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really wanna start trying out new things,so how do i make a pancake

really do appreciate u guys for the comment u dropped,and for those that insulted and appreciated me,i say a big thank u to you guys.love u all. Happy sunday.

nowadays we see teenagers of 16 - 17yrs in a relationship, i just dnt get it,wats is it abt. Dose little kids dat arent matured,hmm, SMH vigorously.

OMG.i pity u,u will rot in hell.then u wl remember this day.

kernigsloan:
A man who can't respect ur decisions and ur beliefs is not worth it. Don't worry u'll find d right person.

seconded,exactly,u just chill and relax,u avent met d right man yet.

azuson:
I want to use this medium to enlighten you on what some pastors are preaching today. Let me tell you the truth there is nothing like rapture,is not biblical.no secret taken to heaven. The Bible say that all eyes shall see Him that is to say that it will be visible to everyone,Lord Jesus is not afraid of human man or dark powers that He will sneak into the world.

There is investigative judgement going on now,that is why we need to repent.If you are child of God anytime you commit sin the Holy spirit will tell you and when you pray. And confeSs you are forgiven

so wat are u insinuating,

GCFRNG:
Good day Nairalanders,
Please how can one overcome addiction to pornography and masturbation.
Thanks for your anticipated response.

swthrt, i am not gonna deceive you,it is really gonna take time to overcome dat,time they say heals everything, the first thing u should do is to ask God for forgiveness,ask for his sufficient grace and help, after that flee from all form of immorality,like watching nude pictures,imagining vain things,watching pornography,and above all dnt stay alone doing nothing,b busy always,at least that will take ur mind off stuffs like dt. D bible says an idle mind is d devils workshop. Goodday

OMG, i am salivating

Swissheart:
Jollof Rice with fried Chicken

Apple

Wow i am salivating already.

tobisco29:
Rice add with fried plantain...Mango fruit

My favourite food is yam,especially when it is taken with fried egg and my best fruit is banana and pineapple. Come in and share urs,

What punishment were u given when you were caught having a bf at a tender age,i was 17 then i just walked up to my big bro and i told him i had a bf,he lookd at me and said you have a bf under this roof,what!then he told me to break up the relationship,i cried cos i lovd the guy so much,but i did break up the relationship and till today i still love the guy,come in and share yours

Thnks ma'am

mutter:
When a child does that it is a great show of thrust and confidence in you ad a parent.
We should never forget that..
I would thank her for comming to me and trusting me. Then I would carefully advice her based on all the circumstances and the boy in question.
Then I will get on my knees and start praying real hard.
I have tried to raise my girls to know they are worthy of love and to be patient for the right time and the right man.
But however it goes. I will always be there for them.

U do think u can monitor them?

dulux07:
No, but at lis jst to monitor both of them, u cant forbid her rm seein d boy.

No,i think u should sit her down and allow her see things from ur perspective,if u dont want her to be in a relationship at such a tender age u ve got to tell her with love

goodmorning40:
And give her talk she will boldly go into the relationship

Scold her and she will continue with the relationship secretly without ur knowledge

goodmorning40:
Okay be doing oyibo mentality there, tomorrow she will come and tell you she's pregnant

Wait o,are u gonna be in support of that kind of relationship?

dulux07:
Yh..lik someone said u can even meet d so called bf, in order to monitor d rlatnship. D devil u know is better than d devil u dont know. Imagine how it wud fil if ur daughter chooses u as her relationship counsellor rather than her friends.. she will hardly go astray.

goodmorning40:
Hey my 16inches cane and frog the devil out of her backside

and u think she is gonna come back and tell u her secret some oda tym,nigerian parent and their mentality.

Are there no mummies here

dulux07:
if u scold her, ur indirectly telin her to kip it a secret nxt time, n wen she nids rlationship advice nxt time, she wud rather tell her friends instead.

In such case, d dad is meant to talk to her as a friend, advice, guide n counsel her, instead of scolding. Many of us wer scolded when we wer young, but did that stop us rm havin gf n bf at tender ages, NO.it didnt, it only made us do it secret, in which d end result for some was disastrous..

hm, u really do have a point here,so instead of scoldn her,just sit her down and talk to her.

Hmm okk

Randyhot:
.well am not a dad yet.,but i will sit her down and talk, i will also like to meet the boy in question..

Wrong?u think it is wrong to scold her?

dulux07:
Most naija dad wil scold her, n tell her to face her studies, wch is very wrong

What will be your reaction if your 18 year old daughter walks up to you and tells you she has a boyfriend?

Abi

cococandy:
You married her because you didn't want to give up on your 'investments' not that you were really into her after that incident.
You obviously as you said haven't gotten over it and it must show in your attitude which is probably why she's uncomfortable and suspicious about any time you're 'free' with other women.

In her mind, you could decide to go for anyone of them at any time.

That's why it's good to be sure you're totally over something in the past before moving on with future plans. After 8 yrs and your can still narrate the event bit by bit, you are so not over it. Yet you walked in with eyes wide open. So don't back out now for no reason.

You guys shouldn't have gotten married.
But as you have, try to put the past behind you and forge ahead.
Stop being 'free' with other women. You're now a married man. If you stop that, you will see her stop her nagging.

If you work on your relationship rather than dwell on the past, you may yet overcome.

Thoor,forgive and forget na,abi d guy has a side chick ni,make he confess quickly

Mcino,hmm,are u sure u re not the person in particular

Hmm i c,i really do think d guy shld come out and explain tins himself,moreover all that happened happened in the past,i beg u,c divorce is not a better option,ur wife doesnt know u are silence just because u remembered all she did in the past,c i think u guys should sort things out,u decided to marry her after all she did,y do u wanna revolt now.

mcino:
[b][/b] UPDATE
The woman is parking her lots to leave the house, as the guy has refused to eat her food for sometime now. Mods, please help this guy get more advice. He is a member of this forum

I am not married yet but i can never forget about twhat the bible says,moreover the guy knew what she did and all of her past, she did this when dey were not married,i dnt think gettn a divorce is a better option,i think it will be wise enough for the guy to stay with his wife till the anger wears off,he shld learn to forgive,all dat happened,happened in the past

mcino:
Yes, they are. Why do you ask?

Seconded

Gurgle:
Well I haven't married so I cant advocate divorce outright unless its something like physical violence, or something where one of them is going to die at the hands of the other

If the feeling that youre talking about is that she slept with the American fellow, then I can only advise that he makes a conscious effort to forgive her and try not to think of it too much because its a mistake that has already been made and she cant do anything about it. although its not easy but he has married her and invested a lot in her, so even if he feels he doesn't love her at the exact moment there are other secondary reasons that could keep him there until his anger clears

like the children's welfare

Wait o;the couple in question,are they christians?

mcino:
OK, thanks! Outside seeing the counselor, what else do you think they should do? How does the guy get over that feeling and what actually do you think is the implications of their divorce? Don't you think it will make them happier?

Hmm,i think d two of u should com back to ur senses now or i will rather prefer u sit ur wife down and try talking things through,make her understand that all u re doin for other women is just to show ur kind gestures,was she still cheatn after u got married?

Hmm

David0:
My understanding of this is that;

Sanctification is not been totally free, but rather it's a process of attaining total freedom from sin.
And total freedom from sin implies a stage whr temptation to sin no longer have power over u. But u sure needs God's grace to remain on that stage. That's y we ask God everyday to sanctify us, dats is to groom us, correct us, teach us, make us holy n ready for His coming that we may not fall by the way side.

From the stories in the Bible of how ppl gave their life to Christ and were Baptised immediately, I think dat shud b the answer to ur question.

We have churches who expect u to go thru baptismal class before bn baptized which I personally don't support. What happens if that person dies before baptism, will he make heaven or not? Dat is another question. But I think when u give ur life to Christ, stop whatever ur doing and get baptized. The Bible never said give ur life to Christ and ur saved, but Give ur life to Christ n b baptized by the holy spirit.

U might be held responsible for d soul of one, if he dies before baptism due to ur unnecessary delay.

Just my bit.

Thnks

Scholar8200:
Sanctification is also called purification of heart and it is as instantaneous as salvation but of course both gifts of grace allows for growth but there is a point of entry!
See Acts 15:8,9
8 And God, which knoweth the hearts, bare them witness, giving them the Holy Ghost, even as he did unto us;

9 And put no difference between us and them, purifying their hearts by faith.

Peter here describes two separate Blessing given to Cornelius and his household. It is also called Circumcision of heart:

Deuteronomy 30:6
And the Lord thy God will circumcise thine heart, and the heart of thy seed, to love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, that thou mayest live.

Daily self-denial and bearing of the cross are expected of all disciples (by the Lord) but Christ saw it fit to intercede for this Gift for His disciples (John 17:17) now and then, in fact, it is one of the benefits of Christ's death on the Cross:

Hebrews 13:12
Wherefore Jesus also, that he might sanctify the people with his own blood, suffered without the gate.