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I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by MeeztaFabulouz(m): 4:23pm On Dec 07, 2020
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Juliusmomoh(m): 4:24pm On Dec 07, 2020
Thank God u know u made a mistake..
And beside suicide is not the best opinion here...
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U married her at the age of 28.. Don't u know girl of 28 are still in their hoeing stage ?... And instead of u to make her a complete housewife, u carry your hand go find wahala...
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Now the remedy...
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Loading..

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Righteousness89(m): 4:30pm On Dec 07, 2020
You shall Know the truth and the truth will set u Free..

The First truth you should know is that if you kill yourself in any way or Form, you will open your Eyes Live in Hell Fire! And it's forever and Ever.

Secondly, this is the reason I am an advocate that young men and Women seek the Face of God before saying I do. And until you are sure GOD has showed you your Spouse, do not Marry! Marriage is a life time Commitment. Going your way might look sweet at the start but it will always end in Pains!

Thirdly, you Have Married! You Have Married! You are her Husband and she is your wife.
There could be Solutions but you need to approach the originator of the institution of Marriage and take Matters to HIM on the basis of His Mercy.

As you Pray you reach out to Elders you know she could listen to.


For those who are about to Enter, Ensure you Hear Clearly about your Spouse. If you didn't Hear! Pls no matter how juicy its looks, do not Enter!

Do not Marry because of He/she has Cash
Do not Marry because she has Big behind/Big Before or because He has 12 packs
Do not Marry because He/ She is this or that!
Do not Marry for Sympathy or Pity!

The Only Reason to Marry Him/ Her should be Because you Have Sort the Face of GOD and HE has given you the Go ahead!

It is Better to Be Single than to Marry who is not the will of GOD for you!

It will always End in Tears!

They that Have Ears to Hear! Let them Hear!

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Bigggloadofcum: 4:31pm On Dec 07, 2020
Hmm!

This matter carry weight o. As proper and justifiable as it is to check the phones of our spouses, the discovery might turn out to be SUICIDAL.

First, you are within ur marital right to check on ur wife's phone even though a few persons might disagree with that.

From your writeup I could deduce u are broke even though you try ur best to provide for ur family. The woman you married doesn't feel the need to respect someone who she feels she's better than financially.

This is a real story. When I was 9 my dad was going through serious financial challenges and even though my mum was totally supportive, he felt incomplete. One evening I saw my dad with a rope.

He didn't say a word to me... He went out. Late at night he didn't come home and we started looking for him but he was no where to be found. There was no phones like there is now.

Late on oga came back looking frail and disconnected from this earth. We welcomed him as usual. Next day he called me and told me that he had hung the rope to a tree and was about tying it round his neck but he thought about my siblings and I.

Few years down, thinks turned around tremendously. He became happy, our family became happy.

Now b4 you take that suicidal step, think of your children, double ur hustle but if that woman is cheating on you, kick her ass out. You deserve better.

A woman shouldn't be the end of you. There is always light at the end of the tunnel.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by kalu61(m): 4:31pm On Dec 07, 2020
I don't want to be kind but say you are a fool for contemplatinh suicide in this issue. Even if the worst happens, is suicide the solution you came up with in your head?

Die because of a woman.
Not every marriage must work and if yours is destined for it, there nothing you can do about it but take your life abi angry grin

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by MeeztaFabulouz(m): 4:35pm On Dec 07, 2020
kalu61:
I don't want to kind but say you are a fool for contemplatinh suicide in this issue. Even of the worst happens, is suicide the solution you came up with in your head.

Die because of a woman.
Not every marriage must work and if yours is destined for it, there nothing you can do about it but take your life abi angry grin

You can call me a fool, its fine. But I don't wish you my situation and pray you never meet depression.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by JERRY1925(m): 4:36pm On Dec 07, 2020
U contemplating suicide without even telling us what the problem is.
Is it your wife coming home or chats with her ex that's ur problem?
I really don't get.

Last I checked every woman get problem.

Fact Is, u should not be thinking of suicide because I am sure u read the handwriting on the wall before marriage.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by kalu61(m): 4:39pm On Dec 07, 2020
MeeztaFabulouz:


You can call me a fool, its fine. But I don't wish you my situation and pray you never meet depression.
l never called you such.

Read through my comment. I meant no matter what happens, suicide shouldn't be contemplated.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Lamanii22(f): 4:41pm On Dec 07, 2020
Like you really want to die because of a woman Able man like you... You sound very weak, the reason for her behaviour... You need the red-pilled lessons sir

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Karleb(m): 4:41pm On Dec 07, 2020
If you die because of a woman then you are a fool! No offense!
Just know this.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Juliusmomoh(m): 4:42pm On Dec 07, 2020
Righteousness89:
T
T for table grin cheesy

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by khingTony(m): 4:43pm On Dec 07, 2020
The Hoes are never loyal

Know this and know peace smiley

Your wife is probably cheating on you, it's evident, but it's so sad that after Buhari cheats you, your governor cheats you, your senators cheat you, your wife will still come and cheat on you. The Hoes are heartless

Know this and know peace smiley

You should not kill yourself because of a woman that was never yours, you will just succeed in cheating yourself

Know this and know peace smiley




The marriages that work out are a negligible number, so if you're getting married as a guy, be prepared to be pushed to the wall. Marriage for guys is not a profitable venture.


Know this and know peace smiley



Peace smiley

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Kapilta(m): 4:44pm On Dec 07, 2020
Uncle wetin dey work you? Life always sorts itself, keep living so you can see the magic. You can decide to leave her or stuck with her but one thing for sure, everything will balance itself. Sha no die.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Yamiriflathead: 4:45pm On Dec 07, 2020
Hahaha...
Nor marry una nor dey hear word.
Later una go dey disturb those of us wey dey leave peaceful single lives with una headache.
OP never see anything, as you nor get sense go baby mama mode, kill yourself

Martinez39s:
• team nawalt
• team "it will never happen to me."
• team "she is different, she won't do that to me."
• team "red pill is for immature boy."
• team "just make money and women issue will stop."
• team "you are not married yet so don't talk about marriage, you will understand when you get married."

MeeztaFabulouz, you are just a man who was ignorant of female nature and realized that all the good things, years, energy, and money invested in your slut of a wife were all for nothing. It would have been better and you would have been happier if you remained single and allowed your life revolve around only your happiness, needs, and ambitions.

It's damaging to your ego as a man to see two single guys were eating for free what you have been paying for and taking care of with your sweat. Even more damaging to your ego and psyche is the fact that some of the sex stuff she does with them she doesn't do with you. grin grin

Take the red pill because it's worth it. Red pill guys do not suffer what you have suffered because they know no woman, except your mother if you are close, is worth commitment and love (not hate either, just indifference). Digest Ubunja's miseducations; before you do that, visit the following threads:

– Meme thread Part 1
– Meme thread Part 2
– GLYCOLYSISS'S red-pill thread.

Yamiriflathead, I leave you to take it from here. grin
pansophist:
Before choosing to be in a committed relationship with my partner, I made two resolutions to myself how I'll handle situations if things goes south. I will never loose peace because of a partner. I didn't tell her the resolution I made. its just within me. So there you go.

1. At the very least, the only thing I need from a woman is kids, sex, and companionship. If she bear my kids and stop living up to her other duty as a partner, and refused to make it up, that is the end. I'm out. I refuse to fulfil my duties if she refuse to live up to hers.

2. A separated family is better than a toxic one. Its better for the kids to experience love with each parents separately, than to experience toxicity in a loveless home together. My kids will still have the best provisions from a father, and my supporting ascendants can take of them if need be.


The problem I see with you is that you are not in charge. You lack the willpower to accept your new reality, adapt, and cut off your presence, support, and allow her to actually go deep the rabbit hole she wants to go into. Be cold as ice. Your love and service should be absent, that is becomes clear you changed too. When the going gets tough, the tough gets going. You are a man in the sense that if you look after yourself well, with resources to complement, you can still get another woman far younger and beautiful than her, and that will be her karma. A woman will give you her loyalty when she knows too well that she is replaceable instantly with far quality woman than her.

In matters of love, and in the face of those lovey-dovey act, the foundation should be bedrocked on logic, pragmatism, and damage control. Dont let those emotions and display of affection fool you, your eyes must be sharp on the ball. And if she change, you change as well. Chances are, she can do all these because she is assured of your support no matter how ridiculous her behaviors. She knows the password to your loyalty, which is that you can't leave her for the sake of your kids. Yes, what's keeping you miserable.

How about your parents taking care of your kids if you do not have the time? You need to accept that modern women are totally different from the fairy tales men are bombarded with through media. Times have changed. And to navigate smoothly in this new terrain, you must update your mindset to fit with the 21st century women, understand how they think and play accordingly.

You are the one that is making yourself miserable. She has made up her mind to not uphold the integrity of your family, and you should adapt to this new reality, not wishing on the return of past glory. Accept it with grace as a man and move on. A relationship worth fighting for is one where both people are willing to make it work, not just you. In every relationship, the one that needs the other the least has all the power, and you must make it clear that she is not only replaceable, but disposable if she mess up. Free yourself, its in your hands.

mayorkent:
Omo this marriage thing don day resemble trap nowadays ,

Yoighaman:


Guys have been asking you to take the "Redpill", why don't you try it? You'd be surprised how amazing it works sad
BadBradley:
Reading your post, I realise you're the type of man a woman will cheat on. I don't want to call you stupid.

But what kind of excuse are you making for your wife? That a girl you met at 26 will have met other men who will still be chasing her?

If her ex is still calling or chatting her up, it's because she's encouraging it. If she's married all ex's and male are dead. No more chat or calls whatsoever. If you as a man don't know this and enstsmp it, you're not supposed to get married or deserve the respect of a woman.

And lastly, what insanity led you to open a restaurant as business for your wife?

Suspect33:
Take your time to go through this thread, You're trying too hard to make your woman happy when it should be the other way round

https://www.nairaland.com/6048178/reality-every-guy-need-know

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by HarunaWest(m): 4:48pm On Dec 07, 2020
MeeztaFabulouz:


You can call me a fool, its fine. But I don't wish you my situation and pray you never meet depression.
go and get a side chick idiat...u wan kikl ursel for woman...very weak sombori

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by grim33(m): 4:51pm On Dec 07, 2020
My guy don’t kill yourself.

You’ll gain nothing from that.

Here’s something you’ll gain from.
Read about “ redpill “ and “Mgtow “.

You’re only suffering because you’re not informed about the true nature of a woman.

Do yourself a favor and google the two key words I mentioned above ....

Thank me later.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by dayleke: 4:52pm On Dec 07, 2020
Bro, suicide is not what you should be thinking about now o.
So if you commit suicide now, what would you have achieved?
Life goes on as usual for her and even more.
Your kids will grow up without a father and what you didn't want to happen will mow happen.
Please sit her down and have a heart to heart talk with her.
All in all, ask if there is a problem and if her mind is no more in the marriage? You can not force a woman to be in a relationship with you if she no longer wants to.
You can not do more than you are doing right now given the circumstances that will let her respect you the more since she doesn't appreciate you now.

Bro, don't come and kill yourself o.
You only live once.
Though it is frustrating to see all your efforts at having a good marriage go to waste and unappreciated.

Think about it sir.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by DaudaTheSexyGuy(m): 4:55pm On Dec 07, 2020
You wife is in restaurant business and you are shocked that she has a boyfriend?

For your info men make up over 95% of the customers of a restaurant therefore she needs to be ready to offer some services in kind for them to be coming back grin

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Nobody: 4:57pm On Dec 07, 2020
For your own sanity, you need to let her go.God forbid you go through with the suicide thoughts in your head, your children will have to grow without a father. Better to be alive, divorced and there for your children.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Kobicove(m): 4:59pm On Dec 07, 2020
Suicide is unAfrican! sad

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Crunchyg2: 5:00pm On Dec 07, 2020
MeeztaFabulouz:


You can call me a fool, its fine. But I don't wish you my situation and pray you never meet depression.
Oga no matter what ever you call it, whether depression or anything, just remove suicide from your mind, it doesn't worth it, pray to God for guidance and peace of mind and seek council from elders

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by farady(m): 5:08pm On Dec 07, 2020
OP, please take suicide off your mind and thought. You need urgent counseling. Talk to someone you (and your wife) respect and that is married and open up. If your pastor fit in the description, better.

Never, contemplate committing suicide for the sake of your soul (because you're not the owner of your life, God is) and your children (i.e if they are actually yours)

May the Good Lord grant you direction

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by goodmorning40: 5:15pm On Dec 07, 2020
If you die naa wetin you gain
Your children will end up having a coward as a father

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by MeeztaFabulouz(m): 5:16pm On Dec 07, 2020
dayleke:
Bro, suicide is not what you should be thinking about now o.
So if you commit suicide now, what would you have achieved?
Life goes on as usual for her and even more.
Your kids will grow up without a father and what you didn't want to happen will mow happen.
Please sit her down and have a heart to heart talk with her.
All in all, ask if there is a problem and if her mind is no more in the marriage? You can not force a woman to be in a relationship with you if she no longer wants to.
You can not do more than you are doing right now given the circumstances that will let her respect you the more since she doesn't appreciate you now.

Bro, don't come and kill yourself o.
You only live once.
Though it is frustrating to see all your efforts at having a good marriage go to waste and unappreciated.

Think about it sir.

7 years of struggle to cater for and build a decent home, I have spoken so many times and to no avail. Since I was born up till this year, I hit a woman for the first time in my life. The reason is just because she did something stupid, I didn't want to get involved in any argument or fight, I just went to book a hotel room and had a quite time to myself that night till the next morning and on getting home she just attacked me saying I went to sleep with another woman.
I have given her the options so many times to go her way if she is not happy being with me but she won't go. As am writing this, I have not eaten her food since yesterday and I just got home only to see her serving me food and trying to make up but this is not the first time. I practically made her not go to the shop today and I was expecting to see that she went to the shop. When ever we talk, she listens and behave herself for a while but its like there is a spirit that comes into her and when it does, she forgets everything and only tries to bring trouble and more trouble.

Go back to your fathers house, she will not. Ok go and be with any other person that will tolerate your attitude she will not leave my house. All she does is money money money this and that. Even with her business, she does not use a dime for anything in the house aside her own stuffs.
Can you imagine she had a fight with me some time ago because I personally went to pay my kids school myself? All because I didn't give her the money to go and pay herself as I normally do?

Can you also imagine she had a fight with me one day all because I bought a jeans and slippers for myself without buying anything for her and the kids because I had bought some nice stuff for all of them including her like a week before then.

This is a woman that has never bought me even a boxers since marriage and has never gotten me anything gift for my birthday or anything but I just ignore all that and focus on making the family happy. Yet I am not happy in my home because I know what I go through especially this year that corona made things rough, I have passed through hell just to ensure my family is fine and we are not put to shame yet a matured thinking lady does not even care about anything.

Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by chinchonglee(m): 5:17pm On Dec 07, 2020
Hmmmm!!!
Why do kind men always suffer?
Am abt to make my current "fiancee" suicidal.
Dnt judge me!

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by jidamsel43(m): 5:18pm On Dec 07, 2020
No woman worth the demise of a gentleman. You never how many years you've destined to use on the surface of the earth.

Take a break from the union and concentrate on your life. Many women will crawl to have your attention later when you make it

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by baralatie(m): 5:21pm On Dec 07, 2020
MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.
you don't need to put petrol on firewood and later lit it up inorder to claim suicidal.
you are hyperventilating over nothing!

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Bennysam: 5:26pm On Dec 07, 2020
MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.
Stupid black man mentality, if die now the kids will still live , think about yourself and how to live a healthy life , you can take care of your kids by sending monthly allowance to them, don’t die for nothing, she’s fucking many guys on your head make a move shake the table

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by baralatie(m): 5:27pm On Dec 07, 2020
MeeztaFabulouz:


7 years of struggle to cater for and build a decent home, I have spoken so many times and to no avail. Since I was born up till this year, I hit a woman for the first time in my life. The reason is just because she did something stupid, I didn't want to get involved in any argument or fight, I just went to book a hotel room and had a quite time to myself that night till the next morning and on getting home she just attacked me saying I went to sleep with another woman.
I have given her the options so many times to go her way if she is not happy being with me but she won't go. As am writing this, I have not eaten her food since yesterday and I just got home only to see her serving me food and trying to make up but this is not the first time. I practically made her not go to the shop today and I was expecting to see that she went to the shop. When ever we talk, she listens and behave herself for a while but its like there is a spirit that comes into her and when it does, she forgets everything and only tries to bring trouble and more trouble.

Go back to your fathers house, she will not. Ok go and be with any other person that will tolerate your attitude she will not leave my house. All she does is money money money this and that. Even with her business, she does not use a dime for anything in the house aside her own stuffs.
Can you imagine she had a fight with me some time ago because I personally went to pay my kids school myself? All because I didn't give her the money to go and pay herself as I normally do?

Can you also imagine she had a fight with me one day all because I bought a jeans and slippers for myself without buying anything for her and the kids because I had bought some nice stuff for all of them including her like a week before then.

This is a woman that has never bought me even a boxers since marriage and has never gotten me anything gift for my birthday or anything but I just ignore all that and focus on making the family happy. Yet I am not happy in my home because I know what I go through especially this year that corona made things rough, I have passed through hell just to ensure my family is fine and we are not put to shame yet a matured thinking lady does not even care about anything.

Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand.
mister man something is wrong with you and not your wife o!

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by CAPSLOCKED: 5:28pm On Dec 07, 2020
Karleb:
If you die because of a woman then you are a fool! No offense!

Just know this.


MOST MARRIED PEOPLE LIVE LIKE THIS AND IT'S STARTING TO FEEL LIKE MARRIAGE HAS OUTLIVED ITS USEFULNESS.

I'VE FIGURED MANY PEOPLE (WOMEN ESPECIALLY) GET MARRIED BECAUSE OF THE "WEDDING". YES. FOR THEM IT'S THE WEDDING PARTY, FANCY DRESSES AND PICTURES, AND ATTENTION THAT MATTERS. WHAT HAPPENS AFTER THAT DAY IS HARDLY GIVEN A THOUGHT AS LONG AS THE WEDDING DAY IS REMARKABLE AND MASSIVE.
MANY MEN ENTER INTO MARRIAGE TO SATISFY THEIR FAMILY AND RELATIONSHIP PARTNERS. THERE'S HARDLY ANY FAMILY TODAY THAT CAN SAY THEY'RE 100% HAPPY WITH EACH OTHER. IT'S LIKE THE REGRET SETS IN 30 MINUTES AFTER THE WEDDINGS AND EVERYBODY WISHES THEY SHOULDN'T HAVE DONE THIS.

WHAT FOLLOWS ARE SILLY EXCUSES, THAT "NO MARRIAGE IS PERFECT". THE TRUTH IS THAT MOST MARRIAGES SHOULD NEVER HAVE HAPPENED, AND THE VERY FEW MARRIAGES THAT EXISTS WITHOUT REGRETS ARE THE PERFECT ONES THAT MOST LOSERS PRETEND DOESN'T EXIST.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by MeeztaFabulouz(m): 5:29pm On Dec 07, 2020
baralatie:

mister man something is wrong with you and not your wife o!

You really won't understand but it is well

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by baralatie(m): 5:29pm On Dec 07, 2020
chinchonglee:
Hmmmm!!! Why do kind men always suffer? Am abt to make my current "fiancee" suicidal. Dnt judge me!
what gives the impression that the op is kind?

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