₦airaland Forum

tellwisdom:
Lurkess, U didnt include ALBINO with RED. why?? 

I did not include colour of skin because I do not care. 

sexkillz:
[color=#000055][size=14pt]Just 25 Points?. . . [/size][/color]

Yeah I know, not thorough right? That was all I could think of in one sitting. 

seun0622:
@ Poster

I would admit there is virtually nothing wrong in spending money on a woman you love. It is dignifying and shows you actually care about her.

Conversely, the major point that needed to be addressed is this:

It is the norm of the day( at least in Nigeria) for some ladies to see the guy they date as the quickest means out of the economic hardship (even the working class).

Some (just to be modest) ladies quantify the love their guy has for them by the size of the material things they can get from him.

In some other instances, the gateway to dating a guy is to size up what he is worth and make an upfront demand before kick starting the relationship.

Now Listen!

Some ladies are not just referred to as  gold diggers for asking for modest gifts. They try as much as possible transfer the responsibilities of their fathers to the BF and vice versa.
They also request for things the guy himself can never afford to get for himself.
They judge the viability of the relationship based on the money and material things they get from it.
Imagine hearing a lady say:  He is my boyfriend, he says he loves me,I need some money for my upkeep (N50K), I know he can afford it, but he has refused to give me, that means he doesn't love me and i don't think this relationship can continue"(uncoordinated and logically false premises).

I had to put this out straight to the point.

Just the truth!

I see your point but with everything concerned with relationships, there are no clear lines. Everybody has their own limits. If you are uncomfortable with her demands, let her know. Just don't become overly sensitive to your girl asking for something that before she opens her mouth, you are already being defensive and judging her in your mind as a "typical nigerian girl". whatever that means 

My bf originally was of the mentality that if you can afford it yourself, I do not need to pay for it. But now, I have to even turn his offers to buy me things. I think he started spending more when he sees how happy things like lingerie, shoes and surprise shopping trips make me. He loves to see me happy and if I ask for anything, I am almost sure he would give it to me. I do not see myself as a gold digger for asking because that is not why we are together, it is not a business contract. We both geniunely love each other and do things for each other and him spending on me is just one slice of the cake.

So at OP there is absolutely nothing wrong in a guy spending and a girl asking her bf as long as they are both comfortable with it. Infact, it is enocuraged! 

Beaf:
If Nigerians push for true federalism, then yes, it would be possible. But right now, any state attempting such would face a fearsome military storm.
So, guys please lets all push for true federalism, regional autonomy and resource control.

eGuerrilla:
Doing so will require Fashola (the Governor and Chief Security Officer) to be removed first.
But then, this act is considered treasonable under Nigerian laws.

Criminal Code Act, Chapter 77, Laws of the Federation of Nigeria 1990
41.         Any person who forms an intention to effect any of the following purposes, that is to say-
(a)            to remove during his term of office otherwise than by constitutional means the President as Head of State of the Federation and Commander-in-Chief of the armed forces thereof; or
(b)           to likewise remove during his term of office the Governor of a State; or
(c)            to levy war against Nigeria in order by force or constraint to compel the President to change his measures or counsels, or in order to put any force or constraint upon, or in order to intimidate or overawe any House of the National Assembly or any other Legislature or legislative authority; or
(d)            to instigate any foreigner to make any armed invasion of Nigeria or of any of the territories thereof; and manifests such intention by an overt act, is guilty of a felony and is liable to imprisonment for life.
                A person charged with any of the felonies defined in this section is not entitled to he acquitted on the ground that any act proved to have been committed by him constitutes the offence of treason; but a person who has been tried, and convicted or acquitted, on a charge of any such offence cannot he afterwards prosecuted for treason in respect of the same facts.

Eko Ile:
It's very possible.

tatiana009:
I have certainly never seen it before. I guess marriage means different things to us, I would certainly feel silly getting all dressed up for my engagement only to sit next to a cut out or worse a strange man!

A small town in central Italy has declared its independence and started to print its own banknotes. The authorities in Filettino, 100km (70 miles) east of Rome, are protesting against austerity measures.

It has only 550 inhabitants and under new rules aimed at cutting local administration costs it will be forced to merge with neighbouring Trevi.

Town mayor Luca Sellari, who stands to lose his job because of the eurozone crisis, came up with the idea.

He created his own currency, called the Fiorito. Banknotes have his head on the back, and they are already being used in local shops and being bought as souvenirs by tourists who have started to throng the normally quiet streets.

The mayor says there is enormous enthusiasm about declaring the independence of the new principality.

There has been such an outcry by small towns across Italy at the government move to abolish local councils and merge them with larger towns that Prime Minister Silvio Berlusconi's coalition may be forced to backtrack.

In the meantime the new Principality of Filettino - complete with coat of arms and website - is suddenly enjoying international fame.

TV stations from as far afield as Russia have been running news features about Filettino.

After all, the mayor says, Italy was once made up of dozens of principalities and dukedoms. As he says, the landlocked republic of San Marino still manages to survive, so why not Filettino?

Cuddlemii:
@op

No sane naija man would chase a babe for 6 years when the babe is even in a relationship. Hope its not similar to that old naija movie brown powder that a mad man was obssessed with a lady that mistakenly applied jazz powder on the mad guy instead of her hubby.

I think babes read meaning to stuffs a lot. Men can flirt and act attached as a joke or to see if they can score but they would have their chick. 6 years ke in Naija & his family didnt try to break the spell & his friends didn't talk sense into him. Its only abroad dt they have stalkers but for celebs with cash & not mere mortals. Na babe scarce like that in this day and age. 1 or 2yrs is ok but 5 to 6yrs is so unrealistic except you are referring to a mad man.

If its true then he is a mad man or he has been told his success lies with you that you are his luck without u he won't get an organization of his own. u beta start fasting & praying.

Me sef sabi write scripts for naija movie.

blacklion:
In the modern era, marriage in absentia is mostly done by those based abroad who cannot travel to Nigeria for the traditional marriage either due to costs or because they don't have valid immigration status and may not be able to return to their base.

However, marriage in absentia has always been part and parcel of the customary law of marriage in Nigeria. Keep in mind that marriage in African culture is primarily a union between extended families and not the couple per se.  The concept of marriage as a union between an individual man and an individual woman to the exclusion of others (including natal or extended family) is a novelty which became popular in Nigeria relatively recently due to Western religious and cultural influence.

Therefore, in most Nigerian cultures, there is no absolute requirement that both or any one spouse must be physically present for a traditional marriage to be valid. In fact, both spouses can be absent. Mind you, Nigerian parents historically had the right to select spouses for their children and even perform the traditional marriage ceremonies without the child being physically present. This is why you used to hear about parents in the village marrying wives for their sons in the township or abroad even without the guy's knowledge and the woman is shipped to him afterwards. This is also why you to hear about a girl coming home from the farm or school one day to meet the new in-laws paying bride-price to her father, meanwhile she has not even set eyes before on the man that is supposed to be her husband.

Kc0022000:
what is special being new to the forum ? Shut your trap for once. who are you for the forum to justify why people take part in abstention wedding. Forum members above gave you reason so what is your problem? This kind of topic made front page and your happy u made front page, I think the moderators in here should start looking out

Kc0022000:
Next topic please, why is this on the front page?

Maybe because I am new?  Why did you feel the need to come here and say next topic though? You could have easily clicked on another topic and saved yourself the hassle.