Ending a relationship is hard, whether it was your decision or the other person’s decision. You may be dealing with painful emotions and want to deal with those feelings as quickly as possible. There are several ways that you can work through your painful emotions and start to move on, such as writing about your feelings, allowing yourself to grieve, and being cautious about rebound relationships. Keep in mind that getting over a breakup takes time and patience. If things don’t seem to get better with time, remember that you can always turn to friends, family, or even a mental health professional for support.

1. Keep your distance. Even if you and your ex have decided to stay friends, break away completely from each other right after the breakup. This means not seeing each other, not being around his/her family members, no phone calls, no e-mails, no text messages, no Facebook, and no IMs. you don’t have to have stop talking forever, but you do need to cut all communication for as long as it takes to get completely over your ex.
If he/she tries to convince you to see him/her, ask yourself honestly what the point would be. If you're reliving the past by seeing him/her, it's not hard to get caught up in the moment and it will be harder to let go again.
You may have to have some contact in order to deal with the practical aspects of things like moving out, signing papers, etc., but try to limit this to what's absolutely necessary, and then keep such calls/meetings short and civil.

2.Organize your space. A breakup can signify a new beginning. Therefore, cleaning and organizing your personal space will leave you feeling refreshed and prepared for the new things to come. A mess can be overwhelming and depressing, and will just add to your stress level.keeping busy with tidying your space doesn't require a lot of brain power, but it does require just enough focus to keep you from recycling pain.
Clean your room, get some new posters, clean up the icons on your PC desktop. As insignificant as cleaning up sounds, it'll make you feel better.

3. Remove painful memory triggers. There are all kinds of things that remind you of your ex––a song, a smell, a sound, a place. Having these items around can make it harder for you to recover from a breakup. Remove all of the things that make your heart ache or your stomach turn. It can work wonders to clear your space of all these triggers.[3]
If you have a keepsake, such as a watch or piece of jewelry that was given to you by your ex, there's nothing wrong with keeping it. But for the time being, try putting it away until you have gotten over the relationship.

4. Get out and do things. After a relationship ends, it is okay to have some time to yourself at home. Just make sure that you get back out in the world aft you have processed your feelings. Make plans, go out with your friends, and have fun! It might seem awkward at first, but it will get easier and it will help you to feel better. Getting out and doing things is also important because you need to grow and maintain your social network after a breakup. Doing so will help you to move on with your life.
Don't feel like you need to go out with other people all of the time. Take yourself out to do things and enjoy the freedom to do what you want. Go to your favorite coffee shop, go shopping, or take yourself on a mini-vacation.

5. Beware of rebound relationships. Often people will quickly enter a new relationship following a breakup; this type of relationship is called a rebound relationship. Rebounding may be common, but it is not always a good idea. When you enter into a relationship too soon after breaking up with someone, you may be masking your negative emotions with the excitement of a new relationship. If that new relationship does not work out, you may have to deal with the pain of two breakups at once. Consider remaining single until you have fully processed your emotions and gotten over the breakup.

6. Know that the pain you are feeling is normal. After a breakup, it is normal to feel sad, angry, frightened, and other emotions as well. You might be worried that you will end up alone or that you won’t be happy again. Just remind yourself that it is normal to feel this way after a breakup and that you need to feel these emotions in order to move on.

delectablegyal:





you resemble those northerners wey dey cause trouble for nigeria.

Lol,you love. Us

delectablegyal:





in or out? just upload yours, don't give a fvck about these fvck boiz.

My dear,you'll have to go check my profile if you wanna see my pix....

Lol,are you for real?

We all knew they will throw cheap propaganda at you since the vast number of military personel couldn't intimidate you in the just concluded election,but I am sure they know the whole world is watching so they won't do anything stupid apart from the media lies and propaganda....
Fayose from Ekiti and Wike from PH,the two real governors we have in Nigeria.Only una don disturb APC pass the way they disturbed PDP during the last administration,you guys are real men jor

Lol,what do you expect from people who break into judges house at night,who can't uncover bokoharam plot to bomb nigerians,who can't do anything abt SARS officials beating up election officials in Rivers?
They need to put up a show na,atleast they need to earn their salary.
God forbid,na CIA abi na FBI no get time to arrest protesters?

Qmerit:
[[s]quote author=MarshRiley post=52149936]He came on behalf of his fulani brothers because they've seen threat can't stop fayose.
I wish Kaduna state had a governor instead of a sadist who is bent on carrying out ethnic cleansing in Kaduna south...maybe the emir will visit them too and tell them another story[/s] ranting rat

Defensive baboon

Kondomatic:
And this is the only thing he could think of doing after years in school? I am disappointed

He should probably had become a terrorist so he can bomb your useless brain,since you don't use it

Well,we all know this man to be a sadist
Ethnic cleansing going on in southern kaduna and nobody is doing anything about it.
I hope the southern kaduna people have someone at the top who can take their case to the UN before they are all wiped out by the Fulanis tha Elrufai pays

Government policies are largely to be blamed for this, I wonder what our economy teams are doing,Trump already has plans of wooing investors into the country to boost their economy,while our own government and CBN are making sure that investors run from our market

Like there've been fair hearing for ffk
Like there was fair hearing for the SANs
Like there was fair hearing for Dasuki
No,we don't want fair hearing
They said you are corrupt,so you must be hunted and jailed and dragged through the mud.
Corruption must go and we don't want fair hearing for anyone again
Idiat

Which kind Mumu thread be thiss?

He came on behalf of his fulani brothers because they've seen threat can't stop fayose.
I wish Kaduna state had a governor instead of a sadist who is bent on carrying out ethnic cleansing in Kaduna south...maybe the emir will visit them too and tell them another story

Election can't just go smooth in Nigeria I guess.
I just hope when they eventually decide to hold an election,it won't be thesame thing with that Rivers elections where rigging and killing was the order of the day

0816258$53

Electricity problem
Companies folding up
Naira falling like my neighbours breast
Rich getting richer
Poor getting poorer
People dying everywhere e.g Kaduna south
Our footballers and military protesting
and a lot of kids won't get christmas cloths this year

Tsunami o
Typhoon o
Any one they bring will be used to send them packing come 2019

Mumu post and what is it even doing on front page when there are better topics
Nairaland this days self,e be like saay recession don dey affect ds mods

monteriza:
It's soft copy they requested for. You got it wrong.

Soft copy? Yes
But the email said Original credentials
Which is not a bad thing the way,just don't. Feel ok with the organisation

I got an invite sometime last week to send them the original of my credentials,i applied for the post of director,media and publicity,they said I was qualified for the next round...I haven't done that tho,i doubt their authenticity...let's hear from others first sha

supportnija:
No wonder Buhari refused to appoint youth into his cabinet because they think like animal. is IGP control by so call governors , commisionert of police receive order from IGP not buhari, Please Nigerian youth think like humanbeing for once.

See as you just come Mumu yourself
Maybe the youths in your family thinks like animals,not us sha

What exactly are they saying?
Did they ask for $30billion or not?

Infact,arrest all the previous leaders that held office in various capacities.
From 1999 till date.
Don't forget abacha's family too

El-Rufai that should be in jail,manages to be a governor.
Now he wants to create another terrorist organisation.... I pray pple speak sense into this idiotic midget of a man before he destroys kaduna state

Come 2019,we'll do the needful
Vote whoever has done well and vote out whoever hasn't done his/her job
Nobody can instigate us to violence and nobody can steal our votes
Propaganda won't convince us anymore
Bubu better start working

Are you bothered because Rivers is not Ondo or Edo where you can rig and go or you are bothered because Wike won't take nonsense from you....oya Inec,talk true

E don start.
The deliverance of Nigerians from Zombeism has started

See this senseless article
Can any sane person believe this?
I think it is the APC chairman in Rivers state that needs mental checkup

Hello everyone, I have a friend who just finished his HND but feels he needs to go for bsc for him to able to compete,the problem is,he's from a poor family and I advised him to just forget the bsc and go for his postgraduate diploma,he's scared and asked me to help him seek the opinions of people.
Pls,what do Nairalanders advice
P.s: He is seeing this post!