Validfacts:
Fabulouz, I have read through your thread, I got d message clearly. I'm not like those people putting blames on u for contemplating on suicide. This type of issue can truly lead to depression. What u need is matured advise, and am going to give you.

Firstly, don't think of suicide, it doesn't worth it. Do u know your case doesn't even near those with huge debt and at the same time having marital problems? yet they didn't commit suicide.

This is what I will suggest u do, if u re financially sound, get an apartment for relaxation, this will only be used to correct thing for time being, because I noticed that the more u see her around, the more u feel bad and I won't lie to u, it may result to high BP, if u don't take proper measure. Declare to her that u have a project outside the state that u will need enough financial backup. As u keep going to relax in your new apartment, be calling to check on your family. It will get to some time, u will need to persuade her to back u up financially, this may lead to selling part of the equipment she uses in her shop gradually, u may even get the key to her restaurant to pack the valuables there to an unknown designation, telling her that uv sold it, promising her that u will refund her back when u re paid for the project at hand. She will believe you, because UV not being stingy to her, u can even say u have the plan to make the restaurant to international standard, once u re paid for the project. By the way, always come home to check on them and take your kids
nd wife out for shopping in some cases, continue this until the said restaurant liquidate. Once that mission is fulfilled, give her some time and discuss about what u felt was going wrong about the restaurant business and the need to change the business for another because of the family. U can then change her business to ladies wares boutique if u wish to and if u don't feel like, make her a full house wife, telling her that the project backfired, please don't tell her u lied o. That will save ur marriage and ur kids. To me, I will never advise any man, both married or not to open a restaurant or a bar for their wives or spouse, those 2 businesses encourages adulteries no be small, because most of their customers re always opposite sex. I think that was the huge mistake u made. U can apply that measure and with prayer it might work, the most important is to first disengage her from that business. You can quote me, if u feel we need to converse through PM or mobile conversation.

Thank you for the write up

StacyO:

Your case is a very simple one.
This is why you want to commit suicide??

Depression is real but,you can get over it. It all depends on how you apply wisdom or man up.

Do you want her to start assisting financially??
Stop those extra marital affairs you think she might be into??
OR Be submissive??

I think you're just weak at heart.

Answer this questions and you might just get the help you need.

I have never looked forward to her assisting me financially and I am not accusing her of extramarital affairs. I feel bad being so disrespectful and not being caring for our home. There are many things I am unable to write because its like writing a book. Maybe if you think of how it feels when you dedicate yourself to someone then do everything to make that person happy and that person does not care and is only self centred then you will understand how painful it feels.
Seven years I have done all a man needs to do to try and build a peaceful and decent home, there are good times when we just overlook things and be happy and then that attitude just comes alive again from no where and all I get is trouble upon trouble again. Some days I can hardly even eat at home and in seven years, I can only remember hearing "am sorry" just twice apart from when I try to just ignore certain things and she just give me all those sober reactions.
I really don't know how to explain but I believe some married men here will understand better because its like most comments I see are from people that are not married and don't understand what dedicating your life to someone you once loved so much means.

baralatie:

mister man something is wrong with you and not your wife o!

You really won't understand but it is well

dayleke:
Bro, suicide is not what you should be thinking about now o.
So if you commit suicide now, what would you have achieved?
Life goes on as usual for her and even more.
Your kids will grow up without a father and what you didn't want to happen will mow happen.
Please sit her down and have a heart to heart talk with her.
All in all, ask if there is a problem and if her mind is no more in the marriage? You can not force a woman to be in a relationship with you if she no longer wants to.
You can not do more than you are doing right now given the circumstances that will let her respect you the more since she doesn't appreciate you now.

Bro, don't come and kill yourself o.
You only live once.
Though it is frustrating to see all your efforts at having a good marriage go to waste and unappreciated.

Think about it sir.

7 years of struggle to cater for and build a decent home, I have spoken so many times and to no avail. Since I was born up till this year, I hit a woman for the first time in my life. The reason is just because she did something stupid, I didn't want to get involved in any argument or fight, I just went to book a hotel room and had a quite time to myself that night till the next morning and on getting home she just attacked me saying I went to sleep with another woman.
I have given her the options so many times to go her way if she is not happy being with me but she won't go. As am writing this, I have not eaten her food since yesterday and I just got home only to see her serving me food and trying to make up but this is not the first time. I practically made her not go to the shop today and I was expecting to see that she went to the shop. When ever we talk, she listens and behave herself for a while but its like there is a spirit that comes into her and when it does, she forgets everything and only tries to bring trouble and more trouble.

Go back to your fathers house, she will not. Ok go and be with any other person that will tolerate your attitude she will not leave my house. All she does is money money money this and that. Even with her business, she does not use a dime for anything in the house aside her own stuffs.
Can you imagine she had a fight with me some time ago because I personally went to pay my kids school myself? All because I didn't give her the money to go and pay herself as I normally do?

Can you also imagine she had a fight with me one day all because I bought a jeans and slippers for myself without buying anything for her and the kids because I had bought some nice stuff for all of them including her like a week before then.

This is a woman that has never bought me even a boxers since marriage and has never gotten me anything gift for my birthday or anything but I just ignore all that and focus on making the family happy. Yet I am not happy in my home because I know what I go through especially this year that corona made things rough, I have passed through hell just to ensure my family is fine and we are not put to shame yet a matured thinking lady does not even care about anything.

Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand.

kalu61:
I don't want to kind but say you are a fool for contemplatinh suicide in this issue. Even of the worst happens, is suicide the solution you came up with in your head.

Die because of a woman.
Not every marriage must work and if yours is destined for it, there nothing you can do about it but take your life abi

You can call me a fool, its fine. But I don't wish you my situation and pray you never meet depression.

It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

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