Decide that other things are more important to you and that some women are really not worth it, Then think of AIDS, Herpes, Gonorrhea {Could make u infertile}, and then getting a very wrong girl preggers that will make the rest of your life hell.

Realize you need to direct your energy to the right things so you can give the lady that really deserves it and your family a pleasing life. Decide that this is more important to you than bedding everything in skirts.

pansophist:

It is both ways, same coin applies to men too. Many men have sponsored their fiancee, gf etc to uni, open a business for her and try to elevate her higher than her current social rung, but at the end she left him for someone else with flimsy excuse like ''he is not educated'', ''doesnt speak good english'', ''not my type of guy'' etc. In other words, its mutual and women are guilty of this too

True..... Like I said we are the authors of our problems. I guess good things will find their way to those who try to maintain a good heart despite the overwhelming influence of society and allow us to see beyond the surface. We don't realize that finding and staying with the people who were willing to help you and watch you grow is a very rare gift.

Comepany Owe

*sigh....

Story. So long as a girl isn't interested in you. If you like find the eight steps out of the friendzone. You're still not getting out.

Only way out of the Friendzone is to do something she doesn't expect you would ever do that seems bold, interesting and different. Most times we friendzone people because we feel we've seen all there is to see about you.

Prove us wrong. That's your way out. Put in a bit of mystery and less attention.

obainojazz: .is dis one America or Nigeria

if its Nigeria ...there re four steps

(1) Tell her u have money

(2) Tell her u are tired of being friends dat u have money

(3) Tell her u want to spend money on her

(4) Tell her u still have more money after each date



dayuum....u re gud to go

LMAO. What he said!!!

BreezyRita:

Yeah, you're right. But what can we do?

We Pray and Hope.

But what happens to the women who are not like the typical Nigerian lady who keep meeting the typical Nigerian guy who is also superficial. I agree that women these days are superficial and callous when it comes to deciding who Mr right is. But there are women out there who believe in building a relationship from scratch and growing with someone but they get burnt.

Sometimes the man who is still in the process of growing doesnt know what he wants. He will probably stick to a girl who wants him because she wants him. When things start to go well for him and the SUPERFICIAL Nigerian girls start noticing him and throwing their materialistic selves at him. He starts to see that The girl who wanted to grow with him isnt what he wants anymore. Suddenly she's too plain for him. He wants a light skinned girl who looks like she fell out of MTV Base.

So when he leaves this girl that grew with him, it becomes hard for her to start this same game all over again with another man and can you blame her for now wanting the man she now believes would know what he wants.

We've evolved into a world where we create our own unhappiness. There should be no yard stick with these things. Guys fall for the girl who look put together and girls fall for money forgetting that "happily ever after" is something that material things cant create.