₦airaland Forum

HungerDey:
Las las these people will cause war in Nigeria. They shouldn’t think it’s not possible, it can happen

This has been my fear in the recent time. Even if it is not a war, it may be a serious breakdown of law and order, serious chaos that may claim many lives just like it happened in Kenya. I have never seen a government that is not ready to bear any cost of making life easier for her citizens.

givedemwotowoto:
This thread would’ve been on second page by now if a SE traditional ruler said this

The usual suspects avoid threads like this

No be u guys his supporters and friends at the moment?

madridguy:
The Kano State government, under Ganduje told them to come and take land free of charge then. Majority of them are criminals, hiding under herdsmen reason they don't want to stay where they can be seen easily.

How can you be roaming around, sleeping in bushes over cow rearing in this centuries.

I cultivated four plots of land this year but because of them, I couldn't plant maize or cassava. Even the melon that I planted instead, they still managed to destroy half of them. I'm talking about residential environment here.

His Obidient followers will roast him alive now

NoToPile:
No woman will do all of it, not willingly.


The bolded is basically what lots of Nigerian men want even a lot of male posters on this thread.

The earlier they get the reality the better.

It's only the woman contributing financially they are after, what else do some men bring apart from money.

I personally don't blame women who tow the you are the provider line. Lots of men have shown over time that the only thing they bringto a marriage is money. Money that the woman is making abi.

Then let the gender roles take its course but the men will still wail about that.


As for the OP I wish him the best in whatever he decides, but divorce or marrying a new person is not his solution.

Some things are not meant to work out or last, just put that effort and know when to quit and walk away if it doesn't work out for you. You don't have to be miserable for the rest of your life because of one stupid principle.

Maeve7:
I love how men ask for the other side of the story when a woman complains about the state of affairs in her marriage and how they don’t when a man paints his wife bad and himself completely innocent.

A lot to learn here. Next time a sister complains, my advice will be cheat and divorce, in that particular order.

Men lead, I follow. That’s the social contract, abi?

I pray she listens to your advice

Treasure17:
Good luck to you.

Lol. More like good luck to them

Tinubu:
May his Gentle soul rest

This is one death of someone who isn't my relation that actually made me cry

Such a brilliant and extremely promising person gone just like that...This guy was legit on his way to being one of the top four automobile dealers/Mechs in naija

This guy gave me free advice when I wanted to buy my first car in 2018, and also set me up with a buyer of a car I posted for sale here, all without requesting or collecting a dime...

I detested after market CNG installations in vehicles, of which he was a very strong advocate for. And I never wasted any opportunity to put it to him with all my muscle, while sometimes attacking his person inadvertently in the process..

But he never reciprocated the insults, and instead took pains to explain to me his position and at most, ignored me and my bad bele. He was very focused and also very peaceful...

May God give his family the fortitude to bear this very painful loss...

I was remembering his enthusiasm about CNG conversion thing before I saw your post. He was even updating people here about his trial. May his soul rest in peace

StPete:
This government is funny!

Just when Dangote refinery starts working, they increased fuel price.
Later they will reduce the price back to N600 and claim the Government forced Dangote to sell at reduced price so they can claim the glory .

We will be happy if they allow him to sell at that price as long as he's going to make profit on it. They can claim the glory, no one cares about that. Who would have thought that petrol would sell for 1200 naira per litre this evening today?

cococandy:
Of course I know you don’t mean me

Also I’ve never seen anyone who’s cleaning bathrooms (also known as janitors) in the west come online to brag about it. It’s usually Nigerians in Nigeria who are often doing the currency conversions and making these comparisons on the internet. Unprompted if I may add.

Normally such people in those jobs know it’s a temporary fix to serve as a stepping stone onto the next things they want to do.

And why the use of the term packing shit? do you think people just shit on the floor for the janitors to come clean up? When there’s a working toilet/s and functional plumbing?

Sometimes, people mess up public facilities really bad but I don't know if is intentional or just by accident. So, while it is basically washing and flushing, occasional little packing can't be ruled out.
And yeah, for some people who are ambitious, it is a temporary fix.

Even your choice of words tell a lot.

Can't say I wasn't having fun talking about this topic, you got me right there.

erico2k2:
Bro for educational post sake, Do you know what a Bio hazard cleaner do?
You lot are here talking about toilet cleaner, what about sewage cleaners?

For educational post sake, you said. Personally, I would rate those two higher above toilet cleaners in term of respect if you know what I mean. My point is that if toilet cleaner abroad makes 10 million naira per month, I don't envy him or her because I know that I can't do it

erico2k2:
This is what I found out with 9ja banks

Jaiz Bank loaned me 1.5 million naira in 2021 for a start and I paid back without defaulting for a second once. I was looking forward to 5 million naira loan again telling myself that I did good with the first one repayment but nothing came, they didn't approve a kobo. Now, I learnt that they are having trouble collecting back all the big sums that they gave to big men and that's now affecting their customers who need smaller amounts of loan from them.

cococandy:
So why are such jobs not insulting in the Nigerian society but y’all consider it insulting abroad?

It is in Nigeria too. But why packing shiit and still brag with it just because you're being paid handsomely? We all know that you wouldn't be doing it if you have options.
By "you", I don't mean you

erico2k2:
My last count, I spent nearly N80M to build my house, all paid upfront.But here is the twist, if the banks in Nigeria notice you have few millions in ur account they will ofer you juicy loaans.

They loan big money to big men even without collateral

johnog4sure:
Abi oh, because even when you do, they will still say you didn't do, so is it not safer not to do, atleast you will be alive healthy to tell the true story to your kids. 50k just enter my acct now, I dey delete the credit alert and this will be my first test if I can really be selfish!

Be selfish with saving up and not spending every naira that comes into your accounts. No matter the amount you are spending daily on basic stuff, it will never be enough.

Love800:
As a rich man living in the midst of poor, broke, depress people, do you think you the rich is safe!

Lol. Your submission is logical but why haven't we seen our rich people and politicians relocating abroad? They only travel abroad to relax and come back, just the same way white people travel abroad for tourism and the likes.

You cant be sane in the midst of insanes. What are my trying to say. if with your wealth and you are living with poverty neighbors, my dear, you are poor also.

How does this philosophical statement affect Dangote, Otedola or Ned Nwoko or Bart Nnanji? You made it looks like there are no poor or homeless people abroad. Yearly violent deaths figure is even higher in USA than Nigeria

Treasure17:
You didn't see that part where he clearly stated he has been married for two years?

I saw it and that's why I said that he should sort out his present shiit first.

Meaning he left his ex before he met his now wife. So you don't expect the ex not to have dated someone else after the guy left her.

And what is the problem there if both of them realise that they are not happy in their present relationships and decide to end it and come back together again?

MaxNdu:
Don't be quick to condemn the actions of the South African Embassy until you hear the full story as I do not trust the competence of the Nigeria Basketball Federation. We need to know if they did the visa applications and all other necessaries on-time and not the usual Fire-Brigade and haphazard approach. After then, we can chew the SA Embassy. As we all know that SA will look for the smallest excuse to deny Nigeria such thing .

Why would you think it is good and appropriate for you to justify SA looking for smallest excuse to deny Nigeria? When someone is hell bent on finding your fault to deal with you, no matter how careful you are, they will find it.

vanbonattel:
You think they are not reading all the propaganda you are heaping on yourselves?

They may probably be afraid of drug dealers, bandits and rituists getting into their country.

You are even doing worse by making this comment justifying SA action when no explanation has been given

fuckingAyaya:
Omo them supposed blow off ur head with KALA for complaining, They warned you for good 8years but you called them wailers now u complaining. Abi them don comot you for 30k payroll? You brain don dey align together?

Because he voted for Tinubu, right? You had a better candidate?

Do they really see how Kenyans reacted at all?

jmoore:


Tinubu is a weapon fashioned against Nigeria.

We love Tinubu

Babablu bulabu


Peter Obi must be dealt with.

Voting for Tinubu wasn't about Obi or Atiku, get over your election loss. Politics/election is over, let's talk about governance

Shawarmagirl:
Can you compare the benefits the person enjoys than that of the manager?

I'm not impressed by the supposed benefits. A dignify job that makes me live fairly comfortable is enough. I can never feel fulfilled working as a shiit packer abroad with all the benefits

cococandy:
Is there any category of people who are destined for those jobs? It may not be your choice understandable but what’s denigrating about it?

Denigrating jobs should be things that are illegal. Any honest work shouldn’t be considered denigrating.
Do public bathrooms in Nigeria not have cleaners? Do you guys just let your public bathrooms deteriorate?

It is an honest way of making a living, no doubt. But let's talk about what you have to put up with concerning such jobs. It is not for a fainted heart.

What the issue with Nigerians abroad doing such work?

There is no any issue with them, they just have to do it because that's the choice they have. If they have options to chose from, packing shiit wouldn't be their choice

erico2k2:
Debt is the way the world works, have you not seen it?
All developed countries are in Debt, but Nigeria is in debt yet we are not remotely developed.
Its such a bad idea for one to pay upfront for their car when they can invest tha money in something that will bring money. However if buying a 90K car is ur cup of tea so be it, like that guy said if you like drive a lambo or a roly no one cares here.

Honestly speaking, this is one of the aspects where I rate Nigeria system very low. Things like car loans, mortgage, student loans, etc would have made many Nigerians grow economically and financially more than what we have at the moment.
Using 20 million naira to build a house when mortgage with little interest would do the job and invest such money to make more money

Notfogotten:
You won't even see it. Because competition for it is too high.

Toor!! I'm happy here in the meantime. We will survive Tinubu and breath again

cococandy:
Well one of my CNAs at work used to be a bank manager in nigeria too. She didn’t have a choice as a new immigrant without support to do what you’d consider low wage job as a CNA. Now she’s done with nursing school and passed her Nclex. I’ll be orienting her if she’s lucky to get into the unit where she formerly worked as CNA. This woman is more than 10 years my senior. And she worked with “kids” who probably 20 years her junior as colleagues. You’ll never hear anything negative from her or about her behavior. I know a typical Nigerian madam can’t do that. Or a Nigerian oga.

There’s nothing wrong with a little humility because you’ll go a long way. She already has her eyes on advanced practice education as soon as she gains experience.
Meanwhile her former bank has been bought over in the time she was here and few other managers who worked with her have to be laid off.

I’m not saying everyone has to emigrate but she must have had her reason and I bet she’s glad she did. One thing that must pass is time. If you don’t like where you are, go for the next thing. Even if it requires a few months or years of discomfort to achieve the end goal. She didn’t let the fear of temporarily doing a low wage job stop her.

That doesn't mean shiit for those who don't plan to serve the system forever but already have their sight on how they want to be their own boss. My brother was laid off some years back during Soludo I guess, today he's far better serving himself.
Sometimes, our choices make or mar us. Imagine a professor migrating from India to Canada, only to be reduced to cab driver because there their education system wouldn't absorb him. Choices!

Treasure17:
Your babe turned wife that was sexually active during your dating period now develop hatred for sex. It could only mean one thing but I hope you don't get to finds out. At this point she's bigger than you and also probably taken care of your responsibilities which is in itself a dangerous part. I pray you get a better job better than hers cause of not there's going to be a world war in that house. When a woman thinks she's bigger than you , she will look up to someone bigger than her. A woman is a woman. Your ex shouldn't really be an option though.

Why not when we nobody has asked him why she became his ex? The question is, what does he stand to gain from going back to the ex? If it worth it, he only need to sort out his present shit

johnog4sure:
Thank you, your story really helped me, I am also contemplating divorce right now, and my story is similar to yours, I invested heavily in my wife's business yet she looked into my eyes and said "YOUR MONEY IS NOT IN MY SHOP" I dated her for 5 years married her and had a kid, yet this happened, my friend in London I just spoke to is having similar problem, your advice won't work, and yes people change even in science it is believed that every 7 years you are no longer the same person you used to be seven years earlier.

My own advice is that MEN BE SELFISH(put yourself first and sometimes yourself alone, ignore wife ignore children they all will be fine even without you) I know it is hard for good men to take this advice, even me I am struggling to take my own advice

True gospel, preach it. Right now, I'm saving up like never before despite the Tinubu's harshy economic policy. Everyone around me just has to bear it for a while

Successtube:
I never imagined I’d be contemplating divorce, but here I am. I want to marry my ex. I want a fresh start, a chance to feel loved again. I don’t know if I can continue in a marriage where I feel more like a burden than a partner. Maybe it’s time to face the harsh truth: some people change, and some people never really were who they claimed to be. Maybe it’s time for me to choose my own happiness, to take a leap and start over.

Don't make the same mistake I made. Study your partner thoroughly before to married, don't rush!

I hope you have the courage to do the needful before it becomes too difficult to get out. Don't let what the family and friends will say about you stop you from doing what's necessary. And don't let them pressure you, people like me are solidly built to wade off pressure from family and friends

CyrusVI:


What if the Ex turns out to be a replica of your wife after your marriage to her



Going by the kinda stories i read online from wailing men(the are more sob stories from men than we have from women)Its good to assume there are no good women out there anymore.


I know its a ridiculous dedcution but how do you explain getting wedded to what u know, only to start seeing you're married to what u dont know?

Don't let "what if" ever hold you back!

mikeapollo:
Would you say the same thing if it were Oando or Wale Tinubu that was mentioned to own the vessel?

Because I get sense, that's why I would say the same thing. Everything shouldn't analysed using politics. I voted for Tinubu if you care to know