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He got sex, got bored, and moved on. This is why it is really important not have be intimate until you are sure of his intentions. Had you waited longer, you would have been able to see that all he was really after was sex. Ladies you have to decide whether you are looking for a long-term relationship or just someone to "have" around. Once you make that decision, then you will be able to move forward with a good plan of action. If you are looking for a long-term relationship, then given it up so quickly doesn't appear to be the right move. Get to know the brother first...this takes time...one or two dates won't cut it. If you don't treat yourself with respect, then he won't respect you either. Set the tone for how this will play out so you don't get played.

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Physically Speaking: For the most part if the woman is feminine, have a great shape and is easy on the eyes, I don't think a man will think twice before asking her out. If the woman is tall and is masculine (has more muscles than the man), I can see a few men look in another direction. Remember you eat with your eyes first (I'm not saying this is ok, but it's the truth).

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In order to get what you want, you need to know what you want (and what you don’t want)! Too often when you ask a woman what type of a man she is looking for, she will say someone who is caring, loving, loyal and respectful. However, when really listen long and hard enough the rest of what she wants comes out. The rest of the list includes things like, a lot of money, a good job, tall, from a specific family, and the list goes on into superficial things. I think it is important for women to have preferences, but when deciding whether a certain man is going to be husband material you need to make sure that you are looking at the right things. Pay close attention to how he treats other people around him. If he is cut throat in business deals, a snake when it comes to negotiations, treats his mother and siblings like trash and his friends like old milk then take note of those character traits. If he is willing to lie, steal, and cheat in business, he will too in his personal life. A man who has true integrity doesn't pick and choose when he’ll display it. It happens naturally and seamlessly. See, a woman who is looking for money will only look at the fact that he has money, she doesn't care how he made it, as long as he has money she could care less. As long as he spends it on her she is not concerned about anyone else. After a while that woman will be old news and he will be looking for someone else he could get with money. If she is desperate enough she will stay, even though he is cheating, wishing, and praying that he will someone get integrity that he didn't display from the very first day. The moral of the story is, know exactly what you want so when you feel and see him coming you will know.

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