Homeboiy:



From your topics

I don't expose my love life on social media. The previous post you read through arent relating to me. I wrote those trends relating to other people's experiences.

GMBuhari:


First of all, if you are really a graduate your English is very disappointing

Secondly is this the same guy you posted about in July or another sucker?


Thirdly, I hope you won't come and open another thread about how you hate men, life or relationship


Please note this comment was written after analyzing your two love topics in recent times , and a warning to stop sharing your destiny on social media because if open breakup thread some people that have been following you from villa and nairaland will see it



OH and an in a beautiful high spirits

Find the clue

The previous stories I posted aren't relating to my love life at all n also I made my English so simple n plain to convey what I had in me. I don't expose my love life on social media like some people do, am only confused that y I created this thread. I don't think this calls for insult.

Homeboiy:
When I saw this thread

I first checked your profile

My observations are

1.Its obvious you had a blood covenant with him that's why u can't let him go.

2.He hasn't paid your bride price,yet u went and started living with him. He's tired of fúckng you that's why he hasn't given you answer if he will marry you or not.

3. Your a desperate biitch trying to force a young man to marriage because he's dating you and that is why your love for him is diminishing.

finally stop been desperate ,support him , and watch how he will propose to you in 5yrs coming

Plz oo... nothing of such

Normally what he said we often joke over it but when he said I wasn't in a good mood n I took it so hard on him but I expected him to say something to calm me down but he didn't.

Ever since my boyfriend came into my life, my life has really changed, I truly love him n the feelings is reciprocal from his end. Since he came into my life I find it so hard to let another man into my heart. we are in a distant relationship.
Lately, I don't know I just fell so much in love with him n I got so intoxicated with my feelings toward him but the issue is some days ago I sent him a marriage broadcast n his response made me so upset and it made me had a change of mind towards. The truth is that I truly love him so much that I can't let him go n I don't know if his intentionson are still what he says it is. I tired talking things with him both using a calm and harsh tone in portraying how I felt when he told me the word he said and I urge him to try convince me it not what I think but he refused to say anything, he is not the saying out his mind kind of person.
Please I need your help fellow nairalander help a sister coz am at the edge of letting go of him.

Please pardon me for the wrong use of the department, I only used those department to portray what I had in mind. Corrections are freely allowed.

We began our love journey while we were both in senior secondary school, he loves me so much and I love him so deeply as well. He was the first man I knew and we started to do things like little love birds. We got so much attached to each other to the extent, if we don't see each other on daily basis we wouldn't rest nor sleep at night. Our both parents knew about our relationship and often pray we ended up as the best couple the world have ever seen.
However, things went on smoothly for the both of us not until my parents had a serious marital issues and this made them parted. I began to go through serious emotional trauma and this made me started misbehaving in my relationship. I began to feel too insecured around my boyfriend because I felt if my father could do this to my mother how much more my boyfriend, I started cheating on him.
After we graduated from secondary school in 2009, we both gained admission into The University of nigeria NSSUKA in 2010 . Going to school then wasn't so easy for me coz my mother couldnt fend for my fees due to the income of pety fruit business she was into, my boyfriend took it upon him sef to sponsor me till we graduated from the school without minding my un faithful attitude.
We began to co-habit in his accommodation off campus, we lived in school liked married couples. We weren't in the same department but yet people knew us and we were been called several names.
On a fateful tuesday we set out for meeting in our different faculty. He is a student of chemical engineering while I was a student of biz admin. Each faculty had it own aim for calling out the meeting but just like that meeting was called just because of the two of us. The aim while the meeting was called for wasn't talked about rather our head of department spoken on female studentso co-habiting with a male student. The topic turned out to be a big issue among the student, Every ones words spoken were like stones which was set out to hit so had on me, I felt to my face and began to cry like a baby, I don't know how I got up from my seat and calmly walked out of the meeting. While I was on my way home I met my boyfriend on the way, we began to journey home, he tired petting me to stop crying n began to question me on why I was crying, I explained all to him and he then told me that was what was spoken about in his department.
After some days, I sat to my self and I began to recall all that was said in the meeting, I realised some truth in it. I taughtfully said to myself why would I live with a guy who hasn't paid my bride and yet we lived like husband n wife, we do things that is been done in marriage, what even gives me the assurance he would get married to me? Immediately I picked up my things and left for my coursemate house, where I began to stay.

The question of the day is: is right to stay with a man who hasn't paid your bride price and his the one sponsoring you to school n footing other bills of yours?

I love all the comments have been reading through but the basic truth about this issue is that character, spirituality n reaction after sex isn't the issue, the truth is that so many girls donot know what it takes to have sex with a guy u just met. There are so many guys out there with different aim and aspirations after wooing a girl, some guys have the aim of marking register n after that dey let go of the babe while some have the aim of building a girl up with the mind set that after hAving sex with her they are aim is to trap her down. As a girl u have to study the kind of man u are about to go into a relationship with coz some guys are just sheep in human clothing, they make empty promise n foolishly we fall for it n believe we have met the right person not knowing they have another set goal.
My advice to all ladies out there is study yourself on what works for u in a relationship. There are some girls once they open their legs for a guy they are able to trap dem down while some once they open their legs guys walk away. Plz after falling victim of such in this guys hand donot make the same mistake or letting this repeat itself, just know sex after meeting a guy doesn't work for. Give it time when you meet a guy u just met;don't be to quick to let it open some guys are just too deceptive in nature.
Have once been in that shoe n the moment I notice what works for me I started working in accordance to it. Be wise

It is known that before an election is conducted, campaign is done in other for the party leader and the contestants to be voted in canvasses for people's vote. But in today's campaign done in my area at amuwo odofin nooodles and gin were used to canvass for people's vote. Am still amazed at what I saw today.
What happening in your area during this chairmanship campaign.

Many youths today, has made the wall of trust broken in their relationship and in other for them to renew trust, they decide to go into blood covenant with their spouse for them to sealed n build up trust within themselves, also, there will be no form of entry n exist of infidelity within them.
My question is can you go into blood covenant with your spouse just to.build up the wall of trust in your relationship?

6 reasons why trust is more important than love

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Most people believe that love can conquer all, and that the only thing you need in order to make your relationship successful is just pure and honest love. I would beg to differ! After 8 years of living and two long relationships, one thing I’m completely sure of is the fact that trust is the most essential component of a successful relationship. In its absence, you can end up feeling constantly worried and hurt.

If you don’t completely trust your partner, you end up wasting all your time worrying about where your partner is, who they’re with, and what they’re doing, and ultimately end up feeling psychotic. I’m pretty sure that’s not the kind of relationship you would ever sign up for.

Here are 6 reasons why trust is always more important than love:

You can only love a person truly if you trust them
Love is always built on trust and not the other way around. Being rational human beings, we tend to love the people we already trust. And if we enter a relationship without building its base around trust, it is bound to fail as soon as the hard times come.

Trust is used to control our emotions
We are all emotional beings. In most situations, we tend to place more emphasis on the means rather than the final end. We tend to engage in relationships that are meaningful, relationships that we can truly value.

And how do we decide in the start if a relationship will prove to be that way? We use trust! We use it to gauge the kind of relationship we have with others. And we use it to decide exactly how much of our own self we should give to others.

Trust is the building block of all relationships
Once we truly trust a person, once we find the comfort to open ourselves to them and to share all the deepest, darkest thoughts in our minds, that is the moment when a relationship truly becomes unbreakable.

Love can cloud your judgments but trust illuminates them
We always believe that love can be our one true savior in times of need. But the truth is, we’re usually too blinded by love to actually make sane judgments. We get too involved in trying to gain the acceptance, approval, and admiration of those we love. And we fail to realize the fact that love is suppressing our ability to reason.

This is where trust comes in. It helps you get back to the real reasons behind your relationship. It helps you realize whether the person standing in front of you is actually worth the effort. And it helps you distinguish between the people who you’ll have a lifelong connection with and the people who will eventually leave.

Trust conquers all
We’re all familiar with the phrase ‘Love conquers all’. But the truth is that trust is the one thing that can truly push us to believe that we can and we will conquer all obstacles. It holds everything together when all the things around you seem to be falling apart. It’s the glue that fills every gap and every difference you might have with your partner.

Trust is what makes you love again
When all is said and done, when you feel like life keeps pulling you to the ground, when you get your heart-broken a thousand times over, the only thing that can help you bring back the hope in your life is trust. It enables you to believe in something bigger and better than all the heart breaks. It helps you get yourself back on track in life. And it helps you get the motivation back to find your one true soul mate.

Some really Absurd Facts about a Successful Marriage

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Marriage is still undoubtedly one of the most baffling things to most people, including me. We have all seen a lot of couples that have made it work out for decades but still it is hard to explain it to someone as to how do people stick with one other for that long and how do they make it work out?

If you ask people to tell you what are the ‘secrets’ behind a successful marriage, you’re most probably going to get answers like, loving each other, caring about each other, being nice, great sex life, helping each other and the list goes on. But the thing is that all these answers point to the same direction which is, ‘don’t be a jerk to your partner’. Now obviously that’s just common sense, if you are nice to someone and respect them, they won’t hate you or leave you.

But we’re not here for that, a successful marriage is definitely more than just ‘being nice’ to each other. And we’re here to tell you exactly those facts that can reveal the secrets behind the success of a marriage. However, these facts aren’t the usual ones, these are the more absurd ones found by a research, that’ll leave you startled.

1. Price tag of your Wedding
The first one is, price tag of your wedding. Hugo M. Milano and Andrew M. Francis are the two university lecturers who did a research and concluded that spending too much on your wedding, even if your wedding planners insist on that, is a bad idea. They found a relation between spending big amounts that are more than $20K and lesser ones that are between $5K and $10K, suggesting that the probability of divorce goes up by more than 3 times in the twenty thousand dollars scenario.

2. Price tag of your wedding ring
The second is, price tag of your wedding ring. The same lecturers also found that spending big on the engagement ring makes your chances of separation in the future ‘big’ as well. The price of the ring can range between 5 hundred to 2 thousand dollars but if it goes above that, the chances of separation go above too.

But wait a second, they found one more thing here as well; spending too less can also make your chances of separation increase exponentially. Now you don’t want to be spending less than 5 hundred dollars either, so remember to be sensible here while buying the ring. Everything in moderation is the key.

3. Blue States
Third weird fact, Blue states are good for your marriage. Yes we’re not kidding, according to a report by the National Statistics; couples in red states have a higher chance of getting a divorce than those living in the blue ones.

4. Which Area has more chances of a successful Marriage?
Fourth fact, if you want to have a successful marriage but you live in Wayne County, Indiana, you should get out of there right away! The Daily Beast did a research and found that this was the county with the most divorces in all of America. Their numbers were shocking with more than 19 percent of their people could not make their marriages work out.

5. The question of babies
The fifth fact, quite a sexist one, a couple will have a lesser chance of a divorce if they have a son as compared to those that have a daughter. This was reported by a research done by the Review of Economic Studies back in ’05.

6. The Geography
The sixth fact, geography matters. The United Nation’s Demographics and Social Statistics Division found that most marriages in Belgium have a not so good future as more than 70 percent of their marriages end in a divorce.

The second worst after Belgians are, yes you guessed it right, the Americans. More than 50 percent of their marriages end in court.

7. Twins
Seventh fact is about twins. It isn’t a very good news for all those couples having twins as having those increases chance of your marriage ending. It surprisingly increases by 17 percent. The Daily Beast suggested that this fact is maybe because more babies mean more money required and more pressure.

6 Signs That Your Spouse Is Having An Affair

It often happens that even if you know deep inside your heart that your significant other is cheating on you, you simply can’t prove it because he/she is a very good player, and the chances are that they’ve done it to other people before you. There is nothing more devastating and more self-destructive than living in uncertainty, not knowing for sure whether he really goes to work every night or if he spends the night somewhere else. However, it is essential to understand that from suspicion to paranoia there is just one small step, this is why it is important to never cross the line. Although the following hints cannot guarantee you anything, here are the top 7 most common signs that your significant other may be cheating on you:

1. Sudden Need For Privacy

Every human being feels the need for privacy every now and then, and that is perfectly normal: we all need to spend some time on our own. However, if you used to spend a lot of time with your significant other and now he/she suddenly tells you that they need more room to breathe, then that should raise a red flag.

Also, did your spouse suddenly start to put passwords on computers or cell phones, afraid that you might invade their privacy? It often happens that emotional affairs occur via the phone, and if you notice that your spouse suddenly hangs up or deletes the messages and call history, then you should ask yourself some questions. If you really want to find the truth, you can check your phone records.

2. You Two Are No Longer Intimate

Although this is not necessarily an obvious sign that your spouse is cheating on you, it should make you ask yourself some questions, especially if your sex life was great until not too long ago. However, the lack of intimacy does not rely solely to sex. Did your significant other stop kissing or hugging you like he used to? Is he acting a bit colder towards you and he puts the blame on the overly stressing job? These sudden changes usually occur for a reason: while it is true that jobs can indeed be extremely stressful, when these changes happen all of a sudden, there is usually more to that than just stress.

3. You No Longer Talk To Each Other

If you no longer talk to each other, or pick up a fight whenever you try to have a conversation, then something has changed. If your spouse started to ignore you or if routine has interfered with your relationship all of a sudden, you should ask yourself whether you are growing distant of each other or if there is a third party involved. The golden rule is that whenever a sudden change occurs, you need to look into it right away.

4. Your Spouse Puts More Effort Into Looking Good

It has happened to all of us at least once to stop paying so much attention to our clothes, looks or even overall fitness while we were in a relationship. This is normal to a point, but if your spouse has changed their wardrobe, gotten a new haircut, invests more time and money into looking good, bought a new perfume and such, then there are two options. He/she is either trying to regain your heart and to add some spice to your relationship, or your spouse is seeing somebody else.

5. Sudden Change In Bank Statements

Confusing charges in bank statements are a pretty good indicator that something is going on, especially if payments were made to lingerie stores, cosmetic stores or brand clothing retailers and the products were not for you. This is one of the most obvious signs that your spouse may be cheating on you.

6. Unpredictable Mood Swings

Did your spouse become moody all of a sudden, and your simple presence starts to annoy them for no apparent reason? Does your spouse avoid to come home after work, and until not too long ago they couldn’t wait to get home and see you? Does your spouse leave the home jolly and happy and returns very sad and even depressed? This may be the result of a stressful job, but on the other hand it can also 6 Signs That Your Spouse Is Having An Affair
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It often happens that even if you know deep inside your heart that your significant other is cheating on you, you simply can’t prove it because he/she is a very good player, and the chances are that they’ve done it to other people before you. There is nothing more devastating and more self-destructive than living in uncertainty, not knowing for sure whether he really goes to work every night or if he spends the night somewhere else. However, it is essential to understand that from suspicion to paranoia there is just one small step, this is why it is important to never cross the line. Although the following hints cannot guarantee you anything, here are the top 7 most common signs that your significant other may be cheating on you:

1. Sudden Need For Privacy

Every human being feels the need for privacy every now and then, and that is perfectly normal: we all need to spend some time on our own. However, if you used to spend a lot of time with your significant other and now he/she suddenly tells you that they need more room to breathe, then that should raise a red flag.

Also, did your spouse suddenly start to put passwords on computers or cell phones, afraid that you might invade their privacy? It often happens that emotional affairs occur via the phone, and if you notice that your spouse suddenly hangs up or deletes the messages and call history, then you should ask yourself some questions. If you really want to find the truth, you can check your phone records.

2. You Two Are No Longer Intimate

Although this is not necessarily an obvious sign that your spouse is cheating on you, it should make you ask yourself some questions, especially if your sex life was great until not too long ago. However, the lack of intimacy does not rely solely to sex. Did your significant other stop kissing or hugging you like he used to? Is he acting a bit colder towards you and he puts the blame on the overly stressing job? These sudden changes usually occur for a reason: while it is true that jobs can indeed be extremely stressful, when these changes happen all of a sudden, there is usually more to that than just stress.

3. You No Longer Talk To Each Other

If you no longer talk to each other, or pick up a fight whenever you try to have a conversation, then something has changed. If your spouse started to ignore you or if routine has interfered with your relationship all of a sudden, you should ask yourself whether you are growing distant of each other or if there is a third party involved. The golden rule is that whenever a sudden change occurs, you need to look into it right away.

4. Your Spouse Puts More Effort Into Looking Good

It has happened to all of us at least once to stop paying so much attention to our clothes, looks or even overall fitness while we were in a relationship. This is normal to a point, but if your spouse has changed their wardrobe, gotten a new haircut, invests more time and money into looking good, bought a new perfume and such, then there are two options. He/she is either trying to regain your heart and to add some spice to your relationship, or your spouse is seeing somebody else.

5. Sudden Change In Bank Statements

Confusing charges in bank statements are a pretty good indicator that something is going on, especially if payments were made to lingerie stores, cosmetic stores or brand clothing retailers and the products were not for you. This is one of the most obvious signs that your spouse may be cheating on you.

6. Unpredictable Mood Swings

Did your spouse become moody all of a sudden, and your simple presence starts to annoy them for no apparent reason? Does your spouse avoid to come home after work, and until not too long ago they couldn’t wait to get home and see you? Does your spouse leave the home jolly and happy and returns very sad and even depressed?

The question that bothers my mind so much is, where do lagos state government want danfo drivers to feed from or are they any plans for them after elimating yellow buses ? And also won't dere be litering of the yellow buses every where around lagos. Eko o ni baje oo