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Cheating is not only a man's game. Women cheat too and even better.

Do women cheat as much as men?

For thousands of years, the prevailing belief is that men cheat more than women. It has been ingrained in our thought patterns by literature, music, TV and the society we live in. Men are portrayed as sex-hungry animals who are always on the hunt for it.

This notion is quickly changing as more women are coming out to say cheating is natural to them too.
We hear more stories of men cheating because women tend to be more expressive about things such as love and relationships. They value the sanctity of a relationship more than men.

So when a boyfriend or a husband cheats, the agony from a woman will spill from her fingers and lips. She will tell her friends and share/tweet/retweet clues that the exclusivity of her relationship has been broken.

Women don't cheat and the ones who do are whores. This is what old men have fed young men and boys for centuries and this foolish belief still runs till today.

It's because of this thinking that men crash and burn when they get cheated on. Their world goes up in smoke. They just can't believe their little angel stepped outside to have sex. It is against everything that they have known.

Forget the bubble you are in, men in relationships get cheated on a lot. One of the reasons why we don't hear these stories on social media platforms is because men internalise pain. We are not as expressive as women.

Another reason is that most men don't know they are being cheated on. Women have been conditioned to look for cheating clues because they have been brought up to believe that all men cheat. Men do not see these clues because we have been taught the opposite.


When a man gets cheated on, he tells a few of his boys, internalises the pain till he gets over it. It's rare to see a guy rant on social media when this happens. Also, coming out to say your girl cheated on takes away the perception that your masculinity is potent and strong.

Men and women have the same sexual urges. Family upbringing and societal conditioning have clouded this fact. The way a man deals with cheating is different from a woman's response.

Women cheat like men. This is not an alternative fact. This is the truth but it is going to take a pretty long time before it is universally accepted.

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I have noticed that a lot of guys (on NL) hardly ever think a man can go wrong in a relationship. For instance, if someone created a thread that his girlfriend cheated on him, guys are quick to insult her and tell him to move on and if a girl creates a thread that a guy cheated on her, most of the guys will probably say that maybe she just wasn't good enough or use the same old "men are polygamous by nature" myth. A relationship will never be happy and healthy if you think its all about making the man happy.

A lot of guys tend to say women don't know what they want, but have you actually sit down to talk to your woman to know what she wants? Just because your grandfather told you that your grandmother liked A,B,C doesn't mean every other woman Goes with the same list. The biggest problem with guys (especially the NL ones) is that they don't take time to know what a woman wants and how she wants it. For instance, guys complain that most girls aren't adventurous, remember we all have different personalities and react to things differently (just because you like watching cage fighting it doesn't mean your woman has to like it too) take time to know what your woman likes. Don't be the boring guys who expects his woman to love playing FIFA while you don't even attempt to do anything she enjoys the most with her.

Most guys would rather leave a relationship when things get tough rather than fixing it. Most guys believe that once they betray a woman's trust and she forgives him, it means that everything just goes back to normal at the snap of a finger, but that is never the case. You take time to build that trust again, your actions will determine if you are worthy of being trusted again. Don't do anything stupid that you know will jeopardize your relationship and expect everything to go back to normal simply because you apologized for your silly actions. it has to go beyond a mere apology, your actions have to prove it too.

Every woman has her own likes and dislikes. The biggest mistake you can make is assuming that what you did for an ex will simply work on any other woman. This is the reason why i believe you have to know your woman before you decide to date. Drop that, "if i don't ask her now another guy will do it before me" mentality, a sensible person worth keeping wouldn't just jump into a relationship with someone she hardly knows. Whats the point of rushing into a relationship and then come back on NL making noise about how difficult women are. Who told you to rush into a relationship with someone you don't know. Don't assume all women want the same things and the same treatment. We differ

you would rather talk about your partner. this is the most immature thing that a lot of guys do, if you woman cant make your favorite dish the way you like it, instead of talking to her about it you would rather go tell your friends how much of a bad cook she is. If you know how to make it better why don't you spend that saturday weekend with her showing her where she is going wrong instead of talking about it to your friends sunday to sunday, which never resolves anything. Same thing goes with sex, if she just lies there like rotten wood, why don't you start telling her want you would want her to do. Stop going to your uncles weekend after weekend asking him for advice, he isn't the woman you are being intimate with, he cant possibly know how she likes it. If you think he knows best,maybe you should consider dating him instead you can make suggestions during the act or better yet if you are comfortable with it, have a day you will sit down and talk about what you really want when you making love. Some of you may even be surprised that the reason why she never puts energy into it is because you will just be wasting her time, you never attempt to please her.

being pretentious will not do any good in a relationship. lying about your financial status, occupation or your background will only damage your relationship. Don't go on dates you cant afford simply because you want to please a woman, because once you start big she will be expecting that you maintain the same standards. If you know your are just an ordinary clerk dont try and make it sound like something else big and fancy, because the day she figures how fake you are, she will leave you faster than you can say her first name. Let a girl fall in love with you, not some cooked up guy you wish you were.

As much as you think you are the captain of the ship, a relationship still requires effort from both parties. Its not just about a woman pleasing her man, but its about both parties pleasing each other