₦airaland Forum

ikp120:
You're still young. Men on the average marry at 33. The earlier the better sha.

We have 2 years of courtship so i am still in order.....going by ur standard

alexialin:
And u look cool

Don't worry u will
But hope u have a job? If yes?

Be patient.

Am a Medical Doctor

ikp120:
The guy is very young and is about to marry early.

Abeg o. Who fit help me with 100k? I have a business project that needs it. Finalboss no wan help.

Hahahaha....i am 31 oohhh

optional1:
me too dey wish for nairalander hubby but he should not be a resident of romance section.

My bad. I should have put it in Family Section

Divay22:
Op pls go to family section....

LOL!!!

Jiang:
i seriously wanted to bash, But when i see ur picture, you look humble. so I decided to shut up

Hahahahahahaha.....i trust you guys

I am sure many readers of this post will think i am crazy but the truth is that......i am hopeful. Hopeful of marrying a Nairalander. I silently wish for it everyday. Lol (don't mind my laughter). No lust and no schemes involved. Just a wish arising fom a serious mind. No one should make jest of me oo. Cos i know Nairalanders have mouth. Lol. I believe If i am lucky, i will get a reply....one day.
cc: Lalasticlala

property123:
It seems to me that you did not understand the OP message. OP has a valid point.

Thank you. He does not seem to understand.

Billyonaire:
I read the rant and you are resonating towards suicide, stop spreading the messages of weakness. Spread messages of strength. Someone is already resonating with your negative vibrations already.

Ok.... It means you dnt have the slightest understanding of the write up. Such write up is therefore not meant for you. U can just pass by. Those who it is meant for will take their lessons and be better people. Meanwhile life is what happens while you are busy making your excuses.

marshalcarter:
no be lie cos as i dey sef....suicide dey hungry me

Please suicide wil not help. You have the ability to tower high above the challenges u r facing. Just a change in values and way of.seeing life is needed. I wish u strength, bro

Billyonaire:
..Sounds more like a rant from a helpless soul who has no knowledge of life and a glimpse of what lies ahead of him after a demise. Anyone who truly has knowledge of life, death and existence will take charge of his life irrespective of the chagrins of the mass of people.

The world today, is experiencing effect of mass consciousness and the effects of subliminal vibrations from a popular elusiveness of goals and lack of knowledge.

For those who know that life is, nothing is a surprise, the world is how we make it, we will all drink from the cup of our inputs into the universe.

It's a garbage in, garbage out phenomena, only the savvy, is immuned from the mass confusion bedeviling the society.

Uhmmmm Mr, did you read the post at all? Cos u seem to be dribbling yourself with the Use of English.

Suicide rates will multiply all over the world. Not because times are hard. Times were HARD during the World Wars and Great Economic recessions and depressions. The society is increasingly frivolous. People have no true friends. Because friends see themselves more as rivals. The race is measured by wealth and nothing else. Set backs are mourned as wasted lifes by those who should give love and genuine support. So a troubled man becomes the butt of jokes by those in whom he has reposed his trust.

Calamities befall men and their friends shed tears of sympathy for them in the morning, but run them down and harm them ruthlessly at night. The man can't even tell his wife because he is sure she would show little or NO understanding at all, because in her heart is the hearth of the values that society upholds. He has seen her divulge little details to her family. He has heard her eulogise wealth and curse set backs as abomination. She has a little merry heart, while pretending to be oblivious of the realities her man has to face for which her powerful supporting and protective prayers and intuition were needed, to mediate strength and inspire confidence.

The pastor can't be trusted because he is given to flashy cars and worldly ambitions. He rates men by their earthly successes and wealth. He can't be trusted because wealth he says is the ultimate blessing from the Creator. Everyday he celebrates only the rich. The value of a man is measured, not by the quality of his being, but by the size of his pocket.

So the troubled man walks around with his troubles in his heart. One day, he would weigh it all over again, and say NO! It's enough!!

But then, when the slightly reflective one meditates on the purpose to all this, in his mind he bumps ever again against the common saying "to keep body and soul together and lead a respectable life". And again, one asks what is the essence of keeping body and soul together only to be driven along the course of sham and falsehood, to live a life in celebration of tinsel, to be honored and respected by clergies and temples who themselves have become slaves to materialism... a life born, moulded fashioned and forged in a BIG LIE!

No Truth, no genuineness... No Love! Everyone scrambles around in the dark, in ignorance, seeking to attain his goals at the expense of, and to the detriment of the other. So that even Marriages which should be guided by Love and Trust are deeply steeped in intrigue and selfish calculation, one working to outsmart the other in a senseless struggle for power and control. Egotism, selfishness and power lustfulness have become the lord and bane of all relationships, now collapsing on all sides. The expression "Marriages are made in Heaven" have become a hypocritical mockery cry of the Sublime Purity of He Who mercifully ordained it. People now twitch their noses at it because they no longer believe in it, though they profess it for the sake of it. Man has come to question the existence of Love, now on the brink of convincing himself that it does not exists in a world of realism, but only in the sanguine-idealistic consciousness of the dreaming mind.

And no one knows where nor how to find the origin of this scorge, this evil upon which all life around man on earth is founded. Hypocricy, selfishness, slavish materialism, power lustfulness and drunkenness,morbid sensuality, envy, greed, malice and hatred. Little wonder that this world seems on a slow march towards an ignominous collapse. And man still seeks to find solutions to the impending horror by striving even more vigorously into the same faults that gave birth to these evils. Many more will have to suffer, many more will have to die, dont ask me why (Bob Marley), for it is useless running to the prayer houses for solutions when the heart is seething with poison, without any genuine desire to change.

Just a frank rant!
cc: Lalasticlala.

Medically induced depression...
Just heard that the person that recently committed suicide was a medical doctor and I thought to pen down this thought..
Weeks ago I was so hungry at work, that I decided to get a bite somewhere. As I was eating, I was also pondering on things I had left to do, there and then a patient walked in and said something I am still trying to decipher the meaning.
" Doctor you dey chop too? " Iya me afraid catch me, was this a question too? Truth however is that the expectations from the public is too much that many times you can burn yourself out trying to meet these expectations.
Not too long later, I got a call from someone, this time a colleague, another colleague was going through a traumatic experience and I was close to this person and I did not know or even see the signs.
After the call, I called the colleague, visited, talked with the colleague, offered spiritual support and had the phone number of my colleagues who were Psychiatrists on speed dial, just in case these measures failed.
The mental torture of the doctor starts from medical school. Many times with no guidance from and proper orientation about the medical school, people are thrown into the lion's den and expected to survive.
From the 1st day you discover you are on your own, the orientation done by the medical school gives you more fear than hope. " All of you here looking fine and happy, I assure you that more than 1/2 of you will not be doctors, some of you will be thrown out, as a medical student make sure you don't party, make sure you don't.... Just read you books, you know you are special breeds and we are here to trim you", the person holding the mic says. You do not hear where you should run to when you have issues.
And true to his words after the year 1 exams a lot of people are weeded out. There is no emotional support for these students weeded out and even those still in the programme don't know what a guidance​ counsellor is.
Year 2 you prepare for year 3 the first major MB, even other University students know about this and then you read, read, read, attend tutorials, tutorials and tutorials, do mock exams, Pray, Pray, Pray if you believe in prayers and boom the exam, a lot of people are weeded out too. Many times the lecturers are actually sad if the pass rate is high. An MB result is not an MB result if there are no failures or waff.
Those that resit or repeat are in a state of torture, brilliant students from secondary school now so insecure, some already disillusioned. The same cycle happens till you graduate.
You learn greed, your learn to absorb so much pressure, you learn to be on your own, and to do everything to pass, many times even at expense of your colleagues. You also learn first hand how to do eye service and you learn how not to let your lecturers know you do anything apart from reading.
You graduate and the rat race continues, prayer point to do house job, you get the house job and the work load is too much, the psychological demands you go through when you lose patients, you are trained not to vent out, you are in the midst of suffering and you have to behave like all is well.
Work, work, work, shout, shout, shout and sometimes extension, extension, extension with meagre or no pay. Meanwhile your folks out there think you are a big boy.
Then you are done Youth service happens, the Medical officer routine and if you are lucky residency and then the rat race again. Work, work, work, marathon calls, exams, no money to pay for a lot of things and then the exam failure, no one sends you, no support when you fail and when you do not meet the demands, you are thrown out of the programme.
Many times you even complete the programme and discover that the fellowship you have just like a fellowship does not define your life. Like fellowship, you discover that no be only you waka come and you ask yourself was all this worth it.
Depression is real, many doctors also never visit the Psychiatrists or even access healthcare.
And then with the gradual erosion of all forms of social support, with social media taking over family and friends the unexpected happens.
In another news
Somewhere this morning a union leader and colleague is all alone, as he faces his battles, if anything happens social media will be agog, but they watched when he swam the river alone.
Physicians heal thyself and be thy brother's keeper.
Physician seek help and speak out.
Physician think not only about thyself.
#mayhethatreadethunderstand

searchng4love:
Don't be deceived.
#refiner almost deceived me too

Lol.....like seriously? I kneqw there had to be something fishy cos the pic refiner pasted was not similar at all with her profile pic.

ThatPuffPuffBae:
[color=violet]sex is Not a sin. Having it before marriage is.[/color]

You be real puff puff

1bkaye:
When most Naija guys rarely measure up, who will blame her

Na ur type dey just lie down gbosa for bed. Immobiliser them...see them.

Saintsammurai:
In that three years, another guy was constantly having sex with her...
Who will wait for a lady for even a week in this era...?

You will live long

sinaj:
haba love? dat one strong o!

Calm down young lady....Lol. Just pulling ya teeth. I dnt chase or love that easily. Just joining in the fun.

Smallville10:
na smal small e dey start

Hehe.....u don't know me. I am immune to all that rubbish. Fooling myself cos of a female? . I say again that that's so savage!

Smallville10:
guy take it easy so u dont get fustrated

Hehehe.....do u know what frustration means? How can someone like me be frustrated cos of a female? Thats savage mehhnn!

sinaj:
lol

*wears eyeglass* looks at him well

*removes glass* I don't knw u jore

Just mark the face. Am ur biggest fan, i'll follow u until u love me

sinaj:
lol

Not true

Look at me well

sinaj:
hmmm.

None!

Me!

subtlemee:
Yes,way bill your acc details ATM card and pin

Persin nor fit follow u play again?

subtlemee:
..and I have none of this,no wonder why I don't have any toaster

Oya i am toasting u now. Will u date me?

Nickymezor:
Hmmm

Pretty lady

Aimosagie:
Lol.. guess a man default setting will never change. No matter how many men have been brought down by the woman, they are still entranced and easily manipulated just by what they see.. lol.. this is a story that never gets old.. Great men turn feeble by a woman, strong men become weak by a woman.. this is one history that can never go out of fashion. .lol, Men are such wonderful creatures..

Very well stated but u will be shocked that there are men who can never be brought down by a woman. Men like me. We just don't get moved to do what does not come from our minds alone.

Telegram does not delver offline messages. You will have to log into the app first before u get ur messages and that sucks!

tmanis:
majority of iphone users use their smartphone for just the things you mentioned, then show off

softwerk:
Surprisingly the church allowed her to receive Semen from her husband that got her pregnant in the first place but NOT his blood to save her life?!

I'm not understanding this Ohh

You will live long

PiccoloBrunelli:
No wonder the "connection" between Sanchez and Ozil is poor.

. Chai....some Nigerians are just talented! Dem get mouth die. Ewoo!

Cos many are stupid