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Please what advice can you give a prospective corp member who plans on making the best out of nysc..
I am a gal..
Is it advisable to work in the capital or village?

Can i save money while working in the capital? I'd love to save money so as to start up my cake business once I am done with service.

What other option is there apart from teaching? I'd love to work in a minstry..do they do tribalism while posting?

What can i do to work in a minstry?

Corpers posted to minstries,are they well paid?

Is it possible to work and do private lessons?

I'd love to rent a house with someone, so as to spilt the rent.

I chose plateau,osun,adamawa and anambra respectively and I am almost certain i will be posted to oyo or anambra,please I'd love to be enlightened as to how to make of this one yr,i don't want to waste one year of my life doing nothing/teaching

Today is all soul's day,a day set aside by the catholic church to pray for the dead and those in purgatory, that God may have mercy on them and set them free by freeing them from bondage and into eternal life. A day set aside to pray for people who died not knowing about God but did good works,people who were good in spirit but circumstances held them back from following God and worshiping him e.g. a 3yrs old who was taught to steal by his parents or people born in iraq or saudi.
Pray for the dead that their souls may rest in peace.

RIP to my Dad, grandma, Amenaghanwon,Abulu Eboiyehimen,brother sunny etc,may God grant them rest in his bosom,amen

Tallesty1:
I will do exactly what the guy did.

You will risk your rship for someone you dunno b4?
I guess you will allow your gal live with another guy for weeks even after she has misbehaved in the past

[quote author=TrapQueen77

It's nice to help but sleeping together with ur friend is not a nice idea especially when u have a single bed

He can spare the place to his friend and find himself another place or move in with his gf first til they find a good place for her. [/quote]

So you will allow your man house a gal you dunno for weeks? Even after he has misbehaved in the past?

[quote author=Trapqueen

It's nice to help but sleeping together with ur friend is not a nice idea especially when u have a single bed

He can spare the place to his friend and find himself another place or move in with his gf first til they find a good place for her. [/quote]


So you will allow your man house a gal you dunno for weeks?

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Please nairalanders,a friend of mine just broke up with her boyfriend cos of this issue. The guy has misbehaved in the past and now claims to have changed... He loves her no doubt but some days back he told her that he met an orphaned girl in his church (a very big winners branch), who her paternal aunt maltreates and the girl told him she needs a place to stay for some weeks till she can find her feet. She said she would be staying only when her aunt's house becomes "heaty",already she was staying with her frnd whose husband wasn't around but the man returned that day and she had to leave impromptu and go stay over at the guy's place. The guy told his galfrnd about it after the 'orphaned girl' was already in his house that night and his gal said she doesn't like it,reasons cos not only does the guy have just one small bed in his house,also his house was built for just one person or for husband and wife cos his bathroom doesn't have a door,the bed is small and there are mosquitoes everywhere so you have to use a mosquito net which is in the bedroom over the bed. The girlfriend even asked him to give her money or look for a frnd of his who is a female but he said he doesn't have and the girl is new in town and he just wants to help,the girl said she won't allow it that he has to choose between helping her and forfeiting the relationship and he chose helping her saying his galfriend should understand that he just wants to help.
Pls is it right,forfeiting your relationship for a strange girl,a girl who doesn't have friends and can't manage her aunt's house.
P.S: he said she works as a marketer (not in a bank)

Hello nairalanders,please i am in a delimma and i need serious advice. I graduated last year November but I am yet to go fo service..not just me but my whole dept,and some other depts in my school e.g A.E.B who are yet to even do their final clearance and we all graduated last year etc,the reason is because our dept didnt compile our results in time and senate also didn't sit on the result in time,other depts who graduated with us have gone for the first batch while we are to go for the second batch which comes up this November. During this one year of waiting endlessly i decided to fufil my life long dream of learning how to bake and this is the second catering school i am registering in and by God's grace i will also learn further. The problem right now is that, i dunno if it is possible for someone to 'ghost' for 5mnths and then resume the nysc later cos i really want to learn in this catering school and the place i am learning at right now is equivalent to saycheese baker and it is for a very cheap price and till you are tired of learning. I know there are a million bakers but I doubt i would get another place like this with such experience.
I was hoping i would go for only camp and then do ghost for a while till i am satisfied that I have learnt enough b4 i resume in whatever office or i go for February batch but that would be somehow and my family won't allow that to ever happen and i don't want to serve in my state cos i have never travelled and this is my opportunity to run away from this shi.t hole state,please i need mature advice on what to do.

NOTE: I have wanted to bake since i was in jss3 but my folks refused and made me learn tailoring instead,which i cldnt handle cos i didnt have interest in it plus the day i mistakenly told my family that i would rather own a catering school than work under anyone,i was almost nailed to a cross and i really do see myself more as an entrepreneur and baker than a banker or whatever job i might acquire later. I might not be very prefect in baking yet cos i started baking last year november,but i plan on baking my very first wedding cake in sept by God's grace..all thanks to my boss who consistently encourages us at what we do.
Please help me!!!!!!!

Hello nairalanders,please i am in a delimma and i need serious advice. I graduated last year November but I am yet to go fo service..not just me but my whole dept,and some other depts in my school e.g A.E.B who are yet to even do their final clearance and we all graduated last year etc,the reason is because our dept didnt compile our results in time and senate also didn't sit on the result in time,other depts who graduated with us have gone for the first batch while we are to go for the second batch which comes up this November. During this one year of waiting endlessly i decided to fufil my life long dream of learning how to bake and this is the second catering school i am registering in and by God's grace i will also learn further. The problem right now is that, i dunno if it is possible for someone to 'ghost' for 5mnths and then resume the nysc later cos i really want to learn in this catering school and the place i am learning at right now is equivalent to saycheese baker and it is for a very cheap price and till you are tired of learning. I know there are a million bakers but I doubt i would get another place like this with such experience.
I was hoping i would go for only camp and then do ghost for a while till i am satisfied that I have learnt enough b4 i resume in whatever office or i go for February batch but that would be somehow and my family won't allow that to ever happen and i don't want to serve in my state cos i have never travelled and this is my opportunity to run away from this shi.t hole state,please i need mature advice on what to do.

NOTE: I have wanted to bake since i was in jss3 but my folks refused and made me learn tailoring instead,which i cldnt handle cos i didnt have interest in it plus the day i mistakenly told my family that i would rather own a catering school than work under anyone,i was almost nailed to a cross and i really do see myself more as an entrepreneur and baker than a banker or whatever job i might acquire later. I might not be very prefect in baking yet cos i started baking last year november,but i plan on baking my very first wedding cake in sept by God's grace..all thanks to my boss who consistently encourages us at what we do.
Please help me!!!!!!!

Marriage is a scam...

It is a legalized way of hurting someone. Its a way of saying "we are here now so Bleep u and Bleep ur feelings too". Its rare to see happy couples these days.I grew up in the most loving and beautiful home ever where the man protects the woman and takes care of the children and this made me love the feeling called love. I wanted a home like that where someone would treat me with so much care,respect me and love me endlessly..buh wah i have gotten in return are pain..endless pain and emotional torture,where i have to always look behind me for fear that an unknown girl may spring out of the blue and snatch my man away because that's wah relationships have made me into. I read a post recently about a contentious woman and it describes me in a way.. You see,a woman wouldn't wake up one morning and decide to give her husband stress,a normal woman wouldnt look for trouble in a peaceful home unless the man does wah she has asked him not to do. i love my bf so much,when he came into my life,he came as a saint and made me believe he was my dream come true,my hopes were high,same with my trust and love,until he cheated the first time..nonetheless i still loved and forgave him and then he cheated again..and again..and condom disappeared from the house and a particular 'long time friend kept on calling and calling to check up on him' and even paid him a visit at night once...i got tired of bin reasonable and rather became contentious, i nagged and nagged and cried until I got tired. All i am trying to say from my post is that
1) if as a person you act right and treat your spouse as you would want them to treat you,then no normal human being will wake up one day and decide to nag for no reason. No one is asking you to not keep friends nor hang out nor do whatever it is you wanna do but do everything appropriately.
2) A person will only keep complaining cos you keep doing wah is hurting them,if you do things the right way,then there will be little or no contentiousness from her.

Good day everyone, plz i have a question that has bin on my mind for sometime and i tot it better to ask it her on nl..


Please if you are married or in a serious relationship and your spouse or partner cheats on you and you certainly do not believe in divorce neither do you wanna break up how then do you rebuild the trust which you once had for that spouse?

Please share your ideas and ways in which you used in tackling it...

Your ex boyfriend dies and you get a call from his power attorney saying he left you $5m in his will,but the current man you are dating and you are madly in love with has 'man pride' and he doesn't want you to take the money...what would you do?

Will you listen to your man and refuse the money or you Will take the money and ignore your man?

This was seen on twitter...how true is this?

taryour Nice thread,here is what works for me.
Firstly I went into my relationship with a statement on my mind(if my mum can remain with my dad with all the challenges they had which I also witnessed,then I can do better)
Ability to communicate effectively, while dating and up till now in marriage with 2 kids our communication has remained very very solid.
Communication has really helped my relationship a lot,it helps us both trash our differences amicably,there are somethings I can't say to my hubby face(cause I know I might not present it well and I don't want to be rude) so I put it into a chat and he understands me perfectly well. Each time we have our arguments,we make sure we apologise n trash it out before the end of the day.we do not go to bed in anger.
I have also learnt not to argue so much with my hubby,whenever he is angry with me am quite and let his anger subside then I apologise(even if deep down in my heart I know I wasn't wrong)I still apologise,I know how angry my hubby can get and I know better than to push further,we both have a bad temper but there can only be one leader,outside my home you don't dare mess with me,I will dish it to you very hot and spicy. I am the very aggressive type but hubby isn't,he is more calm than I am. I argue a lot too but not with hubby except in cases when we are gisting and having fun. Hubby loves football but I hate it with everything but what can I do I simply got used to it,my first son already took after him as a football fan.
We both understand ourselves perfectly,we have been together for over 10years now. We have had our ups and downs which has taught us to be more united and understand ourselves better.
Our sex life might not be has active as when we where still single cause of kids but we have both been active,we have fun anywhere in the house(of course when kids are asleep or in school).we try out new things and I sure don't forget my bowl of ice-cream when I want to give a special treat(call me a dirty woman/raw woman/sex freak/whatever) I care less,his my man.
We have remained each others best friends,we share gifts,watch movies together,shop together,hubby goes to market for me at times and cook as well, we gossip together and share news with each other. We are both social media fans(we actually meet on a social forum and started as friends before dating which led to our marriage). We don't hide anything from each other. He introduced me to nairaland and he is also a active member on nairaland.
We do not encourage 3rd parties into our affairs,it has never and will never happen. What ever happens within our walls die within our walls.we both help ourselves to remain strong in work life and business life. We support ourselves in every possible way we can with the help of God and for once I have never regretted meeting my hubby. If there is a next life,I would chose the same man all over again.
My marriage is not perfect cause there is no perfect marriage but I tell you,marriage is fun and am loving it all the way.[/quote]


I dunno hw to quote posts on here buh i hope this comes out well....
Wanna tell u i love u so much already and hope to have a hone like yours with a man who adores me someday

flylykace
1. If u re good to em cheating won't be his portion
2. He must be a mobile assembly( fvcking traveller)
Summary: I appeal for forth chance on his behalf if truly his ur man[/quote]


I have given him a 4th chance dats y I am still in dis relationship buh I hvnt forgiven him and am scared dat he could bcum worse or even dump me for sumone else wen he gets a job. Am not happy anymore,I love him,he is d sweetest,most intelligent,cutest and funniest thing ever buh am scared of wah 2moro hold for us cos of his attitude

How do you forgive someone that has cheated on you thrice in less than eight months of dating.the first was double dating 2 gals @ d same time,the second was the week u caught him double dating and was still trying to absolve the shock of d first (according to him,he was depressed cos of d trouble d 1st had caused and didn't know when d 2nd happened,in which he impregnated her) and the 3rd was like 3months later(smoo.ching and fingerringg,woulda slept with her buh cos she had already cu.m,he stopped..according to his confession when he was caught)

Please how do you regain the trust and forget the hurt and also forget that d condom which was in d house suddenly disappeared 2mnths later(and he claimed he threw it away so as not to b tempted to use it)?
P.s: he is a confirmed liar
Your comments are insults are welcome buh please this is a serious issue,thanks

[quote author=Oliviaarims post=38579759]
Except prayers,I don't see anyfin dah'll genuinely change him....Anything else 'd simply make him confirm to societal dictates...nd he'll simply end up leaving an inauthentic life...Again,I say..let him be.


NB...I'm not in support of homosexuality...


Letting him be would mean sharing in his sin cos d bible says wen sum1 is doing sumtyn wrong,u correct d persin
Apart from dat wah if he is caught sumday and burnt alive?

And wah dyu suppose hz mum would do? [/quote]

I fear he might even deny,buh apart from denying she might not be able to do anything

Op, my mosquemind tells me it's you.[/quote]

Madam have u ever seen a gay that repents by himsef,if its me won't I jst go to a whorehouse? Will I need to broadcast mysef first?

He is my bestie,knwn him since secondary school buh I can't keep mute cos that would mean sharing in his sin buh I dunno wah to do either b4 he becomes worse

Was checking my best frnd's fone recently when I saw funny chats btwn him and other guys..telling a guy that he loves him and would soon come meet him in lagos,can't wait to kiss his lips calling him baby this and strawberry that,telling someone else that he went for a gay party and saw some of his toasters,mentioned names and that he rocked liked never b4 and the one that got to me most was when he told someone on his whatsapp that he fflwed one guy home and is spending the night there and the guy sed "I knw say u don fucckk taya" and he sed "fucckk ke" and then when asked whr d guy in whose house he is spending d night was,he sed "e dey sleep,2mins e don cum and e dicckk no even strong sef"
Plz I dunno wah to do,this my bestie is such a nice,very intelligent guy and he is jst 21 and jst graduated,I have asked him b4 if he won't get a gf and he sed he dsnt need one. He has never dated a gal b4
Someone suggested he goes to a LovePeddler house and maybe 'taste and see' that puna is better dan anal
Plz I need other options.......insults are welcome.

Someone I know that's very close to me just went for a scan and the doctor told her that her baby's heart has stopped beating that the child is dead (she was already 6-7mnths preg)
The thing before all of this happened, that is even with her pregnancy she was still travelling by road when she was already very heavy,I warned her that it wasn't good for the baby,buh she wouldn't listen...please I just want to know,maybe I was wrong buh travelling by road when you are pregnant is it a good idea and plz wah are the dos and don'ts of pregnancy?? Thanks

Chiefpriest1:


the thing is that he will deny,he will say he didn't sleep in her house bla bla bla,and am scared of bringing it up again cos that's wah we talked about thru out last week,and he knows I hate to see him cry so he uses his tears against me

@ martijez, whatever decision you decide to take has consequences.

It's obvious you still like him, so I assume you want to continue.

If you decide to go on with the relationship, then be ready to live with the man's excesses. It's a delicate decision, but one that has to be made.

Since he's not keen on discussing the issue and you want to stay, maybe you need to pretend that you ain't seeing anything.

By the way, you have no business with the other girl. The only person you should be dealing with is your man. You are allowing them take away your self worth if you keep attacking the other girl

So I shouldn't call the gal? Wah if she keeps calling then,cos she likes him,even he attested to the fact after several denials
You see the problem right now is that he lied so am finding it hard to bliv all other things,I feel there's more to their friendship..if I call her to try talking with her,he will be angry cos he has declared the issue closed.......

bellong:


He cries when you need to resolve issue?

He is emotionally blackmailing you. Another reason to dump him.

Do you have a brother?

Leaving him is not the problem,buh wah if the next is worse than him,for how long will I keep "leaving",for how long will I keep running instead of facing my fears,he made me promise to never leave him.....

tearoses:


SMH @crying

Deep down you know the truth
Everyone has been blessed with common sense and intuition
Deep down you know where this is all heading
Its up to you to choose your heart or your head
. . .But in the future you can never say that you didnt see the signs or werent warned

And please do not beleive that all men cheat. Not all men do, and those married to men that dont, are women like you and they dont have 2 heads.

The truth is that he makes me feel special,I know he likes me,I just wantu know who he likes more so I will know weda to stay or leave,I wanna know if actually it was once he slept with her and if there's more to it,I wanna know if his mom had liked the gal,if he woulda dated her,in the chat,he told her he loved her and miss her crazily and wanna have sex with her,I wanna know if the love he professed 4 her is true,I wanna know who is the side and main chiq...tho when I say jump,he ask how high,buh now he has given me reasons to doubt every thing he says or do

Chiefpriest1 Truth is that most men cheat. Those who dont do it physically, either do it with their eyes or in their heart. That does not mean ut is justified.

Having said that, for a man to do it in your face is the height of disrespect.

A man who cannot respect you while dating or courting you will definitely disrespect you more when he marries you.

I dont know if leaving him is an option, but fact is that your guy is not ready to settle down yet.

A guy who's ready to settle down with you cannot leave on a day he went to see your parents and go to another girl's house to sleep (that's if ur findings are correct).

You guys need to talk sincerely, but I also feel he's bringing more into the relationship, so he feels he can do whatever he likes

[/quote]the thing is that he will deny,he will say he didn't sleep in her house bla bla bla,and am scared of bringing it up again cos that's wah we talked about thru out last week,and he knows I hate to see him cry so he uses his tears against me

Good morning,I brought this here cos I blieve that y'all would be able to help me one way or the other even if I aint married yet...
please I have an issue at hand,I have being having sleepless nights..my relationship is gradually going down the drain.I and my bf have bin having issues over a certain gal which he claimed @ first was just his frnd..this is wah happened..every single day,this gal calls my bf,and he reciprocates the calls,he talks to her as tho he is talking to me,calls her all the sweet names he calls me and even sex chats with her,asking her to come and spend the night in his house that he is having wet dreams cos of her (saw it in his wahsapp chat). B4 I knew about the chats,tho they have bin talking,My bf came to see my family early april and cos it was late,he couldn't travel back and so he told me he would stay in his frnd's house buh I didn't know it was her,it was later on he told me he slept in her frnd's room and not in her room..which I doubt greatly. Last weekend,when I was in his house,this gal marched in as tho it was her bf's house,my bf didn't intoduce me,I later asked him to call her on fone that I wantu talk to her which he did,I asked her why she barged into my bf's house like that and she sed I don't have the right to ask her such question that its not my house,I told him and he sed that she was bin defensive that I shouldn't have asked her the question like that,he also told me that the calls,chats etc were all a game to see if I would get jealous,that I should ignore her,after much pressure he confessed that he only slept with her once(b4 his nysc) which I doubt,I bliv he spent the nite and many other nites in her house,he tells her he has deep feelings 4 her and she is his bestfrnd etc buh when I ask him why he sed that, he will say it was sed on a frndly note...the thing right now is that tho he confessed that he slept with her once,I doubt it and bliv there's more to it,also I made him call her and tell her that she shldnt call him anymore and their frndship has ended,buh the thing is I am not @ peace,cos I bliv he would go bhind my back to call her and apologise for ending their "frndship",I also bliv that he likes her cos he defends her,I don't want to end up with a man that is in love with another woman and again I can't seem to trust him or anything he says,he also sed while we were arguring that his mom doesn't like that..so I tot if his mom actually liked her,he woulda bin dating her meaning he likes or love her,I want to talk to him again buh I fear he would be angry that I brought up an issue which we had finalised already, please wah do I do because I love this man so much and our relationship is not upto 6mnths...was thinking of calling the gal myself cos am really hurting and confused,thanks

Please nairalanders,what is your take on husband and wife attending different churches,do you think it is right or wrong and if you as a man don't like it,will you move over to her church or make her move to yours??
Please I need mature answers and reasons,thanks!

Be honest..........A BROKE FAITHFUL MAN OR A RICH CHEAT??

I stay in benin buh plan on relocating when I graduate.....any suggestion?