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Mymynd4u:
What am I to submit?

Admsn letter, jamb letter, work ID, school ID, nin, voter. Abeg which one

Lol All

StrikeBack:
Don’t you have people around you that need the 1k daily

Abeg oh! Make una no carry una frustration con meet me for here oh

Skmoda360:
Mtcheeew.......

Abeg oh! Make una no carry una frustration con meet me for here oh..

Starting from monday, i will be giving 1k airtime to a nairalander in the romance section of nairaland. This is my way of helping out.
This will go on for as long as i want it to continue.

Ladylite:
Wow nice post but for integrity sake... Your first point was wrong.


Editing what you say is part of growth.

Relationship is not license for freedom to say or do anyhow with one person.

A relationship should improve you before you marry... Yes. Forget what our youths are ranting about these days, it's just sexationship they are doing.

. Real love in a legit relationship cares about how the other person will feel if you speak or act, anything short is just abuse.

Thanks dear for your contribution

Instead of torturing yourself over things you can't change, here are 3 questions to ask yourself that will let you know it's time for you to move on without regret into a new relationship:

1. Do you have to edit what you say when you talk to your partner?

If you're editing, it's a good possibility that you feel the need to live up to their expectations of you.

This absolutely stinks. And makes you increasingly feel unsafe and unloved and unworthy. People can talk all they want about being secure in yourself, but the fact is that a relationship is a union of two people who share their vulnerabilities.

If you can't do that without editing, you can move on without feeling any regret.

2. Have you given them every chance to stay together?

Let's say you broke up and you're open to getting back together if the core issue is addressed.

These are not core issues:

Money: Of course money is important. But it is not all-important. You can always make more money. You can never make more time.

Job: The job you have or don't have is not a core issue. Obviously. People change jobs all the time. You can too. If your partner doesn't like your job, distill down to the core issue to resolve it.

Education: Sometimes people's families will look down on you if you aren't from a certain university, or from any university. Again, if this is causes issues, distill down to the core issues to resolve it.

These are core issues:

Communication: Are you able to communicate openly and vulnerably with each other? If you aren't able to for whatever reason, it's time for your own pow-wow.

Solidarity (being on each other's team): If there is one defining characteristic of a couple that you want to be like, it's this. Do you have each other's back? When someone says something about your partner, are you there to defend them? If not, or if your partner doesn't, it's time to reconsider the relationship.

Trust: This one can be tricky because a lot of people have been hurt in relationships and can be inherently defensive. If you can't bring yourself to trust your partner, and you can't get their help (you'll need it; it's a relationship), then you can move on without regret and learn to make better choices in a partner next time.

If you're willing to work on these things, but your partner keeps focusing on the non-core issues, you can move on without regret

3. Were you delusional in the relationship?

Looking back on the relationship, if you were completely honest, could you admit that you were delusional?

In other words, were there moments or situations where you paused, wondered what was going on, but then filled in the gap with what you wanted to believe?

If you feel like parts of your relationship aren't real, or that you were ignoring issues to "make it work," don't do it anymore. Admit that it's time for you to move on.

Starting a new relationship is never easy. But tricking yourself into pining after someone who isn't right for you won't make you happy, either.

Ask yourself these questions if you suspect that your relationship isn't going anywhere so you can move on, without regrets, into a relationship that will truly let you both shine.

okay oh!

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Nice

Ah!

May God help us!

Happyguy201:

coming from a hungry ratchet girl i doubt it

Do you think everyone is as wretched as you are?

Happyguy201:
please go and sit down for one corner how does this help the current situation of Nigeria

Please, Take your frustration elsewhere.

1. My partner has taught me that I can’t expect anyone to be perfect.

A healthy relationship doesn’t equate to a perfect relationship. I’m fully aware that I’m not perfect, so how could I ever expect someone else to be flawless?

Expecting perfection in a relationship is unfair and unrealistic. My partner accepts that I’m not perfect, and I do the same for him. Even when my Aries nature makes me say rash things without thinking how my partner may interpret them, he explains why my words hurt and inspires me to work on my quick tongue.

In turn, I accept everything about my partner, from his insecurities to his flaws. Together, we’re working on being better partners.

2. My partner understands me better than anyone.

I always felt like no one really “got me” and have assumed that I’d always feel disconnected from everyone around me. However, when I met my current partner, he understood me from the beginning, and it was almost magnetic.

I never have to explain how I feel or what I’m thinking; we just try to understand each other. My partner can sometimes tell how I’m feeling just from the looks I give.

Though that makes it impossible for me to hide anything from him (Not that I’d want to, of course!), I’m so grateful that I can be myself and still be understood.

3. My partner and I both want to see each other grow.

My partner and I both have trauma, but we’ve committed to helping each other move past our dark moments. My boyfriend also helps me work towards my goals and dreams, and I do the same for him.

I’ve truly invested myself in everything that my boyfriend wants to accomplish in life. I love seeing my partner become the best version of himself. My significant other makes me feel like I can accomplish anything I set my mind to.

4. I’m secure with my partner.

In the past, I’ve spent a lot of time questioning my relationships and trying to “water myself down” to please people. But now, with my boyfriend, I don’t feel like I need to bend over backwards.

He brings out the best in me and helps me feel more secure in myself, especially when I’m around others. Loving my partner is great, but it’s even more amazing to know that he loves me back.

I’ve spent a lot of time with people who weren’t meant for me, but I’ve finally found someone who is good for me.

If you’re looking for a healthy relationship, you’ll find it when your partner cares for you like mine cares for me. I know you’re impatiently waiting for a healthy, but I promise you, real love is coming.