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I met a girl from a penpal site. I went to her place by train, and it took me 6 hours to go to her town. Because it took me so much time to meet her, she told me that I could stay at her room during weekend.

But she lives alone in a flat. Do you think she expects something more than friendship? We are just a friend so far, and I just met her once.

I got an email from her saying something like the below.

I'm sorry that you feel that bad now, but I can't help it. I like you, but I don't like you that much that you want me to. We  can just be friends - nothing more.

It's got nothing to do with my preferences. I know if a man is someone I could fall in love to or not at first sight. It's something about the whole person, his individuality. It's nothing you could predict, you see? There's nobody I'm thinking of all the time at the moment. Feels lonely sometimes, but on the other hand I don't have enough time for a relationship. And another point is: I don't want to fall in love because I don't want to get hurt. I'm glad to have nice friends all over the world and I don't want to change that.

I understand if you couldn't stand to write me anymore. But you can write me whenever you want, because I want to stay friends with you - and I don't mean that stupid clichee every one uses after finishing a relationship.

I met a girl from a penpal site. Her profile said she was looking for friendship, not romance. After meeting her, I sent her an email saying something like " I think you are looking for friendship, but I really like you."

Then, she replied to me and wrote something like " We had a nice time that weekend. I'm afraid that I don't like you as much as you may like me. But I'd really like to stay friends with you. And of course we can meet again. But I can't meet you very often. You know the reason: my studies.

Does that mean I have no chance? I went to her place by train, and it took me 5 hours to go to her town.