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Aridunnuoluwa:
Bro we are even naa me and you suppose be taye and Kenny

I hate that I'm this way. People just walk all over me

advanceDNA:
Relax.....just keep dating broke, entitled Nigerian girls especially those ones u meet on face book with "Mhiz" title.......u go soon wicked.... Nor worry

I'm still too soft fr

NEUDUDE:
Just find the nearest nigerian girl and you are set lol

Believe me, I've had my fair share.

I don see Shege promax

Everyday247:
I'm just like you.
The best way to become very wicked is to:
1. Stop thinking about other people's feelings and opinions. The people who take advantage of you do not care about your feelings and opinions.
2. Don't think before you act. This may sound negative, but people like you tend to think about people's feelings and opinions before acting. This makes you empathic and soft.
3. Think about what you want only and go for it. Every other people's desires and wants are irrelevant. (Put your self first)
And one more extra; learn how to fight physically, when some people discover that they can't take advantage of you they will resort to violent means, BE PREPARED!!! ✊

You got me exactly. I think a lot before I act and that's why I end up putting everyone's feelings first.
Going for only what I want makes me feel like I'm selfish

Dshocker:
Lace your mother's food with Otapiapia, immediately she dies, you will be so enraged and people will fear you.

You are indeed the shocker.

Augustine2244:
Go and register for the course Wickedness 101 and attend lectures regularly.
On a serious note,do this.
1. Learn to say No.
2. Never owe anybody any explanation for your actions.
3. Set boundaries in your interactions with people and STRICTLY enforce them.
4.Learn to be unpredictable, that's never let people assume and predicte your lines of action.
5. Never laugh or smile too much with people.They can take you for granted.
6. Learn to reduce your degree of association in public,to avoid see finish syndrome.
7. Never bring people into your home and private life anyhow.

Whoa! Thank you so much. I appreciate this.

CyrusVI:


I dont know about the manipulation part, thats feminine and cowardly and except you're in a political setting, you really dont need it


Read this book The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuvk by Mark Manson

It will teach to become emotionless with your full chest

I have the book, it's not helping much.

lordm:
Learn to say no

I just pity people a lot to say no to them

Hi guys, I notice one thing about me.
I'm too emotional for a man. I'm too soft hearted. I don't want bad things to happen to anyone.
But recently, I realized that people are taking advantage of that and I'm tired.

Please can someone teach me the act of wickedness thru manipulation?

The way you destroy people but act like you are their help. That kind of manipulative destruction.

Any help please.

The only thing giving me depression as I am right now is money.
Once I'm able to take care of my ma. Depression will fly thru the window.

MaxInTheHouse , Jaephoenix , StillDTruth , Maximus , FRANCISTOWN , LordReed 😂😂😂😂

Magicalsineros:
Then why does her husband take it personal by committing suicide? If women were to be taking things personal like that, don't you know they will be high rate of suicide in the society?

Why must it be the man's friend?

Magicalsineros:
There's this trending news of a man who committed suicide after discovering his wife was cheating with his friends to feed the family, as the man was incapable of providing for the family. I've seen several negative comments Both on Facebook and here addressing the wife wrongly.
In as much as I am not applauding the wife, but
Dear men, don't be a hypocrite. How many of you can assist a helpless woman without demanding for her body?
How many of you can render help to your fellow man in difficult situation?

This is the same country where a young man was shouting endlessly '' I don't want to die'' ''pls help me'' he even ran to the police station and drop a statement, yet nobody stood up for him until he died, and immediately he dead, the whole country stood up in protest,
Ranting justice for the dead.

What was this man's wife suppose to do, if she has tried all her effort and it's not enough?
Was she supposed to wait and die with her children because of hunger?

Many of you can't even support your family members in need, but once it results to suicide, you will start pretending as if you care.

Death is not the worst thing that can happen to a man.

Many of you, suddenly becomes lawyers and Chief judge when bad news comes up.

This post of yours further strengthens my beliefs that 21st century women are set of no good binturis, very useless and not worthy of being in the same space with.
I'd rather raise a snake than love a woman.

Kobojunkieee:
Deep down you know your scammers-in-the-lords aka prophets, abi na babalawos we go call them, are lying to you. You said it yourself that you don't believe them. So, why are you giving yourself stress about what they said when you have no reason to want the girl back? That is how you are your problem here.

Please set that girl free by telling her you don't in fact like her at all.

Honestly! I do not like her. And there is no way in hell I'm ever gonna marry her or someone like her.
Kobo, did you know this girl we are talking about is even fair?
No disrespect to fair peeps.
I met another girl who is just dark. Dark girls are the representation of pure beauty, not this albinos them.

Apologies if you're fair.

Pukkalolo:
My details are on my profile, you can shoot me a message

Thank you boss. I've sent you a PM. Please boss, I'll need a direct mentoring on this redpill thing. Frame and manipulative tactics.
One's gotta think like a thief to catch a thief.

FRANCISTOWN:
In my own reasoning, if she never cheated on you before she broke up, then she is even better than you. At least, she grew out of love , but you are unfaithful.

She's by far better and more disciplined than you.
What are we even saying sef. There is no discussion here.

But she didn't know.

Kobojunkieee:
You despise this woman ---- that much is obvious from your post--- but your greed for money is your only reason for wanting to consider her. You see her as nothing better than a "money ritual dummy of sorts"--- you only consider her because using her might bring you money, according to these babalawos-abi-na-prophets of yours. So how come you never realize at all say na you be your own problem in all of this?

My prophets.

How am i the problem?

galantjoe:
Oga op swallow your ego
Accept her back
Forgive her, you can see that she has tasted other gbola abd found yours palatable
Give her second chance at least for sake of your financial breakthrough

This gbola is golden now. My pride is like a can of malt. There is no way on earth I can swallow that.
Let her end in regrets knowing that she can't can't have a taste of this glorious gbola anymore.

jaephoenix:
Nigga you have been having some quality advice here. What do you need from us again? You can call kobojunkie to help out

On the spiritual stuff sir.

Kobojunkieee kobojunkiee

Nonexisting1:
The prophecy is for you to never leave her because she holds the key to your breakthrough right? It's very simple. Accept her back solely for that and also as your public toilet. Even though she is not your spec now, once in a while we lower our standards just to flush our dicks so instead of masturbating, use her as your sperm dump. Keep her somewhat close and when it's time for you to marry, introduce her to your wife and thank her for her service. Just keep her close enough for now until after the breakthrough. For more doses of wickedness to the evil gender, call upon me at any time brother.

She's no longer sexually appealing to me boss. There is this new girl I met, though we don't have anything going on yet. But she has a very interesting thing behind her, plus she's young too and she's been giving me lots of green light here and there.
I will need a kind of help to utilize and take advantage of this green light.
Looking at her face and her behind alone makes me happy and relieves my stress.
There is no way I'm abandoning a Bugatti for Peugeot 504.
That girl no hungry me knack again.

FRANCISTOWN:
I'm going to say some really uncomfortable truth and I don't care whether you like me or not.
First of all, how did you know she left you because she met with someone handsome?

Are you trying to say during the course of you guys' 5years dating, she never met a dude more handsome than you?

I understand that people will try to bend the truth so that they can absorb themselves of any guilt and responsibility.
In all your narration, you never said anything that you did wrong in the relationship.
What kind of a guy were you when she was with you.
^{See, I know that women are set of no good binturis, but I know women don't always go for looks when it comes to attraction, at least I agree with the redpill on that.}
Women have told me several times that they will never date me because of my looks.

The most important for a man is composure. A man must not lose his composure, the moment you are desperate for a lady. Any form of attraction she got for you automatically drops through. See, this is the absolute truth, no matter how much a girl is into you, the moment you become thirsty of her, she'll begin to see you as a loser.

^{You might be thinking she left because you were not handsome, but that's your insecurity speaking out loudly into your own ears.}

Insecurity itself is a repulsive character that chases women away from men. It's the opposite of confidence, women hate men who are not confident in themselves.

I've said it. I no send anybody papa on this platform. I speak the truth as it is.

Lemme ask you some stuffs. During the time you guys were dating.

1. Did you cheat on her?
2. Did she tell you she left because the guy was more handsome?
3. Did you show any form of insecurities?

You see how I cleverly avoided the spiritual part right? It's because, anyone with at least 1 IQ should not believe that horse dung.

Whether I cheat or not is inconsequential in this case. But I was thirsty of her like crazy. I was too desperate and needy which made me too domineering.

The reason I said cheating on her is inconsequential was that, though I cheated with four different girls, but SHE WAS NOT AWARE . So it wouldn't make a difference.

She didn't tell me she left because the guy was more handsome. But it's evident the guy was more handsome.

Pukkalolo:
She didn't initially break up with you because you were not handsome enough for her; But rather because you desperately DESIRED her.

And she treated you like a piece of shit because she felt you don't DESERVE her.

There's a Big difference between desire and deserve.

I'm not an handsome guy also, but my women have rarely ever break up with me just to go date a guy finer than me. That's because I don't operate with the "desire" mentality. I operate with the "deserve" mentality.


Do you ever wonder why it is that some people get some things easily in life? Whilst others, even after a lot of effort still find it hard to get their desires .

This is because the universe operates on a deserve principle—not desire.

Everyone desires, but not everyone deserves.

You'd heard me in the past say something like, "Bank easily gives loan to those who don't need the money. Women easily give sexual relationships to men who don't need the sex."

For example--- when you go to a bank and request for a loan of 50 million, the bank will request for things like your financial statements of your previous transactions, your networth, your assets, collaterals or any other necessary things.

The bank request for things because they want confirm if you're worth the 50 million cash loan that you are trying to get. They want to first confirm if you truly "deserve" the money.

First of all, you need understand that the Bank won't just credit you 50 million cash loan just because you "desire" it. They only credit you if they are sure you "deserve" it.

The bank feel "safe" giving loan to the person who don't even need the loan to begin with. That's why fellas like Aliko or Elon will get loan at the snap of their fingers to build million dollars refinery or to purchase Twitter.

Feel free to Read IAmHim1 on "The Scam Of Monthly Salary And Long-term Ajo Contribution" to understand paradigm behind banks giving loan.

https://www.nairaland.com/8199081/scam-monthly-salary-long-term-ajo#131749032

Anyways, let's continue.

The woman feel safe dropping her panties for the dude who don't need the pussy. This is the guy who can "take or leave it". The woman think, If you don't need my sexual companionship, then I think you 'deserve' my sexual companionship.

There is psychological sense of "safety" at play here.

When you're interacting with a beautiful girl with a "desire" frame of mind, you will be busy in your head trying to think of the next best thing to say, so that she won't lose interest in the conversation. You puts way too much importance on her sexual companionship. You make the woman out to be something far greater than she is.

But when you are in a "deserve" state of mind, you're simply giving her the choice to "take it or leave it". If she's interested, great! If she's not, great.

The typical woman don't give shit about how much you love her or how much you desire her. That's because she's already used to hundreds and even thousands men desiring her.

Okay, Meaning, Back to you again...

She initially left you for a more handsome colleague because you didn't prove to her that you "deserve" her. That is, you didn't prove to her that you DON'T NEED her sexual companionship.

This is why she treated you like a piece of shit: because your place her companionship on pedestal.

Now, you say, "she no longer meet my spec. I have a better taste now."

That's Powerful. Because now you're operating from a "deserve" mindset. You have prove to her that you DON'T NEED her anymore. This is why she's now begging you consistently to accept her again.

In summary,

If you want to accept her back, IT'S YOUR CHOICE to make.

But I'll advice you not to accept her back just to avenge. You are more mature than that.

Since she no more meet your spec, tell her to move on.

And you go meet other girls who are now your taste.

You must be a prophet of some sort. I really really did pant after her like crazy. I built my whole life around her existence. I thought this love of a thing was real.

Please do you have a WhatsApp channel or a telegram group where we can speak.
You speak like a legend.

luminouz:
No need to avenge yourself on her. That's not the redpill way. The best revenge is to ignore her and move on. Ignore her calls and chats. Never go back to a woman like that.

If you try to get even, it may cost you more than you know. You feel anger which is normal but don't let it consume you. Why? Because there are a million other beautiful girls out there. Why waste time and emotions on one who sold herself so cheaply. Let it go, work on yourself and try to travel to other African, Caribbean or western countries and you will see how blessed you are to be a Nigerian man. Girls more loyal and beautiful are waiting.

Once again, don't let anger and revenge consume you. It's not worth it

Hmmmm..... Thanks boss. We will keep ignoring her like we've done for the past two years.
You are amazing

heartofcity12:
Seconded. Follow this advice op, he said it all 💯

'been waiting for you.
Thanks boss.

1Sharon:
You have to start by thinking critically. What makes you think being with her will get you some financial favours?

Honestly, I'm drawing a blank. Yeah, she got connections with some really upper ups but I'm failing to see how that can be any beneficial.
I've been able to establish friendliness with some high profile people which hasn't yielded nothing to be specific.
I mean, no one is entitled to receive help from anyone save himself.

luminouz:
I'm sorry. Got busy and forgot for a minute.


Now,....

I was in a relationship with a girl some years back. She was my usual tall, big ass, dark skinned girl. She came from a very poor family. I didn't realize how poor till I visited her house. Since she is pretty, men will drool over her and promise lots of nonsense. She lapped that attention up. I told her never to collect money from men or meet them up for any reason if she is serious about keeping me. But that wasn't the case. But I have been told by so many people how good she is to my destiny and all that, I was overlooking these minor faults of hers. Many pastors would say our stars are aligned and all that shiiit.

Then something happened. One dude was more mad that the others. Would cry on the phone, send her messages, promise undying love and all that. In my years of living, I never meant a dude who was so needy and emotionally manipulative like that dude. He preferred to be side dude, would beg her for a visit, would send her urgent 2k. If she doesn't answer his calls, he would whine and cry like a child removed from mummy's tits. But because she gave him attention, slowly he wormed his way into her psyche and convinced her to visit him.

She was supposed to visit me that day but said she was too tired but shorty went to another dude's house and got oral sexed and roughhoused by this dude. No sex happened because I saw all their WhatsApp chats(I cloned her phone when I was suspicious) but the fact that she was undressed and caressed by another dude made me loose interest immediately. This dude roughhoused her that he actually bit part of her clitoris and wounded her. The fûcked up part is she never stopped talking to him after that episode, which made me realize that I let her get off with too much because some pastors said she was my sun and stars. I behaved
like nothing happened and invited her to my house.

When she came, I took her phone and scrolled down to the chats and showed them to her. She always talked about this guy as a pest but if you are not a bug, why fear pesticide? She started crying and weeping and all that shiit. I just looked disgusted and sent her away. Guess what,she was still talking to this dude after she promised never to talk to him anymore. Then, I went to two of these pastors and told them what's up. Guess what the two told me? She will change!! She is still my sun and stars. We are so perfect for each other. I looked at them in disbelief. My so-called sun and stars got her fûcking clit bit off and undressed and the only thing that didn't make the other dude sleep with her was that he was a mumu..and yet you lots are still advocating for me to marry a woman who lied to my face, disrespected and disobeyed me? That was when I threw away that religious mumbo-jumbo and put on my redpill cap.

Then, with the redpill, I know that this girl ain't loyal because she is attracted to small urgent 2k(while pretending to me that money doesn't really freak her) and still giving other guys attention and willing to meet them for drinks or some shiit. That this girl is not my sun and stars, no other girl is ..there are millions of women and if I go to Iran, I could find my moon and mercury there too...or Afghanistan or blôody Turkmenistan. No woman is your absolute sun and stars because such concept doesn't exist. I wasn't richer when I was with her, or built a house or bought a car, so where exactly is the so-called good fortune she was supposed to bring me? There was none. I decided there and then to keep hitting the pūssy but even that became an issue because since my heart wasn't with her anymore, I intentionally only satisfy myself and sent her away after, the sex got poorer and poorer because I already got someone else and one day, I just stopped talking to her or replying her messages. I don't forgive disrespect from any woman but I was weak in this girl's case and I allowed her to get away with many little things that became big things later.

My conclusion: There is no absolute sun and stars woman in your destiny, if she is not making you visibly rich or comfortable. Your girl was disrespectful and left you for urgent fine boy. Never forgive or forget that. My experience taught me that once you forgive a woman for cheating or disrespect, they never change. They just pretend to and do much worse because they think forgiveness makes a man weak. Don't take that girl back. She has been ran through and now sees you as the second option. Never be that for any woman.

Strictly speaking, my body is shaking hypothetically.

I think what caused the first mess up was the fact that early stage into our relationship she really did appear like "The One". So I already poured all my hope and trust into her and the relationship that when it ended. I was so drained.

It was like what you just narrated. In fact, many pastors and prophets did tell me that she is indeed my ticket to wealth, but like you pointed out. I was still damn broke when she was with me.
Though she was extremely supportive and kind.
But the lady herself lacks self esteem, how could you end up being a side chic to a guy all because he was handsome? Boss, that sh!t is mental. That's exactly what I can't wrap my head around.
I get people who advised me not to be vengeful, but honestly, not being able to avenge myself is what is hurting me right now.
I'm looking for a way to get even at all costs.

Please boss, what would you recommend?

LordReed:
I don't mind renegotiating. As I said I am not greedy. LoLz.

Yes sir. Thanks sir

timagentms:
Depart from evil and trust the Lord to direct you. Read Proverbs Chapter 3 verse 5 - 7. It is well with you

Amen sir.

^{"Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; And lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, And he shall direct thy paths. Be not wise in thine own eyes: Fear the LORD, and depart from evil."}

Yes sir.

1Sharon:
How can the atheists help you?

Thank you.
I need the right words to make me stop believing in prophecies.
And I'm sure atheists have zero regards for prophecies.
How can I be like you with this prophecy thing.

LordReed:
You are making the right choice. You have no business being with someone who doesn't want to be you cos of looks.

Meanwhile, if it's prophecy you want I will soon be starting my Atheistic Prophecy Service. Free to enter but you need to pay 5 percent of your salary every month, I am not as greedy as the other religions.

Make my mind dey for the first emboldened.
I must be crazy to think God would hand over my financial breakthrough to someone who made a mess of me because of my looks.

Please start the prophetic ministry. It will help some of us to get used to prophecies that will never happen, then we can renegotiate the percentage to pay in.

LordReed:
LMAO @ keys to financial breakthroughs. This, as you would have guessed I would say, is bladderdash. Don't get sucked in by such trash, maintain your reasoning. This girl is not for you as can be evidenced by your various reasons. Keep her at arms length as you have been doing.

Exactly! It's just that coming from a deep rooted religious background. I sometimes fear this prophecy thing.

In all shades of whatever, it is very glaring that she isn't the one for me. It's just the spiritual aspect that has got me leg in leg out.

But as you've pointed out. I'm grateful. I wanted to be sure I'm making the right choice.

Mopeola:
She never believed u could survive the trauma but seeing u surviving it is a surprise to her and letting her back into ur life is you going to rest in pieces, dig ur grave is the meaning

Any advice that comes from a female moniker on this platform isn't something I'm ready to joke with, because, I'm sorry but, you guys rarely speak the truth. But when your words align with men. It's an authority.
No one knows a woman more than a woman.
Affliction shall not arise the second time.
"Fool me once, and you are a fool but fool me twice and I'm a fool"
We must stay brutal.