₦airaland Forum

shegsky:
Most of us want to find a partner to share our lives with. When we finally fall in love and commit to a relationship that we believe will last us to old age, we have expectations that we
will act together to realise our dreams.

Inevitably though, every couple will
experience relationship
difficulties. Couples will
always be confronted and sometimes overwhelmed by
challenges they face, but mostly they are able to deal with them and move on. However sometimes these
challenges leave each
partner feeling alienated and alone and unable to sort out
the issues, no matter how hard they try. The same old arguments occur, with the same frustrating outcomes,
and both partners can feel stuck. As time goes on one or both may start considering separation.

Sadly, separation and
divorce statistics are high, yet many of the difficulties that threaten the survival of
relationships can be sorted out, with the right help.

tosyne2much:
The only pretence allowed in life is confidence. Just try to fake CONFIDENCE in the presence of your mother in law (it is a must)

Pls just try to be free. Don't allow fear or shyness give a false impression towards you. If you go there and display the introverted nature of yours, you would be tagged "PROUD"

Just try to relate with her (them) in a kind manner and aslo try force yourself to say something

holatin:
MhizVee

am on a month ban on nairaland.
so I can't comment there for now.


*Sobbing silently*

ogaofficer:
Then you two need to meet asap, besides dress like a wife to be when you wanna meet with him. thatz the solution. . . . Thank me later. teamlongdistance

ogaofficer:
you are yet to answer the question o. (yea)positive (but am doubting) negative. Tell us what you are sure of.

Lilamartedi:
Yes dear. You can talk to her about anything. About Food, your school or work or even your boyfriend..
Just be yourself

hfinest1:
you've had such experience?..... it rilly affected my lyf o... n my studies too.... that was then tho!

Lilamartedi:
First of all, Relax. They are humans just like you and they won't eat you.

Secondly you should be yourself. Your boyfriend's parents would be able to decipher if you are just trying to pretend to be who you are not. Be free with them the same way you would be free with your own parents but with a certain level of respect, discuss with her the same way you'll discuss with your mum.

Don't worry. They are going to like you

hfinest1:
it hurts like hell.... i once had dis girl... i luvd so much (that was wen i still used tp love a lot), but she was with someone, each time i saw them together, i feel as if a fresh wound has just been opened on my body.... its very painful seeing the one u love wit someone else

christybabe:
There is nothing there, just be urslf,

Youngpo413:
It hurts like fucckk

Excelboi:
Hmm. I'm presently in a relationship and I won't like to gamble with my feeling. The atom of love is still there, but she's changed now. I'm sure she must have a man already.

3DCYCLOPS:
Lol..you nor hear say she get big bo@bs??




That lady always made me restless during her class...as I always imagined having a private lesson with her in the staff room...

And to make matters worse..she always wore belly belt,come tie am under her chest...lol..the thing go come pump out like egg wey wan hatch...

Excelboi:
Yeah... Though I still have her contact and where she school but it's been years we spoke... I just let by-gones be by-gones.

3DCYCLOPS:
Yes I did...

With my Biology teacher..
















Mehn..that woman's bo@bs are to die for.

Excelboi:
I dated her for close to a year and she was my first 'official' love. Amidst all the girls have dated, she was the one I loved most.

Tattooboy:
u made d beta choice

Excelboi:
I fell in love in my ss3 towards waec exam.

shegsky:
Experience they said is the best teacher,Av once been a victim of both scenerios before.

dre11:
I once fell stupidly in love during that time


































But, I thank my sense that I did fall down flat

SeverusSnape:
I had a huge crush on a class mate of mine then, I couldn't tell her how I felt, we were friends though. It continued that way till we graduated, After some years, I got her contact on Facebook and told her how I felt about her then, She was shocked , She was like "why didn't you tell me...I just explained things to her,we're cool friends.

ernecy:
Chai!!! I fell in love back then in secondary school with this pretty Diva. She fine so tay I am speechless in her presence. Guys!!! I fall my hand no b small Bcuz I was naive n inexperience... though she is late now, anytime I remember her, I smile to my self...

She was queen that once grace the earth...

shegsky:
@ Op & All.

To the best of my Knowlege, Infatuation has been defined as “the emotional impulse of love, untested by time or circumstance.” Since infatuation can lead to real love, sometimes it is difficult to see the difference. The characteristics below show the differences between infatuation and real love.

The Fairy Tale—
INFATUATION

*Fall into it suddenly
*Deepens little with time
*Wants sex now
*Up and down emotionally
*In love with love
Fickle
*Can’t eat or sleep
*Hostile break-up at the slightest irritations
*Emphasizes beauty
*Gets Based on my feelings
*Self-centered
*Shows emotion
Physical
*Expects to find happiness
*Asks “How am I doing?”
*Focuses on the
performance of the other person
*May feel this way toward more than one person
*Possessive
*May be based on few
contacts (only person
you’ve dated)
*Has an idealized Image of the other person
*Avoids problems

THE REAL THING—LOVE

*Grows with time
*Always deepening
*Willing to wait for sex
*Consistent
*In love with a person
*Faithful
*Has proper perspective
*Does not panic when
problems arise
*Emphasizes character
*Gives Based on other’s needs
*Self-controlled
*Shows devotion
*Spiritual
*Expects to work at
happiness
*Asks “How are you
doing?”
*Provides unconditional
acceptance of the other
person
*Feels this way toward
one and only one
*Allows the other person to relate to others
*Based on many contacts (dated many others)
*Has a realistic view of the other person’s strengths and weaknesses
*Works through problems

CETERIS - PARIBUS

theorbiters:
Lol, I was among the "Fine Boiz" crew. We just dey form for ladies back then.

SeverusSnape:
Well, I did. But I was very very naive then.