The phenomenon known today as ‘side chick’ predates modern civilization. It has been in existence from the bible days all through the ages till this day. A side chick is viewed by society as some sort of interloper, seductress, home wrecker and cold blooded ambitious dreamer. This societal scrutiny that bestows a pariah status on the side chick comes from both the spouses of the men involved in the ‘love triangle’ and other folks who frown at the phenomenon either for religious reasons or for reasons that border on plain moral values. Realistically several women from all races, income groups, social classes and religions get enmeshed in the side chick controversy for diverse reasons.
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While society agrees that the average side chick is just wasting valuable time clinging to another woman’s man, those who indulge in the practice do not seem to see it that way. Another curious thing is that they do not also think it is wrong to sleep with another woman’s man. While society sees the side chick as an evil seductress and disingenuous home wrecker, the average side chick sees herself as a smart woman who is getting the best of what she desires. Some side chicks see their hold on another woman’s love interest as a source of strength. It gives them some sick psychological satisfaction to know that another woman’s husband shares his valuable time and attention with them when he should be devoting all of that to his wife.

There are a good number of women who have been side chicks and who would admit that even when they were involved in it something kept on telling them that what they were doing was wrong. Oftentimes most of them only begin to realize that they were only wasting their time when they begin to reap trouble, despair, pain and heart ache from such dalliances. Many a side chick always found out too late that the man they were involved with did not really take them seriously. By the time they realize that they were just receptacles for good sex, generous gifts, perks and cash inducements the emotional damage would have already been done.

Almost all single women who date married men end up being abandoned by the men who eventually go back to their wives. Only very few side chicks end up supplanting the real woman in the man’s life. Apart from cash inducements, gifts and perks, another factor that sustains extra-marital dalliances of this nature is the ability of the man to tell lies. Such men often lie about having problems in the home front and tell the side chick that they are no longer having sex with their wives.

There is yet another set of women who accept to be the side chick on the basis of psychological problems that have affected their self-esteem. Such psychological problems could have something to do with lack of intimacy and a feeling of abandonment. Female children from mostly broken homes where there is a glaring lack of parental bonding could be susceptible to accepting the role of being a side chick. Their upbringing under a single parent sometimes denies them the experience of growing up to appreciate what it means to have intimate relationship with the opposite sex. They just naturally feel ‘excited’ to tag along as the side chick as long as they experience the intimacy and bonding that they have always craved for, which they could not get from their homes.

Studies have shown that the female child first learns the act of love, trust and intimacy from their parents. If this is not achieved in their formative years or the process is distorted at some point by some traumatic experience, they will have challenges with appreciating the beauty of having a loving relationship with a man. Such women are spurred by the fear of rejection and being hurt, to shy away from taking the initiative to explore the possibility of having an exclusive intimate relationship. It is not unusual to see such women deliberately rebelling against commitment while at the same time unconsciously accepting to play second fiddle in non-productive relationships.

Some women who continually find themselves playing the role of a side chick often give justification for it by claiming that they do not have any special man out there for them. In other words, they believe that they will never find a Mr. Right and because they need someone to call their own they cannot help but prey on other people’s husbands. Curiously others say brazenly that they do not have what it takes to sustain a full time, mutually satisfying relationship.

The side chick phenomenon is something that brings nobody any good when it is all said and done. It is capable of breaking homes and having untold impact on the man’s wife and her innocent children. Therefore if any woman makes the decision to consider dating someone else’ spouse, she should first consider how she will be impacted if she was the other woman whose husband she is preying on. A relationship where you are just a side chick, can only be a one sided one in which you will only be getting the left overs.

Anthony Ogbetere

"even your boo get a boo"

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