But what happens to the women who are not like the typical Nigerian lady who keep meeting the typical Nigerian guy who is also superficial. I agree that women these days are superficial and callous when it comes to deciding who Mr right is. But there are women out there who believe in building a relationship from scratch and growing with someone but they get burnt.

Sometimes the man who is still in the process of growing doesnt know what he wants. He will probably stick to a girl who wants him because she wants him. When things start to go well for him and the SUPERFICIAL Nigerian girls start noticing him and throwing their materialistic selves at him. He starts to see that The girl who wanted to grow with him isnt what he wants anymore. Suddenly she's too plain for him. He wants a light skinned girl who looks like she fell out of MTV Base.

So when he leaves this girl that grew with him, it becomes hard for her to start this same game all over again with another man and can you blame her for now wanting the man she now believes would know what he wants.

We've evolved into a world where we create our own unhappiness. There should be no yard stick with these things. Guys fall for the girl who look put together and girls fall for money forgetting that "happily ever after" is something that material things cant create.

Life is fair and just base on the principle of natural morality u don't expect to sow rice and harvest beans...because is as simple u are wild gal who encage in things dat ar nt moraly healthy and u xpect to get a mr right!!!!!!! No way karma will diffnately catch up wit u....rememba menopause is knwcking.......

Get a Mr Left and turn him to Mr Right..

omoharry:
No, Nairaland is filled up with Heart Broken and bitter men including young men in their teens. Since they don't have anywhere to vent their anger , frustration and insecurity, nairaland become that dumping ground. Many of them are depress and trying to lick their wounds. However only 1 percent of them are mature and they would rather not spit bitter out bitter utterance at all women on this forum.

dont think like this,deary Nl is filled wt matured ppl dont let pictures,desive u.so think about matured guys dont d teens owns d yard.

most ladies (men inclusive ) who are looking for Mr. right are actually on the left. anyway, if you can't find Mr. right, try and find Mr. LEFT and DRAG him to the RIGHT. MY PHILOSOPHY!!!!!!!!

rozzay: OP abeg no vex, I no want make u vex but I no dey see for morning pls summary in 2 line cos I d love to comment abeg. Thank u

What do u mean by u no dey see for morning?

nikkypearl: Get Mr left and turn him to the RIGHT!!


There nothing like MR RIGHT!

pls ma lady is there any miss left that can be turned to miss right?

Mister Right is whoever you decide to be with and not necessarily the guy of your dreams.

Misconception full ground that is why people loose out. Miss A's idea of Mister Right may have been friendzoned somewhere by Miss B. So what then are we saying?

Miss Right na the 'lady' wey sabi say getting noticed isn't just by how long your Brazilian weave is or how talky-talky-see-me you are.
She knows how not to be in the dark but still radiate enough shine to make him see her.

We all have a degree of 'rightness' in us.

MissUnderstood: But what happens to the women who are not like the typical Nigerian lady who keep meeting the typical Nigerian guy who is also superficial. I agree that women these days are superficial and callous when it comes to deciding who Mr right is. But there are women out there who believe in building a relationship from scratch and growing with someone but they get burnt.

Sometimes the man who is still in the process of growing doesnt know what he wants. He will probably stick to a girl who wants him because she wants him. When things start to go well for him and the SUPERFICIAL Nigerian girls start noticing him and throwing their materialistic selves at him. He starts to see that The girl who wanted to grow with him isnt what he wants anymore. Suddenly she's too plain for him. He wants a light skinned girl who looks like she fell out of MTV Base.

So when he leaves this girl that grew with him, it becomes hard for her to start this same game all over again with another man and can you blame her for now wanting the man she now believes would know what he wants.

We've evolved into a world where we create our own unhappiness. There should be no yard stick with these things. Guys fall for the girl who look put together and girls fall for money forgetting that "happily ever after" is something that material things cant create.

Yeah, you're right. But what can we do?

omoharry:
No, Nairaland is filled up with Heart Broken and bitter men including young men in their teens. Since they don't have anywhere to vent their anger , frustration and insecurity, nairaland become that dumping ground. Many of them are depress and trying to lick their wounds. However only 1 percent of them are mature and they would rather not spit bitter out bitter utterance at all women on this forum.

lol..

shady26: Pardon me but you sound very young and immature. i know cause i had this same line of thought when i was younger, when i was not even thinking of marriage. with age comes a certain way of thinking, a certain dressing sense and a thirst for certain types of woman. then i used to argue with my Bros wife that i was gonna marry a hot, sexy, belly Tattooed , ankle chain wearing , gum chewing lady hmm . not anymore now that am ready for it.....thinking of a homely , well trained , cultured , responsible , respectful and modest woman with a good heart ( notice the shift from outward sharpness to inner beauty?)**thinking more of my future kids now***

I concur..

BreezyRita:

Yeah, you're right. But what can we do?

We Pray and Hope.

they are greedy and materialistic, always looking at their lying friends and wanting other people's property.#
then they cant even strike up good conversation and think every man that says hello wants to bed them

with their sacrificial weave that was prayed on by budhaa they want to tell you who is original that you need to fix up?

most of them have not had any real life experience of love in their own homes, which is why they do not know how to give it.

thats why you will find so many single ladies. they are single of their own doing

MissUnderstood: But what happens to the women who are not like the typical Nigerian lady who keep meeting the typical Nigerian guy who is also superficial. I agree that women these days are superficial and callous when it comes to deciding who Mr right is. But there are women out there who believe in building a relationship from scratch and growing with someone but they get burnt.

Sometimes the man who is still in the process of growing doesnt know what he wants. He will probably stick to a girl who wants him because she wants him. When things start to go well for him and the SUPERFICIAL Nigerian girls start noticing him and throwing their materialistic selves at him. He starts to see that The girl who wanted to grow with him isnt what he wants anymore. Suddenly she's too plain for him. He wants a light skinned girl who looks like she fell out of MTV Base.

So when he leaves this girl that grew with him, it becomes hard for her to start this same game all over again with another man and can you blame her for now wanting the man she now believes would know what he wants.

We've evolved into a world where we create our own unhappiness. There should be no yard stick with these things. Guys fall for the girl who look put together and girls fall for money forgetting that "happily ever after" is something that material things cant create.

It is both ways, same coin applies to men too. Many men have sponsored their fiancee, gf etc to uni, open a business for her and try to elevate her higher than her current social rung, but at the end she left him for someone else with flimsy excuse like ''he is not educated'', ''doesnt speak good english'', ''not my type of guy'' etc. In other words, its mutual and women are guilty of this too

Lolz. Our girls need 2 realize sm tins. No man want 2 take a wild woman 2 his parents. Wen u r dating, follow him wit sense. He might say "I love it wen u dress dis hot or dat hot" "make u go 2 different kind of places all in d name of fun". Bt d truth is, wen its time 4 marriage, he'll go 4 d 1 dat he thinks is decent nd godly. Am nt saying dnt go out r dress hot, bt always REMEMBER WO U R. Sm say any body way wan talk make im talk, bt believe me, smtimes u just av 2 keep yaself frm being talked abt

Tallesty1: Lols............ You are right@Op.

I once asked a lady who was lamenting how hard it is to find a responsible guy a simple a question and she could not answer it.

"If you are this type of guy that you are looking for, would you marry a girl that is exactly like you?".

Be good, live as good and responsible as you want your husband to be and he will find you.

How can a woman who has fake hair, nails, eyelashes, breasts, lips, buttocks, fake collor, drinks, smokes, changes guys weekly, clubs till dawn have the nerve to ask for a real man?

Sorry, It doesn't work that way.

Are you against the use of make ups?

Tallesty1: Opposites attract

Not in this case. I'm sure you know that

HFOG:
Are you against the use of make ups?

excessive use of make ups

Tallesty1: excessive use of make ups

I see. But 'excessive' is a relative term you know. If you do not mind, what do you consider mild makeup?

HFOG:
I see. But 'excessive' is a relative term you know. If you do not mind, what do you consider mild makeup?

Common, don't ask questions on what you already know the answer.

omoharry:
No, Nairaland is filled up with Heart Broken and bitter men including young men in their teens. Since they don't have anywhere to vent their anger , frustration and insecurity, nairaland become that dumping ground. Many of them are depress and trying to lick their wounds. However only 1 percent of them are mature and they would rather not spit bitter out bitter utterance at all women on this forum.

Na wa o. People will just keep conjuring statistics anyhow. Wow!

pansophist:

It is both ways, same coin applies to men too. Many men have sponsored their fiancee, gf etc to uni, open a business for her and try to elevate her higher than her current social rung, but at the end she left him for someone else with flimsy excuse like ''he is not educated'', ''doesnt speak good english'', ''not my type of guy'' etc. In other words, its mutual and women are guilty of this too

True..... Like I said we are the authors of our problems. I guess good things will find their way to those who try to maintain a good heart despite the overwhelming influence of society and allow us to see beyond the surface. We don't realize that finding and staying with the people who were willing to help you and watch you grow is a very rare gift.