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agarawu23:

Na u talk am

agarawu23:
What kind of attention ?

Agu87:
u go bad when u grow oo

Following her multi-million naira recording studio, furnished apartment in Magodo Estate in Lagos and acquiring N16.5M brand new Range Rover Evouge and Mercedes-Benz GLK in less than 12 months, many of her female colleagues are feeling intimidated and going green with envy by her plush wealth and achievements.

Due to beefs and jealousy in the showbiz circuit especially among the female folks, the speculation of her into drug-trafficking has been spreading fast but the cross-over actress when contacted responded thus, “If they said I’m into drug trafficking, yes I am because you will definitively find drugs like Paracetamol, Phensic and all sorts in my bag always. May be that is the drugs they are talking about. But there is something I know, I’ve been in the industry for years and paid my dues to those who deserves it, and something is sure, some people will die of jealousy and envy”, she stated.

The sultry actress, a graduate of Public Administration from Olabisi Onabanjo University, created a buzz when she released her self-produced movie titled ‘Arewa Onijogbo’ and later made fame with the movie titled ‘Bella’ after several years in the industry.

Meanwhile, majority of showbiz personality see drug-trafficking as alternative way to end poverty and join the list of ‘have- arrived-celebs’ in the industry. Those caught in the web of drug-trafficking have faced the consequences. The likes of Yetunde Wunmi, Babatunde Omidina aka Baba Suwe are known to all.

While society agrees that the average side chick is just wasting valuable time clinging to another woman’s man, those who indulge in the practice do not seem to see it that way. Another curious thing is that they do not also think it is wrong to sleep with another woman’s man. While society sees the side chick as an evil seductress and disingenuous home wrecker, the average side chick sees herself as a smart woman who is getting the best of what she desires. Some side chicks see their hold on another woman’s love interest as a source of strength. It gives them some sick psychological satisfaction to know that another woman’s husband shares his valuable time and attention with them when he should be devoting all of that to his wife.

There are a good number of women who have been side chicks and who would admit that even when they were involved in it something kept on telling them that what they were doing was wrong. Oftentimes most of them only begin to realize that they were only wasting their time when they begin to reap trouble, despair, pain and heart ache from such dalliances. Many a side chick always found out too late that the man they were involved with did not really take them seriously. By the time they realize that they were just receptacles for good sex, generous gifts, perks and cash inducements the emotional damage would have already been done.

Almost all single women who date married men end up being abandoned by the men who eventually go back to their wives. Only very few side chicks end up supplanting the real woman in the man’s life. Apart from cash inducements, gifts and perks, another factor that sustains extra-marital dalliances of this nature is the ability of the man to tell lies. Such men often lie about having problems in the home front and tell the side chick that they are no longer having sex with their wives.

There is yet another set of women who accept to be the side chick on the basis of psychological problems that have affected their self-esteem. Such psychological problems could have something to do with lack of intimacy and a feeling of abandonment. Female children from mostly broken homes where there is a glaring lack of parental bonding could be susceptible to accepting the role of being a side chick. Their upbringing under a single parent sometimes denies them the experience of growing up to appreciate what it means to have intimate relationship with the opposite sex. They just naturally feel ‘excited’ to tag along as the side chick as long as they experience the intimacy and bonding that they have always craved for, which they could not get from their homes.

Studies have shown that the female child first learns the act of love, trust and intimacy from their parents. If this is not achieved in their formative years or the process is distorted at some point by some traumatic experience, they will have challenges with appreciating the beauty of having a loving relationship with a man. Such women are spurred by the fear of rejection and being hurt, to shy away from taking the initiative to explore the possibility of having an exclusive intimate relationship. It is not unusual to see such women deliberately rebelling against commitment while at the same time unconsciously accepting to play second fiddle in non-productive relationships.

Some women who continually find themselves playing the role of a side chick often give justification for it by claiming that they do not have any special man out there for them. In other words, they believe that they will never find a Mr. Right and because they need someone to call their own they cannot help but prey on other people’s husbands. Curiously others say brazenly that they do not have what it takes to sustain a full time, mutually satisfying relationship.

The side chick phenomenon is something that brings nobody any good when it is all said and done. It is capable of breaking homes and having untold impact on the man’s wife and her innocent children. Therefore if any woman makes the decision to consider dating someone else’ spouse, she should first consider how she will be impacted if she was the other woman whose husband she is preying on. A relationship where you are just a side chick, can only be a one sided one in which you will only be getting the left overs.

Anthony Ogbetere

Kingsasian:
wise babe....lol

4. You are not happy: You can’t give what you don’t have. You can’t make your new partner happy if you happiness doesn’t dwell within you.You can only get the temporary happiness it brings but the rest times you have to learn how feel good by yourself.

5. You love too much drama: If you love too much attention and unnecessary drama that comes with it, then you really shouldn’t be in a relationship. You should learn to let go of your drama.

6. You are unsure of yourself: Being unsure is certainly a red flag if you intend getting into a relationship soon. If you have more cons than pros while listing out reasons why you should make official your relationship with someone you like after a few official and unofficial dates, then you should consider taking more time for yourself.

7. Your work-life balance isn’t stable: You know you haven’t gotten a balance between jobs, you’re still trying to find your feet between your 8 to 5 job and creating quality time for yourself. You might want to take a few steps back away from the dating scene. The person you are starting a relationship with may not understand what are trying to do and this could create a lot of problems for you.