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Family › Re: Can Someone Please Explain/Justify: "Wedding In Absentia" by lurkee(op): 10:21pm On Aug 30, 2011

gijaney:
the original practice was to marry when the intended groom was away at war. now it has become something else

I have never heard that before. That makes a lot of sense.

Family › Re: Can Someone Please Explain/Justify: "Wedding In Absentia" by lurkee(op): 4:32pm On Aug 30, 2011

Yay!

I made it to the first page. Hoping more people who do not think this is weird would chime in.
I still do not get why someone thought this is a good idea. As in, "Oh I cannot make my traditional wedding to my fiancée, I would send my brother instead." shocked

The poor bride (or groom) has to then explain to her kids that their dad could not make the wedding so the man in the picture is representing him. Weird! undecided

Family › Re: Can Someone Please Explain/Justify: "Wedding In Absentia" by lurkee(op): 10:32am On Aug 30, 2011

Bump bump bump . . .

Family › Re: Can Someone Please Explain/Justify: "Wedding In Absentia" by lurkee(op): 12:33am On Aug 30, 2011

r231:
it depends. . . . if one of them is not in the country or have a way of getting there

my brother had one of those cus he left his fiancee when he traveled and when everything is sorted he went bck home for the wedding

not a big deal

When you say sorted, you make it sound like some of the rites of marriage might have been a hassle so he waited till it was all done before coming back for presumably, the white wedding. I thought the whole process is meant to be the best part of getting married and if anything would be inconvenient to any of the parties then it should be scrapped rather than leaving one person to attend their engagement party on their own.

I understand it is not a big deal to some people and that is why is exists but I wanted to know why.

Family › Re: Can Someone Please Explain/Justify: "Wedding In Absentia" by lurkee(op): 12:16am On Aug 30, 2011

I guess engagement. I have heard and seen pictures of traditional marriage also being done without one of the spouses present. This sounds a bit weird to me. I cannot imagine not having my soon-to-be husband not there on the day of our engagement or traditional wedding leaving to me to do the wedding with his "representative". I have heard of picture cardboard cut-outs being used in the place of an individual shocked

Family › Can Someone Please Explain/Justify: "Wedding In Absentia" by lurkee(op): 12:05am On Aug 30, 2011

I am new so please go easy on me.

I would like to know what it means to do a wedding in absentia. I first heard of it during the Mercy Johnson saga but then I seem to keep hearing of it. How can you have someone else represent you on your wedding day? I do not understand the concept of this at all. Why is this getting more popular (or am I just noticing this trend undecided

) ?

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