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Freiburger: Why dancing around? simply tell us what are and what you believe in.

ikekings: She's confuse....

Next2Bezee: There's only very little time the babe can stall "The Event" oO, Do you believe the guy didn't know what he wanted in the babe b4 he started going out with her?? Very soon the guy will start provoking and if he's sum1 who supplies his babe with "Kola" in her bank account then she musta lift up her skirt.

Gaggi: Doesn't take much to recognize a ho. Actually, some equally worthless guys deserve to settle with these sort of girls.

ikekings: Lol.... Keep lolin.... For some guys not me....##cheers.

Idowuogbo: u got jokes! funny u are!

ikekings: Thank you!!!! What dose guys are after na d tin wey dey under the skirt nd after collecting there own share of the ”NATIONAL CAKE“.... What's next?

druid06: You get sense at all? You sound like a baby trying to say his first words. On one hand, you're proud of what those girls are doing and on the other, you're a saint and a one man kind of girl? You're just confused. If you feel them girls on that video are doing what's right then you're guilty as them SAINT!.

ikekings: Who told you? None of them will settle down as far as this video is still in circulation.... Dey just made dia life miserable although some of d gals on the video are already miserable plus d video circulation dats double miserable.....**lord have mercy**...

Freiburger: AND YOUR POINT IS?

jay bee: If you have set goals the I'm afraid you have to motivate yourself and stay determined to actualise them. It's really that simple to be honest.
Nothing stops you from accepting the job and immediately start with applications to the mnc as an experienced graduate.
Do you have a BEng or MSc in Engineering?

Another thing I'm worryingly getting is the fact that you have conveniently eliminated the risk of not actually getting a job in Nigeria. How would you go about managing that should in case that materialise?

jay bee: How many Mr B's do you think you'd be able to find in Nigeria these days?
In the current worldwide state of troubling unemployment figures, it had be suicidal for a graduate with no experience to live certainty for uncertainty.
The only sane way to go about it is follow Mr Tanimola's suggestion. Get the necessary experience then move back as an experienced employee with loads to offer.

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Noun:
The arts and other manifestations of human intellectual achievement regarded collectively.

jennykadry: Maclatunji, even I as a well established career woman would think twice before having another child. Na beans? this guy is still young. He might not be up to 25 sef. You have got to be kidding me, he shouldn't have married her cos right from the beginning she told him exactly what she is telling us right now, he agreed to it got married to her and gbam he changes his mind, that is bullshit my friend. Ofcourse he has no probs wanting kids, but let me remind you that the 96% of the Aborigines(not even the white australians) have no qualms having kids but are they able to take care of those kids?nope. Yes I repeat this is Australia, they live in sydney(i stand to be corrected), living expenses are high, taking care of a child is expensive especially for them, he works part time, he is a student, she is a student, they just got married, he hasn't got a career and neither has she. This is not a decision that can be made overnight, they've got to get something going.

You have said well jenny. I think it is not fair he changed his mind on her on something that could change the course of her future career. The way he changed his mind is the way he should unchange it (with her help as the voice of reason).

I agree with you about the living cost in Australia. I am in UK and it is nothing compared to Australia. My BF went there for a year and his living expenses were even more than in London which is already a lot. I don't know if they have welfare in Aussie so maybe they can get child support but even then, at least 1 person needs a stable job abi.

IMO the tension from trying to change his mind and waiting will be far less than that from you combining a child with uni especially one you were not mentally and physcially ready for. It does not seem worth it to me. It is up to you as a woman to change his mind after all it is you who will carry and nurture the child.

Good luck

Onegai: If you're waiting for your man to love you as Christ loved the church, better leave him it's easier to change yourself than change him. See Vashti and Esther: the same King made unreasonable demands, which woman got him to do what she wanted?? Who was more successful, Madam dont-try-my-beauty-and-order-me-around-in-front-of-your-friends or Mrs Darling-your-wish-is-my-command?? When you love him stupidly, he will act like a fool to please you. TRUST ME! There's a time to stand your ground and 80 percent of the time, is NOT the right time.
Mehn I don tire talk

dayokanu: Put yourself in the husbands shoes, Assuming you were cheating and you hear your husband is around, Would it take you 30mins to open the door?

Danka7777: A man can cheat on his wife and still go home and be a fabulous father; respects his wife, makes her happy, provides for the kids, does everything that is required of him as a father and as a husband. Most men are like this I can tell you, they only cheat because they want to put in their phallic symbol in a different hole size but also doesn't want emotional connection with this partner or mistress, just flesh satisfaction. After he has done this, he comes back home, guess what? He still loves you and not the woman he is sleeping with.

To the contrary, when a woman cheats, she is giving all her soul and body to this new partner. In most instances, she is in love with this new partner. If this new partner tells her to get rid of you, most likely she will do it. Why? Because when a woman loves, she will do anything and not think about what she is doing until she's hurt. So my point is women who find themselves in this situation often apply women way of thinking or loving to their husband's infidelity. He is cheating so he must have giving his soul and love to this woman. The answer is NO. Men don't think like you women do.

So my advise to you is, since this man is still a good husband and father, don't rush to get rid of him as many here are advising. If you get rid of him, do you think you can find someone else that will take you with your kids and pregnancy? I can tell you, you will not. It may be just a fling thing but his love and soul is still with you and the kids. Many men do this and still come home and love their family and be great fathers and husbands!