Amaco123:
No youth old people none of them is below 40.

It is not true. One of them is 35 years old, read in a foreign country and is related to me.

Mine is a sad tale. We used to live in a large extended family compound at the village. There were always intra-family fracas and wars, so this often repelled my emotions. There was this family, living right side of us whose children and their mother fought my mother constantly. One day, I was going out of the compound and I was met at the gate by one of their sons who was older than me. Suddenly, Aneke pulled me and dragged me by the hand into the bush. I was five and he was about thirteen. I got thrown to the ground and he lay on my body facing me, his rising dick touching my penis. He tore through my dirty and sweat soaked knicker and brought out my small dick. He began to lick it, and would move gently and forcefully up and down the length and breath of my full body, his penis rousing mine up. When he finished, he said I should suck his dick which was bigger. Afraid and shocked and my heart pumping fast, I licked his dirty and smelly penis. He would cloth himself and ask me to zip back my untidy knickers. I was dumbfounded by the whole act. I would not tell my mother because Aneke had warned me, saying we would be beaten if I exposed what he did. Since I couldn't talk, afraid of what could happen to us, for I was already tired of the constant wars and fights and afraid for my poor mother, I lived through my childhood and teenage and now as an adult emotionally and psychologically bruised, tormented and traumatized. I almost ended up a homosexual since I thought it was the norm, but my close relationship with God early in life had helped me to be able to control myself whenever the urge comes. I hardly keeps a relationship and my communication pattern is poor, if not none-existent. I always feel that people suspect me and I am impetuously angry and pained by my experience. However, I have not had anal sex with anyone and nobody has done that to me. I also have not had penetrative sex with the female. I will be thirty-nine soon. I am not married.

I am thinking all the time. I hate my village and I do not like to go there. I hate Aneke and I do not like to see him.

In the last recent years, I started experiencing a very troubling health challenge: a distressing mouth and body odours. I have gone to hospitals, clinics, and to herbal homes and others, all to no avail. A lab scientist kindly suggested I go to a neuropsychological hospital and I was referred. I was shocked to learn that the odours are psychologically functional, being the chemical and hormonal results of increased and unabated sexual identity tensions, fears and thoughts expressed by me through thinking and anger. I go to a prophetic church and I am often advised to stop being angry and to stop hating and avoiding people. I don't visit people at their home, I am afraid of re-experiencing my childhood rape and abuse. I have no friends and I worry constantly about who would be my best man during wedding. I am trying to settle down with the help of very nice medical psychologists and psychiatrists and it has not been easy. They advise that I should learn to forget and forgive, that my sexual abuse wasn't my fault. They say I should learn to move on with life. I get dragged in my dreams by handsome males and abused.

I am.learning to understand the horrors of life and why there are many homosexuals in Nigeria. When people say they should be killed and thrown into jail, I do not share this opinion as they may be victims of child sexual abuse. What they need is therapy to overcome the trauma of their violations. I am writing about my experience and how I nearly got disoriented sexually. It is a story of anger, apprehension, and self-hate. I constantly worry about how to publish such a controversial topic and where to get the money to do so. My therapists diagnosed that my experience affected every facets of my life: relationship, communication, career, thoughts, including physiological growth and maturity.

I.am shakened by my experience and my response to it is with a story of understanding of tragedies as this and how not to be a homosexual in Nigeria, in a letter to my friend who has run away from Nigeria.

Child sexual abuse is a crime. Your boy child who gets abused by a male could become a gay tomorrow. Watch out!

Peterpanny:
Go and suck ur penisssss.

With this pic, are you a gay?

Were you sexually abused as a child? Don't you think you are going through Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, a mental situation characterized by intense anxiety, fear and worthlessness? Why not try meeting a clinical psychologist doctor and a psychiatric doctor who would help you with therapy and antidepressants serotonin builders. Go to a federal medical center or any neuropsychological hospital for help. You need to reveal things about your growing up, from where you would become conscious of why you behave the way you do.

Regards.

Butterflyleo:
Even the sister is against him. Sarakis father is against him, the sister is against him.

Most of the kwara people I know all want to be liberated from sarakis stranglehold on kwara and cannot wait to do so

They all know that if they miss this chance it may not come again.

They are against him because he refused to allow his sister to take over Kwara as a governor after Saraki finished his own tenure. She is a sell- out and should go and sit down.

The OP is correct. Gossip at workplace is traumatizing.

My Yoruba colleague has separated all of us with blackmailing gossip. My Igbo colleague whom I helped secure the job is a psychophant gossip, and I have marked all of them *bad*, so I dissociate myself from discussing with them, including with our dean who envies me so hard. My colleagues will badmouth our dean before me only to go and praise him or tell him the things I did not say. Our dean who also is a pastor is a terrible gossip. I paid them back by shaming all of them, at least none of them is capable of arranging my sack.

I now stay alone; I prefer it, because I do not at my age have anything to do with men gossiping out of envy. I keep my spare time with colleagues from other departments and my HOD, a mother who understands, and has separated herself from the evil gossips since they also talk about her.

Dear readers, gossip could be depressing. Our deputy vc once said to me: "do you know the things they have said about me? Pay no attention to rabble-rousers unless you have nothing important to do."

These people are just afraid that, like Socrates, I know virtually every area of our discipline and that students prefer to attend my class to theirs. So in order to categorize me, these lecturers who say they have written so many papers and that I am their junior colleague brand me "soft with the students".

Happy birthday today, dear Osewa.
As you celebrate may you find this moment al to be another beautiful opportunity to advance your destiny on earth. Best wishes and cheers.

delugajackson:
Women need empowerment and not equality.

As a woman, the moment you identify with this societal craze called feminism, that's the moment you lose all your senses.

Trust me, 95 percent of those self-acclaimed feminists will automatically turn to ordinary ladies that day. In fact, they will even be the ones sharing table water to the men.

You contradict yourself. Feminism is about empowerment. Inside the empowerment are many strands of struggle: complementarity, equality, radical individualism, sisterhood support etc.

You misunderstand feminism only when you are truly uninformed and unelightened. There are many aspects of it that are good, even equality struggle has its pros and cons, with both positive sides and otherwise. The aspect that one would complain about is radical feminism. Radical feminist does.not feel she needs a man as husband, she will pay for sex and paybto have a baby, and does not disturb herself with maternal roles. Some of them in the bid to prove themselves keep a man at home and feedsnhim while he performs roles culturally allowed for women.

However, it is insecurity that influences most of our negative perceptions about feminists.

Taa! Gbafuo ebe a. Onye asi a ndu ojo na mkporomasi juputara n'ime.

Sectionalist rebel.

This is what you'll do:

These people are very heartless. They love life but they are quick to destroy. There is the possibility that there is no other thing they know how to do other than this.

Na dem dem APC pipu

The boy might be asking, "what is this?". Or probably telling himself that kpekus like that are why some men are bound to make mistake.

Na wa ooo

Na wetin dey happen biko kwanu?

Marriage is not an achievement. A real woman.should not be bouyed into submission.by society.

That is how fools discuss me in open public shops, my sister-in-law inclusive. They want me to do their kind of marriage: move in into a man's home, get pregnant, watch television and begin to raise children without a proper future plan.

My kind of woman is self-improvement and independent, and not one that would call me while I am on a journey and say, there is no food for the children. Is she watching television?

Lady at 40, you've achieved nothing drinking puazin.

This is grievously wrong in dimensions of ways.
The woman should not have been paraded unclad, this is an infringement of her fundamental rights as a woman. Her marriage to the man is not a right to deal with her in this manner. Nigerians are hypocrites.

The man would respect himself by walking away from the marriage rather than humiliate her. It would be the other way were it a woman that discovered the husband doing this. Our image of the woman in this part of the world surely needs to change.

Human rights bodies should take up this matter and ensure the man.and the neighbours go to jail, it will serve as a deterrence to other narcissistic husbands and.mob sympathiser hypocrites in Nigeria.

I am shuddering with shock at the mentality of my Nigeria.

Who bin dey tell me say Fayose is dramatically acting out a script.

But truth be told, I have not achieved a thing since Buhari's three years of presidency. Criminal employers keep holding salaries, as if they are holding energy like NEPA, Phcn etc.

Please pray for Nigeria by voting well

Fine boy

Another media trial. EFCC better give us a new name and tell us he or she has accepted to return a loot when in fact you haven't discussed it with the affected.

LMAO - Laughing My Ass Out

LWKMD - Laugh wan kill me die

This is an old story posted by one foolish Northerner on Facebook, precisely around the time Buhari let Nigeria for London in January. Naij.com went and exhumed the comment for the Nigerian public.

Naij.com is also part of those fueling hate speeches and discord in Nigeria, so people must be careful.

SirWere:

This is bull

Meaning

Wow. A great lesson why couples should always communicate to know their feelings.

Teach your children that education and hardwork pay. It is a pity that Nigeria is like this and people like it as it is. When you try to decry the evils, they tell you that you join them if you can't beat them.

I have been a victim of most of what you recounted. My name was removed in a university job interview in which I came first because the HOD, who did not teach and demands sorting, was afraid of my openess and brilliance. When I made to complain, some professors asked me to relax, telling me how the man belonged to Ogboni and will kill me, including how they were afraid of a man who would later become a PHD holder with someone's published works in journals.

When people hear of what happened to me, all I get to hear is: Did you want to take his position from him, don't you know this is Nigeria? Don't you want him to feed his children? It is a normal thing; nobody wants an intelligent person to head him.
And a colleague whom the man previously 'used and dumped' went on a tell-tale about me, while blackmailing politicians to his own gain.


And I ask: How will an ordinary Assistant Lecturer take away the job of a Senior Lecturer? What will I be fighting with him and why? Is what I want not to impart knowledge and build my own future?

It was traumatic. I am still looking for job as all my effort to correct that error has ended in the official basket-bin.

In Nigerian universities, they say they prefer those without manifest intelligence. I am afraid but I hold my head high.

I share your pain poster.
Ordinarily, kids bond well with thir mother, particularly male children, and girls to their father. My elder brother preferred our father while the rest of us boys to our mother before she died recently. Mhh... Tears.

I will tell you that you have no problem with this as it could be the manifestation of your child's genetical bond to his father. When you research on Charles Darwin's evolutionary psychology and Emile Zola's naturalism, you will understand why most of our conducts in life are shaped and reinforced by psychology or child parental genetics.

There could have been an episode that played like that in the past where a descendant preferred father over mother.

realjoker:
OK, I can understand number 1 but will doing so encourage local sufficiency on its production? But on number 40 how will that help the local economy?

unbaning these goods will lead to consumer sufficiency or food, depending on the products. When you look at the quality of locally produced tomato and tomatoe pastes, you will realise there is the need for restriction on foreign exchange to be lifted so consumers can eat healthy foods.

They should unban every commodity goods on that list. Can't they see that from rice ban to cement and roofing sheets and tile, including Indian incense and others, consumers are suffering?
Indigenously produced ones have not helped either, rather have skyrocketed to make these new policies shameful.

Though joblessness, Yul resembles Pete more than Linc.

The picture is photogenic with Linc a look a like of the father.

I have seen Linc and father in life and both do not look alike.

Yul is the father's resemblance, in carriage, voice and speech.

He will someday have the Old Man's old face.



Watch a couple of Nollywood films and thank me later.

Northeast political leaders and business men are the ones sabotaging the Nigerian war on terror. It is disturbing that these group of self-serving individuals do not consider the loss associated to this menace. People are bombed daily and they are not concerned about the psychiatric costs, the displacement, death, grief, suffering and moral hazards. Sometime in 2012 I went to Borno for a job interview at a higher institution against the advice of some professors from the east. The destructions in terms of human life and property were damning. Fear did not allow me to answer the simple generic questions they asked me as I was in a hurry to leave that city. My journey from the school to Post Office Maiduguri Roundabout allowed me first hand experience of the devastating and mental effects of war and terror especially on women and children. Nigerian soldiers had blocked all the roads saying they were looking for Boko Haram boys who are hiding in one of the buildings around Post Office Maiduguri. Dressed in my suit amidst women and children sprawling on the ground at the raise of gun by these soldiers, unsure of my next movement, and tensed by the darting Islamic eyes and pitiable christian faces, came a bland call from a friend accomodating me that I should look for a place and stay or return back to the school as he was also stranded on the road. It was 7pm and where do I know in Maiduguri?

Though I lost the job due to vicarious victimization I have no regrets in visiting Maiduguri because aside newspaper and magazine reports and theories in published works it afforded me a proven research into War and Terrorism in Contemporary Nigerian Drama, a Master's topic I was writing in one of Nigerian premier universities which was adjudged the best.

Biko, Borno political and business leaders stop slaughtering your people. Stop destroying peoples hard earned homes. Stop driving people away. Borno is a beautiful city it should not be laid waste.