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Goo0dHardDick:
So proud of you having 4 sons. You're living my prayer point. This is what every sane man should be praying for.

God bless you and your four kings!

Amen and pray same for you man.

They are coming not yet around, just taking my time with clarity and conviction to choice their mother cos the ones when they my life now don’t merit the status of my wife. Most are performing to be but have seen through them for who they are.

Me I don’t have a sister and don’t want a daughter either but four kings.

God bless your day man.

Goo0dHardDick:
2 days is way too much!

Women decide wether they want a guy or not ASAP the very first seconds he approaches her. She doesn't need any convincing. It flows naturally because she likes the guy anything other than that is being forced which is a waste of time.

Simps will always eat leftovers and dust of the earth 🌎

I get your point man, sometimes some will want not to look cheap and easy!!!!!!!!

So you give additional 24 hours, after that delete with immediate alacrity.

Simpsons don’t really know the value and dignity that come with having a dick between their legs.

My four boys will be well taught from childhood that simplicity is a big sin before God and insult to manhood.

God created man out of his image and likeness for a reason.

God will let that guy see wonders everyday forever from the used and damage lady.

Person done use her prime do give away to street niggas come remember say one simp still available to pay bride price to her family.

God forbid bad thing, I nor go even let my enemy go that part cos I go settle with am to wise am up. After we fit become enemy again but will never allow him fall in that pit of hell.

In a nutshell, never in life chase any woman more than 48 hours as a man. After 48 hours of interest and she’s not responding to the vibe, delete her from your vibrational frequency for another.

You are a great man with empathy not simp!!!!!!!!

Most women mistakes empathy men with kindness to be foolish and naive till they unleash the beast in them infinitely.

Boundaries are always the key to disgrace and discipline them in their narcissistic manipulative behavior.

When they cross, never hesitate to open the exist door with immediate alacrity.

Never allow anyone or women change who you are as an empath but use discernment and clarity to walk away with dignity.

In a nutshell, never accept disrespect and manipulation from any narcissist women cos they will break you and destroy your mental health with happiness and blame you for it at the end.

There’s still much love between them but ego and bad advice is destroying their unity.

Men always love their woman when she’s not toxic and the nagging type to always do her say or no peace.

This man nor know the value of his dick between his legs!!!!!!!!

This one done finish, he lost his masculinity long time ago before now. My wife can’t have a say when i ball as a man when she’s not the one that paid her bride price to her family.

Three times in a month is must night out alone till the next day. 9 days at home with wife and kids then day 10 for myself alone to do normal things.

In all you do as a man, never please a woman to the extent of losing your masculinity cos she will always reset the standards of your life to the extent of losing yourself to destroy your mental health.

Never hesitate to walk away no matter what at stake from a toxic girlfriend or wife cos it always leads to death or prison.

My freedom and mental health is always priority and not negotiable. I have a peaceful life, positive state of mind for productivity and the institution of marriage can never destroy it for a second of my entire life time on earth.

God forbid toxic wife o, my kids deserve me in their life as a dad.

You are right with your messages!!!!!!!!

Na mumu man go believe say woman when he never pay her bride price owe him full loyalty in relationship.

Same for women thinking a man must commit fully to her without bride price paid.

Men that say my girlfriend don’t really know is our girlfriend and women that says my boyfriend don’t know is their boyfriend.


Life is beautiful with self respect and truth of reality to yourself. Always tell yourself the truth with integrity, not assuming trust without reality.

In all you do in life, never allow woman to feed you and your kids!!!!!!!!


That’s what made you the head of the family and when you fail your respect as the head is gone for good.

A man need to be independent with multiple source of income before thinking of marriage. No woman will respect you when she’s the one feeding you as a man.

Some good women support their home without even the man knowing neither signing agreement.

This kind wife nor follow for marriage cos good wife support without agreement willingly.

marcusverum:
In the world today you can never be quick to assume a child is yours as a man.

This is not said to insult your wife. It is said to
protect your legacy. Always affirm a child's legitimacy by every honest means available even in marriage. It is not about distrust. It is about certainty. A man's legacy cannot rest on assumption.

Paternity fraud is real. It is not rare. It happens in quiet homes, in religious homes, in homes that look perfectly fine from the outside. The man who discovers the truth at 50 cannot recover those years. He cannot unfather a child. He cannot undo the resources, the love, the sacrifice.

If paternity fraud is committed against you before you forgive her and take her back know this. Right at that moment of betrayal she had a window of opportunity where she weighed her options. She thought it through. And she chose against you.

That is the part that must never be forgotten. It was not an accident. It was never a mistake. It was a decision.

Paternity confirmation is also a shield for the woman and the child. When a man is gone there will never be an argument from external bodies regarding the legitimacy of the child.

A woman who has nothing to hide will see the benefit. It is a badge of honor for her.

Should paternity testing become a standard part of birth registration across Africa and globally?

The truth is always bitter with those that have something to hide!!!!!!!!!

No DNA

No Name.

That’s the only priority for legitimate access to name, care and inheritance.
No child without DNA certification can use my name neither having right to my inheritance in my “will”

Life is all about choice.

Thank you op, men need clarity about DNA testing for their children.

Never allow the gaslighting of not trusting me as a wife deprives you of your right as a husband.

Dancebreaker:
Abi o. Every guy is more or less a side dude.

When a girl juggles 10 guys, each one is a side dude.

Why do you think our friend Lalami3232 is always preaching DNA test?

My brother you too much!!!!!!!!

Leave that ozuor Nairaland1 when they preach fidelity, them they bleep he serious girlfriend now with benefits but na him faithful pass Jesus.

Women never do am strong thing, he better learn from peoples experience.

nairalanda1:
So, this means that you believe that your sister's boyfriends and husbands must be faithful to them

Therefore, you do not practice what you preach.

You want to live a fantasy where you have a lot of sex slaves, not a reality where you have to have a meanigful relationship with a woman, who would not worship you or find you fascinating, or wash your feet every five minutes, but would still love you anyway.

Fantasies are for children. Not for real mean. Be a man, son.

Maybe if you reincarnate 500 years later, we may have a world where you can have unlimited numbers of limited androids that all look like Kim Kardashian, at your beck and call, lol.

Lol

Your bitterness of projecting as a kid that you are got me Lol.
Have known for fact people projects more when told the truth.

God have bless me enough by not having a sister and your sisters can be fighting their boyfriends and husbands for fidelity in their respective relationships and marriages.

Your assumption about me shows how little you comprehend as man, I don’t engage people with your level of understanding.

People like you na men they take their sisters and girlfriends cure without attention with benefits.

Carry girlfriend and fidelity in relationship matter for head old man with grey hair sell for train.

No time for commitment, I bleep women with benefits and they can claim to be in relationship with themselves not me.

I’m not God, nobody worship me except my God and am humble with that forever.

The level of infidelities in your relationship or m is really affecting your level of reasoning and understanding to the extent of preaching fidelity to us.

I must get one side chick even when married!

Know this and have peace

nairalanda1:
I hope you tell that to your sisters, when they come to you with stories about their boyfriends having other women in their lives, and I hope that when that happens, you would congratulate their boyfriends on their wisdom...

My brother that’s your story to tell when they come to you reporting their respective boyfriends!!!!!!!!

Advice them not to fight over a man cos men plenty when go admire them for who they are not what they are.

God has saved me that trouble for not having a sister and my wife will be my only true sister forever.

No woman can ever claim 0% right in my life without paying her bride price. Except i made her a woman during courtship that’s when she gets 10% right and 100% after marriage.

6 months courtship maximum, till then we ball in hood of the street.


Know this and have peace.

No football match starts from 1:0 or 2:0, same as marriage.

Leave single mother’s for single father’s to love themselves and remarry when necessary for them and kids.

No matter the cost, walk away without looking back with immediate alacrity. Where there’s no peace, love and respect is death or prison ahead.


Love yourself by doing DNA for the girl child to be certain cos that single mother with her mother can never be trusted.

No man with wisdom dates single mothers, na only bleeping with benefits per match.

Most of the single mother’s are damaged beyond repair cos they will destroy you with their past bitterness.

Better remain single than marry a single mother.

There’s nothing wrong for guy to have more than one girlfriend at a time!!!!!!!!!

Most men claiming my girlfriend never knew is our girlfriend. No woman not married and sexually active can swear she bleep one dick at a time. Let say 2% out of 100 can say that but they are rare.

Guy when never see your family fit get 10 girlfriends make you be last. Even fit still see your family change mind cos of your personality and past.

It’s only when bride price is paid that’s when you become wife and have a say in his life.

Wordsfrombimpe:
If your husband committed suicide

You have failed as a wife

1 You are the neck and you are to ensure that his head is care for

2 You didn’t relieve him of any burdens

3 You didn’t marry him for love but for his provisions

4 You didn’t support him neither his business

Copyright ©️ Digital Bimpe

Women like you are rare and special!!!!!!!

Your level of understanding about life alone will build a family with peace, happiness wealth and dignity.

Keep it up and do pass it to your unborn generation of women cos the real change starts from you with your clarity and conviction about marriage.


You not a crowd follower but a pace setter. You alone is a crowd of majority.

Thumbs up

uglodoh:
The heading self get KLeg. He was apprehended for eating N324K food as if it is an offence to eat food worth that amount.

Thumbs up !!!!!!!!

Just that he lacked conscience for the deliberate act.

Except she is sick and in her menstrual time period, Her father's house is the nearest destination after collecting my bride price.

Why i come marry , walking away is the only option to wife a better woman with clarity for family.

As a man, never deprive your wife sex and don't ever tolerate it from her too.

So far she has not hit you first in anyway, don't beat her but when she does hit you with gut then you double it with guts.

Never beat her, the best and only option is to walk away from that relationship cos the respect is dead and buried.

It will forever be a toxic one, the mysterious compability is gone when there's no more room for respect and boundaries.

Walk away with dignity and your positive mental health.

Learn to always say no without explaining.

Solofresh2:
You are right that a man must prioritize his peace. A man who stays in toxicity will eventually break — mentally, physically, and spiritually.You are not wrong about the outcome. But you are wrong about the ease of leaving. For many men, leaving is a war — not a walk
A man who stays in toxicity will die — slowly. But a man who leaves may also lose his children, his home, and his peace. The choice is not as simple as you make it sound

A true dad can never neglect is true blood and flesh, nothing on earth can ever make him imagine that for a second of his life time.

Their needs and care is always SPECIAL and prioritize over anything else.

He can only do that always when he has peace, good health and good mental state of mind for productivity and provision for his family.

When he hesitate and lose himself, he can never be able to be there for his children.
Any man can be a father but not all men can be dad to their kids.

Real men take time to make a choice of wife cos they know deep in their heart walking away is a must when there's toxicity in their marriage.

To your last paragraph, when he dies from toxicity due to staying put that's worst.
Walking away is the only true reason to stay alive and be there for his children.

Life is beautiful and everyone is replaceable but only energy of persons can never be replicated.

Life is all about choice and your choice and understanding must not determine mine choice.

Good night

Solofresh2:
Your analysis is correct — but it is incomplete. Men stay not just because of mindset, but because the world does not make leaving easy for them
A real man walks away when he is disrespected. But a real man also understands that leaving is not always simple. The system, the shame, and the fear of losing his children keep him trapped

No real man live his life to the validation and approval of the family, society, church and people's opinions except for his divine peace and positive mental state of mind.

Children will always exist without him, when he loses himself without peace and depressed to health failure and death due to toxicity.

Life goes on with the kids and the abusive spouse will eventually move ahead with life and ride on dicks to her satisfaction.

Na who die lose.

Samantha125:
Where do you guys get this ideology that men who are victims of domestic violence aren't real men though?

No true man accepts the red flags of disrespect and toxicity from any woman cos his peace of mind and mental health is always priority and not negotiable.


In a nutshell, only fake and weak men stay put in toxic relationship and marriage without walking away with dignity.

Both truly need each other truthfully!!!!!!!!

A man can only have a house with adopted kids but not home without a woman of value.

A woman can be independent with adopted kids in a house without masculinity of a man is disastrous to the upbringing of kids to the society.


In a nutshell, a true man never deprive his kids with the benefits of a home cos it has a long time effect to their mental health in the future. And a woman of value never deprive her her kids from the masculinity of a true dad cos it disaster to the society in the future.

We all truly need each other cos everyone is important in their respective roles to build a home and the society.

NwaliE01:
She knew she might loose her boy friend but family is constant.
We should always remember that you can only help someone after you have helped yourself.
You can lift someone out of the ditch while you're sinking lower.
Love your neighbor as Yourself. Love starts with God and then you before others.

Words on marble!!!!!!!!


The only true and real investment is yourself before helping others to climb.

Solofresh2:
Women often say they want to understand men. But most of what they hear is from other women, social media, or movies. This thread is for women who truly want to understand men — not the fantasy, but the reality.

If you are ready to hear the truth, keep reading. If you prefer to live in a fairy tale, stop here.

A man can survive without love. He cannot survive without respect. If you do not respect him, he will eventually leave — no matter how much he loves you

Men are not mysteries. They are simple. If he says he is fine, he is fine. If he says he needs space, he needs space. Stop reading into everything

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You are on point.

Bleep love, respect is the only key for a man to wife a true woman of value.

Beauty and love without respect is ugly.

Samantha125:
But I'm curious, how come those men who are victims of domestic violence hardly ever leave their toxic union?

Low self-esteem,trauma bonding and the scarcity mindset of getting another woman to cherish and respect them for who they are.

Real men never hesitate to walk away when narcissistic women obviously disrespectful to who they truly are as a man.

I'm always at peace when I see some young girls and ladies disgracing their family with pride cos of validation and approval!!!!!!!


Grant my wish of four boys the God of the universe.

No cos i always detect narcissist within 5 minutes of communication!!!!!!!!

Only narcissistic women manipulate weak men with low self esteem and without masculinity with control.

They love bomb you with fake care, attention and loyalty till you lose your guard and guts that made you a man.

Never shift your boundaries for anyone, when they cross never hesitate to show them the exit door.

I dislike pretence with passion, be real from the beginning with who are.

In a nutshell, never in life negotiate your boundaries for a woman cos that's is the reason she can only value you as a man.

Why man go they get erection for he fellow man?

They deserve jail time for even going against the law of the land for the production.

Fake men with evil agenda.

AllBlack:
See as this EBA dey write almost 20 paragraphs for his fellow MAN

what is the name of your perfume? DESPERATION?

Your bitterness is worst try generate happiness from inside.


People need orientation and healing from their past, you don't really know what people are going through. Always try to listen cos every one is important in life.

She's even important to me than you for opening up to me her fears and views about marriage.

Try get sense cos senselessness lead you to doom

Your ozuor too long

Merry100:
I don't even want the version of "love" you describe. I prefer respect over love. Women need respect too.

Societal standards are already part of the problem. Respect should not be something a man demands from a woman while believing he is exempt from giving it to her.

Toxic men don't always look toxic on the outside. They can appear sweet, charming and loving. A man can be sweet to a woman and still disrespect her. But when a man genuinely respects a woman, he will find it much harder to deliberately humiliate, control or mistreat her.

I don't know if you have seen the posts about Divine Queen Yada being abused by her husband. From what has been shared publicly, he appeared very sweet and loving. When she said, "I am embarrassed, I am ashamed," I perfectly understand what she means.

I have too many enemies. I cannot give them a reason to laugh over me 😂🤣🤣. I can't imagine ending up with a wife-beater and then having to explain to the public that my husband has been hitting me. The shame alone would almost swallow me up. 🤣

Being with a man can even mean more stress and headaches because society has somehow convinced many men that a woman doesn't deserve the same respect a man expects.

Here are just a few behaviours that have been normalised but are actually disrespectful:

1. Demanding that you apologise when you have done nothing wrong simply because he believes he is automatically right.

2. Changing the subject whenever you raise a legitimate concern.

3. Calling you "dramatic" whenever you object to something he did.

4. Repeatedly crossing a boundary you have clearly communicated and responding with, "That's just how I am."

5. Expecting forgiveness without changing the behaviour.

6. Apologising only when he fears losing you rather than because he understands what he did wrong.

7. Treating your independence as disloyalty.

8. Controlling who you talk to, where you go or what you wear while using religion or culture to justify that control.

9. Pretending not to understand a boundary you have explained repeatedly.

10. Making jokes about your boundaries instead of respecting them.

11. Testing how much disrespect you will tolerate.

12. Expecting you to be available whenever he wants while remaining unavailable when you need him.

13. Using threats to win ordinary disagreements.

14. Using guilt, anger, threats or emotional pressure when you don't give him what he wants.

15. Expecting you to cancel important commitments simply because he wants your attention.

16. Interrupting your work, studies or responsibilities because he expects immediate attention.

17. Wanting you to neglect your professional or career commitments as "proof" of respect.

18. Trying to discourage you from becoming financially independent.

19. Insulting your friends simply because he doesn't like them.

20. Raising his voice at you in public.

21. Sharing private details about your relationship with friends or relatives without your consent.

22. Making comments deliberately designed to make you insecure so that you become more dependent on his approval.

23. Blaming you for his bad behaviour because you supposedly "made him angry."

24. Making you responsible for managing his anger.

25. Using money or gifts to compensate for repeatedly poor treatment instead of changing the behaviour.

So what is this called; love, respect, or disrespect? Which of these behaviours would a man appreciate from a woman?

And the interesting part is that many of these behaviours have been normalised by men. Some men have been socialised to see control, entitlement and dominance as ordinary parts of being a man, rather than recognising them for what they are.

If a woman did these things to a man, many men would immediately recognise them as disrespectful. So why should the standard suddenly change when the person receiving the behaviour is a woman?

Respect is reciprocal.

I know there are good men out there, and I understand your enthusiasm about marriage. But marriage is not for everyone.

I have already created my own peace. Why would I deliberately put it at risk simply because of societal expectation?

Merry,


Life is all about choice and happiness!!!!!!!

Never live your life in people's opinions, approval and validation.

You are the best of your kind, and no human can fulfill your purpose of destiny here on earth except you.

Happiness and bitterness all come from inside, generate your happiness from within not from approval and validation of the family, friends, church and society.

We are only the true architect of our own destiny with God grace and mercy.


In just few years from now, many both genders will regret why living theirs lives on the approval and validation of the society and people in general.



The bible said in the same book you mentioned, men love your wife and wife respect your husband.

The points you outlined above are only practice by narcissistic and toxic men that love bomb you to relax your gut as woman and start treating you bad, naive and insecure.

There are empathetic men with masculinity to adore, cherish, respect and loved you for who you are not what you are.

Your past experiences shouldn't dictate your future, never live your life with the past cos every day is a fresh beginning and start.

God allows us to learn from experience but not to make us bitter and vengeful.

Marriage is not for everyone cos we can adopt kids to fill that space when needed.
Know that your enemies opinion are insignificant to who are and never believe to be in competition with them.
Live your life with choice from your heart not the shame and laugh of those not up to your standard.

People only mock those better than them, you are even the one given them opportunity by thinking about their say in your life.

Never give up on marriage except it was your destiny from God not to.

I respect your choice anyway but allow others the space to and that's my messages for you merry.


You are always SPECIAL and the best of your kind.

Merry100:
I would rather roll around in my bed crying over a wrong pizza order than cry over a man like he is the last slice of pizza on Earth. I would even prefer to cry over Hausa suya than a man. 😂

Cry over a man as if I even want to share my bed? Tssssss! 😒 Me, that I like my bed neat? I don't even like people rumpling my bedspread. 😂🤣🤣

I thought turning 50 and experiencing menopause were biological facts for both single and married women. I didn't know they were something to be scared of.

Anyway, let's put your assertion to the test.

Married or single, ladies, let us know with an Amen if this is truly something you are afraid of. 😂

"If you don't want to reach 50, simply say Amen. If you don't want to grow old enough to reach menopause, say Amen."

If no woman is saying Amen, then I don't see the threat. 😂

Merry,

What i have done to you? Am grateful to have you here on this forum as a beautiful and learned woman.

Your way of seeing life and choice to live it is special, unique for you and your purpose here in life to fulfill destiny.

I'm not here for competition with you between men a women. Anyway am here to learn and pass the little positive knowledge of clarity and conviction with my uniqueness of purpose for mine destiny forever.

Life is all about choice, your choice must not lead others here to learn the truth against their own purpose and destiny.

Let's always stand for truth, the standard of life before the logic of world try to emulate God and can never be possible.

When you see a man resonating in your frequency, you will love to be hug and 💋💋💋💋💋💋💋 on your forehead every morning and night and tell you how special you are.

There's a man for everyone, vice versa is the case. Never be bitter nor negative to men cos life is beautiful when truly genuinely loving and being loved. Happiness comes from inside, generate it with positivity towards men.

Women are made to be loved by men and men are made to be respected by women.

Just want to reply today might not have the energy next time.

Check my signature below.

Good morning and sweet dreams to you Merry.