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Politics / Re: Oil Marketers begin Lifting Petrol From Dangote Refinery by mbos: 11:52am On Sep 19
lets see what will happen in october 1st as the leaders are a now nero who sees the masses as obstacle to their inert demonic desires
Foreign Affairs / Re: Turkey's Erdogan Says Russia Must Return Crimea To Ukraine. by mbos: 10:36pm On Sep 11
Russian should aid the Kurdistan and deal ruthlessly nwith this tyrant

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Crime / Re: 18-Year-Old Boy Stabs His 38-Year-Old Lover To Death In Edo Hotel by mbos: 10:54pm On Sep 10
What happened is a spiritual event..sex is is totally spiritual even with money paid to a prostity
Foreign Affairs / Re: Pictures From Donald Trump's Presidential Campaign In Arizona State by mbos: 10:45am On Aug 25
trutharena:
Massive turnout for a clown
your worthless transgender and abortionist follower. Repent or perish
Politics / Re: People Planning Protests Are Not Patriotic Nigerians — Umahi by mbos: 6:07pm On Jul 23
your days are numbered
Foreign Affairs / Re: Riot In Leeds, United Kingdom Over Child Services (Video, Pictures) by mbos: 10:35am On Jul 19
what a useless world mock the true family system

Yahweh has created and commanded, nothing can change it without perishing

the west is on a decline


othermen:
The sun-baked soil of Africa was a distant memory for the young girl, Bidemi, as she stepped off the bus and onto the unfamiliar pavement of her new home. Her father, Deolu, had worked tirelessly to bring their family to this new land, seeking a brighter future for his daughter. With a mix of excitement and trepidation, Bidemi clutched her father's hand as they made their way to their new apartment.

As they settled into their new life, Deola’s dedication to Bidemi’s education only grew stronger. He labored long hours to ensure she had the best possible chance at success, and his hard work paid off when Bidemi was accepted into a local elementary school.

At first, Bidemi struggled to adjust to the unfamiliar customs and expectations of her new school. In Ibadan, children were taught to respect their elders with silence and obedience. But here, her classmates seemed to have an unspoken freedom to express themselves, even to the point of telling adults to "shut up." Bidemi watched in awe as her peers confidently asserted themselves, and she began to wonder why she couldn't do the same.

As the days turned into weeks, Bidemi’s newfound confidence grew. She started to speak up in class, sharing her thoughts and ideas with her teacher and classmates. But with this newfound freedom came a reckoning. One evening, as they sat down to dinner, Bidemi complained about the meal, saying she was tired of eggs and wanted chicken instead. Then, she was tired of yoghurt and wanted Sobo. Deolu, taken aback by her assertiveness, scolded her for her attitude. But Bidemi, fueled by her newfound sense of self, shot back, "Shut up, Daddy!"

The slap that followed sent shockwaves through their small apartment. Bidemi’s eyes welled up with tears as she retreated to her room, her heart heavy with regret. But the damage was done. The teacher noticed Bidemi’s unusual silence the next day and, after hearing the story, immediately contacted child services.

The days that followed were a blur for Ogbeni Deolu. He lost his joy, his mind and his ability to work as he struggled to come to terms with the consequences of his actions. The courts deemed him unfit to care for Bidemi, and she was taken into protective custody. Deolu’s world crumbled around him as he realized he might never be with his beloved daughter again.

Two long years passed, and Deolu’s once-strong spirit was broken. He perished, a shadow of the man he once was, his heart forever scarred by the loss of his daughter and the life they once shared.

In the two years that passed, the Child services contacted Deolu, informing him that Bidemi was doing well in her new foster home and that he could have supervised visits with her. Initially overjoyed, Deolu eagerly agreed, hoping to rebuild their relationship.

However, when Deolu was finally reunited with Bidemi, he was met with a stranger. The vibrant, curious girl he once knew was now a confident, self-assured young woman who seemed to have moved on from his love. Bidemi was polite but distant, and Deolu’s heart sank as he realized she had formed strong bonds with her new family.

As the visits continued, Deolu struggled to connect with the daughter he once knew so intimately. Bidemi’s new family had become her rock, and she seemed to prefer their company to his. The pain of this realization was almost too much for Deolu to bear.

Helping Abidemi recover, her new foster family
provided her with mental health support and she began therapy. Her therapist helped her uncover the deep-seated effects of the beatings she received as a child in Ibadan, and that it had profoundly impacted her mental health and might affect her own disposition and tolerance for abusive relationships.

As Bidemi worked through her trauma, she began to recognize the abusive patterns in her relationship with her father, Deolu. It was just the slap, but the more her foster family made her watch Nigerian movies on YouTube and saw the way parents corporally punished their children in Africa, the more she adopted the children’s pain and hated her father.

With the newfound understanding, Abidemi spoke out about the abusive relationship she had with her father, sharing her story with everyone around her. While this was a liberating experience for Bidemi, it further drove Deolu to madness. He never used a cane on Abidemi in Ibadan.

No one would have Deolu and so he descended further into a dark abyss of denial and anger. He gave a statement calling his Abidemi a liar. It seemed to him, that the dearth of his daughter’s love was not enough, now, Abidemi would also take the love he could gain from elsewhere, for standing with him seemed like standing against Abidemi. This was the source of the rejection of his community and why he sought to publicly rebuke her.

It was just a slap, but Abidemi spoke at length about the abusive relationship. It was an excuse for her inadequacies, and a source of livelihood for her and her foster family. As she spoke, Deolu’s reputation got further tarnished, and he was shunned and his descent into madness was sealed. It was his village people, he wrongly said.


As Bidemi shared her experience with the world, the foster family who had taken her in were the center of attention. They were hailed as heroes for providing a safe haven for Bidemi and for supporting her in speaking out against her father's abuse. They reaped rewards, received donations and funding for their "noble" work, and their nonprofit organization grew exponentially.

Bidemi’s mental health fraying under the pressure of constantly reliving her trauma, didn’t matter. the foster family's priorities was clear. They were more invested in keeping the spotlight on themselves and the cause than in ensuring Bidemi’s well-being.

Her mental health was an insignificant cost and they told her, the suffering she experienced was a necessary sacrifice for the greater good – to raise awareness and bring an end to abuse.

Bidemi condition worsened, and when the madness that took her father had consumed her too. She yearned for Deolu, her father, but no one heard her.

In the absence of no shoulder to lean on, Bidemi became reliant on substances to cope. It could dull her pain, ease her regret.

In the obituary, published after her suicide, the foster family made sure to mention she was a fighter who eventually succumbed to her father’s abuse.
Politics / Re: N70,000 Minimum Wage: We Can’t Pay Unless…. – Organised Private Sector Cries Out by mbos: 10:22am On Jul 19
you are naive because you no nothing about persuasion and negotiation strategies


they had to go very high to get that 100% increase , if they would end in about 45k or 50k


Solofresh2:
I was just laughing when some people were shouting 250k or nothing😂
Shey company wet no fit pay 70k na hin want pay 250k?😂
Nigerians are really funny people
Politics / Re: Asari Dokubo To Wike: "Surrender You No Go Fit Fight" by mbos: 12:27pm On Jul 18
yorubaa are cowards
they like downfalls


Chinjo2:
Why Yoruba people are supporting wike still beats my imagination.
You people think South South is like South West where one man can hold the entire region hostage?
Politics / Re: South East Won’t Join Protest Against Tinubu Administration - Umahi by mbos: 10:12am On Jul 18
yes of course the repugnant mumu knows very well

the Nigerian politicians have turned themselves into slave drivers and masters


everyday is for the thief but only one is for the owner of the house

Bobloco:
Umahi is speaking for himself and also from the position of being a member of the current calamitous Tinubu regime.

Umahi, no matter his position and status, doesn't have the authority to speak for the south east, and he knows this very fact. 
Politics / Re: Senate Sacks Ali Ndume As Chief Whip over Anti-Tinubu Comments by mbos: 2:06pm On Jul 17
me against the world


politicians against the masses

let the war stART
Sports / Re: Argentina National Team Under Fire For Singing Racist Songs After Their Win by mbos: 11:19am On Jul 17
na Britain wey like you abi

people that come to you pretending that they love, but instead are interested in enslaving u like britian and France are not like spainard and pretending that they love u yet manipulating your economy eternally


samwash:
Long time ago, after I read documened history books of how Argentina wipe out all black slaves from their land after slave trade was abolished.
Their plan was to wipe out the black race, I hated that country, na of recent I begin like the country small small,
Many pple don kwn that Argentinian Don't like blacks
Sports / Re: Argentina National Team Under Fire For Singing Racist Songs After Their Win by mbos: 10:34am On Jul 17
you mean satanic diversity of transgender

or Godlessness of sodom and gormorrah
thriving in this NATO western repugnant soulless funks

u think the world is a free space ungoverned by divine principles?

ALOBAM:
Singing racist chants like that is just not acceptable, especially in today's world where diversity and respect should be celebrated.
Politics / Re: Hardship: Life Now Unbearable For Nigerians – Arewa Groups Lament by mbos: 10:25am On Jul 17
yet you are against protest

this is pure witchery on the masses from politicians

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Politics / Re: Tinubu’s 2027 Campaign Billboard Mounted In Abuja (photo) by mbos: 2:58pm On Jul 15
may darkness brought by DARK MATTERS be opun them on them

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Foreign Affairs / Re: The Revolutionary Strides Of President Ibrahim Traore Of Burkina Faso by mbos: 1:52pm On Jul 13
dont mind the brainwashed vagabond
perpetual western slAVE


IamANigerianMan:

Mr. Sense are making progress as a country?
Politics / Re: Eberechi Suzette Nyesom Wike Sworn In As Justice Of The Court Of Appeal by mbos: 5:05pm On Jul 10
i think say na neberechi wey ikwerre de bear
Sports / Re: Messi Guides Argentina To Another Copa Final by mbos: 3:59pm On Jul 10
Thanks to goals from Manchester City's Julián Àlvarez

or

Thanks to goals from Julián Àlvarez of Argentina

he was first born in Argentina before English Man City

stop claiming mere success
Politics / Re: Eberechi Suzette Nyesom Wike Sworn In As Justice Of The Court Of Appeal by mbos: 3:53pm On Jul 10
evilism entrenched in the zoo
Politics / Re: Food crisis: Tinubu has shut his doors, some Ministers can't see him - Ndume by mbos: 11:43am On Jul 10
he said " i will reduce their purchasing power when am voted in"
a conspiracy with the western Nato nations


long live putin, long live Russia
long live BRICS



ElevationD:
Are we to finally agree that BAT, having forced this hardship on the citizens, does not have any solution m?

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