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deluckiest:
Like I said, my wife and I have been married for 11 years, but she never told me from the beginning that she could monitor and access my phone anytime she likes. I think the only reason she confessed was when I introduced my female business partner to her.

My friend and I were working on a project, and I told my wife about it. I had the technical skills, while my partner was the sponsor. But my wife insisted I end the partnership and look for a male partner instead. She believed something was going on between us, even though there was nothing like that. Because of this, the business was put on hold and eventually failed.

For those asking, there’s no problem with my marriage. We are living peacefully, and both of us are doing well in our jobs.

The only challenge I have with her is that she invades my privacy.

What do you have to hide? Why are you bothered that she has access to your phone?

My partner and I can exchange phones for a week and no one would notice because there is nothing we don’t know about each other. What exactly do you have to hide that you are bothered enough to make a thread about it?

Also. Why do you have a female ‘friend’ who doubles as your business partner and you are a married man?

You expect your wife to be comfortable with that? You can’t be this obtuse

Praxis758:
So who is a genuine Christian when churches are filled to capacities on Sundays and we still have prostitution on the street?

Who are those patronizing them?

The ones that share the good news about not marrying boreholes and prioritizing virgins on Nairaland

EmmyMaestro:
What do you even know than to give your fellow men the good news

Absolutely nothing

He is a from a generation of town criers and is only doing his job

rampage101:
loesch.from the pot of hell.
why not just shut the Bleep up.
I bet u can't even pee
dizzy 4uk.

Get a new phone with a working key or or remove yourself from the presence of adults

Take your share and move on or get ready to raise children that are not yours

Don’t be an unfortunate son to your father and mother

Are you sure you’re up to 32? You don’t even sound like a man with two balls, one must have been cut off at birth

I’ve never read anything more brainless

Don’t piss me off this morning

Penaldo:
She's just jealous

She is ten times more beautiful than them, what exactly is there to be jealous of?

Use your brain, stop disgracing Messi fans

Gbadugbakun:
The average Nigerian girl is a prostitute.

This means statistically, more than half of the females related to you are into prostitution including your mom, sisters, female friends, colleagues, aunts and your soon to be daughters

Most of you will deny vehemently and paint your female relatives saints. Who then are the prostitutes?

I would say ‘think before you type’ but you are a black man. One that even has an account on Nairaland

‘Thought’ is not your strong suit

Drella:
Without throwing shades, that guy didn’t lie.
I’ve seen the kind of mentality Nigerian girls carry around outside of Nigeria.

If women start to talk about the vices of Nigerian men, there would not be enough threads to fill it out. One man beheaded a woman on the front page, another beheaded his friend, another woman was killed in her apartment, another was raped and mutilated. ALL BANDITS ARE MEN

Where do you see women calling you beasts?

Your black brains don’t see it to talk about. It’s gold diggers you are worried about on EVERY THREAD

GOLD DIGGERS THAT ARE NOT EVEN SEEN AS HUMAN BEINGS TO BE WORRIED ABOUT ARE WHAT 90 percent of MEN IN A NATION TALK ABOUT EVERY DAY

THEY GET MONEY AND STILL CARRY THE GOLD DIGGERS WHILE MAKING GOOD GIRLS LOOK LIKE FOOLS

SEE THE BULLSHIT ADULT MEN ARE WORRIED ABOUT WHEN THEIR FELLOW MEN ARE IN LIVING IN THE FUTURE

LITTLE WONDER A BLACK MAN’s NATION IS THE MOST DANGEROUS IN THE WORLD


Can you guys actually draw inspiration from hour sisters and mothers, ignore GOLD DIGGERS and REST!!!!!!

NO. IF YOU. MAKE MONEY TODAY, YOU WILL CHEAT ON YOUR WIFE AND SPEND YOUR LIFE SAVINGS ON ONE LIKE THE TYPICAL BLACK MAN


If I were to ask each and every one of you. WHO ARE THESE WOMEN? You would all defend your sisters and mothers. Who are they then??

REST!!!!

Nahunger:
Happy birthday
Even though I don't know him..



Meanwhile note

it is only a Nigerian girl you will see preparing for marriage and she only has #5k or less in her account.
With a mind blowing milage!!

It is only a Nigerian girl that knows what she deserves, but has 0 account balance, no job and her parents can't even afford to give her what she thinks she deserves.

It is only a Nigerian girl that believe what she deserves should be funded by a man's pocket.

Very delusional lot.




There are bad men and women out there but the choice of a bad wife is a mistake you should avoid at all cost.

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PLEASE

Thank you

These are obviously stories sponsored by Nairaland feminists to scare the young African man to not exercise his right to 70 wives and 10 rounds at one go

African man; don’t believe this, it’s a lie. Make sure you go as many rounds as want to and release everything inside there. Don’t stop until that thing that won’t let you rest has finished inside you

You are an African man entitled to 10 rounds and 70 wives, sex is your birthright and what you were created for

Leave caution, self respect and chastity for women and foreigners

They don’t have sense

Namaster:
Oh boy!

1. Married for 10 years.
2. Has 3 kids.
3. RECENTLY got a job with BETTER pay.
4. NEVER initiates sex.
5. RATIONS sex and it's down to just 4 times in 30 days.
6. CONSTANTLY complains of stress.
7. BLATANTLY tells you to get your sex elsewhere.

Dude, this woman NO LONGER finds you attractive if she ever did.

She has achieved her goal in marriage. She has 3 kids and has gotten a job with MORE money so she does not need yours anymore.

By the way, realise this:

NO man ever thinks his wife is even CAPABLE of cheating on him.

They'd SLAM their chest with confidence and proclaim it to the world. Meanwhile, the said wife is giving professional porrnstars a run for their money with ANOTHER man.

So NEVER discount the possibility that she's cheating on you.

BUT even if she's not, the fact remains that she is NOT attracted to you anymore.

Sex is an INCREDIBLE way to relieve stress.
A stressed woman who finds you attractive would be EAGER to jump your bones. Not refuse you.

Also, a wife who STILL loves her husband and finds him attractive would NEVER advise him to go out and fuccck OTHER women. Instead, she'd do better.

The fact that she was even the one who brought it up should be a HUGE warning siren inside your skull.

She could be INSTIGATING you to cheat because she ALREADY cheated and is attempting to assuage her guilt.

Someone suggested you do MORE chores with the hope of getting MORE sex.

That's RIDICULOUS!

It has NEVER worked. And it'll NOT work for you, either. In fact, it could AGGRAVATE the issue.

Women HATE it when men do "nice things" for them with the hope of getting sex.

They find it REPULSIVE. And close their legs, padlock their pussies and melt down the keys for good measure.

Doing more chores will NEVER get you more sex 'cause she'd counter with the argument that it's something you should have been doing anyway.

So, it'll NEVER work!

The fact is something FUNDAMENTAL has changed for your wife and she has REPLACED you.
Either with ANOTHER man or her new job.

You have 2 SIMPLE choices:

1. STAY in a sexless marriage.
2. DON'T stay in a sexless marriage.

It's up to you.

But before you make your decision, consider this:

Your wife no longer cares whom you stick your dick in, as long as it's NOT her.

‘A stressed woman who finds you attractive would be EAGER to jump your bones. Not refuse you’

I’ve read many many many many foolish things in my short life but this statement is king

I know the writer is not foolish but the statement is extremely foolish

This is why I rarely talk, when you talk too much you end up a fool

cutecommend:
There is nobody that is less. But if several ladies don't want to settle for broke guys and some guys may want to hustle to meet up, why not guys too vehemently settle for virgins?

If some ladies are plain on what they want and size guys before agreeing to date, why are guys not so loud in insisting that they want only virgins when they make it.

The ladies seem to be winning here. Many ladies have sex with multiple people and these same ladies may insist on marrying rich guys. They may even broke shame working class guys who earn averagely. So why are guys not so loud on insisting on virginity. Raise the standard!

Truth: Am just saying this as its part of the insight I got from one or more person.
We have good and marriageable ladies that are not virgins and we have good husband materials that may not be rich.

While I agree with your assertion, the world is not always as black and white as you put it: 1 + 1 doesn’t always equal two and the meanest faced of men might carry the gentlest of hearts

This relationship dynamic you offered isn’t really the answer to the MAN/WOMAN problem. This is because it has existed since the beginning of time and is still the norm now in modest countries and villages
Even in perfectly formed unions like you just described, they are not without their problems and some even end up worse than the players and hoes who marry. Because the players and the hoes who marry or do not marry will end up messing with them

These the players and hoes are not naive like the virgins and relationships are their butter and bread. When these two groups of people meets, its results in the world you have. The real cause of this is because humans are inherently selfish. It’s not a man that is a cheat and a woman that is gold digger because this took place and that took place

It’s because Eve wants the apple and other forbidden stuff Adam must buy and Adam wants the submission and many Eves

Eve will multiply herself in female children to share Adam if she can because of Apples and other forbidden stuff

Man will defy his Maker rules and bullshit His God who He is supposed to walk with for purpose and sustenance again, again and again for the Daughters of Eve

cutecommend:
There is nobody that is less. But if several ladies don't want to settle for broke guys and some guys may want to hustle to meet up, why not guys too vehemently settle for virgins?

If some ladies are plain on what they want and size guys before agreeing to date, why are guys not so loud in insisting that they want only virgins when they make it.

The ladies seem to be winning here. Many ladies have sex with multiple people and these same ladies may insist on marrying rich guys. They may even broke shame working class guys who earn averagely. So why are guys not so loud on insisting on virginity. Raise the standard!

Truth: Am just saying this as its part of the insight I got from one or more person.
We have good and marriageable ladies that are not virgins and we have good husband materials that may not be rich.

1. Virgins love rich men and still choose based on some extreme standards: you don’t ‘pick’ them, you get lucky

2. When such men are broke, they love decent and virgins. When your type becomes rich, then tell the good girls nobody will date them or spend on them if they don’t open their legs, then go love on sexy hoes

I wrote number 2 because you seemed really pained at the rejection of such women, most men don’t care and are already waiting to use the younger ones to show them that men are timless and women are timed

A real man doesn’t force; push, fuss or shout or about he likes. Neither does complains about her demeanor which might seem unseemly, when he’s ready he goes for it and gets it as he likes

Enyeme:
So they do wire fraud too

The’ve been doing wire fraud before your countrymen knew what banks were

Nigerians think they invented anything

There’s nothing an African man does that he didn’t copy from a foreigner, legal or illegal

Sonnobax15:

It'd be an unwise decision to quit your relationship simply because your fiancee's ex has refused to move on.....You should be more concerned on how she's handling the whole situation.....Is she giving him the room to have a conversation with her? Cuz we all know how vulnerable bannies could be...With their little tiny brains like that of a fish . How they can be easily be manipulated............

But then again,now I just realized that a man shouldn't be wasting his precious time on a banny .

If a man deceives a woman, it is because women are gullible with brains of a fish

If a woman deceives a man, it because women are evil and came from the devil

Goodlyhrt:
My parents tried to raise us in the way that most Christian homes would go.. In the way of the Lord! And all the associated activities of going to Church all Sundays, ignoring all other associations as they are perceived as being unequally yoked with unbelievers. Adhering to all doctrines of the church no questions.

I was raised in this type of environment. In short my parents were staunch members of the Deeper Life Christian Ministries (DLCM) and all my formative years where under the doctrines and teachings of the church.

My parents and the Church taught me to put all my hope in the Lord in all situations and never to complain much because God will make a way even at the dieing minutes.

So I grew up weary of my non church going environment. I wouldn't find myself being a social animal that I am working aggressively hard on becoming nowadays.

So I made church friends, and went to church gatherings, church schools right until my secondary school days.

But there is a catch.

I watched my family falter and we lost everything we had. My father went down with diabetes around 2008 and nobody to help. He lost his carpentry workshop and showroom.. almost lost his life to the disease.

The Church, my church DLCM couldn't offer us good help because they too were individually waiting on the Lord too. So they offered us help but meager.

But that was the only gathering we knew and are aquatinted with.

No Umunna membership, ordinary friends gathering or in another word Friends club. Even market association, my parents never belonged to any of those.

We solely waited on the Lord and around 2011, my dad's diabetes was somehow controlled. Thanks to my Uncle in the village who came to our rescue by using herbs and leaves to help my dad. But not without enough convincing and lobbying from my uncle because my parents saw the help as being fetish of some sort.

In fact at that time we were not in talking terms with the said uncle because of his native practices. But at the end of the day he came to our rescue through the herbs he gave to my dad.

What I am saying is that my parents lifestyle of being too churchy in the way the raised us has been net detrimental in my life as a grown man and to my siblings too.

Talking about me. I didn't finish my education due to my dad's health and the fact that there's no one that could help me who my dad is aquainted with. My social skills is zero until recently. I didn't know how to deal with anybody outside talking about church related stuff and academic stuff I was lost.

So I am on this situation all thanks to my parents way of life of being too judgemental of everything not church related.

In short right now I don't how to keep a healthy relationship - you know calling to check up on someone, buying gifts, attending birthdays and all those stuffs that make knowing people interesting. I am just trying to pick these stuffs up from the street now.


And it hasn't helped in any way.

I think it has brought untold hardship to our lives in the sense that we suffer alone with no one to help. Not uncle's, not friends because we hardly make friends. In those days I wondered why no one visits my parents at home while all our neighbors hosted visitors almost all day especially on Sundays. Unless we are hosting Bible study session.

The simple truth is that no one should exist alone in this plane Earth. We were never built to survive alone and my parents and the church were all wrong.

So I stopped going to church totally. I hated my life how it has turned out and wish I could've made my own decisions earlier in life.

Of a truth I started dodging church activities very early in my teen years but I met stiff rebuttal from my dad. You know the "if I don't see you in church blah blah blah no school fees for you blah blah blah".

Because I started noticing something was off.

They said God answered prayers but I couldn't get answers to mine. I could remember one time in the DLCM camp ground. I prayed earnestly to be healed of my deformity, seeing that others got theirs and I was moved and cried sore for God to heal me. Even made promises to God if he proves his faithfulness. But it seemed the blessings from pastor Kumuyi would never get to me.

I was depressed and got angered.

Starting from then, my prayer life took a dive. Interest in the things of the church tanked.

Also my dad's ill fortune and how we suffered to eat most times during that time, made me question God and doubtful in everything.

In conclusion. We are never going to survive alone as species. We all need US in our lives.

I have started opening up to non church related associations lately. I even joined another church howbeit a modern church if you know what I mean. But now, I joined the church with a purpose. Not because I like going there but because I needed the connections there.

In the Bible it says that we should worship God with understanding but most non-orthodox denominations don't understand a thing.

My message to everyone.

Go out there and be aquainted with your fellow humans. Don't listen to religion and its backwater ideologies because we can't survive alone.

Join a political party, know some force men and become friends. Go to events with the sole aim of meeting new people.

Attend seminars and be active in the society.

A little appraisal of the Yoruba people. In the way some of them practice the Abrahamaic religion. They don't go overboard like the Northerners because of Islam or as strict as the Easterners, my people, in the way they practice Christianity. I stayed in Lagos for upto six years and I was initially confused in the way they practiced the Abrahamaic religions but now I understand better and I am in love with their way in that aspect.

Lastly be wise in your association with people. I.e. avoid secret societies or cult groups because although they'd promise you protection but it's all a lie.

I want to add this.

I learnt this from a pastor.

He said that the reason why Africa is suffering and is in great poverty is because we don't have more partnership businesses.

People have really nice business ideas but no one to sponsor them because African people are not inclined to form partnership so they don't know how to handle it.

In Europe or "the West", many people live off their investment in numerous business partnerships. No matter how little the business they invest in it and get it working good and then get ROI. Even when they are not actively employed or run their own personal business. But they are getting ROI from the investment in other people's businesses.

I think this is true though.

Sorry for the long read.

You and your family were all Pharisees and Sadducees

You had the Law but had not faith, joy, or love nor long suffering which are the fruit of the spirit

What’s ’If I don’t see you in church, no school fees for you’?

A staunch example of a man and a family without the discretion and counsel of the Holy Ghost

Such are playing field for the Devil and his agents, those who are not wise as serpents and gentle as doves

Know the word of God that you can speak it off hand, prophesy accurately, have faith that can move mountains, heal the sick and even make an amputees legs to grow, call down fire from heaven if you like

If you have not LOVE which is GOD, you are nothing to celestials

If your motive to know the word of God and understand it so you can puff up your chest to the rest of creation and call them unholy because the Lord drew you to Himself for His purpose

You are a son of pride destined for Hell

God bless you and give you your reward at the end of your race ❤️❤️❤️

Malroux:
A blatant lie. It has always been part of Yoruba culture even before Awolowo.

I just read this story now and a very interesting fact popped up

It was Obafemi Awolowo himself that defended this King as his lawyer, knowing fully well the king was guilty. You need to read how stupid his defense was even after all the confessions


I love irony

SAMBARRY:
Christians are not tolerant they're docile and accept every kind of disrespect

Imagine someone hanged a big banner with the inscription ALLAH IS not god and Muhammed is a r@p1st in maiduguri or kano,the whole of that street go catch fire.who no price go buy market by force.even the person who no know when them erect banner wey dey live for the street will not be alive to explain that he has nothing to do with it.

Even Me as a Christian find the attitude of Christians offensive, annoying and disrespectful to the tenets of Christianity and no thanks to the pentecostal ideology of anything goes.

Whats the difference between you and them if you retaliate? Haven’t you heard it is no longer an eye for an eye because that makes the whole world blind?

What are ‘Christian Tenets’ if not peace? Who is more docile than Christ who was led to his slaughter and didnt speak a word in His defense?

What does Christ tell you to do to your enemies who hate you? Did he not admonish his disciple for attacking a soldier when they came to arrest him?

The difference between the old times and now is that God fights for Himself. If it was this generation of so called Christians, Christ would never have died to show us mercy because they think they can fight for God

Disliking your fellow Christians who are practicing what was explicitly preached to them by Jesus HIMSELF makes you a CANCER to the body of Christ

Check yourself trying to keep that eye that God asked you to pluck out if it causes you to sin. Look away, protect your eye gates and fight for your salvation

God will not hear ‘It was because of him I got so angry’

An angry man is no different from a murderer according to Scripture

haybhi1:
You could almost argue that all government is supposed to gather all herbalists and kill them all to start with sanitation of the country.

1. The rubbish doesn't even work.
2. People who do it are usually regressive and dirty.
3. It is illogical and holds no sense in it (how will you have to kill someone or goat or chicken to be rich? How many Dangote and Musk dey kill yearly)
4. We can't achieve greatness with it.
5. They're a huge part of the plagues of our society through misinformation—how can you tell terminally ill people to visit herbalist instead of doctors?
6. How can you be beating people going about their business because you're doing masquerade?
... it's an endless list.

We have to find a way to filter our cultures and ensure only the best of it are retained. If they were to ever gather all the foools in the world in one single country, it's you two that will be president and vice president of the country.

Very low IQ nitwits.After having a bad day, I just remember I'm a Yoruba and just smile. You want to know why I'm confident and proud to talk about my people and Yoruba in the best light? It's because we're a worthy member of the society. I'm useful and create value and will do so much more in the nearest future. And when you're like me, you'll never want spoilt what good things you're part of. Being a Yoruba, being born and bred in Lagos all contribute to the person I am today and projecting towards. You see all those good things you read about Yorubas overseas here? In (max) ten years, you're likely to read mine too.

Now that's a stark difference from you. I know you lot are useless beings. You just serve to waste the Oxygen on earth. You never create value. If tomorrow I read a news that you're being tried for drug-related case in Saudi Arabia, I'll just giggle. Your IQ is comparable to that of a mosquito. You never add anything to the country, all you live for is to hate my people and abuse the country. The envy is as bright as the daylight. Lol. Ihaenacho hating on Messi. But I no send you.

You and your ilks are the reason Africa is grappling with development and the way it is. So retrogressive. If you all go to America or Europe today, 2 years is too much for them to implode.

I still dey tok am, if I was a part of y'all, I'd have commited suucide.

Balderdash

Mere words or actions do not complete accomplishments or achieve feats. It is the mind that does before the body responds, then society accepts

No one is going to hear anything from someone with your mentality in the next ten years, you and the rest of your ilk on this mention. Nairaland’s band of unintelligent tribalistic nitwits

2034 is not far. None of you will achieve anything beyond upgrading your families or random women with your wealth (If any is made)

Impact makers don’t reason like you and your opponents on this mention, who ironically and amusingly, you think you are different from

A monkey is a monkey

SkengRay:
Funny guy .

Learn and stop embarrassing yourself

When you come to this site and read some topics, you have to ask yourself whether majority of its Thread Creators are illiterates or teenagers

God give me the grace to typing in this site as a reflex

Everyday I get a little less intelligent and a thousand times more worried for the kind of people I share the country with

ClearFlair:
A woman will soon employ you, and you'll be shouting "yes ma" all day long

He thinks power still lies in physical strength. Dude is unaware that Goliath is no longer a giant, it’s a nerd

AchrafHakimi:
Women have no place in leadership
They were created to be dominated not to dominate

Namibia will become a colony very soon

England, Germany, Croatia and Finland says

‘Hello, Black African male monkey 🐒 👋’.. No man in your generation is smart enough to have an intellectual conversation with them

Let your president cough where they are whether rhey won’t come drag you in chains while and colonize both you and every male in your lineage

My forefathers and father are much smarter than yours, so if you like type ‘Your papa no black too?

Blackness is in the brain and your own is darker than charcoal, it is obviously inherited

Stolen:
SEE EHEN, THEIR ARE SOME PEOPLE THAT WILL LIVE TILL 90 YEARS, SO LONG AS THEY ARE SEEING THEIR PIKIN.


TAKE AWAY THEIR PIKIN, GIVE AM 5 YEARS, U WILL HEAR ANOTHER DEATH.

In my Grandad’s case, it took him less than three months after his first son who was just 47, my lovely uncle left earlier this year

A vibrant old man we thought was going to remain another ten, fifteen years

Couldn’t do without his favorite

simpleseyi:
But why is his head flat?

His head is cone shaped

skywalker240:
Banga soup and starch was my deal, until I relocated to Benin City, omo you need to come to Edo State and see how it's prepared.

Hahahahaha. This was exactly my experience, my best food became my worst food

Starch go loose like custard, banga go tasteless anyhow

Good luck and better learn how to prepare it yourself like I was forced to or you will hate Starch and Banga for life

Those people can’t cook anything

Idonweak:
You guys are insane, honestly. Have you asked your father to perform a DNA test on you? Because only a bastard would look to spread hate during someone else's celebration.

When children of harlots speak, it is not difficult to recognize them

Like I said yesterday and will continue to say

Anyone that starts a topic here, man or woman is extremely foolish

Seun, you have failed woefully and you are a huge disappointment, I will make sure your site goes viral for cyber bullying

I am willing to invest money in this

Zonefree, monkey go enter market one day, this monkey will not come back

Keep thinking you’re invisible until you step on dangerous toes, this goes for all you products of prostitutes here

You are obviously the product of a dead prostitute. BORN BASTARD


*spits

richmond500:
I think she hasn't said anything wrong that that should not have public opinion.

NLders are making public discussion difficult.
If a guy talks about romance, he is a simp. If a lady talks about romance, she is a gold digger or evening newspaper.

Wtf is wrong with u all?

Like I said. She is foolish for starting a thread on Nairaland as a woman and the attention she was looking for, she has seen it

Anyone is foolish for starting a topic here without expecting insults from obscure idiots but as a woman? You are doubly foolish

Drive that question to your fellow men here. If only you know how many intelligent women used to be here years ago, all have fled from the bitterness of your gender who seem to hate women with scary intense passion

I left for many years myself but can’t resist coming from time to time because it is nostalgic to me, these people literally drew me in a disfigured manner and started trollling my entire family, just because of banter

With that said, Bleep Nairaland and its commenters ✌️

Tallesty1:
You left him because he trash-talks others in keke and smaller cars and reacts over everything. But you're not riding with the keke guys or those in smaller cars either.

You exchanged numbers and went on a first and second date with him simply because he has a big car. A keke rider wouldn’t even stand a chance of getting a date with you, and if, by some miracle, it happens, and he behaves like the guy, you wouldn't give him a second chance.

The guy's car got you but somehow,
somehow, you think you're a better person than him.

Because women arent riding with Keke drivers or people with smaller cars don’t have girls ten times prettier than her

If you want to see the longest jump to conclusion in your life and the most bitter unrelated replies to strangers from strangers you will ever see in your entire life

Type ‘Nairaland.com’, look for a comment that has an ‘M’ responding to a comment with an ‘F’

Sirmwill:
No one really pays attention to you

Wipe your tears, no one asked you spend all your savings on a gold digger