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captainking:
Thanks for sharing bro.
There are men that enjoy sex more when they meet certain women.. No pressures..
Enjoy your marriage bro..

Thank you.
Sex is indeed boring if not impossible with some boring girls who think it’s your job to do everything including in bed. And if it’s not working out, they make you feel bad to the point where your brain can never receive the right signals around them anymore. All they contribute to it is to just lie down like a log of wood.
I’m enjoying my marriage. Thanks again

MrRemedyAlagbo:
Congratulations to you both....if you're a man and you're suffering from either erectile dysfunction, premature Ejaculation,weak erection or low sperm count, either oligospermia or azoospermia don't remain silent take action.... ACTION is very important step in everyone's life to change our stories...tho there's a lot of fake people with absolutely no knowledge of this work,if you believe in herbs treat yourself today and change your story....I inherited this and know it very well....not for too much profit or just make money no....to HELP is number one factor and my conscience to do my best for people in need.... Health is wealth,speak up and find solution today

Thanks. Yes, speaking up is the starting point!

Mummytoo:
Wow


Destiny

Congratulations❤

Life is funny you know. You have no idea who you’d spend the rest of your life with. You just know that person is somewhere out there.

Each time I ask my wife what made her remember me again and ask for my number 3 months later. I get the same answer that, she has no idea how I popped into her head from nowhere after 3 months.

This can only be destiny/fate.

WoundedLamb:
Happy stories like this keep us going.

She's indeed your one and only. Congratulations!

Yes oh, indeed! Thanks!

dawnomike:
So glad you are having a happy ever after story to tell... Congratulations bro

Thank you!

I was just reflecting today on how Nairaland has been a blessing to me, so I decided to share my story to motivate anyone passing through anything similar.

This was my Erectile Dysfunction thread back in 2016.
https://www.nairaland.com/3024476/looking-how-cure-erectile-dysfunction

I stayed single looking for a medical cure to my ED. Having gone through all ED treatments prescribed by my urologist between 2017 - 2018, the only option left was a penile implant surgery which cost about 7 million naira at the time. I couldn’t afford it so I moved on with life hoping for the best. My life was a sad one hence my moniker.

Fast forward to 2019, I received a Nairaland PM from someone. Out of curiosity, I said hello back. She said she bumped into my post and decided to sympathize with me seeing what I was going through. I thanked her for showing concern and moved on.
Three months later same 2019, she remembered me from nowhere and sent another email requesting my number. We knew absolutely nothing about each other as there’s nothing from our Nairaland posts that mentioned anything personal like where we live, what we do for a living, etc.
I gave her my number and we got talking and progressed to WhatsApp chat. We got to know each other more and she was surprised I live abroad. Four months later in early 2020, I decided to go visit Nigeria as I hadn’t done so in 2 years. We had sex on the first date, thanks to her patience. And afterwards, the sex became so good that she climaxed so often, so much that she started saying that there’s nothing wrong with me. I was surprised myself seeing how I struggled to have sex having tried with about 5 different girls.
I actually suffered from venous leak but with her, it was so different as I wasn’t feeling any pressure whatsoever, and her body stimulates me nonstop that my body responds like a porn star, lol.
Beyond the sex, she’s beautiful and got a great personality/character, excellent cook, in fact 1000% wife material.
We got to know each other more. One year later in 2021, I went to marry her in Nigeria. I applied for her Permanent Residence and she left her sweet job and joined me early this year. Now we’re about 2 months pregnant.
My true life story of…what God cannot do, does not exist.
Now I wish I could change my moniker to elated.

MrMacinterchi1:
Chai! this burden will be very hard for one person to bear.
I hope you are getting positive results from the treatment? Keep the faith; I believe that things can only improve for you.

Yeah, not been an easy road. It requires a lot of inner strength.
I guess I have work and further studies to thank for providing daily distractions from the problem. And also my well paying job that has helped me this far through the financial burden. Else.....
Man go dey alright las las

Amanda4life:
That lady is a lady for u for the rest of ur life , oh sorry u lost her.

Very contradictory statement from you .
Anyways, she's getting married this year.

We met during NYSC. She is very beautiful, smart and all I ever wanted in a woman. We both felt we were perfect for each other. At least she said so countless times.
I later found out I had ED. She promised to stick with me to the end. Lol. We broke up less than a year afterwards. I understood and we're still 'hi' friends.
Since then I decided to remain single while trying to find out what's wrong with me. Different girls have sought my attention since then but I've got no love to give so I just didn't reciprocate.
Took me 4 years of personal research, huge amounts spent, countless visits to doctors and tests to find out I have venous leak (this info is for those following me for similar reasons). Now planning for my surgery. I have kept everything to myself till date, not even telling my family or close friends.
I doubt I can ever fall in love again sha.

dechriscool:
Brother,your problem might be organic rather than inorganic.Do you normally have the early morning spontaneous penil ERECTION or midnight penil ERECTION ? IF yes,then your problem is organic.Irrespective of the test you have done and the outcome of the results.You still need proper evaluation.You can do a scrotal ultrasound to check if you have any varicocele and as well the outlining of your reproductive tract to check for any abnormalities.
Psychology might be a factor.work on your psyche,try to fantasize about sex and how enjoyable sex can be.Eat enough of fruits and vegetables.See sex as something to be enjoy and talk rough sometimes with your partner.Bury your past experience with sex and forge ahead.
Stress and anxiety are strong factors that can impede your sexual performance.
Regular sex will boost your libido and confidence especially with your kind of woman.

The problem is the same poor and unsustained erection whether when I wake up in d morning or when I'm sexually aroused. It reacts to arousal but doesn't get hard enough or sustained enough for Penetrative Sex.
Before I went to Luth, I met with an experienced private urologist who after physically examining me said "he suspected a
variococele". I did scrotal scan in addition to Testosterone, LH and FSH tests. The scan showed no variecocele, yet the urologist insisted I should come for a N400k variococelectomy. It was when I went to Luth that the consultant urologist told me there's no relationship between variocele and ED. Same suspicion I had from my online research.
I know I have a very healthy lifestyle in terms of proper dieting and regular exercise. If it was psychological, I could have had good, sustained erections during masturbation where there's never been reason to be anxious about anything.
Can you explain "the problem could be organic"?

Originalsly:
Bro....the way I see it..... you may have a STD, Urinary Tract Infection or an enlarged prostate...which again you may be too young to have but who knows. It may also be that you have a very low blood count...suffering from low blood pressure.... can be that you drink too much soda and eat too much cereals/cookies/sugar laden stuff which have probably made you diabetic and you don't even know....do a blood sugar test...may be high...too high. Then again you may have been an A list masturbator and this is the result of ehmmm... years of abuse. Above all these...I think it is psychological. ... even if you try to masturbate as you have said.... as long as the thought of "would I get hard?" enters the mind then fear is right behind that thought and everything would shut down. What I am sure about is that the solution does not lie in Viagra or any such ehmmm...attention seeker...in fact I think it would make matters worse. Try to get to the root of the problem and not quick fixes.

I heavily doubt I have an STD as I'm yet to have penetrative Sex. I also did an HIV test in 2012, I was negative. I check my blood sugar level regularly(over 7 times) it's been at normal level, I think 77g/dl or so. As for my blood pressure, I check it regularly too, it's either normal 120/83 or slightly pre hypertensive.
I only started masturbating late 2014 because I needed to do some semen tests and subsequently for my self observation. I wouldn't know about my prostate size for now. Does it affect erections in any way?

Rachie83:
I will suggest you use one of camvacon products,it works for that.

Have you tried them personally or do you know anyone who has, and it worked?

veetubes:
my dear the L-Arginine you tried is good but i suggest you also take some other supplement that contains maca. You can also try tiens galaxy and many others. You need to work on your emotional psychology. Your initial failed attempt can cause emotional trauma which will led to ED even after taking drugs like viagra or supplements like L-Arginine, maca etc. You need to believe that you are normal so that those treatments will work. Remember the mind controls the body. if you need more help on supplements that can boost your perfomance you can check http://tianshinigeria.com/

I would have agreed with you that it could be as a result of emotional psychology, but that thought led me to masturbation where I can comfortably say I'm not emotional bothered about any partner by me. Trust me, the result was the same. I'm more than convinced that this is beyond emotional trauma. The reality behind this whole mystery is what I'm yet to discover.

Hello All,
Having tried to deal with this issue on my own for about 3yrs, I decided to share it with the house. Pls I don't need jesters ‎or insulting people here, if you have no meaningful contribution, say nothing. 
My first real attempt at having Sex was in 2013. The touching, kissing and licking‎ was so intense that I didn't know when I 'came'. After then, several attempts at Sex have failed. I noticed that once touching commenced, my d*ck would as expected, begin to respond by increasing in size, but I just know I didn't have a full erection that was good enough for penetration. What made it worse was even sustaining that level of erection, few seconds(max 10secs) after the romance stopped, the erection dwindled. So bad that before I reach out for or wear a condom, I see myself getting flaccid. 
I began to search for reasons why that happened, I couldn't get any reliable answers so I told myself 'maybe because I don't feel anything for this ‎babe' that's why it's not working. I knew I wasn't anxious about Sex because I had no reason to be. Fast forward to 2014, I decided to try viagra. It worked like magic!. After receiving a head from her, my third leg was like a hungry lion waiting to devour. Only for me to find out she was on her period that day. I decided to try viagra again with her, sadly it didn't work the 2nd time, and even the 3rd and 4th time. So I gave up and decided to visit a doctor who referred me to LUTH. I ran all the tests and the Urologist said I was fine medically and nothing was wrong with me. I ran same tests in a private lab just to be sure, same results. Tadalis was prescribed for me this time. I tried it on my new gf on our first attempt at intimacy, the only effect it had on me was over delayed ejaculation. She wasn't ready yet for Sex few weeks into our relationship so she gave a head, but she was unsuccessful in getting me to cum and got frustrated and stopped. I went back to the Urologist and complained, my daily Tadalis dosage was increased. We tried one more time and this time she was ready for sex, same issue of poor erection, delayed ejaculation. It was so embarrassing this time because for once, I was really in love. I went back to the Urologist and my Tadalis dosage was increased again. This time my gf gave me go ahead to try with a different girl which I did, but same result. I knew that was the end of our relationship. I've prayed about this severally, asking God 'Why me?'.  So far, my life has been wonderful; good education, good paying job, etc. ‎ Good enough I've been successful in making this issue not affect any other areas of my life by not dwelling much on the problem. 
‎I've since decided to be single while I find a lasting solution to this matter. 
I started re‎searching alternative ways to solving ED online. I got to know about herbal medications that could cure it. I settled for L-Arginine. I've been taking it for 1.5months now and I'm yet to get any substantial results. ‎
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Anyone here with a possible way ‎out of this?
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