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This is a timely reminder that exclusivity in the modern day relationship is almost non existent ( let's give grace to the 1 percent of exception).
Your defensive instincts will probably tell you it's a farce and ploy to ruin the little fun moment.
Like they say " a blind boyfriend is a good boyfriend", what you don't know doesn't exist as long as there is no prior information.

The side nigga has refused to spill or aim for the bull eye ( your place), that's why you think she's only yours.
It takes a player to tell a good woman and that can only be determined after she passes
Test of sexual inclination( a hot body)
Test of lifestyle ( money, fame and glamour)
Test of game ( flirty and cocky admiration)
Finally and ultimately the test of secrecy( nobody is going to know)

Men are wired to chase sex and it's only logical that they get together with a woman except for gay Men.
90 percent of the time a Man is chasing a new pussy to conquer for validation sake and it's unlikely he seeks it in a previous romp.
This applies to the average Man which means statistically a lot. What does that tell you?
Men and women cheat at equal pace because a host needs a body to function.
This only implies one thing,
If Men are chasing to conquer a new sexual host every time that is most likely not his girlfriend, it means getting it with a random woman ( another person's girlfriend).
Do the math and ratio.
If 100 men sleep with 4 different girls in a month , that is 400 women.
100 men - 400 women, means 400 cheating women. So whose girlfriend are these women?

Now do the same math with a thousand, a million or whatever number of Men and then you have your answer.
There is a chance that the 1 percent of exception is your woman, but what are the odds really?

Men are blind and egotistical.
Refusing the acknowledgement that women are sexual beings too and as long as there is demand, supply will be in abundance.
A hooker
Pretty privileges
Sex for favors
Hypergamous hunt
How phase
Love and relationship
Sexual attraction.
Women will always get offers in abundance for sexual gratification and it's extremely difficult to turn every offer down except in the case of virginity.

Don't hate the player,
Hate the game!!
Except in marriage where there is moral bound, societal expectations and commitment, you will be surprised at what your little angel is capable of.
The world is pacing and every road leads to sex.
Men are not saints and women in the same vein are capable of every single thing.
No gender is superior in the game.
One is demanding and the other is supplying( business is booming).

Who cares about effort!

At what point do I get a thumbs up?
A silver lining,
A pat on the back and a word of encouragement.
It feels like there is no place for effort until there are results.
Evidence is a prerequisite for hard work, not your sweat, scar or tears.

Who is paying attention to every single brick laid down?
The scars are a constant reminder that you are worth nothing except when you win according to society standards. The people watching you show up everyday are the first to criticize you when the chips are down.

If effort and hard work is the template for success, why is effort disregarded in the face of adversity?
We have raised a society that is afraid of process and accountability, instead we are keen on results, not because of gratitude or a sense of accomplishment but a means to prove, validate and conquer the fear of ridicule that is associated with efforts.

A cleaner is most times referred to as " just or ordinary", but if eventually he becomes successful, automatically there is an overwhelming respect. Same person, different reactions.
The end justifies the means they say!
Why is the means treated as thou not existent..?
There is a beginning before the end.
If only we were kinder to the effort,
Just maybe values can be as effective as money.
Just maybe people can function without money while hoping for the best,
Just maybe crime wouldn't be as rampant,
Just maybe the average person can stand a chance when pitted against the rich.

The sweats and tears that come with efforts is a testament of resilience, patience, hardwork, consistency and it should be appreciated and rewarded.

I believe nothing in life is absolute, especially when there is no concrete evidence as to the biological existence of humans.
Almost everything is arguable due to the knowledge of right and wrong.
If there is an advantage then there should be a disadvantage. We grow up into existing ideologies, set ups and doctrines without questioning some of the beliefs even if they don't align with our morals and values as a people.

People aren't inquisitive, they don't ask themselves certain questions. We think things can only be done correctly the way we were taught.
The human mind is vast and should be capable of making an independent decision.

A lot of people are afraid to question the norm due to the fear of backlash. The idea of criticism in private is stale , as it rarely helps any course.
Avoiding conflicts but instigating disagreement in little circles is cowardly.

When the foundation is faulty, the building suffers!
The herd mentality stinks!
Why should a burial ceremony be expensive? It should be a time for sorrow, reflection and solace
Why is marriage rites so complex?
Why can't the Bible be questioned?
Why does the constitution favor the elites?
Why is religion a determinant to morality?

Our ancestors failed to question the system
Our fathers toiled the same path
And now we are scared to speak.
I guess death is the only reality and surprisingly it's unquestionable.

Say a prayer with me to the universe.
I have erred and sinned against the innate sense of good deeds, I have offended the laws of righteousness and virtue, I seek for pardon and strength to persevere.
I wasn't born this way, but I guess money is the root of all evil!
Forgive my shortcomings.
Please blame money and accept my decisions.

In the time of sobriety and calmness, we think about our decisions,
We care about our thoughts and actions,
We are filled with remorse, yet alive in the euphoria of vanity.
What is the purpose of making bad decisions?
Money, Money, Money!!
Please put the blame on Money!

We convince ourselves with the idea of leveling up,
Society is unfair and unkind to the poor,
The decision is almost rigged against you.
How am I expected to scale through life hurdles, when my voice is equivalent to my pocket?

Not regrets, not shame, not even money can erase the guilt!
With clarity comes accountability.
Maybe I'm too emotional for this world.
Maybe I deserve to be heard.
It's warm when I get gratification from getting money, but why do I need more?
When is it enough, when will this feeling end?

Yes it's vanity
My decisions are my reality and I accept my vanity!
Condolences to the part of me that are good,
I betrayed the trust of God!
But please put the blame on Money.

It sounds like a farce and an anomaly, but the reality is that the average man in the quest for sex is willing to be humiliated, shamed and embarrassed just for sexual pleasure.

When a woman boldly says " I have men begging me"
" If you don't do it someone else will"
Better believe that shit!!! you will be surprised at the level Men can go to get a sniff of the vagina!

A Man would deny his wife,
Sell out his friends,
Fight and kill just to get laid and you are wondering why women are audacious with their standards.

Just because you're a fine girl send your account. How cringe and laughable!

Men have subconsciously enabled entitled women and now they are trying to cower and play victim, Hell no!
What do you mean by a girl asking me for money before she can see me, what do you expect Mr Man?

You are paying to hook up
You pay flight tickets for a total stranger
You entice another Man's woman with money
You buy cars and houses for undeserving women and you dare say women are entitled.
You sick idiot!
Women know when they deserve something that's why they're appreciative of the little things from people they actually love and genuinely care about.

Don't get me wrong it's a Man's nature to provide and it is expected of you to give the best of life to your wife, friends, sisters and loved ones in general, but at least let it be deserving and earned.
Reward a kind woman
Reward an feminine and humble woman
Reward a helper.

This message is a timely reminder that " the snowball you refuse to check in time will become an avalanche tomorrow ".
Now the crows have come home to roost and it can only get worse

I almost forgot the classic line " it's because you can't afford them"

Oh my God!, did you see the car he bought her,
Did you see the money bouquet,
The ring, the diamond, the food, the clothes
He/she is so intentional!
Then the infamous quote rings out loud " an intentional Man/ intentional woman".

With a sprinkle of " awwwn" serenading the atmosphere.
So cute I guess?

Is this truly what intentionality entails or just a way of seeking validation and urging our transactional instincts to survive!
The silence is deafening.......

It's mostly particular with women who attach intentionality to a good deed done by a Man and somehow convince other women ( herd mentality) to put up a standard of receiving expensive gifts as a show of true intent.

But when it comes to an actual moment of intentionality, there is a sudden shift from accountability to uncertainty.

Can I get your number? No I'm sorry, I have a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Can I buy you lunch? No I'm sorry, my partner won't like that
Can you wake up late to make your Man food?
Can you help your woman clean when she's tired?
Can you reject a supposed better offer in favor of your partner?
Can you post a picture of your partner with captions that leaves no room for uncertainty?

I'm sure your response is far from No!
I will let you put up your desired answer to fit whatever narrative you have in your mind.
Or does intentionality only mean receiving gifts and favors?
We have bastardized the idea of intentionality and it's worrisome because the younger general is taking a cue from the ridiculous show offs and validation seeking in the name of genuine intentions.

One of my favorite quotes by Corey Wayne is" Going into a relationship with the hope of giving and not what you are willing to receive".

Think about it!

It's always about how he/she looks.
How much is spent
The perfume
The car
The glam and generosity.
Isn't it contradictory that a person in his will to attain success is supposed to save up and invest for a better future ( delayed gratification), yet an important criteria in today's world ,you're judged by your ability to spend unceremoniously, irrespective of whatever you have going on(long term or short term).

The thought of this probably makes sense to you now, but in the position of comparison, a man who spends 5 million naira in the club but has a total of 10 million naira is accorded a certain respect and considered richer than someone who owns a business that makes 200 thousand naira weekly.
How ironical!!

The society is like a doctrine where we just grow up into existing ideologies without questioning the rationale behind such acts / beliefs.
The worship of money subconsciously alters our decision making especially when it's lavishly spent!
The pressure to create a sustainable market in the long run is difficult when there's a lack of patience.
What is the exception? Maybe if somehow you own a fucking house and multi-million naira business and still find a way to be a lavish spender, I guess that would be the proper definition of a successful person in Nigeria.
Poverty is most probably a root cause, but the lack of proper reorientation is a problem.
No one seems to care anymore.
As long as it looks like a snake, it's definitely a snake!

From a logical standpoint when you don't spend or look lavish it's assumed you have nothing going on!
Most of us are the culprits of judgement( the halo effect) which includes me sadly.

Time and time over it keeps happening, Men cannot handle a cheating woman despite the knowledge that a large percentage of women cheat.

The average man is more concerned about ego instead of how he's been treated.

Do I think cheating is bad? Definitely

Do I encourage cheating women? No



This article is focused on paying attention and receiving the best of affection from women, rather than finding solace in exclusive loyalty which is very rare.



In the context of this conversation( a good girlfriend) is someone who puts you first, cooks and cares for you, motivates and assists you in a way that the average girl doesn't.

Now the question beckons, why should I throw all of these attributes and genuine affection away because of who a woman bleeps or makes out with?



Reality is that the average woman cheats and somehow most Men think theirs is a Saint.

So whose babe are other men fucking?!!

Isn't it laughable and quite delusional.

Men need to realize that only in marriage should cheating be a major deal breaker in my opinion.

I'd rather stick to someone that treats me well than choosing a supposed loyal woman who most times is just hiding her shenanigans.



The truth is women love freedom and most of them get swarmed with horniness induced compliments and gifts by so many men every time which makes it difficult to stick to one Man. I think the average Man still finds it difficult to believe women are actually polygamous in nature and it's not gender based.



By all means a cheating woman who doesn't treat you well should be thrown out and shown the exit door, but I still think Men need to leverage on the fact that getting good treatment from a woman should be placed above cheating in a relationship ( marriage apart).



A woman that cooks, cleans, is feminine, grateful, kind , submissive and caring is a rare gem and I could careless if she bleeps another Man as long as she treats me well according to my standards.

This is not gender bias, I'm concerned about Man's inability to leverage on what is beneficial instead of satisfying his ego.

Lastly you don't have to marry a cheating girlfriend ( I have my personal opinion on this), but don't throw away all the good attributes on the ground of her cheating especially if she's very caring and loving.

Oboto700:
idiot.. you spoilt your post when you included Yahoo.. Yahoo no b work.na scams.. Making someone else cry

Are you sick in the head?
Do you lack manners or what?
You could have made your point without insults.
I do not tolerate any form of disrespect, please I beg of you retract your statement.

How do you even call someone who you don't know an idiot simply because you have a supposed different opinion!
I genuinely hope you are not like this in person. Smh!

heartofcity12:
You even have time creating the thread for them. Like I always say “we’re watching”. Reality can’t be escaped and they’ll all come to terms with this harsh reality like those that came before them did, they like it or not. Men do well by accepting reality for what it is, women don’t, they’re very delusional and live in bubbles until reality sets in. When it starts to happen, most will deactivate their NL profiles to save face. For now, let them keep capping and bragging 😆

I blame men sometimes for all of these entitled women.
In a sane world people like Tonto dike shouldn't even have any toasters but the average men is always mentally Hot and is ready to sell his self respect for pussy.
Average looking hook up girl is earning 50k plus for sex. Smh

Bullythebully:
I hope you also relay this "bleak reality" to men when they scream ,"no hymen,no commitment".

It seems to me that only women's choices are delusional and outrageous,and unfeasible.

While,men desires(virgin,below 23 etc) are all feasible.

It is crystal clear that alot of you men wear the lens of "reality " scanning women choices. But wear the lens of "hope" when scanning men choices.

Everybody will settle,both men and women,tell everyone the truth.

If men can openly rant on how they will marry only chaste women,or childless or young women while getting applause,why can't women rant on marrying comfortable men without being told their choices are unrealistic?



As for you the op,so you has to wail as a clapback .lol. groan, cry, and mourn,there is nothing you can do about women hypergamy...sadly.Whether you scheme revenge on them or whatnot,there is nothing you can do about it. Even if they marry broke men,would the men be comfortable in their skin knowing that they are the low hanging fruit accepted because they couldn't get the best men?
Learn to attach your self worth outside of women's choices.if you did,there would be no need for a counter thread.lol

If you knew in person you wouldn't even try to put me in the same sentence with self worth and women validation.
Like I said reality is not emotions.
Majority of women will marry broke men
Likewise majority of men will marry non virgins.

What I expect of the delusionist is to build with a guy and hopefully their is growth. Finding a rich man should be a plus.

I don't hate women, I have tons of them in my life. You can choose to disregard and make fun of my write up. The end justifies the means ( I don't wish you poverty).

Kobojunkie:
1. Again, that change in fortunes will only happen when many more single persons work towards first freeing themselves as individuals from what is essentially slavery to poverty. Otherwise, the chances are over 83% that the individuals will be stuck in poverty for life.

2. Davido should be the standard the average Nigerian should aim for. Instead, individuals should aim to rise above poverty, at least to middle-class levels.

Hahaha pikin wey dem carry for back no know say road far...
A lot of people in Nigeria will be broke( despite working hard)
Attaining davido's wealth is not feasible for the average Nigerian man, don't deceive anybody.

Obviously you are free to your choices, it's okay to want only rich men. But please don't ever associate with any broke man romantically as that would make be you going back to your vomit.

Oscarhakx:
the bitter truth is that most of you will end up with an average jo. Sorry ladies there arent enough high value men to go around.

Bitter truth my guy. I don't understand why they keep lying to themselves.
No b dis naija we dey.

[quote author=Yusufisraelj post=121668537]That's their choice, it comes with consequence. That's why my first comment on your trend depicts that, that certain levels of poverty is by choice and so, when someone isn't interested in becoming better, they shouldn't ask for better (rich), rather let them enjoy the nasty place they intentionally or not even knowing choose to be.[/quote

I disagree,
It's not a choice thing.
For example a lot of men wants virgin women but reality is there is not enough to go round, so it means most men will marry non virgins.
Same with women even though they want rich men only few will get it, majority is stuck with broke men .
Why is it difficult to accept reality?

Kobojunkie:
1. I see you are just here to do exactly what you said in your OP you aren't here for.

2. As explained several times already, that cannot be the way forward as instead, it is what got Nigeria into the hole that it is currently in today — the bad Nigerian economy. You cannot suggest that we continue doing the same things we did to create the problem only expecting the results to be different... that is the definition of insanity.

We are saying the same thing albeit understanding differs.
Until there is a change in fortunes broke will be stuck with broke and that is reality.

Way forward is an assumption/ opinion which is not reality as at 2023 in Nigeria.
Broke men and women will always be with each including me if I don't make it to the upper echelon. No need to sugarcoat anything

Yusufisraelj:
In my mind, my hands are on my head right now, if you ever think and hope on the economy to get better, my guy you're on a longgggg thing. What! Take time to study someone who was genuinely rich, through integrity.

May I recommend this book, start with why by Simon Sinek. Also a talk from broke to billion by Matthew Ashimolowo.

So if I get your point.
You are talking about an individual breaking poverty chain and carving wealth for himself?
If so that has always been the standard in Nigeria, some people hustle and luckily gets to the top.
What happens to the rest who didn't make it.
Aren't they stuck with their fellow broke associates?

pansophist:
Your typical lady has a mindset of exceptionalism. She doesn't see herself as the ones that won't marry a wealthy dude. She is special, and it's other women that will marry the average guy lol. Until reality sets in

My brother until reality sets it..
Almost every okada rider, civil servants and the supposed broke men are getting married every Saturday. ( No b d same girls wey want rich men dey marry dem? Smh)

Kobojunkie:
1. What exactly is the relevance of that question of yours? Or better yet, why would anyone engage in that which defines commonsense for the heck of it?

If you have ever dated a broke guy it means that is your reality even though sentiment wise you want a rich guy.
The fact that a Davido doesn't want you means are an hypocrite if you have ever dated a broke guy

Kobojunkie:
1. You don't seem to get it at all. The reason the economy is where it is at today has to do with broke men and women getting together to multiply poverty rather than reduce it. Prescribing that the same trend should continue is counterintuitive as that means that broke men and women will continue to remain broke and in poverty for the rest of their lives even —so also their children.

What are you even saying! I'm not prescribing anything. I only said the reality is broke men and women are stuck and will be together until the economy is favorable.

My issue is women hiding under the guise of wanting only rich men, then in turn go back to the supposed broke men when reality sets it.

The only way forward is two broke people coming together to build wealth

Kobojunkie:
1. Does a woman dating a broke man change the facts of his broked-ness? If she were herself broke, chances are over 83% that they will both end up broken together for life. Why would any sane individual do that?

You didn't answer my question.

pansophist:
If women are looking for average men with who they can work hard together and make something for themselves, they can always find it. Suitors are not their problem, but a rich wealthy suitor.

Because the number of wealthy men cannot go around, it is mathematically impossible, except for polygamy. in a country where 90 percent of the citizens don't have 500k in their account. Will you be a third wife?

There is this false notion that polygamy was forced on women, and men oppressed them and all those nonsense. It's a lie. In most cases, the women want it, because, for lots of women, security has more value than monogamy.

They will rather share the commitment of a top-tier man than have the undivided attention of a broke modafuka. Commitment from a broke man is not a commitment at all.

Now look at me honestly and tell me that if Davido or wizkid, who already has multiple baby mamas, announces that they want a new wife, they will not get one the next minute. The girls will gladly marry these guys even if they will be the 10th wife.

Of course, some women will reject it, just as some women won't marry a short man, but the point remains that in any society this man goes, they will get women. abi you wan de whine my nipple?

Finally someone gets it!
The number of wealthy men cannot go round!
It's means the remaining people outside the wealthy ones are stuck with each other, how difficult is it to understand

Yusufisraelj:
Says who? Wealth is created my brother. If the economy is shit, that tells you to a large extent the kind of people in such economy. Okay let me come open and say it. A bad economy shows you that most people in that country are not productive, being productive means bringing needed solutions that's relevant globally, in this context.

So in essence telling a guy or lady not to settle for less is not demanding what doesn't exist, rather we're saying create your own fortune, which is a possibility any day one decides and is willing to do what it takes properly.

Honestly I get your submission, but with accordance to my argument, until the economy gets better broke men and women are stuck with each other and that is the reality as at 2023 in Nigeria . So if a woman insist on what is not there especially because behind the keypad show of options, they go back to the supposed broke men when reality sets in except the lucky few

Kobojunkie:
1. In a place like Nigeria, a man who makes any amount below the poverty line is poor, regardless of whether he is able to rent an apartment in a slum and maybe even pay his bills there.

2. Women are allowed to pine after any man even your Davido. That is not your problem to worry about. Again, being able to rent a place and pay what are your own bills means nothing particularly if you also live a poverty lifestyle. A man making an amount less than 100K for instance lives below the poverty line in Nigeria and should have no business getting married to a woman who makes no money nor have kids at that.

Have you ever dated a broke guy ?

Yusufisraelj:
I agree with you, my guy people celebrate results, they're motivated by it and they seldom care how you get it, this where I think society should be careful what they celebrate.

To your last paragraph, my brother every economy shows you the kind of mindset those controlling the economy have, in literal terms the economy is the people. Lols, if you don't agree it's fine.

So if the economy is shit because of the people why are they asking for what is not there ( riches?)

Kobojunkie:
1. I said nothing of the older generation either. I am speaking of reality as it presents itself in Nigeria today where over 90% of the remaining are caught in the throes of poverty — the poverty capital of Africa. It isn't the feminist theory that defines them as broke instead "broke" is their reality.

A guy that lives in a rented apartment
Has a steady source of income
Pays his necessary bills ( isn't broke) .

Women always want a Davido and that is where the problem lies.

Any man who pay his bills can successfully run a family and with a supportive woman he will expand .

Kobojunkie:
1. The economy is not to blame for why the poor procreate like rats. So, lets not even start offering up meaningless ideas here.

2. Men aren't themselves virgins so these unrealistic ideas that you keep spewing are best left worming around in your mind and not outside.

*That you keep spewing
Did I in anyway talk about wanting virgins?
Argue in line with my opinion, don't bring in nairaland wannabe feminist vs redpillers brouhaha.

Kobojunkie:
1. Is your argument that because women out there already marry men who are already below the poverty gap before marriage, more women should continue to do so?

2.

3. So, I take it that it never occurred to you before now that many of those women married in poverty did so with the intention of building with those men they are married to not realizing that instead, they sentence themselves and their families to a life of poverty as a result of that choice made in marriage?

Don't take me out of context, I'm not talking about the older generation.
Most women born in the 1990s are married to average men ( the feminist theory refer to them as broke men)

Kobojunkie:
About 83% of Nigerian families are stuck in poverty with no end in sight, the majority of them are products of hypogamy — men marrying down. Are you somehow insinuating that men should continue to marry down then?

As long as the economy remains harsh women will be stuck with a large chunk of broke men,
Likewise men will be stuck with lot of non virgins ( standard wise) . Anything outside this is misleading the younger generation except there is a drastic change in the economy which is looking very unlikely

Yusufisraelj:
Brilliant

@Mekuseh11

I hope you know that certain levels of poverty is by choice? And by this I mean most people you see poor decided that, even without them knowing, you see we can blame the government and other factors, that's not to say government doesn't have a role to play, however against all odds if things are not working out for anyone truth is they need to get better; better in thinking (this will come through self education), better in discipline and lastly in taking actions that will lead to desired goals.

Now back to the topic, yes many men are poor likewise women, this doesn't mean most will end up with each other, show me a guy/lady who has goals and puts in action and has a reference they live by, that's not a poor person. In essence what I'm saying is that, the lady who made that lopsided post didn't realise that poverty is a reflection of lack of profitable ideas that needs work, you're also making same mistake to assume people will remain that way and entangled with same because of same demographics, it's really relative.

Poverty is a reflection of your own inadequacies in thinking, discipline and implementation, you can change that when you decide to become better. The issue of marriage is a different ball game all together, a person who decides to marry a poor person who isn't lazy and is willing to learn, hasn't really married a poor person with time that will change, but a person who marries a lazy poor person is in trouble, this is what should be emphasized, so also if you marry a rich lazy person, money fit run dry. Cheers

That is the issue. A person who isn't lazy and is willing to work is also tagged broke. Lazy is relative hence my making reference to Yahoo boys. In the real sense they are lazy , but in the broke and rich context they are celebrated and tagged hustlers. The problem is the economy not men.
I'm not trying to justify poverty!

Banilla:
Wrong!

There's acute poverty in countries like Nigeria, where poor people's only concern is getting married and breeding like rats.

I would strerilize half the population if I could. Most of you don't even deserve to pass on your genes.

If you are poor, don't get married! If you insist, use a damn condom everytime you have sex. We don't need any more poor children of poor parents!

If you are poor don't get married. Really!
I'm not in a context for superiority gender wise.
Until the economy is better in Nigeria, a lot of men will be considered broke and they always end up getting married.
If you are lucky to marry a rich man don't mislead others into thinking there is a rich man waiting out there for every broke woman

Banilla:
Again, this romanticising of poverty! This is abnormal behaviour. You mustn't be successful for a woman but don't you ever think, "I deserve much better"?

Is yahoo a decent job? Kidnapping too? Men who do them aren't hustlers but criminals who deserve to be locked up! Nigerian men will never contribute anything good to society, so they make up excuses, blaming everyone but themselves. Smh!

Women can wait for you to get rich. Isn't that an option? Or you aren't certain you'll make it? Just to be sure, you want her now?

Sweetheart, stop trying to manipulate women into settling for less (you). It's pathetic. You mentioned that women do in fact get married to the poor men around, so why create this thread? It's unnecessary.

I don't involve my self in the weird bashing going on between hypocritical men and women who hide under hating each other but can't stay away from each other.
For every otedola in Nigeria there are tons and tons of average guys.

The argument should be women avoiding poor men ( it's understandable). Not generalizing and misleading Young girls.

Average men are doing well in the society and is a realistic option.
Average in this sense I mean steady source of income.

Weknowbetter:
Everyone has their preferences, either it's in appearance or money. Don't tell women to date(marry) down that is why there is so much poverty

If there is more of poor people in a society where is there so much clamoring to be with the rich( a mirage).