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 Family / Re: Warning! Lets Go Through Story Books Now Before Buying For Kids (picture) by lily12(f): 11:31am On Aug 15, 2016 |
balash: I'm with balash on this one. You don't need to explicitly explain something in order to discourage someone from doing it. When it comes to children, you definitely DON'T want to tell them something is "enjoyable" and then tell them not to try it. As much as this book comes off as having good intentions, I'm actually very suspicious of the author's intentions and I think it could do more harm than good. How is this different from showing teenagers porn and telling them to be sexually pure? How is it different from giving a child a glass of some sweet dessert wine and then telling them it is bad for them, and expecting them not to try to reach your wine rack or wine cabinet to get another try when you are away? I remember one music video from a different country where it was a warning to Christians not to indulge in alcohol and sex but the thing was so sexually explicit, yet when I asked about it I was told "You will understand when you are spiritually mature." In my view, all it takes is to tell a child "Don't let anybody touch you here/there. If ANYONE does, let me know, okay? Even if they tell you it is a secret, make sure you tell me, okay?" Reassure the child that nobody will beat them or harm them if you tell them. And pray pray pray pray. Be close to your children so that they can open up to you. All this red eye, attitude, and glaring when a child says "Mummy" will not help. Then, it would also behoove parents of these days to monitor who their children spend time with. No offense to Onegai and those who side with her but what if their children decide to experiment on this "enjoyable" thing using your children? We were all once children. We know these things. For those of you who do not yet have children but trust that God has marriage and/or children in His plans for you, biko, lay hands on your womb and begin to battle. Things are bad. The world has changed. Mothers, SOMEONE will raise your children. I saw a thread here about "career or marriage?" and just shook my head. If someone has no time for their marriage, where will their children fall in their list of priorities? If you don't take time to be close to your children, they will be raised by your housekeeper, their teachers, and books such as this one. And because God has placed you as a steward over your children, you will be answerable for the way they turn out. These days it is relatives who do these things. I work with women and have heard stories. Mothers, I beg of you. Take your role seriously. Fathers, be present. I don't know who I am typing this for but I feel someone needs to read it. I rarely sign into Nairaland sef. Oga balash, I for one am grateful that you shared this. Thank you and God bless you. 8 Likes |
| Family / Re: Please Pray With Me by lily12(f): 9:05pm On Aug 06, 2016 |
ifyalways: Called you out again, but decided it's not worth it starting a conversation. God bless you |
| Religion / Re: A Reply To Vick$rill's Thread: A Big Thank You To Kingebukanaija, Winer01 And... by lily12(f): 7:22am On Aug 05, 2016 |
Just logged in briefly to say I am among those who thank God for and pray for the Christians who make time to contend for the faith on this thread. Any discerning child of God can instantly spot not only the root of the lies perpetuated by "atheists", but also the holes in their tales. I rarely ever sign in, but I read frequently. God bless you all. Please let's all keep the new believers/ those who are young in their faith in our prayers. May the Blood of Jesus cover us all. 2 Likes |
| Family / Re: Ladies, If He Loves You But Doesn't Want Marriage, Would You Stay Anyway? by lily12(f): 5:06pm On Mar 09, 2016 |
Nope. Didn't even read the post, just the subject. Women need to know their price. Stay where, for what? Does he understand what love is, to begin with? When you say he loves, you mean doing his part as he should. What other part would a man play except to make a woman out of you and show that he is willing to "forsake all others" and make you his wife? Abeg.. kindly let him love from a distance and clear the doorway for someone serious.  I really get irritated when men want to have their cake and eat it and it's more upsetting when women fall for this. Someone will love you and marry you. Wait for him. 3 Likes |
| Religion / Re: 3 Ways To Easily Lose Your Peace. by lily12(f): 4:47pm On Mar 09, 2016 |
This is so true and was timely for me. Thanks OP. I love how God will go "out of His way" (so to speak) to get someone to do something to touch even one of His children. I appreciate your obedience. Thanks again & blessings |
| Romance / Re: Queenvalerie Is The Same As Mrcork by lily12(f): 5:48am On Mar 03, 2016 |
ipledge10: The irony in this statement is just.. I'm sorry, who are you? Have we met in New York? Somewhere else in the US? When I visited London maybe? Don't assume everyone on this forum is Nigerian or lives in/is confined to Abeokuta. |
| Romance / Re: Queenvalerie Is The Same As Mrcork by lily12(f): 4:49pm On Mar 02, 2016 |
Interesting! I actually think this is possible. Whether they are the same person or not, I don't know. Can't say for sure if QueenValerie is in TX. What I can tell you for sure is that QueenValerie's forced Texan accent is so fake that I had to sign in and say something. No "offeinse".  (lol I couldn't resist the opportunity.) And I can vouch for the fact that Americans don't say "Guy" in the way that it was used. "Dude" is more likely. QueenValerie, seriously, no offense. |
| Romance / Re: Wow! Nigeria Lady Proposes To Her Longtime Boyfriend (see Photo) by lily12(f): 4:44am On Mar 01, 2016 |
lesbiangirl: He is buying Naija to boost the Naira, now... This pic is strangely sweet but I think I would resent a man who allowed me to propose to him. I think I would question his love. He is there smiling, he should have grabbed the ring and turned it around or better yet he should surprise her by proposing to her the proper way (I don't mean monetarily or anything expensive, I mean the man taking the lead) very soon. 1 Like |
| Family / Re: Good fellows by lily12(f): 4:15am On Feb 26, 2016 |
 I started reading this thread reluctantly but I am now glad I did.. I have laughed.. when I think I'm done laughing I laugh some more.. thanks for sharing and may God continue to keep baby Zino |
| Family / Re: Please Save A Sister's Life.... Story Verified by lily12(f): 8:01pm On Feb 25, 2016 |
Bellong, I am not in Nigeria. You and I actually know each other but let's discuss that later. I asked for some info. Wondering if you saw my message.wire transfer to a Naija bank in the amount I am hoping to send will cause my account to be flagged because of Nigeria's reputation. I also travel a lot so might not be able to transfer any other way. If you'd rather not do w.union/moneygram then all the best. I tried sha. Will keep praying |
| Family / Re: Please Save A Sister's Life.... Story Verified by lily12(f): 11:17am On Feb 25, 2016 |
Please can I get a name/location to use for W. Union/Moneygram? Might not be able to send immediately but will do so as soon as possible. Praying for you all in the meantime. Sorry if the information I have requested is somewhere in the thread.. I only read it on the initial day. |
| Family / Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by lily12(f): 7:01am On Feb 25, 2016 |
Dheartless: Yes o, please do as she "have advice" |
| Family / Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by lily12(f): 7:00am On Feb 25, 2016 |
ifyalways: You're the joker. I don't blame you... You are a veteran on Nairaland and are probably older than me as well so maybe you have seen more than I have and can justify your accusations. If you don't have anything positive to contribute, hit the X button or hop on to another thread. I think I've seen a few of your posts, didn't think you to be one of the bitter Nairaland women but then maybe I mistook you for someone else or wrongfully assumed you were among the levelheaded. |
| Family / Re: Your Ex Living In The Same Compound With You And Your Spouse by lily12(f): 6:03am On Feb 25, 2016 |
She should tell him. "N*ked and unashamed" should be the status quo in marriage. A prudent person sees trouble far away and hides himself/herself. Doesn't mean she has not moved on.. but no need playing with fire. You should never never never allow any loophole the enemy can mess with in your marriage |
| Romance / Re: How Many Girls Can Send A Guy Card? by lily12(f): 5:59am On Feb 25, 2016 |
Haba OP. O ye of little faith. It's not a big deal. But of course it would be irritating and a red flag if a guy asked for it every other day, just like I assume it would be irritating and a red flag for a guy if all a lady did was ask for airtime 24/7 |
| Family / Re: Should A Woman Give Her Husband Her Whole Salary? by lily12(f): 4:43am On Feb 25, 2016 |
branhampaul: I'm not married yet, but if my husband requested that I give him my salary, why not? If I made more money, I might do it without him asking just to remind him that his income does not define him or affect my love and respect for him. If a wife does not do it and the husband has not asked or made it clear that he wants her to do it, why would it be a sin? If he asks and she resists, then I would say yes, it is sin and will cause resentment down the line. As long as the money is not squandered, submission is not used as an excuse for abuse, and he is being a loving provider and leader per the instructions of the same Bible you invoke, I don't see why it would be a problem. Then again, as I think about it, I don't see why a man would need his woman to give him her salary. but if he asks, and they are married, she should do it. Submission is what she signed up for. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Family / Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by lily12(f): 4:36am On Feb 25, 2016 |
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| Family / Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by lily12(f): 4:33am On Feb 25, 2016 |
Dheartless: She probably just quickly copy pasted the original post to call attention to the story one more time. Give the lady a break. |
| Family / Re: Help...i Am Finished!the Devil Has Ruined Me. by lily12(f): 4:31am On Feb 25, 2016 |
I just want to let everyone know that to the best of my knowledge, this story is true. I took some time to get some info when the story was posted the first time. She is not lying at least about being pregnant and with no job. I suspect the man played her as well. Please let's help where we can. Meanwhile adapeter, HABA sis..you are not finished. The devil can never finish you. Not on God's watch. I will contact you today to explain a few things. Take heart, okay? It is important for you and the baby that you have a positive mindset and keep your faith up. Science has proven that babies pick up on the mother's mindset during pregnancy and it can affect them through life. Please be careful not to mentally reject the baby, try not to be depressed or bitter. I trust that you have removed the abortion idea from your head. Your God will surely come. Isaiah 35:4 |
| Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Have You Ever Quit Your Job Without Having A Back Up Plan? by lily12(f): 6:24am On Feb 22, 2016 |
ikubch: Took the words out my mouth. Well, minus the BMW (for now). I have done it twice. first time, I ended up getting a much better job 3 weeks later. 2nd time, I pulled an Ikubch.  . Only part of this story happened in Africa and even then it wasn't Naija. But God is the same everywhere. Count the cost. But it's worth it.1 Like |
| Religion / Re: Is It Okay For A Lady To Wear This To Church? (photos) by lily12(f): 8:49pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
ben1daEbiri:Very true 2 Likes |
| Religion / Re: Is It Okay For A Lady To Wear This To Church? (photos) by lily12(f): 8:18pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
It's interesting.. i am sure she wouldn't wear this to a job interview or to meet her man's parents.. but she will take selfie and snap and hash tag #offtochurch #womanofGod #iknowwhoiam #favored #blessed  . Is it the hat that transforms it to a church outfit Abi wetin.2 Likes |
| Family / Re: Wife Beats Up Husband Because He Didn't Get Her A Valentine Gift by lily12(f): 12:12am On Feb 19, 2016 |
| This one had other issues and/or grievances.. valentine's day was just a trigger |
| Romance / Re: 8 Things You Shouldn't Say To Your Boyfriend by lily12(f): 12:10am On Feb 19, 2016 |
goldbim: Oops. I have stylishly used this one in the past |
| Romance / Re: Should I Dump My Illiterate Girlfriend Or Marry Her? by lily12(f): 10:39pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
English is a language, not a measure of intelligence. So while you were deflowering her you were speaking in what, tongues? Abeg, if you are too shallow to find ways to help her learn the language, let her go, for her sake. Would she make a good wife otherwise? Will you ever see oyinbo dumping a good woman because she cannot speak an African language? Nonsense. |
| Romance / Re: She's Stingy, Should I Dump Her? by lily12(f): 8:29pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
3rdlegxxx: thank you for saying MOST. Boxers, vest and perfume.. surely . And it's usually the same thing every single time. and every single time = once a year. |
| Romance / Re: She's Stingy, Should I Dump Her? by lily12(f): 8:26pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
Eleganza33: Abi oh. It's so annoying. |
| Romance / Re: She's Stingy, Should I Dump Her? by lily12(f): 8:24pm On Feb 18, 2016 |
I am seeing this pretty late but this story really irritated me. what is wrong with girlfriends of nowadays? So I know the naira is really low now but #29500 on birthday shopping.. how much do you spend on Valentine's, anniversaries, etc and how much do you get on your own birthday? I don vex.. then with all the thousand-thousand Naira in her bag, she could not take out ONE to help you? Even if she had borrowed it.. one thousand, that you will refund? Swearing like that? And you are still here asking us what? By the time you save 30k every month how much will you have to invest at the end of one year? And you are throwing it down some drain for a GIRLFRIEND, not wife? Girlfriend? Biko I believe in forgiveness and second chances, I have made mistakes as a human being as well but Chei!! Please know that what she did is a huge red flag. 2 Likes |
| Romance / Re: I Think I Just Put Myself In Some Deep Shii by lily12(f): 1:42am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Hmm. Difficult. You cannot get her back with 5 minutes of begging. And if you do get her back, you have to prove you are trustworthy and be willing to go as far as moving to a different location. Broken trust is very hard to rebuild. youll have to explain many things going forward if the relationship continues because she might be insecure for some time. It might be over but you can't know for sure if you only begged for two seconds. The fact that you were honest might work in your favor because these things eventually come out and it woulduld be worse if she heard it elsewhere. Next time don't get close to female neighbors o. |
| Family / Re: She Must First Go And Wee Wee(urinate)before Making Love,is It Normal? by lily12(f): 3:05am On Feb 16, 2016 |
It's done and recommended AFTER to prevent cystitis. Not sure why it would be done before as it doesn't prevent squirting. Squirting is not necessarily urine. Excuse the graphic post. 1 Like |
| Family / Re: Help...i Am Finished!contemplating Abortion At Five Months by lily12(f): 4:02am On Feb 15, 2016 |
I am sorry to read about everything you have been through. Always remember that no situation is too dire for God and nothing catches Him off guard. 1. Please don't abort. 2. Nairaland get as e be, so it's difficult to know which threads are truthful but please PM me your info. You'll be ok. |
| Family / Re: What Are Your Actual Thoughts On Abortion? by lily12(f): 3:55am On Feb 15, 2016 |
It's wrong. It's murder. No difference between aborting a baby in the womb and killing a baby outside the womb. Life is life. And I too know people who were conceived after rape. |
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