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Purpletee:
Ok...here's mine.


Am madly in love with this guy, who happens to be my best friend. He knows about my feelings and maybe he feels the same way about me. I don't know!!. We had sex and am really confused. Should i continue loving him(am enjoying the feeling) or should i stop.

Hmmmm,wel firstly,u shouldnt have had sex with a guy ur not datin or sure of,girls get more emotionaly attached to guy when they have sex unlike guys..so he might not see the fact that u guys had sex as sometin special lyk u do,if a guy lyks u,he would definatly tel u especialy since u guys are so close to the extent of sex,u should try to kill ur feelings til he says he loves u,what is he waitin for or is it so hard to tel u if he loves u,just for u to be on the safer side and not end up disapointed,kil ur feelin and erase sex from ur frndship with him.

That is true to some extent because forgetin ur ex is not about what u do,its about ur mind set.once u make up ur mind that they are no gud for u with tym u wil get over them,some tyms we even avoid them for so long and the day u get to see them again its lyk ur whole feelins resurected from the dead.so my dear make up ur mind,dont be blinded by love open ur eye and see the gravity of what she did,money,mare money.if u feel deletin her is the best and most healthy way for u feel free to as far as u feel better.

She isint worth ur tears and sadness,personaly i see deletin ur ex as childish,am not say u guy should keep chatin but u let tinx go naturaly after all after sometyms ur last chat with her goes below as u chat with frnds,and u may forget she even exist dough u might bump into her profile once in a while ,i know how hard it is to forget ur ex especialy when u truely love them so some tymes it feels lyk erasin them totaly from ur life is the best option.

Gud day sir waley,am realy sorry about the way ur ex bae treated u,look at the brighter side of it,what if u were already married to her,would she start folowin men cause ur broke?,gud women build their man and now run away in tym of trouble,they stand with their man and help in anyway they can til tins get better,in riches n in porvety,in sicknes n in health til death do them part,with her educational qualification she should be look for a way to better her lyf an start buildin her future instead of a man to rely on.

leriks:
Thanks!


So shuld I call her?
What am I to say?
Will I begin to apologize again?.

Have u called her to apologize befor?wel if u have stil apologize a bit,just call her lyk u normaly do befor,to check on her and to gist,dont let her think cause of what happened ur no more interested in her,u know guy dah just wana use girls act lyk dat,dough if shes smart she shouldnt think lyk dat after a whole year of dating.just do what u normaly do befor and see her reaction yet.Gud morning.

@leriks,not calling her is not a gud idea,shes upset about what happened but she loves u,give her tym to get over her anger,she wil come around if u presist.if shes sturbon for too long tel her u dont lyk the way she is treating u and ur not happy,prove to her u realy love her regardless of sex,and if shes stil too sturbon,tell her if she doesnt love u any more she should let u know so u wil stop disturbin her for good..

lovean:
Am here,am online now,buh ah avent gotten yah mesage dough

Owk them,am waiting.

Yhemit:
thanks @lovean

thhe the last time I saw her, that's last week at our shop. She's just looking at me n using style to smile, whereas pretending as if she's calling someone. maybe because of my past, I give out her contact to guys in school....... not intentionally, I even asked her best friend why she (yinka) hate me.... *her friend reply was that she doesn't hate me, that maybe she didn't like the way I am to her * I really like her. #just afraid to face her

LOLZ,maybe she even lyks u self,what past is that?..no need to be afraid,just try,smiles...ur welcm.

leriks:
@OP where re thou?

Am here,am online now,buh ah avent gotten yah mesage dough

leriks:
@Op please I need ur help/advice, ASAP, wen re u cuming online, or if u can chat on whatsapp with my line 08097032534 I will appreciate..

Gud day,i would ave loved to message u on whatsapp but my network here is so bad my whats app mesages arint loadin,but u can stil message me privatly here,i reply u when i get the mesage.thnx

Yhemit,my advice to u is to try and tel her the way u feel about her even if she doesnt accept it..after all u dont even know what her reply might be and u wil never find out if u quiet,so u need to be courageous and speak...and about the texting tin,whatsapp mesages can never make up for call,hearin ur loves voice,gistin over the fone is every loves dream especialy if they are away,or u guys dont see that often.durin cals u feel closer to them than jusa whats app mesages,and it makes people feel remembered,lyk they are always on ur mind,and apart from the calls send regular sms to,it spices up the relationship,say lovely n nice thinx in an sms,many loves dont delete their loves sms and they get to read it over n over again esspecialy ladies.

Yhemit:
great job!

my problem is that I don't have the guts to face her, we're really good before for like 3 years now..... good chatting with each other (whatsapp) but I have never gets the chance to win her thru my whatsapp platform affection. I know she do nag a lot about me .there is a time I give her number outt to my friends, which I felt sorry about.
me and dz girl are neighbour also in same school, but I love her. the last time I saw her was yesterday at our shop which she's was using style to look me in the eye and smiling. but as a shy girl,i can't discuss relationship with her. do you think I have another chance of her.
she rejected my offer to go outt together

Gud day sir,dating a frnd is far better than datin a stranger just as the sayin,the devil u know is better than the angel u dont know but we dont just lyk the idea of datin our frnds here in Nigeria,some tyms we even lyk each other as more than frnds but dont know how to go about it.

For example ur dating a lady thats a saint,what do u expect to happen when u get married?lolz,do human saints realy exist?the truth is every human gat their faults,it now depends on ur ability to tolerate,ur compatability,ur level of love and ur level of the wil to make the relationship work.if ur look for the perfect relationship,keep looking.if ur already in a perfect relationship,check again or beter stil run for ur life,cause ur partner might just be a pretender.

For example ur dating a guy that drinks too much,what are u expecting to happen when ur maried?some drink when they are happy,some when they are sad,but if u think he drinks too much now is the tym to let go,ofcos u know what happens when humans get drunk,they lose it and do crazy things including pouring out their sorrows,depresion and anger on u by the use of fist,yes o u can become a punching bag if u have a drunkard for a husband.guys that dont drink are better of cause u can never tel when u guy that drinks little might decide or mistakenly get drunk...if u know u cant handle people that drink or u dont lyk them? why get married?

For example ur in a relationship with a lady that nags,what are u expecting to happen when u get married?i life we all have a limit to everything ,there are actualy guys that can torlerate nagging,if u cant no need to stay in the relationship because mariage wont solve the issue,,if she nags to much,complains about every thing and doesnt appreciate any tin u do,seat her down and tel her about it,tell her shes hurting ur feelings,u know communication is the best weapon in any relationship..give her tym and study her wela,be always sure of ur partner before mariage.

There are case of a relationship where the man has certain bad habits and the woman wishes he would change but he doesnt,she gets feed up breaks up with him,the in his next relationship he doesnt do does bad tins to her lyk to u and u and the lady starts regreting why she broke up,dont cry and dont regret u made d ryt decision,,while interviewin does kinds of guys,most of the loved their ex even more than their present,they were just having a hard tym controling their self,when the lost u finaly they felt bad and tried even harder to make their next relationship work so technicaly he dint change cause of his present,he changed cause of u and if u hadint broken up and continued the relationship till marriage,he may have not changed.
for some,d lady was doing somin wrong that pissed him off,instead of explaining to the lady they let anger control the so he lyks his new relationship cause she doesnt piss him of,which ever the case dont let love bind u in a hurting relationship, Love is beautiful not hurting.

How many times do we get cases of parents that disown their children or children that disown their parents?very rare case 0.25%,if its even up to but not so with marriages about 40% of marriages now get seperated..now the question is why?why do people get divorced?the main reason is wrong basis for entering into relationships and ur choice to being blind to signs that ur not inlove.
let me take blindness to signs ur not inlove first,ile talk on wrong basis of entering relationships later.
The truth and the fact is that alot of us choose to ignore the attributes of our partner towards us,and i realy dont know why,for example,ur in a relationship with a guy that beats u up,what are u expecting to happen after ur married?gurls always have this feeling of he wil change but when wil he change?u cant tell,do u ladies know that a guy that beats u in a relationship enters into another and dint beat her in the relationship?yes,it happens

LOVE
An intense feeling of affection and care towards another person
A deep or abiding liking for something.
To be strongly inclined towards something
To Care deeply about,to be dedicated to
The above are some of the defination of love.Affection is have zealous or tender attachment,good will,towards somin or someone while care is to be concerned about,to have an interest in,to look after,to be mindful of,to show attention,concern;responsibility;maintenance and upkeep for sometin or somone.from all the characteristics of love above we can all say our parents love us,,but can u still say ur gf/bf or the person ur in a relationship with loves u?Does he has more than less of these attributes of love...lyk it or not,thats the defination of love,if ur not showing this attributes towards ur partner then ur not inlove with him or her,nop am not say every thing is gona be smooth or there wont be tyms of problem but love wil overcome all tins .

Dsypha,some times in relationships,we dont value what we have till we loose it...wen a woman is inlove with a guy,sometimes she doest even mind doing the calling,she will get tired of doing the callin in a long run and accept the fate that the guy isint interested in her anymore since he doest call,every lady inlove gladly picks her lovers call and at least flash back if they missed their call....so for ur gf not to pick ur calls its strange,its either u offended her or she doest love u any more.u should ask her whats wrong and y shes acting up...organise a dinner with her,get her a littel present,sometin small but means alot,tell her ur sorry if u did anytin wrong and ask her what u did wrong so u would know not to make such mistake..and if that doesnt work tell her u gono give her a break that u cant take her attitude no more...try that and lemmi know what happened next.tnx

Am sorry ave been away for a while,am goin to write on Love now.

Sorry i have been away for a while,i said i was gona write about Love,ile do that now.

Gud afternoon all,wish u all a lovely day remaining,,,pls,do vote for optional1....tnx all.

Proudly,
team optional1.

Up optional1 all the way.

when getting into a relationship don't do it because u want to forget ur ex....if u just experience a heart break make sure ur properly healed before think about another relationship, and do also get into a relationship because u want to make ur ex jealous... u should make sure uve forgotten the past totally before u move on.

when getting into a relationship, make sure u love who u want to date not for silly reasons eg to feel among, cause ur peer groups are doing it,to feel lyk de boss cause ur dudes tell u if u don't ave a bae ..ur still a baby, and so on and so fort.....love should, be a foundation in any relationship u want to go into.

goddeyooo:
09035064595

I just checked u...seems lyk u not on whatsapp.

goddeyooo:
09035064595

I will reach u ryt away via whatsapp.

IdisuleOurOwn:
Hope when the main interview starts, miss Olanike Taiwo will explain how Apc intend to 'Islamize' Nigeria?

lolz

PureWays:
Okay ma'am.. Thanks

ur welcm deariii,I wish u all the best In getting ur woman...

PureWays:
Okay ma'am.. Thanks

ur welcm deariii,I wish u all the best In getting ur woman...

oshe11:
dats my stands for nw tho

That's kul dude.

oshe11:
like I sed earlier, she is 'Uncontrollably' inlove wit me n says I'm d onli one she has truly love afta breakin up wit her 'first love'



she just dont wanna let go

U sure can't let her decision rule over ur life well .....the best solution is to tell he that if she really wants u guys close then she should lock up on sex.....u cant be a party to another mans hurt cause u don't want ur own gf to hurt u dat way.....so if she so wants to be close to you ,u guys could be ordinary frnds ..no strings attached ...how about dat?

igboboy3:
How do I vote?
I want to vote for Optional1

that's nice... stay tuned to this trend and the campaign trend to know when its tym for voting....u can also follow her to be updated..

oshe11:
d problem is dat she want Intimacy(I'm sure U undastnd)

Then its wrong....its even unfair to the other guy or how would u feel if u caught ur bae cheating on you...u ,do u want intimacy? tell her u cant do such...tell her u can only be frnds with her...simple