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Globad:
option 1: Hard

1. Be blunt and say don't come again.
2. Announce that your landlord doesn't want sleep-over visitors because of the agreement you signed

option 2: Soft

1. Announce and pretend you are moving out of the place to a farther place because of affordability
2. "Move out"

option 3: Midway

Leave them. Permit only one of them and inform any other person that wants to stay that the selected person has already taken up the space

See, what you choose to do is up to you as no one can really provide a right advice. Do what makes you happy

Lesson going forward: you shouldn't have announced your address when you moved to the place close to your office. Learn to keep information about your personal life to yourself. People will generally use the information to their advantage

Double0h7:
Sorry, but what do you mean by that?

Silentgroper:
They got one choice .. either live in with you i.e share bills and rent or piss off..


You need to be blunt

Nonexisting1:
You're still giving excuses. Mtchew. Why will you waste lies that could be used for something much more important on a simple matter you can handle by just saying no? Tell them to stop coming because you want some privacy which is why you pay the rent alone. They will become your enemy either way so why bother how and when they do that.

Ganicus676:
I have only one rule, if you can't reach me on the phone, kindly do not come to my house except it's of the topmost importance...


Even my mama would not pay me surprise visit, talk more of babes wey think say they wanna catch me unfresh, even my neighbors would call me first before knocking on my door cause I don't care, if you catch me unaware and I'm not in a good mood, I wouldn't even see your face, na from inside room you go dey hear my voice to go back to where you're coming from....



I no dey visit people carelessly, so I deserve the same treatment for myself...


Life no hard....

Kingluqman:
You dey please dem and displease yourself



Try this at first;
Make sure you have nothing to do/get outside again. Get to your house first, lock them out and put your phone on DND. If anybody dey knock on your door, lock your ears.


No send anybody papa.. Na because dem no send your papa too, Na why dem dey inconvenient you

hakeemhakeem:
You exposed yourself first, by telling them you have gotten an apartment within. Since you can say no get a 🔔 and pretend to pray and ring it make them uncomfortable to sleep at night

hakeemhakeem:
You exposed yourself first, by telling them you have gotten an apartment within. Since you can say no get a 🔔 and pretend to pray and ring it make them uncomfortable to sleep at night

eniolorunfe:
How did they all get your address in the first place? The solution is to start saying “No” and setting boundaries.

Wahala for people pleasers ooo…

Double0h7:
It’s sad that op thinks having boundaries is being wicked. Your home is your sanctuary, it isn’t a social club. If you can’t protect your peace and your home then how can you claim to be an adult.

floss:
Very simple just do it this way

“ At this point in my life, it’s expected I take reality seriously and because of such decision I want you to know that once in a while an adult needs privacy and alone time for personal growth. So I would appreciate it if you understand me by looking at things the way I see them for now, it doesn’t mean our friendship will be affected, it’s just a phase which I believe will pass but for now let’s be mindful about impromptu appearances. “


This is the most polite way of driving away friends and having closure.

Kobojunkie:
. Don't answer the phone. Instead, respond with a text message informing them that you will not be able to see them that day.

Kobojunkie:
. Don't make yourself a pushover to be taken advantage of by the many manipulators and users out there. Pretending to be nice to everyone never pays off. Be nice to yourself first, then you will know how and when to be nice to others.

Kobojunkie:
I have windows, a phone, and I can watch the news. I don't just open my doors to any stranger who shows up.

Kobojunkie:
. Why? They are the ones who are in the wrong, so why do you have to inconvenience yourself on their behalf? Consider this! If you were to go over to their place, do you realize that the chances are high that you would not be able to get with doing the same things there that they do to you in yours? You are literally letting them walk all over you, yet you keep thinking you are the one who needs to bend over even more for them. Why?

You need to start realizing the importance of having boundaries in every relationship. Grow some balls and start loving yourself more. Be strict with your boundaries. You don't want them over, then let them know what you want.

Research the importance of boundaries in relationships(every kind of human relationship).

Stephen0mozzy:
What OP seems to be asking is "How do I tell them to stop invading my privacy uninvited while still ensuring that they keep on liking me and saying I'm amazing"

F that dear OP! The default behavior of most human beings is to NOT respect boundaries unless you explicitly set one.

And don't even lie about it since no one was bothered to co-foot the bills of setting the space up - "Hey guys, I appreciate how y'all come around the house, but I'll like to keep to myself this period, I need space for personal reasons. Thank you"


Also don't go to their house upandan - y'all have girls day out instead - and split the bills

Kobojunkie:
? Stop opening the door for them. Simple! Abi, your apartment no get lock and key? No be you dey open door for them to come in?

Feranchek:
Have you been able to get one?? Imagine me with 1m, and I still cannot get a 2 bedroom here in Surulere. I'm also searching around Ago Palace Way sha, because it's close to Surulere.

blacknp:
Eko Oni Baje

LifeOfTrigga:
some agent Ehn, I’m in ikd cos I had to move down here cos of the stress in getting a place in Surulere. Houses are cheaper here and steady light with no stress

LifeOfTrigga:
go for new buildings fam any building more than 5 years old no go for m

LifeOfTrigga:
bro most of those sides get good houses but them cost gan, what type of apartment are you looking for?

LifeOfTrigga:
I’m from Surulere, what part of Surulere do you really want?

saveman91:
Good day guys: please take a look at this picture do you think if guy is her boyfriend?

eventually the groom is pained look at his face

what do you think?

kereman1:
I know say na the dark skinned girl influence the light skinned girl into hookup

MrBrownJay1:
have you taken your meds today? what is all that gibberish about?

Auxtan:
I was over caring and loving and at the end they all got used against me and not just that my emotions severely got played. My dear is only a fool that will not learn from what I experienced after that breakup. I will definitely be less caring and less loving in my next relationship but will become my normal sef in marriage. I will never invest my heart to a relationship ever again.