daEbiri:
Inasmuch as it's inappropriate to church,I also think it's inappropriate for a CHRISTAIN to wear[be it to church or elsewere].Most people commenting here are hypocrites,they put on something 'ok' to church and thereafter something 'hot'...do you serve God only on sunday?For the much I Know,there are too kinds of christains:The ones that 'worship' God,and those that 'serve' God!

Very true

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Christianity Etc › Re: Is It Okay For A Lady To Wear This To Church? (photos) by lily12(f): 8:18pm On Feb 19, 2016

It's interesting.. i am sure she wouldn't wear this to a job interview or to meet her man's parents.. but she will take selfie and snap and hash tag #offtochurch #womanofGod #iknowwhoiam #favored #blessed undecided

. Is it the hat that transforms it to a church outfit Abi wetin.

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Family › Re: Wife Beats Up Husband Because He Didn't Get Her A Valentine Gift by lily12(f): 12:12am On Feb 19, 2016

This one had other issues and/or grievances.. valentine's day was just a trigger

Romance › Re: 8 Things You Shouldn't Say To Your Boyfriend by lily12(f): 12:10am On Feb 19, 2016

goldbim:
You did not add *you should be lucky you have a girl like me because I Dnt demand for money like other girls out there*..lolzz.the guy'll pick race..he'l feel the girl wants to start begging small small..*smh*talking from experience...lol.

Oops. I have stylishly used this one in the past grin

Romance › Re: Should I Dump My Illiterate Girlfriend Or Marry Her? by lily12(f): 10:39pm On Feb 18, 2016

English is a language, not a measure of intelligence. So while you were deflowering her you were speaking in what, tongues? Abeg, if you are too shallow to find ways to help her learn the language, let her go, for her sake. Would she make a good wife otherwise? Will you ever see oyinbo dumping a good woman because she cannot speak an African language? Nonsense.

Romance › Re: She's Stingy, Should I Dump Her? by lily12(f): 8:29pm On Feb 18, 2016

3rdlegxxx:
This right here is the classic case of most Nigerian ladies, they love to receive, receive and collect but to give is a big problem to them and when they do decide to give, you get a pair of boxers, some vest or a perfume. smh.

thank you for saying MOST. Boxers, vest and perfume.. surely . And it's usually the same thing every single time. and every single time = once a year. grin

Romance › Re: She's Stingy, Should I Dump Her? by lily12(f): 8:26pm On Feb 18, 2016

Eleganza33:
nawa 4 her o,she deserve to b dumped imagine,evn wen d items being purchased was hers,i wil gladly pay d remaining evn witawt being told,wat is 500? U evn promise to pay it bk. Am sure u use to giv ha pocket money also. r u sure she loves u luks to me she wana spend ur money cos a gal do such tin to a guy she jus want his okpo

Abi oh. It's so annoying.

Romance › Re: She's Stingy, Should I Dump Her? by lily12(f): 8:24pm On Feb 18, 2016

I am seeing this pretty late but this story really irritated me. what is wrong with girlfriends of nowadays? So I know the naira is really low now but #29500 on birthday shopping.. how much do you spend on Valentine's, anniversaries, etc and how much do you get on your own birthday? I don vex.. then with all the thousand-thousand Naira in her bag, she could not take out ONE to help you? Even if she had borrowed it.. one thousand, that you will refund? Swearing like that? And you are still here asking us what? By the time you save 30k every month how much will you have to invest at the end of one year? And you are throwing it down some drain for a GIRLFRIEND, not wife? Girlfriend? Biko I believe in forgiveness and second chances, I have made mistakes as a human being as well but Chei!! Please know that what she did is a huge red flag.

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Romance › Re: I Think I Just Put Myself In Some Deep Shii by lily12(f): 1:42am On Feb 18, 2016

Hmm. Difficult. You cannot get her back with 5 minutes of begging. And if you do get her back, you have to prove you are trustworthy and be willing to go as far as moving to a different location. Broken trust is very hard to rebuild. youll have to explain many things going forward if the relationship continues because she might be insecure for some time. It might be over but you can't know for sure if you only begged for two seconds. The fact that you were honest might work in your favor because these things eventually come out and it woulduld be worse if she heard it elsewhere. Next time don't get close to female neighbors o.

Family › Re: She Must First Go And Wee Wee(urinate)before Making Love,is It Normal? by lily12(f): 3:05am On Feb 16, 2016

It's done and recommended AFTER to prevent cystitis. Not sure why it would be done before as it doesn't prevent squirting. Squirting is not necessarily urine. Excuse the graphic post.

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Family › Re: Help...i Am Finished!contemplating Abortion At Five Months by lily12(f): 4:02am On Feb 15, 2016

I am sorry to read about everything you have been through. Always remember that no situation is too dire for God and nothing catches Him off guard.
1. Please don't abort.
2. Nairaland get as e be, so it's difficult to know which threads are truthful but please PM me your info.
You'll be ok.

Family › Re: What Are Your Actual Thoughts On Abortion? by lily12(f): 3:55am On Feb 15, 2016

It's wrong. It's murder. No difference between aborting a baby in the womb and killing a baby outside the womb. Life is life. And I too know people who were conceived after rape.

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