₦airaland Forum

Mariangeles:
Start by helping her get the kids ready for school.
Your wife is not crazy, she's overwhelmed.

Is that so hard to understand?

Speaking rudely to a stranger. Do you guys even have manner at all? Always gender wars

JuanDeDios:
So if your neighbour invades your house and starts killing your sons and raping your daughters, you'd "give up"? Smh.

He was warned several times before it got to that stage but Zele is too stubborn to heed the warning.

franchasng:
While Putin is busy wasting the lives of Russian young school leavers



To me it's better to see 60yrs old plus men whose age mates started the war to fight the war their mates started than waste the lives of innocent young school leavers

It is like this one didn't see the exchange of corpse between Russia and Ukraine. The figures are not even close

mightyhaze:
120k at the very least. 30k weekly.. at the very very least.. because it's expected that the person should be able to augment for himself one way or the other. No be say e reach

How much are the parents themselves earning? If they now have more than one child in school, where would they be getting 240k or 360k pocket money for the children monthly? That's aside tuition fees, text books, accommodation, clothes plus their own living expenses

writetopoker:
Once I see bead on your waist or leg, I see the lady as a prostitute using bead as an advert

Lol. Not me wey grew up seeing my old woman wearing beads 24/7 for years. Most of her arms and upper body were also full of tattoos right from when she was infant, absolute work of art. She died last month end at the age of 85.
Today, my wife is wearing beads for me

I love it, it enhances their feminine outlook.

influenz:
My wife and I had some misunderstanding that resulted in heated arguments.

With the intervention of some elders, the issue was sort of resolved. However, weeks later, I observed that my wife changed the way she saved my number on her phone from "Hubby" to "Dele - Airtel" (not real name, but something like this - assuming I worked in Airtel).

I am thinking of parting ways with her, but children are involved.

Laughing.
Talk to her, be the initiator of heartfelt dialogue. Communication is the key, express your feelings and hear what she too has to say.

Sonnobax15:

Op,the truth is that, checking each other's phones especially couples or would-be couples is a nice thing,but it's only advisable to those who have strong hearts

So, make husband and wife dey cheat dey go under each other's nose is a better alternative? Hehe!

muyico:
So you checking your wife phone?? Oun oju wa, loju ri, stay away from your wife phone!

He shouldn't handle his wife's phone and his wife shouldn't handle his phone as well, right? No take this mentality enter marriage o, don't give room for 100% privacy in marriage dear friend

Sheu tried so hard to explain a situation in a very complex way as opposed to Adesina simple explanation.

omoredia:
APC is fully a yoruba party. See life. Hehe local will always be local

Thank you Mr Foreign
APC is for SW, SS, SE, NE, NW and NC. The representation is now more balanced than ever!

Na so former largest political party in Africa dies off, so sad. Atiku killed PDP when he arrogantly ignored Wike to choose Okowa as VP.

Hhh4444:
Omo good for you,me don comot body. I no want know who is worth it or not.

I'm a giver in my own capacity. Even on Facebook, I have come across some people when I was moved emotionally by their narration and some later turned out to be scammers but life goes on.
Last month, I had an occasion and like four guys came through for me to the tune of 100k without asking for anything from them. Such gestures fuel one's willingness to give too

NwaliE01:
If our African men would go abroad and suddenly learn tolerance, then we should learn it at home.

It's not the imperfections that makes "men" abusive, it's the system.

Had it been we have a good working system, we wouldn't be having this conversation.

I don't dispute all that you said above here, totally agreed. My point is most of us grew up in this kind of environment where beating kids and shouting at each other is like norm, even when people argue or debate, you see them shouting on top of their voice. When our people travel out, their new environment eventually change them, it is simple
So, what is the way out for we that still live here? Education, re-orientation and patience and tolerance in as much as violence is not in the picture. Outright cancellation of wedding by MIL was a bit of overkill unless it was a repeated offence after several cautions

Karleb:
Don't mind those fools . If no be nigeria wey don turn something else. How much does it takes to set up a self-contained with those?

In 2013, 500k would cover everything. When a dollar was like N200.

I am really angry some people are used to poverty. This are not even luxuries, they are essentials.

You posted that word your post still scaled through and standing? Anyway, na your gender said it

Esthered:
Where shold they stay?

A lady working in Lagos and earns well but her parents live in Ikorudu while she works at CBD should not rent closer to her workplace because she wants to be marriageable. Is aunty saying she should sleep under bridge or live in a dipilated house to be marriageable? Aunty doesn't know what a good interior does to one's mental health as a home is a place of relaxation and not TURMOIL.

My sister just bought a washing machine last month and doing her Masters while working and we've always known that laundry is a chore for her. She was squatting with an aunt but needed more space for herself which we deliberated from a place of concern in terms of security and NEVER marriage.

Pay attention to the ladies doing well here, you'll see that they achieved a level of comfort before saying I do and it raises their standard to seek for the best for themselves. If a lady who wasn't born a nepo works hard and is becoming something, the guy that wants her should also be working hard to be deserving of such woman as she too knows the value she has added and is adding to herself for a better tomorrow.

I agree with you because all men are shouting that they don't want liability as wife, so they shouldn't feel being intimidated by a working class lady living comfortably on her own. You know she is definitely bringing something to the table like men want

Samantha125:
Okay, then I guess the lady is free to ask another man who's willing to buy her something to eat then.

What's the purpose of her working and getting tired then if she still needs to beg random men for food before she could eat? Do you women even have self worth for supporting behaviours like this? Shameful behaviour

Chubhie:
What if she's genuinely hungry? How much be the food sef? If you truly love someone, you should only seek out the absence of pain and stress in their live. That we're discussing this shows how decadent humanity don become. I also understand drawing a redline against abuse of such good heart. Even in war, using hunger as a weapon is war crime against humanity how much in love?

Yes, she was genuinely hungry, that's why she needed food. But she was hungry after she came home tired from the day's work. What work? The one that's fetching her money. U get my drift here?
If she works so much and get tired, why would she still be begging for food? Is that not why she travelled abroad and working her ass off.
Then you asked how much that the man couldn't afford? How much that she couldn't afford to feed herself? 24 hours relationship!

BeginsAtHome:
Which yeye court order

Has the judiciary not made sufficient mockery of themselves already

Make Dem go enforce their order naw!!!

It is not for them to enforce orders, it is up to you, Nigerians to turn your country into jungles and laughing stock to the rest of the world

Emmy000seun:
Lol ..I don't blame them at all, I blame d judiciary for coming so low that even just their order is not a threat to politician or well connected person in d country. .imagine because d wife is working with the air force that's a yastic to ignore or disobey court order.. anyways someone has said naija is a jungle 😂😂..the husband too is a politically exposed elite..he should regroup and restrategize.. after all naija is been run like mafians or cult like society now...d most rogged and connected go with it all without checkmating

What are you blaming the judiciary for? Are they the ones who should prevent police, soldiers, politicians and other big Nigerians from disobeying court orders?

Hhh4444:
Lol....Una still dey dash people money? Lessons will have to be learnt in a hard way sometimes.

We shouldn't stop lending a helping hand to people, we just need to learn and know who to avoid

olaniyilukman:
don't judge bro, the other guy might have done something more tangible financially than that before

There are better ways he could have shown his displeasure. But I don't even think you assumed correctly because he said he had apologised before for similar behaviour

tunapawizzy:
it will go round. If they tell u dont vote for a party or people wey dun govern u and did not improve your life in the past, you will be the first to shout NO STRUCTURE , i no fit vote for who no get structure, u dun vote structure, Now Structure dun dey charge u 125k for certificate
You people will vote parties that have failed you in the past, then come online to cry that EKSU is charging you 125k for certificate.
Do you want EKSU VC or registrar to use their own money to run the university
Your governor is busy using your money to buld his political structure, instead of funding education, health and other things
APC dun fail you, PDP dun fail you, if they conduct election tomorrow na APC and PDP go still be first and second - if ur tuition come reach 1million naira, u go dey shout VC name

This one is seeing political parties and not human beings
Who are the people in LP or NNPP or ADC who haven't govern you before? Obi? Atiku? Aregbe? Amaechi? My friend, go back to sleep

I think students and graduates from that school should get the national assembly involved

iwaeda:
Hope NELFUND payment will extends to certificate collection, so that they will complete the cycle.

It will still be a loan

NwaliE01:
The mother did the best thing. As a parent, my kids are so precious to me and I can't stand any man maltreating them not even at my presence.

I guess your kids are so perfect and complete that their partners won't have anything to tolerate about them, right?

Goldeno:
Lucky lady, her mom just saved her from years of psychological, physical and emotional torture.

The man is a beast and should be neutered and prevented from marrying,

Really? On top yelling which is almost like normal in many African societies.

Fiscus105:
I guess the mother has the right, to put her daughter's head into furnace. The furnace that she herself already knew it's BURNING.


If the mother allows the wedding to go through, and the husband butchers the wife after 3 months into wedding, you would also be the first to condemn her mother's negligence.

Yelling or shouting isn't enough project all that fear and imagination. What happens to correction?

illicit:
I dislike people that can't use correct pronouns

It could be typo error since the pronoun wasn't spoken but typed. Sorry, Mr correct Pronouns

femi4:
yelling is a norm

Thank you o. And with time, we learn to do away with it. When did yelling equate violence?

PlasmaTV:
The mother has no right to call off the engagement. At best, she can advise the daughter.

PS: I'm not condoning what the man did in any way. It's best it was probably called off. But the mother wasn't in her right.

MODIFIED
Una won kill me. 20+ mentions. Cos I said the mother has no right to call off an engagement.

Make una no vex.

What is best about fiance yelling at his fiancée and the mother in law appointed herself as the judge who has the right to decide that that's enough to call off the wedding? Hehe

Kastonkastroll:
Good one china. But here in Africa, because of our corruption we consume everything from the west. Even a child have access to po*n without any restriction or regulation. And all those things have serious dopamine effect.

Thats how I wanted to search for something and the next thing my server redirected me to a po*n site. Was so pissed. Watching those disgusting people even for 5seconds almost made me vomit. 🤢

Good one china. I support you 100% on this.

What's so disgusting about sex? Easy!