Ok guys. Pls enough of the name-tagging. The guy in question is long gone from the thread.
I live in Australia and Coogar is no where in Aussie The story I'm getting here is that Coogar is happily married (and happily e-cheating with the username BABE). So How does lizzy651 come into the picture?

Back to the topic (that's if there's anything left to say).

Chineke!

coogar: why are nairalanders so easy to deceive? see as everyone is following one road without evidence......keep it going, this has been fun. hopefully, the OP would come out & mention the name of her nollywood actor boyfriend.

How bad do you want to know his username ?

lady gogo:


Coogar even knows her real name. Arent you supposed to be married?.

Well. Elizabeth is also Lizzy651.

He took a guess at my name. My real name is lizamaka.

coogar:

biko, tell them.

Why does everyone think it's you

Coogar don enter one chance for this thread.
Never knew he was married. Wonders.

lady gogo: Coogar and BABE! you guys will make a cute couple.

who's BABE ?

dayokanu: So Op give more clues

Where does he live, How old is he? whats his height, How long does he last for

dayo go and sit down

alutacontinua:

Ppple av mentioned faaaarrrrrrrr more ridiculous monikers here since yesterday, but this is the only moniker you have this particular reaction to!
Babes,

erm fuq that. lol. what the?

Please na beg i dey, stop am. I'm having that reaction because I can't even pretend he's the one. No offense to 190

and, one more clue, he's trying really hard to divert the attention from himself. but he no be 190,thank you.

alutacontinua: I still cannot get it outta my head that this is about 190 and that his babe that has his name on her siggy!

If i'm wrong, i guess i'll just give up and wish y'all the best!
If i'm right, yes, that online personality of 190 is TOTALLY FAKE!
He ain't any of those things he portrays, he'll be a lady's man in the real world.

I wish you the best in your marriage!

Una portion o. 190 ko, Mercedes ni

thread has served it's purpose.

For the curious cats, the fish in question already posted on the thread. Run and bask in that information. Amebos.

is wonlasewonimi Fstranger?

Efemena_xy:

Ignore Dayo.

Anyway, Lizzy - go with your gut instincts.

You're a woman, listen to that 6th sense (abi na voice?)

All the best though

Thank you, Efe.

dayokanu:

Your own greeting na special one. But first tell me the name of the suspect in this scandal

How in f@ck's name is this a scandal? Please lets be applying common sense.

Efemena_xy:

Lol!

Yep, you are correct - guesses (perhaps intelligent ones), but all based on what you've posted.

Okay, playtime over. You came seeking advice, t'is been given - but no offence intended sha

Smart choice.

nitlad:



Paranoia, pessimism or masochism?

lol. all the above.

Efemena_xy:

Okay, lead the way...

I gum your back pass chewing gum ...

Anyway, you've got to admit, it's been fun and games - and I don help you pull traffic na - abi?

No, you start. You only have guesses. You could be right, you could be wrong.

As for Efe-Pharoah, na that one sure pass.

So lets here it, names, stories . . .

Efemena_xy:

Touche!

Stop vexing jare - it'll get you nowhere.

No nah. Lets go there mate I'm down if you wanna

Efemena_xy:

What!

And miss out on all that potential earning??

No way!
Exactly!
Shouldn't you be asking yourself that question? You're the one with the secrets, not me - so maybe you can do us all a favour and stop hiding...

Afterall, you're just monikers on nland - so why the big secrecy and drama??

You're the one jumping up and down trying to solve the little puzzle. I owe you nothing. So spill the beans, boo.

Secrecy and drama ...? What's your name again . . Efe-- what? Efe, I'm going to stop the Israelites from crossing the red sea. Where's the Pharaoh up in here . .

I'm whoever you thing I am, he's whoever you think he is.

Efemena_xy:

Send that cheque then I'll tell you what you want to know.

On a more serious note, why're you getting hot under the collar?

I didn't start the riddles here - you did

no go ahead, you tell us. Who am I and who is he? Whats the worst that'll if you tell us.

I'm not getting hot under the collar i'm just wondering why you're so excited

Efemena_xy:


So, it's:

~ An old nlander whose been here since the birth of nland. So definitely someone with greater than 20,000 posts...

~ A guy with an alter ego and a strong personality to go with it.

~ Someone whose smart (smarter than you for sure) and you'll never catch him with his pants down

~ Someone with a good command of English, swears fluently, comes on hard on people - even ladies don't escape his 'whip'

~ He's shy and decent on the outside...

~ He's definitely not a frequent visitor of the Romance Section. That was just a poor attempt at misleading us - didn't work though. Infact, you never should have mentioned that bit of information because you've effectively put the final nail on the coffin - so to speak.

Conclusion: I definitely know for a fact who YOU are, and who HE is...

Lord! I love puzzles!

What exactly is tickling your fancy ? Is this your own advice ?

Btw, who am I and who is he ?

jay bee:

Absolutely no point doubting since he is almost your perfect man in the real world

You fell in love with the real him not his online persona

So long as you don't have issues with the real him then quit worrying..


I do hope you've met and spent good quality time with the real him and not just an e-ish

I "fell in love" with the real him then neglecting what people that knew him online said about him to me. It was a little risk taking then coz it was just dating.

Now it seems like a bigger risk.
I don't want to be worried but I am, coz he's maintained that alter ego since the birth of NL.lol I mean why would anyone live a double life (literally) for that long.

Done ranting. I got something out of the comments. Again, thank you guys.

nitlad: OP, marry the guy chap chap to find out who he really is. . .

that's what I'm trying to avoid. Marriage is a serious business. I'd prefer him showing his true color now than in marriage.

I don't want to create a sequel to this thread in a few years time.

I know this is crazy but half of me is hoping he messes up (in the real world of course), so then I know what he's about before deciding to take the leap.

chaircover: I dont buy all this aler ego stuff

You are who you are and you cant give what you dont have.

"For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he"

@Lizzy, sorry to tell you, but your man has it within him to display that alter ego at any time; Its in there somewhere. What you do behind closed doors when people aren't watching is the real you & not the one you show to the outside world.

. .and no its not a joke or catching fun, because there are so many other better ways of joking and catching fun without having to be nasty about it.

There are some online personalities here on NL that I wouldnt wish on my children even if it later turns out that these online personalities are the pope in real life.

If your heart is pure, then only pureness will come out of your mouth. Truth!

At last, some sanity on the thread. I've been waiting for your comment, chaircover. Thank you all for your inputs.

No Jay-bee it's not you. I don't date married men.

@chaircover; would you still call that online character of his secretive even when he doesn't hide his comments on NL from me?

Lets stop accusing innocent souls in the course of trying to solve a puzzle. He frequents the romance section and I only created the topic on here coz i'll get more matured responses. So pls lets stop the name-calling.

dayleke: @ Lizzy651
People just wanna figure this out na,
If you met him on NL,definitely it was his moniker/username that you were dealing with first and his
NL personality(according to you=alter ego) before the off line thing came to be,
but at the same time,his NL personality is everything you don't like in a man,so what gives?

I'll use you and this thread as an example.
Assuming I wasn't the OP and I came to contribute on this thread, and by the end of the discussion one thing led to another and you asked for my email address, and we took it offline.
That was exactly how it happened.
There was no extensive flirting on NL. NL just happened to be where we first exchanged contacts. 99. 9 % of the "falling in love" phase happened offline.

zeb04: Y do I tink its sagamite

Jesu Kristi. What's with all the guess work. Thanks but No, thanks.
As for you people saying 190, una portion.

Tired of explaining myself.

bukatyne:

If all men cheat, then what motivated him to be different?

Is there any male role model around him like his dad or uncle who doesn't cheat?

Since he has never cheated on you/you have not caught him yet, he might just be talking 'normal' talk

However, when next you discuss, tell him that you do not like the generalization bit as it doesn't make you comfortable and a person of integrity walks the talk/ talks the walk

Keep watch but you don't have to worry yourself.

It's well

Thank you

bukatyne: @OP,

Does this 'alter ego' only surface on NL or does it spring up in discussions with his friends and siblings?

How does he behave to all other people especially ladies apart from you?

It springs up in discussions (especially when it comes to cheating). He's all about "all men cheat" and all that BS. But he says he's different, that he can never cheat on me bla bla bla (things I want to hear).
Though I haven't caught him cheating.

How is he in general? He's well behaved. Shy.

To People asking me what do I really want.

I came here to table the matter because I know people on here would know a thing or two about alter egos, and would know if it really does define them.

ifyalways: @OP,you got the "real" man but still worried about the alter ego. When you find him,what do you plan to do with it?

You liked or loved the alter ego well enough to go on a first date,enter a relationship so why you hating now sis?

Woman,what do you want?

Read the responses before you reply!

I didn't know his moniker existed before we started dating. You don't start noticing a make/model of a car on the road until you actually start driving the type.

Fuq does everyone think it's Coogar. He sure doesn't think women are b1tches.

Gboliwe:
You fell in love with this his nairaland personality so why are you worried now?
Anyway, ask Ogugua88 how she is still in love with Sexkillz even though she claims he has split personality.

Sorry but how does that make sense ? Why would I "fall in love" with his yeye alter ego and turn around to say I'm no more in love.

Before I jammed him on NL, I didn't know he existed. While he was toasting me (lol) offline, his posts on NL were very normal. But after he "got the girl" he got really comfortable with his moniker. However, he's still the same good man offline.

Efemena_xy:

You are aware that he's probably gonna read this post of yours?

That's not a problem. I'm actually waiting for his input.
He'll be fine, he's my buddy.

born_to_be_gr8t: why are u bothered?,would you have prefered it,if he was otherwise

He's the "women-are b1tches" kind of man on NL and he's the "I adore my woman" kind of man offline.
Honestly it's very hard to be comfortable with this alter ego nonsense. I've tried avoiding his posts and all but it doesn't change the fact that he has a very bad alter ego.

Ujujoan:

I'm sorry, I just couldn't resits!


First of all, Nld is an anonymous forum, people tend to 'let themselves go' when nobody knows who they are.

You are right to be concerned but the truth remains that you alone know who this man really is. He could be acting out an alter ego, he could be misleading us Nlders . . . he could also be showing another very real side of him. . . .

We Nlders can only guess because we don't really know him.

If you are not comfortable with who he is, you need to put a brake on the relationship/marriage plans.

Have a discussion with him and make him understand what your values are and be sure the both of you are on the same page.

But if you tell me who is he, I can tell you if he's faking his Nld-personality or nor . . .

Lol Thank you. If I was you too, I would want to know who the man is but I can't tell, for obvious reasons. Sorry.

I've talked about it o. Plenty times. It's always the same thing "I'm over-reacting".
I actually said he's character is like that on NL becomes he wants to make himself appear unavailable to women that may want to chase him. Lol

Is that reasonable or plain ridiculous?
I don't want to lose a beautiful friend because I'm being hyper-sensitive, but at the same time this alter ego business is .....

Neither. no piece of advice? I need help here I'm really bothered.

Hello everyone,

I have this guy I've been dating(courting) for a while now. We met on nairaland a few years ago and slowly and surely it became a full blown relationship. But I've always had a little issue about the relationship, I try to ignore but it still bothers me. His moniker on nairaland is completely different from his real personality offline. On here, he's very macho, he flirts, he curses, supports cheating and etc. In short, he's everything I hate in a man on, nairaland. But in the real world, he's my perfect man (well, almost).

Anytime I table the matter to him, he says I'm over-reacting, and his character on here is just an alter ego.

The relationship is getting to the tying-the-knot stage. Is his alter ego his true self that he's waiting to unleash or .......??