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Women Are Not Always The Problem In Relationships by Lyricallly: 9:19pm On Sep 25, 2016
I have noticed that a lot of guys (on NL) hardly ever think a man can go wrong in a relationship. For instance, if someone created a thread that his girlfriend cheated on him, guys are quick to insult her and tell him to move on and if a girl creates a thread that a guy cheated on her, most of the guys will probably say that maybe she just wasn't good enough or use the same old "men are polygamous by nature" myth. A relationship will never be happy and healthy if you think its all about making the man happy.

A lot of guys tend to say women don't know what they want, but have you actually sit down to talk to your woman to know what she wants? Just because your grandfather told you that your grandmother liked A,B,C doesn't mean every other woman Goes with the same list. The biggest problem with guys (especially the NL ones) is that they don't take time to know what a woman wants and how she wants it. For instance, guys complain that most girls aren't adventurous, remember we all have different personalities and react to things differently (just because you like watching cage fighting it doesn't mean your woman has to like it too) take time to know what your woman likes. Don't be the boring guys who expects his woman to love playing FIFA while you don't even attempt to do anything she enjoys the most with her.

Most guys would rather leave a relationship when things get tough rather than fixing it. Most guys believe that once they betray a woman's trust and she forgives him, it means that everything just goes back to normal at the snap of a finger, but that is never the case. You take time to build that trust again, your actions will determine if you are worthy of being trusted again. Don't do anything stupid that you know will jeopardize your relationship and expect everything to go back to normal simply because you apologized for your silly actions. it has to go beyond a mere apology, your actions have to prove it too.

Every woman has her own likes and dislikes. The biggest mistake you can make is assuming that what you did for an ex will simply work on any other woman. This is the reason why i believe you have to know your woman before you decide to date. Drop that, "if i don't ask her now another guy will do it before me" mentality, a sensible person worth keeping wouldn't just jump into a relationship with someone she hardly knows. Whats the point of rushing into a relationship and then come back on NL making noise about how difficult women are. Who told you to rush into a relationship with someone you don't know. Don't assume all women want the same things and the same treatment. We differ

you would rather talk about your partner. this is the most immature thing that a lot of guys do, if you woman cant make your favorite dish the way you like it, instead of talking to her about it you would rather go tell your friends how much of a bad cook she is. If you know how to make it better why don't you spend that saturday weekend with her showing her where she is going wrong instead of talking about it to your friends sunday to sunday, which never resolves anything. Same thing goes with sex, if she just lies there like rotten wood, why don't you start telling her want you would want her to do. Stop going to your uncles weekend after weekend asking him for advice, he isn't the woman you are being intimate with, he cant possibly know how she likes it. If you think he knows best,maybe you should consider dating him instead undecided you can make suggestions during the act or better yet if you are comfortable with it, have a day you will sit down and talk about what you really want when you making love. Some of you may even be surprised that the reason why she never puts energy into it is because you will just be wasting her time, you never attempt to please her.

being pretentious will not do any good in a relationship. lying about your financial status, occupation or your background will only damage your relationship. Don't go on dates you cant afford simply because you want to please a woman, because once you start big she will be expecting that you maintain the same standards. If you know your are just an ordinary clerk dont try and make it sound like something else big and fancy, because the day she figures how fake you are, she will leave you faster than you can say her first name. Let a girl fall in love with you, not some cooked up guy you wish you were.

As much as you think you are the captain of the ship, a relationship still requires effort from both parties. Its not just about a woman pleasing her man, but its about both parties pleasing each other

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Re: Women Are Not Always The Problem In Relationships by ucsparks: 9:23pm On Sep 25, 2016
Please write a novel already and stop wasting your talent undecided

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Re: Women Are Not Always The Problem In Relationships by arthurshelly: 9:58pm On Sep 25, 2016
ucsparks:
Please write a novel already and stop wasting your talent undecided
Better

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Re: Women Are Not Always The Problem In Relationships by Nobody: 10:18pm On Sep 25, 2016
Lol. I think the lesson is clear..dare to be different from ur fellow girls.

I put a challenge up to you henceforth. Read thru d relationship issues on NL and you'll notice when a problem arise in a relationship...

A guy states d things he's been doing and wonder if he's not been doing enough that would make her girl cheat

A girl instead would not state any reason definitely bcus they knw they don't have a reason and if they ever state one, its never what they do or contribute to d relatnship but instead their reasons always border on how the guy's best isn't enough for them

Maturity is measured by how much what u do is more than what u expect from ur partner. And an average nigerian girl expects almost all d sacrifices coming from the man. Yet he hardly gets compensated. How would he not complain when she starts misbehaving.

B4 a problem would come from d guy in a reltionship, I'm sure the lady(not girl) would be well around 30yrs of mature age

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Re: Women Are Not Always The Problem In Relationships by Originalsly: 10:41pm On Sep 25, 2016
Op..although most of what you say is true.... you cannot change the spots of the leopard... that is the nature of guys!... don't waste time trying to get us to see things the same way a woman does..... after all... women are from Venus and Men are from Mars.. we are wired differently. Doesn't mean we can't compromise... meet you halfway...well to be truthful... almost halfway.. on a good day. And that is the problem with women...trying to change and hoping men would change. ..on the surface yes we would...... sometimes. There is a good reason why we are labeled dogs... but at the same time never forget some dogs are good and some are ehmmm...not so good! ..which do you have?...just curious.
Re: Women Are Not Always The Problem In Relationships by mzhorlah(f): 10:49pm On Sep 25, 2016
Nyce job O
Re: Women Are Not Always The Problem In Relationships by ableguy(m): 11:37pm On Sep 25, 2016
Here to learn
Re: Women Are Not Always The Problem In Relationships by Lyricallly: 8:21pm On Sep 28, 2016
ableguy:
Here to learn
enjoy

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Re: Women Are Not Always The Problem In Relationships by Lyricallly: 8:22pm On Sep 28, 2016
mzhorlah:
Nyce job O
Thanks beautiful

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