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Emman08:
Some don't even know what it means to be responsive for a woman let alone live with your wife. Have they lived with a pregnancy wife with all theoeming sickness and drama? Or have your wife sick and be responsible for her? Anytime my wife is ill or weak and needs my help I do literally everything. Moreover she has never been disrespectful or asked anything without being polite or saying please. Wetin concern anybody? It is MY woman. Not everything in life is about forming machismo

Same here. No time to be childish. Life is real & everyone is carrying their own cross but smiling.
Anything with MY in front is MY top priority. Most of their machismo is just careless men being careless. There’s no bragging rights in living in a dirty bitter home. WTF?

Even a tiny mosquito will ruin your life & a woman is the size of a million mosquitoes, a million mosquitoes with a mouth & working brain is a scary creature. Why would anyone want one of those things floating around in his house spreading bad vibes?

When you can have a nice woman who you take care of and she takes care of you. Whatever works for a couple works for a couple. As long as they’re good to each other, it’s solid formula. Let the ones who love nagging dogs rear them. Bitter women are the worst. Any man who thinks he’s superior cos he has a bitter woman seething bile in his home is mad.

What is there? My woman is a human being and future ancestor of all my descendants. She’s the only one who knows my inner life management. Anything that affects her will find ways to drain me and our children. So everyone will respect themselves, let the ones who love nagging dogs have many puppies with them and let them keep barking & biting. I just avoid them in real life. Agents of Disaster.

Joeyfizzo:
Pls mind ur business. That is why I stopped my sister from visiting my house. She gossips to family and friends abt wat happens in my house and even add lies to it. She tells dem anything I buy for my wife, she eaves drop in our conversations etc

Jehovah! are you me? My eldest sister lives abroad with her family and we’re close. But you see our 2nd daughter, AKPI! Whenever she visits when I still used to open my home to her, she’s family radio. She’s banned from my house & since her marriage crashed she has been avoiding me too so good for everyone.

She will add maggi and pepper and salt and garnish every story. She wasn’t yet married then. Puppet of all my younger brothers who tell her what to do & say. She used to do all you listed: the lies, spying, eavesdropping & even used to take pics of our fridge & food store and random photos of my wife & food she cooked & even random cartons of electronics we bought, she will snap and send.

And they had a whole group chat where she would share the pics & they’ll make fun of our life. Or is it how she brought jazz into my house which was how many things casted including their group chat where she even told them that she got jazz and they were hailing her as action lady. She said she brought the jazz to help me.
She saw a seer who said my wife is a witch whose only dream is to kill me so she has put me under a spell.

That was her last day stepping foot in my house. Someone that I was still paying for her uni at the time. Someone whose pocket money increased after I met my wife because my wife said university girls need more money & if she lives big she will be bigger than certain things.
The same blackberry I bought for her that year was what she used to snap my house. I paid her fees till she graduated & even stood for her wedding cos our dad is late but I will never trust anyone again with my home & peace of mind.

The only sibling that can set foot in my house today is my eldest sis & her husband and kids when they’re in the country. They accommodated my wife in their home for all her pregnancies & have earned the trust I put in them and they’re doing well for themselves, they dont beg me & i dont beg them, so we can open up to each other about highs and lows without worry. And the rest never liked her from the start but I felt since she’s the eldest & a girl, she wont care but since I’m first son, it’s my responsibility to hold the family together until they showed me cameroon pepper mixed with wasabi and I ran for my life.

Anyone who thinks third parties who you let into your happy life will be happy for you is delusional. If you win lottery today, only the ones that will enjoy the money will be happy for you, the more money they’ll get, the more happy they’ll be for you & the more they envy the one who they feel will enjoy most. If you have something good, protect it or ppl will take it from you. All they want is for your matter to cast so they can gather and fix you like you fix them when they scatter their own life so they can feel important.
Ask the poster if he’s doing better than his brother who he’s pitying now & if he will be honest, he isnt. I know ppl like him. Ndi ike nsi.

Emman08:
Stay out of their business. No man wey him wife no send am

Gbam! He’s just a silly guy who wants to play third party in a marriage. How can you be offended on behalf of someone who is not even offended?

How can you go to a man’s house & tell him what to do with his woman & his home? You’re a fvcking guest. Know your place. Now ppl are asking about their finance & disrespecting his brother’s name & home.

This thread pissed me off cos I have had to tackle lots of snakes like these. Right now, none of them have a better life than me. I have settled quarrel they brought to me for them & their wives. Not once have I aired myself out to them. And I’m supposed to be learning from them. Always begging for shht yet trying to tell you to live like them.

They’ll work so hard to be like you but will never emulate your methods. Wanna be Neds but cant impress a Regina. They will never see how those who get what they want treat situations and ppl they’re stuck with for ideal results. Zero planning, Zero acknowledgment of the ego of others, Zero diplomacy.

They will just be moving mad & surprised others get better results. Then they’ll come to you like snakes to eve to whisper their superior ideas that has yielded unfortunate results and pray you’re stupid enough to bite.

Then when they lash out, they’ll tell you you’re not God as if you ever said you were. All they wish for is a flaw they can say they found in your life & if you let them, they’ll keep picking at that spot till they draw blood. Let me go and sit down abeg.

Romanoff:
Stay out of their business. If your brother ever complains to you that his wife treats him badly and he's not happy, then you can give him advice.

If not, stay out of married people's business.

As long as she's not disrespectful to the man, stay out of their business.


Them go soon settle their issue turn am for your head.

You are a very wise woman.
People should learn to mind their business. And let this be a lesson to ppl who open up their homes to secret haters who will rally to bring dysfunction to them & this is coming from a man who is a first son and has seen both nuclear & extended family for the hateful snakes they are.

In this mad world, your home is your safe space. Ppl on the streets carry so much pain and hold it in till they get home, then those that cry cry, those that drink drink & those that transfer aggression transfer it. Your home is the only place your inner man feels free. It is a sacred duty to make it your safe space. No matter what this world does to me, my home will be peaceful & full of light.

I still remember how many ppl said I was doing too much to fly my own woman to texas to have our kids with my own money. Because her family doesn’t have money like that, if not me who dash her america? My immediate younger brother was soooooo pissed when he found out she’ll be flying business class not economy. A heavily pregnant woman o. With swollen feet & body pains traveling to america alone and I should squeeze her and my child into economy. If something happens now, they’ll tell me sorry but secretly be happy. THUNDER!

Ppl dont see value in what doesn’t concern them. To them, that money I for share am. My children are not investments in their opinion. They think ppl’s life is their entertainment ground, that’s why they love instablog so much. Now they’re worrying about the future of Nigeria and all my kids are immune to the rubbish.

However this man’s brother’s home is, it’s probably peaceful. Ppl never complain of miserable wives. And most men do not understand the badluck a bitter woman brings. Running helter-skelter, always disorganized with a router in their house that gives off negative energy instead of wifi that they call a wife. Always squeezing face like shtt and they want everyone to be like them.

Then they’ll say you’re simping while praying for your demise so they can show your children hell but God pass them. Topics like this are just irritating. Sending good vibes to the brother. I hope he’s man enough to protect the peace of his home. Whatever works for a couple works for them. I’m sure the OP doesn’t even have a woman that is grateful for him & trying to scatter his brother’s well-planned life. It is well.

CheapHomes1:
Why are you hurt? If you owe me no explanation or answers, why then have you been responding to my posts with your offpoint epistles?

The question I asked is "who breaks the hearts of men in relationships?"

How am I a "men"?

Who is the "you" that you are referring to?

How does all you wrote answer the question I asked?

You are the one who is hurt & in need of validation. How can you come on the internet to ask your fellow man questions even a teenage boy can answer? Like a grown woman coming here to pester random women to tell her where babies come from.

Guy, if you dont know the answer to your own question, I will not answer you. Things like what you’re asking is what men teach their sons. Go have this talk with your dad if you’re really this clueless. I resemble your papa? I no send you like that.

CheapHomes1:
You haven't answered my questions.

The question I asked is "who breaks the hearts of men in relationships?"

How am I a "men"?

Who is the "you" that you are referring to?

How does all you wrote answer the question I asked?

I owe you no explanations or answers for your gender confusions. I’m not your father. Pls shift

happney65:
The voice will always give him away. Except if he no get manly voice

Useless human being.

Haba, Science can turn dick to pcssy & pcssy to dick & you think voice is a problem.
Guy, voice is the easiest thing to fix. They take estrogen to soften the voice & if hormone therapy isn’t enough. They’ll do vocal cord surgery. Most natural girls have bass compared to the soprano this surgery will give you. Same for FtM trans men, their bass is woofer quality.

GreatCza:
Pretty ke so this boy eventually became a lady I hope he can present his secondary school certificate that he attended at finbarr’s College akoka
He was my classmate 2000/2001 set
Habbeb was really a girl back in school date

So this has been a longtime dream of his. It’s actually inspiring that he saw it through to the end. The surgery & hormone therapy is costly & hard so whoever goes ahead with it must have really wanted it. That’s dedication.
Hope you’ve made all your secondary school dreams come through though cos look at your mates living their dream.

CheapHomes1:
The question I asked is "who breaks the hearts of men in relationships?"

How am I a "men"?

Who is the "you" that you are referring to?

How does all you wrote answer the question I asked?

Bros I dont know you personally. For all I know you might be gay & only men have broken your heart.
Both men and women have broken hearts of men in relationships. Depending on which gender you date. Only you can answer your own question.

CheapHomes1:
So who breaks the hearts of men in relationships?

I dont know who broke your heart but I am telling you that no heartbreak will reach the one your fellow man who appears as a woman will give you. He will study & know you in ways the average woman wont.

No woman can aim to hurt you and excel like a transwoman would. You have only chop breakfast from biological women so you think they are the worst. Wait till a man in disguise serves you premium breakfast.
It will hit different. A new kinda feel. A new level of heartbreak will be unlocked in your core.

CheapHomes1:
Does that now mean that "synthetic or artificial women" won't be treated like items to be discarded after use?

Imagine if every woman you know has been able to live as a man & think like a man. Most MtF trans women as you dey toast them, they’re thinking exactly like you, they’re in your head. All the things Felicia will believe, the Felix inside the Felicia you are toasting will be coding instantly.

It’s you that who wont know that she has this ability & advantage. Same reason bobrisky sabi men pass babes, He can think like a man. Transwomen are harder to play, they will play you and feel zero typical female pity. Anything you get from them, they agreed to it not because you use talk wash their brain.

If bobrisky didn’t start broke & transitioned successfully and hit lagos as a babe. You can’t finnesse her. As you are lying, she will just be laughing in her mind.

ojmartins:
Before I marry any lady I must see her childhood pics, go to her neighbourhood to confirm if she is truly a lady

STORY! photoshop exists, look alikes exist & ppl can be paid off to corroborate whatever story. & most ppl changed a lot from childhood so it’s possible to see someone who looks nothing like their baby pics.

Just go and do gender blood test to screen for XY or XX chromosome.
Or go for ultrasound & see the interior of her uterus on a large screen.
Or if she has big natural breasts, you can tell by the natural sag by gravity, no need to check more, she’s a woman.

All MtF trans have implants. some women have implants though which is why i said ‘natural’ big breasts. with BBL, illusion of wide hips & nyash are easy to recreate.

If you’re in Nigeria, stop wasting your time. There are very few completely transitioned transgender ppl in the country. Most women in Nigeria are born as women. Same with men.

lookingfly:
that's why u need taste the kpekus before housing a supposed lady.....no be say, u see bwest and nyash without checking if there are two holes, reach wedding night come de see rode de protrude

A MtF trans who has transitioned completely will have a vagina that even a gynecologist wont be able to tell except a cervical examination is done.
If you have sex with one you wont know except they tell you. They dont get wet naturally but there are women who also dont get wet a lot and need saliva & lubricant to enjoy sex so you’ll just think that’s the case.

The only saving grace of most men in Nigeria is that the surgery is expensive and most nigerian boys cant afford it.
MtF trans cannot get pregnant cos they dont have internal female anatomy. But they can store their sperm in banks & use a surrogate and have biological children.
There have been men who are serious players and have been with 100s of women who had sex with them & have no idea till date. Science has come a long way.