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How To Get Over A Breakup by MarshRiley(m): 1:04am On Dec 27, 2016 |
Ending a relationship is hard, whether it was your decision or the other person’s decision. You may be dealing with painful emotions and want to deal with those feelings as quickly as possible. There are several ways that you can work through your painful emotions and start to move on, such as writing about your feelings, allowing yourself to grieve, and being cautious about rebound relationships. Keep in mind that getting over a breakup takes time and patience. If things don’t seem to get better with time, remember that you can always turn to friends, family, or even a mental health professional for support. 1. Keep your distance. Even if you and your ex have decided to stay friends, break away completely from each other right after the breakup. This means not seeing each other, not being around his/her family members, no phone calls, no e-mails, no text messages, no Facebook, and no IMs. you don’t have to have stop talking forever, but you do need to cut all communication for as long as it takes to get completely over your ex. If he/she tries to convince you to see him/her, ask yourself honestly what the point would be. If you're reliving the past by seeing him/her, it's not hard to get caught up in the moment and it will be harder to let go again. You may have to have some contact in order to deal with the practical aspects of things like moving out, signing papers, etc., but try to limit this to what's absolutely necessary, and then keep such calls/meetings short and civil. 2.Organize your space. A breakup can signify a new beginning. Therefore, cleaning and organizing your personal space will leave you feeling refreshed and prepared for the new things to come. A mess can be overwhelming and depressing, and will just add to your stress level.keeping busy with tidying your space doesn't require a lot of brain power, but it does require just enough focus to keep you from recycling pain. Clean your room, get some new posters, clean up the icons on your PC desktop. As insignificant as cleaning up sounds, it'll make you feel better. 3. Remove painful memory triggers. There are all kinds of things that remind you of your ex––a song, a smell, a sound, a place. Having these items around can make it harder for you to recover from a breakup. Remove all of the things that make your heart ache or your stomach turn. It can work wonders to clear your space of all these triggers.[3] If you have a keepsake, such as a watch or piece of jewelry that was given to you by your ex, there's nothing wrong with keeping it. But for the time being, try putting it away until you have gotten over the relationship. 4. Get out and do things. After a relationship ends, it is okay to have some time to yourself at home. Just make sure that you get back out in the world aft you have processed your feelings. Make plans, go out with your friends, and have fun! It might seem awkward at first, but it will get easier and it will help you to feel better. Getting out and doing things is also important because you need to grow and maintain your social network after a breakup. Doing so will help you to move on with your life. Don't feel like you need to go out with other people all of the time. Take yourself out to do things and enjoy the freedom to do what you want. Go to your favorite coffee shop, go shopping, or take yourself on a mini-vacation. 5. Beware of rebound relationships. Often people will quickly enter a new relationship following a breakup; this type of relationship is called a rebound relationship. Rebounding may be common, but it is not always a good idea. When you enter into a relationship too soon after breaking up with someone, you may be masking your negative emotions with the excitement of a new relationship. If that new relationship does not work out, you may have to deal with the pain of two breakups at once. Consider remaining single until you have fully processed your emotions and gotten over the breakup. 6. Know that the pain you are feeling is normal. After a breakup, it is normal to feel sad, angry, frightened, and other emotions as well. You might be worried that you will end up alone or that you won’t be happy again. Just remind yourself that it is normal to feel this way after a breakup and that you need to feel these emotions in order to move on. |
Re: How To Get Over A Breakup by VaselineCrew: 1:05am On Dec 27, 2016 |
av u try vaseline |
Re: How To Get Over A Breakup by Divay22(f): 1:14am On Dec 27, 2016 |
Be determined to get over it,it all in your head..... Could remember those days of heartbreak 1 Like |
Re: How To Get Over A Breakup by sleeknick: 1:23am On Dec 27, 2016 |
Divay22:Hey.
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Re: How To Get Over A Breakup by Divay22(f): 1:47am On Dec 27, 2016 |
sleeknick:Hi |
Re: How To Get Over A Breakup by sleeknick: 1:50am On Dec 27, 2016 |
Divay22:Ps follow baq. |
Re: How To Get Over A Breakup by sleeknick: 2:02am On Dec 27, 2016 |
Re: How To Get Over A Breakup by Justeenaleo(f): 3:06am On Dec 27, 2016 |
Some will still be calling you every six months and won't allow you get over the breakup in peace 1 Like |
Re: How To Get Over A Breakup by majestique(f): 5:43am On Dec 27, 2016 |
all the aforementioned may help accelerate healing time but from experience only time can heal every broken heart. 1 Like |
Re: How To Get Over A Breakup by AbuMikey(m): 7:04am On Dec 27, 2016 |
Re: How To Get Over A Breakup by MarshRiley(m): 7:47am On Dec 27, 2016 |
Divay22:Lol,my dear,it wasn't easy |
Re: How To Get Over A Breakup by MarshRiley(m): 7:48am On Dec 27, 2016 |
majestique:Yea,the idea is to help speed up healing,it takes some people years to get over it |
Re: How To Get Over A Breakup by MarshRiley(m): 7:48am On Dec 27, 2016 |
Justeenaleo:Those ones are angels of darkness They won't stay,they won't leave |
Re: How To Get Over A Breakup by MarshRiley(m): 7:50am On Dec 27, 2016 |
VaselineCrew:Na sex we dey talk about? |
Re: How To Get Over A Breakup by Divay22(f): 9:11am On Dec 27, 2016 |
MarshRiley:...but it was possible right? |
Re: How To Get Over A Breakup by MarshRiley(m): 9:41am On Dec 27, 2016 |
Divay22:Very very possible |
Re: How To Get Over A Breakup by dljbd1(m): 5:02pm On Dec 27, 2016 |
Well, I wouldn't say my present relationship can be classified as a rebound relationship. I thought it was at first but then the love has been strong and now a year plus and I'm confident it aren't rebound. Cos rebound shldnt even last 3months. Anyways, I proposed to her last night and she said "yes"...I've never been more excited! 1 Like |
Re: How To Get Over A Breakup by Nobody: 5:28pm On Dec 27, 2016 |
The only way to get over a heartbreak is to cry, someday you'd get tired and move on 1 Like |
Re: How To Get Over A Breakup by Nobody: 5:35pm On Dec 27, 2016 |
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Re: How To Get Over A Breakup by Nobody: 6:58pm On Dec 27, 2016 |
JoshuaSamuraiX:Guys hardly cry 1 Like |
Re: How To Get Over A Breakup by MarshRiley(m): 6:24am On Dec 28, 2016 |
Alondra:Hahaha....crying is permitted but once I think,you should spend your time crying until you get tired |
Re: How To Get Over A Breakup by mrcrabs(m): 11:27pm On Dec 28, 2016 |
Just smoke weed and get high above the ish. With time all will pass |
Re: How To Get Over A Breakup by Ukprosper: 6:47pm On Mar 14, 2020 |
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