₦airaland Forum

Some men, over every little thing, blackmail their wife with the Bible verse, "Wives, submit unto your own husband".

If you are one of them, it only shows that you are yet to become the head of your home.
Submission comes naturally; it's never forced. It's easier for a woman to submit to a husband who has submitted to God. It's also easier for a wife to submit to a husband who has not given up his role as the head of his home (you know what I mean). When you demand submission, do you truly believe that you deserve it? Don’t tell me it’s unconditional; I know that, but being human we have our limits. Will you keep loving her if she fights your mother daily and breaks plates on your head?

Have you submitted to God's will and ways?

Submitting to God's will and ways have nothing in common with being religious. You can live in the church with nothing in you submitting to God. I have also seen non church goers who are totally submitted to God's ways in their home.

Don't also forget the verse in that very Ephesians 5 that says you must love her as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her. Do you love her without conditions? I am not talking about you shouting the word, love. What do your actions say to her? A woman knows when she's loved unconditionally and she will naturally yield. This is not to say there are no "Jezebels".

There is yet another verse in that very passage that says, " submitting yourselves one to another". You see? You owe her some level of submission! You have to wear what she wants you to wear and come home when she wants you home instead of hanging out with the boys. Your body solely belongs to her.

Now, some men tell their girlfriends to submit; no sir! She is not your wife and the Bible has not asked women to submit to every man they see. If you think that your colleague at work must submit to you because she's a woman, you are wrong.

Hey boyfriend, if you want to earn her respect, you must respect yourself. Dear husband, if you want her to naturally yield to you, first yield to God, love her, and assume your role as the head and priest in your home.

khiaa:
He said MONEY!!!!

Na wa oo, are you the one to answer for me who money epp
if you finish playing ur game let me know

chyckxx:
I hope say work go well Bros.

yeah, very well

khiaa:
Sounds like a one-sided relationship to me.

hahahahah reply sounds like you have not been into a proper relationship before "just kidding "

khiaa:
You don't like a woman who will be a liability to you but it sounds like you were a liability to her though.

oh yeah, assuming took it stand "sounds like"

chyckxx:
Ah! Bros, I never near that stage oh. I’m barely an adult. I hope say your own dey fine sha.

hahahahah OK ooo well ar don hear u sha

chyckxx:
Today go well. Na just say the sun dey vex well well. I hope say e go well for you.

yeah e go well

how ur wife na? and children?

Eagba:
speaking of english, yours is off the dummy chart.

my opinion!

Maybe you weren't thought about "Examples " in school?

As for me, I never went to any damn school but I know there's always a way to illustrate "Examples "

khiaa:
It wasn't about compromising it was about the money, that's why you didn't dump her.

And again, and yes,i repeat again (And yes) as I earlier mentioned above, there might be times when you need to unexpectedly support the other person in your relationship. Things happen—people lose jobs, big bills need to be suddenly paid—and in these moments, you'll learn that your relationship is a financial partnership as much as a romantic and emotional one. You need to understand that when it comes to money, if you're in a serious relationship, you're in it together. Their hard times are your hard times now, and vise versa.

So, tell me who doesn't wanna be in a relationship that is financially good? you I guess, definitely not me....

guess your question based on money issue has been answered well and absolutely well

khiaa:
It wasn't about compromising it was about the money, that's why you didn't dump her.

Remember khiaa, hmmmm relationship is not easy oooo, am sure! ,You don't want to unexpectedly need to support someone
Knowing how much money your partner makes/has is important. It just is. I'm not saying you have to start asking for bank statements on a second date, but if you've been together for a while, and plan to stay together, or if you're planning to move in together, you don't want to have "Surprise! I'm broke!" suddenly come up. It's more than fine to support your partner in trying times, and have them do the same for you, but you don't want to wake up one day to someone simply expecting you to carry them. You want to know that while your partner might not always be in a comfortable financial situation, their ultimate goal is to be able to put money in the bank, not to ride on your coattails like some lazy freeloader.

So basically maybe you can will understand were my point drives to

khiaa:
It wasn't about compromising it was about the money, that's why you didn't dump her.

See as far as I know! I believe Relationships should always be equal, and that means different things to different people. Some people think "equal" means a total 50/50 split in finances, but often that's not always possible or realistic for a couple. What if both parties don't make the same amount of money? Why should they feel forced to split things evenly, if it doesn't make sense for them, and they're comfortable coming up with another arrangement? Money can become important when one party can't keep up with the other financially but is still expected to. Knowing exactly what both partners are expected to contribute to a relationship is important to clarify, so no one ends up feeling exploited or out of their depth.

well khiaa do u believe it should be this way

khiaa:
Why would her husband want to give you money?

I did not tell u dey give me me money! remember?

See as friends, family, I do buy gifts for them at celebration times, most especially on their birthdays, likewise they do same to me!


would you advice your ex to marry your own friend... I can bet my shiny brown ass u never gonna do such

khiaa:
It wasn't about compromising it was about the money, that's why you didn't dump her.

hahahahah look at you can money buy love

so if it was money why then did a breakup occur?

have you been in a very fancy relationship before? I can bet my shiny brown ass u haven't

But honestly sha, I don't like someone to become kinda of liability to me, makes me believe he or she is lazy!

I always respect ladies who are self empowered and capable of whatever circumstances that arise...

Someone who will add to life and say words that can bring you down if ever condition put's you to disrespect it worth...

khiaa khiaa, I have a nice one for you ooo better accept it and appreciate what came to you

will you date a broke man

chyckxx:
Lol. Maybe they’ll learn when some of their perceptions are proven wrong. Good morning, Bros.

yeah, maybe!

morning Oga how today take go for ur side na?

ArinzeRaph:
i dey fear dem too, them dey act like men sometimes

oh so u know, Lefulefu person don add to wetin I talk oo...

chyckxx:
So true. The faceless feature of the forum leaves a lot in the dark. The more fortunate ones may choose to appear as mere ‘random’ or ‘just-there’ users without having to put up their achievements or wealthy reputations, while their counterparts portray the opposite. The most interesting part to me, is when the females advocate for gender equality in the wrong way. Thereby, ending up contradicting themselves.

exactly.

For this I should follow you...

Honestly there are things one shouldn't say...
you can imagine someone saying he lives in the poorest streets, and his poor...
There are statements that can qualify who you are as human.

it doesn't matter whatever he is or the kinda life he comes from or what his environment seems to be like...

I personally have played out so many numerous characters here on Nairaland and majority have qualified such character as it person who actually it is..

sometimes we kinda conclude out of mere physicality, which isn't helping issues not even in seconds!

Now! whoever sees such comments coming from a lady, especially Men Who are seriously searching, wonder what his thoughts will be like..

for me I will personally say, he or she is so concerned about wealth or what kinda area you come from..

I can bet my ass such wouldn't wanna marry from such country...

last year, I mad a comments here saying "Nigerian women are not always a better choice "

and I was saying it to my South African friends, u need to see how I was attacked..

now with what a lady who hasn't met ubanja or Ubuntu to come out and conclud like that, would one rate her 100percent
.But all the same we can't still conclude sha

but I most admit it so bad!

chyckxx:
LMAO. I’d be curious to know how they got to know that much. Believing stuffs like those isn’t ‘our’ decision, it just has a lot to do with our environments and the doctrines practiced there in.

exactly

A fellow might troll me here with all forms and manners of prove ,but that does not give us that assurance to conclude ,concluding is more like ignorance /naive...

Do you know that this said guy, I personally blasted him today with one of my close female friends? but all that are just here on Nairaland...

see don't worry one day I will, hmm OK just forget sha!

one time I met this lady off Nairaland, do u know this girl was among the ladies here who condemned some guys who claim to be rich and only few of her female friends got on her side, the others where running just to the guy,

and another drama happened she attacked some ladies here on Nairaland who claim to be honest slay queens, u need to see how those ladies attacked her back ...

I saw the game she was playing, honestly speaking I was forced to meet her off Nairaland to know why she was playing such game..

believe me this girl was even married and a grown lady with 5kids and a husband (doctor) and she doctor too...

now if that lady was open about her status, do you think people or those who attacked her would have done such

chyckxx:
Lol, the story is funny, entertaining and seems fictional in a way. How did you get to know all that, if I may ask?

hahahahaha hahahahaha me too wondering, I wonder if she's been there before..

this was how a Nigerian once told me portsmouth was an undeveloped area and a no go area for humans, I wonder why Nigerians have decided to be gullibles ,they believe basically anything, even trolling are even believed these days

Preshy561:
people like you

biko,shift.

if you have nothing sensible to say.
so you are the only guy that doesn't know that he's jobless?
smh,don't vex me now.

OK, I don't talk with or agree with what Nairaland stories..

jobless OK I have been jobless too since I was born... I guess u believe that!

chai I shock ooo ubanja ubanja..

Zimbabwe u call a 5th world hahahahah Nigerians....

chai hillbrow a poor street, are streets rich before

Preshy561:
you think?

simple question I asked...

Preshy561:
mmm,long story.
but to cut it short,he's a nl from 5th world Zimbabwe. He's always obsessed with virgins meanwhile, he is sex starved love lorn.He's based on the poorest streets of SA.

He abandoned his poor mother and father,to go hunt for virgins when he's a very wretched broke lad.
He's looking for a virgin to be used as a ritual sacrifice to earn him some money since he's broke and lazy to work.

He's real moniker is ubun.ja.

thanks.

hey u really don't know this guy,

how did you know his poor?

what made u believe he's based in the poorest streets, hey that place, have you been there before?

what made u classified it as a poor place, or u talking from what you heard people like me or friends say?

Preshy561:
mmm,long story.
but to cut it short,he's a nl from 5th world Zimbabwe. He's always obsessed with virgins meanwhile, he is sex starved love lorn.He's based on the poorest streets of SA.

He abandoned his poor mother and father,to go hunt for virgins when he's a very wretched broke lad.
He's looking for a virgin to be used as a ritual sacrifice to earn him some money since he's broke and lazy to work.

He's real moniker is ubun.ja.

thanks.

hey u really don't know this guy,

lefulefu:
lol wetin dem do?. As long as dem get back and are lovable i go like dem.

IMO girls nor dey get back sha,,, na Enugu na carry first for that and Kano girls,

lefulefu:
hahahahahahahahahaha...but not all girls like it make dem chop their snail.at least preciousgirl say she hates if a man tries to eat her snail

e get any girl wey go tell u say e dey sweat her before, na base on Nairaland tinz nai make dem dey talk like that ooo, outside Nairaland ask dem and see Na...

today on my way to work, I branch bank, me and one of my account friend come play small before I left, I jokingly asked her if she likes men eating her snail,? she just started laughing, I con tire sef guess what she replied me....

she asked me if I don't like a girl to drink my fanta imagine so preek don turn to fanta which I translated to maybe dick and it means dick is sweat like fanta Including sperm too...

see online talks Na package and me nor dey too gbadu their talk

well my state are not that endowed sha but I think dey go without make up, to me oo, makeup is less there...

but but personally damm

Enugu got something to offer,

Waow Kano state, they got alot to offer..


emmm IMO state no no no, it all about package to me sha, these ladies are too dull, and yet the speak good British English, but all Na package

Lefulefu have you come to see any IMO babe, I fear them ooo

lefulefu:
the day dat some ladies on nl said they prefer dating virgin boys dat was d day d number of virgin boys increased on nl.

hahahah no wonder, me self con dey wonder how virgins come plenty for Nairaland... chai these una girls eh

from small preek to big preek,

black lips to pink lips

slim guys to grab men

from non virgins to virgins

now dem don enter those who gives or eat snail

I wish them good luck, na their next kinda men I dey jejely dey wait for

Twoclans:

Amu ojoor

Waow ona tor mu ooo
chim MO/ , chai, chineke/
, awo, oh chimo
oya Lefulefu come ar don tire she's not sweet

lefulefu:
Thegeneralqueen abeg come an carry ur husband comot here.

hahahah wait make I chop only small first

lefulefu:
haha so una get club? Chineke... Anyway i hear say virginity is the new scope wey guys dey take catch babes dere days.

me too ooo I con dey see guys dey use am on them here ooo, but them babes sef eh

Twoclans:
Taaaaaaaaaaaaa lefulefu come and see martin0 ,carry your friend before he rapes me.

stay well jor

open this gate ee

lefulefu:
ehn me na virgin too na..iyam preserving my virginity and innocence for miss/madam right.

oh really have u registered

we need to confirm u ooo

come and urinate here make we see were ur urine go long reach

Twoclans:
You are spinning me around, I hope you know lefulefu is around.

oh for just spinning abi OK let me just enjoy first..
oya wear this rubber for ladies
lay down flat! oya open get, make I drive inn
Lefulefu abeg come help me observe small