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This new kdp policy for Nigerians to update their tax info.

How should we go about it?

This one don drink ogogoro again.
" All riverine areas of igboland is ijaw"


Na so una do reach akwa ibom....akwa ibom people come serve una breakfast.

Toruibestate:
It is the Yoruba.

Nigeria’s four largest tribes remain: Hausa, Yoruba, Igbo, and Ijaw.

The Ijaw have what Nigeria feeds on — the crude oil that sustains the nation, stretching from the Ijaws of Apoi, Arogbo and Furupagha in Ondo to the Ijaws of Ibeno and Ibaka in Akwa Ibom.



The Hausa have the population strength to dominate nearly every ministry and political structure across Nigeria.

The Igbo, on the other hand, have always had a strong voice — one that has never truly aligned with Nigeria since independence. Their persistent agitation could end Nigeria if they had both the population and political influence of the Hausa or Yoruba. But power in Nigeria flows differently: whenever the North considers handing leadership to the South, it usually goes to the Yoruba — not because of merit alone, but because of fear of the Igbo.


To those plotting coups or seeking to disrupt the state, stop it.
Such actions would only scatter the fragile unity that remains — birthing the Arewa Republic, Biafra Republic, Ijaw Republic, Oduduwa Republic, and others with no shared foundation.


The Hausas are weary of those who live differently from them.
The Igbos are weary of the Hausas.
Every group is searching for an exit — except the Yoruba, who, for now, are the only tribe still holding Nigeria together.



@Ditari of Ijaw

Once I saw the heading of his trend, without opening the trend I knew it's this nairaland nuisances that will be the O.P of the trend.


Check it out this trend

https://www.nairaland.com/8366811/ijaw-man-made-governor-out#134507104

Toruibestate:
It is the Yoruba.

Nigeria’s four largest tribes remain: Hausa, Yoruba, Igbo, and Ijaw.

The Ijaw have what Nigeria feeds on — the crude oil that sustains the nation, stretching from the Ijaws of Apoi, Arogbo and Furupagha in Ondo to the Ijaws of Ibeno and Ibaka in Akwa Ibom.

The Hausa have the population strength to dominate nearly every ministry and political structure across Nigeria.

The Igbo, on the other hand, have always had a strong voice — one that has never truly aligned with Nigeria since independence. Their persistent agitation could end Nigeria if they had both the population and political influence of the Hausa or Yoruba. But power in Nigeria flows differently: whenever the North considers handing leadership to the South, it usually goes to the Yoruba — not because of merit alone, but because of fear of the Igbo.


To those plotting coups or seeking to disrupt the state, stop it.
Such actions would only scatter the fragile unity that remains — birthing the Arewa Republic, Biafra Republic, Ijaw Republic, Oduduwa Republic, and others with no shared foundation.


The Hausas are weary of those who live differently from them.
The Igbos are weary of the Hausas.
Every group is searching for an exit — except the Yoruba, who, for now, are the only tribe still holding Nigeria together.



@Ditari of Ijaw

Once I saw the heading of his trend, without opening the trend I knew it's this nairaland nuisances that will be the O.P of the trend.


Check out this trend

https://www.nairaland.com/8366811/ijaw-man-made-governor-out#134507104

Mrdealer4all:
This is the worst mistake I made by staying with my foolish younger sister and her husband in search of greener pasture because they have money.
Her husband treated me like slave and house boy.
The husband senior me with just 7 months will be talking to me like a child because life favour him...
Throughout my stay with them , they never treat me like in law or family member.
I was indoor throughout my stay with them..
Imagine staying with your in law for the first time after getting married to your younger sister for years and being treated like trash or nobody.
It is well.
Who go help you no go stress you.

Why dem no go treat person wey dey fine OS joint for PH like that.?
Use that strength u use dey fine olosho, fine good job...and see ur condition turn around.

Me done tire for this motivational talks. Some time dem go just do like say they thing go start tomorrow....and then ...NEPA go take light.

Big big post with no office or portfolio.

Five years project.... nearly 4 years don pass

*"I Lost My Husband the Day We Arrived In Canada."*

That was what I told my mother when she asked why I hadn’t called to tell her we had settled in.

It wasn’t that he had died—no, death would have been easier.

He was right there, breathing, moving, eating.

But the man I married, the one who promised to love and cherish me, had disappeared the moment we stepped foot on the foreign soil.

It had always been our dream to relocate.

Canada was the promised land, a place where we could build a better life for ourselves and our children.

We spent years saving, applying, and praying for this moment.

When my husband, Tunde, finally secured his visa, we celebrated like we had won the lottery.

"This is it, Lara! We’ve made it!" he had said, lifting me in his arms as we danced around our tiny living room in Lagos.

But no one warned me.

No one told me that moving abroad was not just about packing bags and boarding a plane.

No one told me that marriages were buried in the cold foreign soil, that the man you married in Nigeria could become unrecognizable within months.

It started with little things.

At first, Tunde was frustrated.

Back home, he had been an executive at a bank, respected, and admired.

But in Canada, no one cared about his title.

His degree meant nothing here.

He was just another immigrant with no "Canadian experience."

"I can't be doing these menial jobs, Lara.

Me, a whole branch manager, working in a warehouse? It’s embarrassing."

So he sat at home, waiting for a miracle, while I took the first job I could find—cleaning offices at night.

I worked like a machine, scrubbing floors while my husband scrolled endlessly through job postings, rejecting anything he thought was beneath him.

Then the blame started.

"If you had just stayed home instead of insisting on coming here, we wouldn’t be suffering like this!"

"You think you’re better than me now because you’re earning in dollars?"

When he wasn’t blaming me, he was out.

At first, he said he was networking, meeting with "contacts."

Then, he stopped bothering with excuses.

He would leave the house in the afternoon and return the next morning, smelling of alcohol and cheap perfume.

The first time I asked him where he had been, he laughed.

"Are you my mother?"

The second time, he slapped me.

That was the day I realized my husband was gone.

He stopped caring about the home.

Bills were my problem.

The children became my responsibility.

He was just a guest in our house, showing up when he pleased, acting like we didn’t exist.

Then I found out about her.

A younger woman, a fellow immigrant, but one who had adapted quickly.

She had a car, a better job, and most importantly, she had no responsibilities.

No nagging wife, no crying children.

Just fun and freedom.

I confronted him, hoping—foolishly

—that he would deny it, that he would at least pretend to feel ashamed.

But he just shrugged.

"Lara, you’re stressing me.

This is how things are here.

Women abroad don’t disturb their husbands like this.

You need to adjust."

Adjust?

To what? A marriage that had become a prison?

A husband who had turned into a stranger?

I tried. For the sake of my vows, for the sake of the life we had built. I prayed. I fasted. I begged.

But you cannot hold on to a man who has already let go.

The final straw came when I found out he had stopped paying rent.

I had been sending him money every month, trusting him to take care of it while I focused on our savings.

But he had been spending it elsewhere—on her.

When the eviction notice came, he didn’t even pretend to care.

"You’re the one working, aren’t you? Fix it."

That night, I packed his bags.

When he came home, I pointed to the door.

"Leave, Tunde."

For the first time in months, he looked shocked.

"You can’t throw me out. I’m your husband!"

"No, Tunde. My husband is dead.

You killed him."

He stared at me, and for a moment, I saw something flicker in his eyes.

Regret? Shame? Maybe.

But it was too late.

He left. And I didn’t cry.

Because I had already mourned him long before that night.

So, if you ever dream of relocating, dream carefully.

Because sometimes, the plane ticket isn’t just taking you to a new country—it’s taking your marriage to its grave.

Looking back, I realize that things might have turned out differently if we had truly prepared for what relocation would mean for our marriage.

First, Tunde needed to be mentally prepared for the reality of starting over.

Many Nigerian men struggle abroad because they are used to a system where their status as providers is tied to respect.

When that status is stripped away, they feel lost and insecure.

If he had humbled himself and taken whatever job was available, even if it wasn’t what he wanted, it would have kept him engaged and given him a sense of purpose.

Second, we should have prioritized communication and teamwork.

Marriage is a partnership, especially in a new country where both partners must adjust.

If Tunde had seen me as his ally instead of his competition, we could have faced our struggles together instead of allowing resentment to build between us.

And finally, we should have set clear expectations before we moved.

Many couples relocate without discussing their roles, financial responsibilities, and the changes that might come with a new culture.

If we had talked about these things openly before leaving Nigeria, maybe we would have been able to navigate the transition better.

Relocation doesn’t have to be the death of a marriage, but it requires humility, patience, and a willingness to adapt.

Without those things, no matter how strong the love was at the beginning, the marriage may not survive the journey.

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obiekunie01:
i saw what you did with that pic.

That thing is their new lov e dey scatter their brain like kilode!

now 60% of them have it! both single and married.

What's the name of that thing pls

The world deserves to know the truth.

I have lived in the UK for the about 20 years. The fear of the western women made me to return home to marry from Nigeria.

After our marriage, she was pregnant before I returned. I was trying to perfect my papers so that she can join me. I was on it but it was not working out.

She had the second child while still in Nigeria.

At some point, she was demanding that I must buy a car for her mother after I have gotten her own. Those of us who are in the UK knew that things are not easy up there, you have to work your ass out, especially trying to get papers for your family.

I didn’t know it was because of the new car she saw with my mother, meanwhile it was our first born who sent it to her.

The pressure from her was much. I couldn’t combine it with the papers I was processing but she was not understanding.

She has pleaded that I processed her late sister’s son to make 3 children, which I obliged.

The papers clicked and I came home for her. She made a statement before we left for the UK: "you refused to buy my own mum a car?". I simply told her that once we settled in the UK, we will do that.

When we got to the UK, she started misbehaving, the exact reason I decided to get a wife from home.

To cut the long story short, we began to have issues and she started thrèatening to implicate me. She eventually did. She went to the authority to reveal that child I filed for as my own does not belong to me.

It became an immigration fraud for me. Eventually I was deported, since I filed them as dependants, I was sent back home, and because we've lived in the UK together for more than 7 years, she quickly applied for private life route.

She remained in the UK with the children.

My wife told her family and mine that I was deported because of fraud.



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A woman in my compound that cook restaurant. One-day came back very late. There was no water anywhere. In order not to miss the next day business, fetch water from unhygienic hole they dug in incomplete building. Workers use the water to mix cement.
She use the water to Cook.
The funny part was that she did not allow her children to eat the food.

Hello nairalanders

I want to draw u people attention to what females are doing in our higher institutions.
I currently live in students environment close to a reputable tertiary institution in Nigeria.

When I see what young girls who live off campus do. I WEEP for their future husband.

How on earth would girls leave the rooms they rented, and go and live with their boy friend through out the years of their schooling as if they are married....IN THE NAME OF SCHOOL LIFE !
The guys will be bleeping them for FREE...

Then after graduation everybody go find their way.
THE SAME GIRL GO COME THE FORM RITCHO FOR MEN .

Man go still marry that kind girl....PAY her bride Price....carry am put for him house!

NA NOW I SEE WHY SOME OF MY FREZ SAY THEM NO GO EVER MARRY A GIRL WEY GO HIGHER INSTITUTION.

1914 map of PH from the Nigerian national archives

1915 map of Port Harcourt from National Archive

1915 map of port Harcourt from national archives .

Hello fellows

I published a new book on Amazon. Then I posted it on Facebook groups to promote it. Some foreigners started sending me friend request. Then they say they can help me boost the visibility of the book, increase the review and ratings. On a price.

My question is, are they scammers or real?
Has anyone of you encountered them before?

Kobojunkie:
If you view people in that manner, then can you definitely state that anyone can be your property then? If even that guy were to, tomorrow, find out that the girl he has been dating has chosen to abandon him for someone else, can he ever definitively state that she belonged to him for the years she was with him?

I think that is generally a psychologically immature way of reviewing persons and relationships. People with whom you are in a relationship do not, by nature of that, become your property. No! They remain individuals fully capable of making other choices at any time or point in the relationship. You, on the other hand, can only enjoy being with them for the time they choose to be with you, and accept when they leave that it is time for you to move on from them, too.

This gal is right now entangled with some other guy does not mean she is the guy's property, as she may decide to leave him for someone else soon. The same applies to you and to everyone else. It really is and can be just that simple. We complicate these things when we think our identities should be tied to those we are in a relationship with and what they stand for, only for us to feel our whole world has been crushed when they eventually walk away.

The 'property' that I mean, which probably is what the guy mean applies to sexual waywardness. Not individual ownership.

I'm currently running a background check on her, and what I have found is so amazing.

Kobojunkie:
She is obviously not skeptical of men. She may be skeptical of some men but not of men. She clearly does not love you. I think part of what she did, in the time she has been around you, was try to find out if she had any deep feelings for you. But ultimately, she failed to find any, and in her disappointment, she lashed out at you at the end. I suggest you take it that she is not for you. Reflect on this, accept it, so you can move on from your feelings for her without hard feelings.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with a human having feelings for another human who may not possibly reciprocate the feelings. It is OK, and one is not diminished in any way by it. It can be an opportunity to learn and grow, or a chance to double down and pretend one is a victim of some sort. It is all up to you.

I don't have any intention of taking her back either. Since that day she misbehave, I haven't pick her calls till date. My feelings for her blown when she disrespected me. Knacking her wasn't really my priority, if it's was, I would have done it. When she come, she use to pull off her dresses, remaining her undies.

I latter get to believe that the guy that made the first comment in this trend was right. That I was trying to personalize other people property.

10thTenthMan:
And that’s why so many men stay stuck in cycles of emotional manipulation and quiet frustration. No one said OP killed someone, so let’s not ''strawman'' the argument, if you know what I mean. The critique isn’t about having feelings. I have no issues with anyone having feelings. From jealousy to anger, to frustration to fear, etc. It is how they are managed and how they becloud one's sense of judgment that matters. It is about how those feelings were managed, misplaced, and ultimately disrespected. Yes, he liked the girl o..Ok no problem...But he needs to stand on his value and not tolerate being sidelined, disrespected, and emotionally strung along, hoping she'd eventually pick him after dealing with other men.

You say “humans use each other” as if that justifies emotional exploitation. Sure, people use people. The question is, do you let yourself be used without getting value in return? If a man is investing time, money, and emotional energy while getting zero commitment, zero intimacy, and open disrespect, then he’s volunteering for his own downfall. That’s not noble. At all. That is simply self-inflicted foolishness.

No one said she owes him love. Who can force love biko? But he also doesn’t owe her provision either. Reciprocity is the baseline of healthy interaction. If she’s free to chase other men, fine. But don’t sit in another man’s house cooking and collecting money while talking to your real interest on the phone. That’s disrespect, and he was right to walk away.

The message is not that women owe men relationships. No one owes you anything. It’s that men owe themselves dignity. The emotionally damaged ones are the men who keep hoping loyalty will be rewarded, even when the woman has made it clear he’s just a safety net. And men who defend that behavior under the guise of “being human” are justifying weakness and codependency. Men need to stop romanticizing disrespect just because they’re afraid to admit when a woman doesn't want them.

Please, Mr OP, I have not come to pamper you. I have posted my response. Read through all the responses here. Eventually the choice is yours. This is my final take on the matter.

You are right. But it seems you missed this part of the story:

Her own case is that I wanted to preserve her.
Also I didn't want her to pass through the ordeals she have told me before.
She have told me that she lost her father when she was 6. And that she had experience heart breaks.
I do not worship her, I only pitied her, and wanted to correct her impression

Kobojunkieee:
Why are so many of you disconnected from reality? OP did not kill someone. He simply has emotions for a girl. How is that the same as placing the gal on a pedestal? He literally knows of her dalliances with other men but chooses to wait for her with the hope that she will come around to like him at some point. Why make that seem like an evil thing for him to do?

Humans use each other whenever they can; that is why we are referred to as social animals. OP may have considered that letting her come around him would maybe get her to realize how his feelings for her may be what she wants; what is wrong with that? Must she force herself to like OP because OP likes her? Must OP force himself on her because he likes her(even though the feelings are not reciprocated)?

You are not owed a romantic relationship(or any other) by anyone, not even women you like, and you can live well without romantic relationships. Try to work on yourself so you don't go around sounding so emotionally damaged in your assessment of human relations.

That's 100% true. After she told me of her predicaments. I pitied her. I was aware that she may not like me that much. But I was of the opinion that it may be because of her past experiences, so that had made her to be skeptical of men. For that reason, I decided to be nice to her, hoping that she will change. But the reverse was the case.

10thTenthMan:
You place women on a pedestal...then you provide them your resources without them even having to ask, earn or to invest in the outcome in ANY WAY. You ''luv that girl'' ....why? What does she have, and what can she contribute into the building of your income, financial stability, riches, wealth, philanthropy, as a positive influence to the society, your network and your power? Tell me how you suddenly ''luv that girl''. Why?
Please tell me why she (they) will not treat you (all) that way, when from all her female brain and psychology you have made her so important to you, and you are so feeble-minded that without her investing anything, you have allowed her access to your home, your time, attention, resources, protection and provision? Then you all come here to complain when they take you for granted. You are a woman wrapper. Simple.
You all will learn the hard way. Just as ignorance is not an excuse in the court of law. So it is that the lack of wisdom and knowledge WILL ALSO NOT BE AN EXCUSE.

Two main things control human thoughts, behaviors and actions.
-Basic Instinct : Instincts we are born with.
-Experiential Intelligence : What we use to override basic instinct and reason before we take action.

Basic instinct for a woman is that a man that is easy, is also weak. He has no masculine power. Your value is not based on your running around women and dotting them and rushing to provide and splashing them with niceties. Women may love you and be fond of you for this. But they will not see you as a worthy mate until you act like a man. Your approach IS WEAKNESS. She seeks the man who is man enough to protect, provide, but yet residents, difficult to deceive and beguile. You are dealing with a woman who is using you for the current state she is in. When she sees and meets a man who is man enough and is able to provide as much as you or even more, she will discard you. Someone has disappointed her and not taking her seriously, yet she is lashing out at you.

As a man, your life is a PROJECT. REMEMBER, YOU ARE LOVED AND VALUED BASED ON WHAT YOU CAN PROVIDE. You have goals and expectations. Any woman is a subcontractor. Discard any woman who refuses to meet her obligations. You made the mistake of leading with emotions instead of value. She rejected you when she had options, then came back only after her situation changed. And not because she suddenly saw your worth. You gave her time, money, and loyalty, and she still reminded you that “you’re not dating” after disrespecting you in your own space. That’s the reality. Uncle, she never truly respected you. Women like that will use a good man for attention, comfort, and support while chasing the men they really want. The moment you pulled back, now she’s calling.....hahaha .....not because she values you o, but because she misses the benefits. Don’t fall for it. Taking her back would only reward her disrespect. Hold your ground, focus on your purpose, and never let a woman treat you like a backup plan.


I think there should be a formal and mandatory Rites of Passage program for Boys and Young Men.

You really hit at the point dube. The most annoying part was that she insulted me inside my house. But on the contrary, I did not place her on a pedestal. I wanted to preserve her because from my inspection of her, she is hard working type. If not that I didn't want to go hard on her. I would have issued her a slap and walk her out.

Anyway, thanks for your comment.

SuperOnyi:



Is it paperback or hardcover? And is it colored edition?

Hardcover. I sent them a mail. They responded that I choosed 40percent royalty

FitCorper:
Pls avoid this ughelli man comment. He is always myopic and naive on real issues of life. Back to the topic op. U did well and acted like a man n control of his emotions. But she is right too, u guys are not dating. Don’t be in a rush to think the disappointment is sexually related, we can’t tell for now, at least based on what you wrote. Keep sex off the table for now and really study her before committing. God bless you.

What really annoyed me wasn't that she said we are not dating. It was the fact that it was on Saturday that I told her to come. She said no that she will not be chance, that she will be doing house chores. Then I said she should come on Sunday. Which she did. Not knowing that she intended to go out with the other guy on Saturday, but the guy disappointed her. So the guy called to apologize (According to their conversation on phone) guilty conscience made her to start telling me without me asking her, then I told her not to tell, becos I did not ask her. That was when she said that I don't even have the right to ask her that we are not dating. Also the manner which she said it pissed me off. I just stood up and told her to start going.

kiddaz:
You're the one not responsible and reasonable not that girl. She's a correct babe 💯

And please lose that name as you're the direct opposite. Machiavelli had a sharp mind, swift, cunning and dangerous and always steps ahead but you my friend are the slowest of the slows in slowly kingdom

Guy don't get me wrong. I am an alpha male 100%
In her own case I wanted to mellow down.

kiddaz:
First error is calling her again after 4 months. Like are you that ugly or you can't get a replacement or are you a pitiable handicap

Secondly, what is the meaning of " But I no chop am (knacking) becos I luv that girl, so I didn't want to be in a hurry
I'm guessing you meant you didn't kn@ck her because you LOVE her
So in essence when you love a girl you don't kn@ck? You're weird and this leads to the
3rd, she's absolutely right you have no right to ask her anything. Because she comes to your house and cooks for you doesn't mean you're dating. Why are you assuming? I can bet you have never initiated anything towards that direction. You're comfortable with seeing her around you and that fills your heart like a little novice virgin.

4th do you know why she has been asking you for money? Let me enlighten you. Because the 3 errors above only indicates one thing to her. M**g*** done land. And you still bankrolled her.

The other guy was smashing as supposed and you were worshiping her. And you're here lamenting trying to paint her as bad or wicked. When in reality you're clueless on what to do with women.

She did you no wrong. That guy telling you to be arrogant is another great novice. Women are very easy to read and act upon but guys like you make your own lives miserable and then try to paint these girls bad.
If you like go do gra gra force yourself on her I pray you get caught and thrown in jail. Be open and relate with her, seduce her wittingly and make every encounter interesting. Act like a man and not a baby and watch her melt before you. Talking about loving without kn@cking. International Novice mtcheeeeww!

Guy don't get me wrong. Our relating is recently, not up to a month before that incident occurred.
I am not a novice as you think. I have knack many girls, even the first time they came to my house.
Her own case is that I wanted to preserve her.
Also I didn't want her to pass through the ordeals she have told me before.
She have told me that she lost her father when she was 6. And that she had experience heart breaks.
I do not worship her, I only pitied her, and wanted to correct her impression.

Bendeco02:
You're just calm with her

Those kind of girls deserve arrogant men.

Match her energy if you're to accept her back because she will keep getting you angry if you're calm with her

That's true. I have been calm thinking she is a responsible gal.